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Re: Husband Started Hitting Me During A Arguement And I Am Pregnant by menix(m): 7:24am On Jun 08, 2019
@OP... sorry ur hubby ain't Brice in Tyler Perry Temptation...

Yes, ur hubby is abusive and u ve been cool with it cous u ve found a way around it by also attacking him too?? Why complaining now Because u re preg now And can't hit back
Make una kontinew!!

I know u ain't Seeing d gravity Of ur "judith" stunt of ur imaginary "Brice", thou I ain't surprise, if u look very well, most female who would rant here won't also see same..
Sorry u had to unleash the demon in him thou I don't subscribe to him hitting you.

Pls, don't go apologizing as both party ve loads of heart talk to do..
If u like listen to these home breakers, who would ask u to jump off the union but re in a worse relationship but choose to keep theirs...

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Re: Husband Started Hitting Me During A Arguement And I Am Pregnant by Nobody: 7:25am On Jun 08, 2019
TonyeBarcanista:

Online warrior feminists, always angry and bitter!

We know una...


LMAO


And the wives whose husband's treat them like trash are not bitter?
Just go abeg.

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Re: Husband Started Hitting Me During A Arguement And I Am Pregnant by Nobody: 7:28am On Jun 08, 2019
menix:
@OP... sorry ur hubby ain't Brice in Tyler Perry Temptation...

Yes, ur hubby is abusive and u ve been cool with it cous u ve found a way around it by also attacking him too?? Why complaining now Because u re preg now And can't hit back
Make una kontinew!!

I know u ain't Seeing d gravity Of ur "judith" stunt of ur imaginary "Brice", thou I ain't surprise, if u look very well, most female who would rant here won't also see same..
Sorry u had to unleash the demon in him thou I don't subscribe to him hitting you.

Pls, don't go apologizing as both party ve loads of heart talk to do..
If u like listen to these home breakers, who would ask u to jump off the union but re in a worse relationship but choose to keep theirs...


Some of you men are desperately wicked.

Home breakers yen yen yen...

A place your husband beats and treats you badly, a place you are not happy, how do you call that home?

If she wants to stay, by all means do so.
Home breakers indeed.

What does anyone here have to gain from breaking the home of a stranger.

I wonder if you use your brain before typing.

Disgusting.

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Re: Husband Started Hitting Me During A Arguement And I Am Pregnant by Sumk: 7:32am On Jun 08, 2019
That good male friend is a friend known by my family and him as well.......I am and never was having any intention of sleeping with him or dating him......my husband unexpected outburst made me land in a hospital........his behavior demonstrates that I can never ever commit a mistake in my life I feel whereas for him every action is justified just because he is a male

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Re: Husband Started Hitting Me During A Arguement And I Am Pregnant by Nobody: 7:34am On Jun 08, 2019
TonyeBarcanista:

What if you return home to see your wife beating your mother? What will you do? Discuss with her?
You make an attempt to separate them right away and if