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About 90% of the people do regret whom they married but they learned to deal with it over time.

Your friend (or you) should suck it up. The grass always seem to be greener on the other side...until you get there.

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Tell Your Friend To Sing This Song "Amazing Grace"









Playboy Marriage Too Dey Get K Leg

Lastly she doesn't flow in bed (dead wood) and my friend through me has tasted some igbo girls and we know igbo ladies are beasts in bed (we love it like da)

no wonder them plenty for hotel dey do prostitution

Kobicove:


This marriage is already 'Dead on Arrival'

If at this stage they're already keeping malice then it's only a matter of time before domestic violence rears its head.

Please tell your friend to divorce the lady and move on before kids start coming...

divorce ?sorry but your advice doesn't suite

Hahaha me too, I was expecting to read “now that he sees, he thinks his wife is ugly” lol

bukatyne:
OP, sorry, I thought the husband was blind when he married and now his eyes are opened.

Literally.

bukatyne:
OP, sorry, I thought the husband was blind when he married and now his eyes are opened.

Literally.

nahhh...i meant figuratively

When they tell you sex and food don't keep a man, that it's only beauty and intelligence keeps them....
Ihe onye cho, o fu!

PrettyEneawan:
Tell Your Friend To Sing This Song "Amazing Grace".








Playboy Marriage Too Dey Get K Leg

Very much true, because dem dey use oversabi marry.

Until we hears Zainab's and Ibrahim's side of story OP "we won't take it" in elder Orubabe's words

emkz:
Bros, the story sounds incredulous.

Notwithstanding the apparent incredulity, I think your friend overloves the girl and his love is not reciprocated.

This is a recipe for a calamity.

Deep in your friend's heart, he knows where that marriage is headed. I am sure the wife also knows. Just tell him to speak the truth to himself and stop living in denial. Relationships and marriage are meant to be enjoyed and not endured. I don't understand why people are forcing a relationship where none exists.

tanx buh you had me in cycles

Until we hears Zainab's and Ibrahim's side of story OP "we won't take it" in elder Orubabe's words.

uniquehealth:
Well permit me to say that even if this story is not true (as some claimed), yet i like the manner of expression especially the op's grammatical structure.
Keep it up!

tanx fam

Are they newly weds? The first 1-2 years is always the hardest in a marriage, the couple are adjusting to their new living situation. It’s very hard to live with someone with a different background and personality from yours that’s why marriage is not easy. Sometimes time is needed to adjust the kinks.

Cooking is a skill not everyone will be good at it, with time he will get used to her cooking, that’s why everybody will swear their mother’s food is the best. I have a friend that her cooking is anytime she invites me for dinner I always eat before I go, I eat very little at dinner and claim I am watching my weight. However, you need to see how the husband will be eating with gusto like he is eating party jollof rice.

OP I know you mean well and you are looking out for your best friend but maybe you should give them a little space since they are newly wed so they get to figure it out. Also, when he comes complaining always urge him to be open with his wife as he is with you.

I wish your friend luck.

you won show us say u sabi grammar

All these are trivial issues that can be worked upon. First couple of years in marriage is a huge learning period for both husband and wife. After all, we live to learn. All I see here is an evil friend who is trying to destroy a young marriage probably for his own selfish gains. Friends like this will be subtly poisoning your mind against your spouse till you start questioning your decision to marry him/her. A friend that encourages you to get drunk and womanize, is that one a friend?

Bless you!one of the best advice if not d best.wil definitely adhere. Merci

liberalchick:
Are they newly weds? The first 1-2 years is always the hardest in a marriage, the couple are adjusting to their new living situation. It’s very hard to live with someone with different background and personality from yours that’s why marriage is not easy. Sometimes time is needed to adjust the kinks.

Cooking is a skill not everyone will be good at it, with time he will get used to her cooking, that’s why everybody will swear their mother’s food is the best. I have a friend that her cooking is anytime she invites me for dinner I always eat before I go, I eat very little at dinner and claim I am watching my weight. However, you need to see how the husband will be eating with gusto like he is eating party jollof rice.

OP I know you mean well and you are looking out for your best friend but maybe you should give them a little space since they are newly wed so they get to figure it out. Also, when he comes complaining always urge him to be open with his wife as he is with you.

I wish your friend luck.

spongeisback:
OP is Ibrahim's side chick. Leave the young couple to work on their marriage, whatever he's telling you ask him to go tell his wife.

You are right he should sit the lady down talk to her

It's a serious Taboo to marry a non virgin?
But it isn't a sin to defile a virgin and dump them?

Who's deceiving who?

So Igbo girls are beast in the ozza room,...... thanks OP

Marriage is a serious school. It tests alot of things about the personalities of the both parties. Most at times, many people have a lot of reasons not to be happy in a marriage but for reasons they chose to be happy by embracing the signed agreement.

There's no perfecr marriage anywhere. Some womens bedroom ministries are poor like your friends wife while some will even want to cheat because the husband can't satisfy them. I don't think your friend wants the latter.

He might need to adjust to her because no matter what he tries to change in hrr she might not change. Changes are only from the minds.

Additionally,. Backgrounds of both of them are different. Your friend has had sex with more than one girl and may be her wife is reserved with a solid background so he shouldn't expect a miracle. If ahe does what he wants sexually today to please him your friend shouldn't expect her to do same next time because she would have forgotten it as it is not a part of her.

Women are colonies they are hard to understand at early timea in marriages .... Firat few years(more than two years) are terrible.
As for food cooking , it is a skill and can be learned and be perfect at. Let your friend make her understand that. They can both engage in it sometimes for her to enjoy doing it better(self will on the part of the lady)...

Not being lively at home?Every human has many characters in them we act the only ones we developed . Tell your friend to advise her her to cheer up. If they have family friends let him take her outing with them sometimes to learn how wives relate with their hubbies.

Last, he is free to take any decision that he consides the best for himself. He shouldn't allow marriage to frustrate him. No one owns your happiness. You own it.

Everything was wrong with their marriage from the beginning your friend's obsession with beauty made him to forget other good qualities that a man should watch out in a lady.If your friend truly loves her and not her beauty she could still become good in bed by talking to her and teaching her what she is expected to do in response to what he does in bed and she could become the best cook if she is willing to learn.Your friend has tasted Igbo girl now I doubt if he will have such time and patience because everything is wrong with his wife and all is right with his sex partner from what I read.

Rita30:
Get house helps

To also help in bed?

Your friend never told you anything good about this lady or you just streamlined it to her negative sides to achieve your aim?
God is watching. You can’t break another person’s home and pray to have a good home.

liberalchick:
Are they newly weds? The first 1-2 years is always the hardest in a marriage, the couple are adjusting to their new living situation. It’s very hard to live with someone with a different background and personality from yours that’s why marriage is not easy. Sometimes time is needed to adjust the kinks.

Cooking is a skill not everyone will be good at it, with time he will get used to her cooking, that’s why everybody will swear their mother’s food is the best. I have a friend that her cooking is anytime she invites me for dinner I always eat before I go, I eat very little at dinner and claim I am watching my weight. However, you need to see how the husband will be eating with gusto like he is eating party jollof rice.

OP I know you mean well and you are looking out for your best friend but maybe you should give them a little space since they are newly wed so they get to figure it out. Also, when he comes complaining always urge him to be open with his wife as he is with you.

I wish your friend luck.

The best comment ever,.
Please leave the couple alone,let them get to know each other better and stop being a third party in their marriage,let the couple work out their marriage themselves and mind your own business.
You have no idea what brought them together,now you have started separating them by supporting the guy In extramarital affairs.
Remember,in every couple’s story,there is always an untold part.

Dreamz77:
A friend of mine happens to be in a serious dilemma, he is a Successful young man, a Muslim but Unhappily Married! The gist -.

Some few years back my Buddy (Ibrahim)was fortunate to secure a Federal govt job which as we all know in naija is like hitting a jackpot! His family are quite rich and he happens to be the last born so he had so much benefits and little or no responsibilities.

Dude was living large and as such was able to Conquer quite a number of ladies and you know our Naija girls, once you are a "money spender" you Automatically become their dream Man! Love of their life and all those rubbish etc.

Every damn thing was good, we always balled together, i made him stop takin codeine and all this crazy syrub which I noticed most some part of Hausa's Cherish more than their O level(dats mostly their max anyway)well I introduced him to taking proper Alchohol like Hero, legend and my ever favorite "Budweiser "!
He always payed the bills coz financially he was bigger!

The main problem began wen he traveled to Philippines to meet with his dad, a Consultant in Manilla, their he met Zainab who was a med practitioner. This lady drove my guy crazy! Like literally crazy! First, wen she got back to Nigeria he became more obsessed ,their was no conversation we could make without he mentioning or Linkin it to her. He was becoming bitchy! Even wen we all go out together she always had dis disdainful grimace on her face like the people around there are beneath her. Imagine ordinary Philippines naim she school (no disrespect for) dats not my headache atoll.

In a nutshell, he wanted her badly and as we all know, as a Muslim its a serious taboo to lose ur virginity before marriage! Ibrahim wanted dis lady soo badly and I don't know mayb it was her beauty cause to be honest she was glaringly radiant in beauty and very erudite in speech. or maybe twas his percievd pedigree of her, I couldn't tell what the oomph was all about.

She liked him too dou but he never took the time to understand that marriage is different from the normal menalin quest!

They never kissed; touched nor romanced before he proposed which I agitated against but my friend went on with his plan and they got married. Yes! He got married Blindy and ever since Dia marriage has been more like its a hell in a cell match.

First, this lady knows nothing about cooking,she can't even cook shit! Ibrahim always have to come eat at my place after work cause according to him she only prepares indomie and Egg!

Secondly she is not a playmate unlike before she doesn't gist while watching tv or have naughty talks aside work and normal stuff like dey use to.

Lastly she doesn't flow in bed (dead wood) and my friend through me has tasted some igbo girls and we know igbo ladies are beasts in bed (we love it like da) he complains of her being too modest in bed and this is funny cause I believe he solely got married cause that was the only way he could have her.

At the moment, they not on talking terms cause he doesn't touch her anymore nor even eat her food (indomie).

My friend was blind to get married with a wrong perception but I really feel for him dou he causd the drama himself. He is considering cheating on his wife at the moment just to relax his urge but I don't support cassanovering wen one is already legally married.

The wife already believes me to be the shenanigan confusing her hubby not knowing m trying to save her marriage .pls dam, Any reasonable advice would be much appreciated guys cause I really don't know how to help out here. Tanx

That cooking aspect is not an issue...not every lady can cook...it depends on her upbringing. He can hire a cook cos it may be too late for her to start learning.

As for the bed matter he should have a heart to heart talk with her and make her realize that good sex is Important to him...

In short there is no issue here except the one he is imagining.

This is the comment I have been longing for. I feel the friend is happy about the situation judging from the way he is narrating the story.. He missed the way they use to be back in the days, drinking, womanizing etc... Bro there is a time for a man to grow up. Like he just said this Lady is a virgin and school outside the country. You don't expect her to be f**king like the amaka or Amanda that has been hoeing from birth. You should advice him to tell those to his wife and not you. All I see is you making a mockery out of them. So bro chill

dominique:
All these are trivial issues that can be worked upon. First couple of years in marriage is a huge learning period for both husband and wife. After all, we live to learn. All I see here is an evil friend who is trying to destroy a young marriage probably for his own selfish gains. Friends like this will be subtly poisoning your mind against your spouse till you start questioning your decision to marry him/her. A friend that encourages you to get drunk and womanize, is that one a friend?

sherylbakky:
Sebi ur friend can cook? Ehhhn he sud b doing d cooking nah, so far u warned him to notice her b4 marriage n he refused.

Or better still, they sud get a maid or a cook that will be coming around sometimes. He sud forget anything like learning how to cook for her at this stage, it's late except she shows interest.

As for the bed things, he sud show her what he wants in bed, he's a man nah.

Your analysis is well spelt out and a primary school pupil can read and digest. You would make a great career as an event Moderator. Seun Osewa,an Iconic Mod.is here already.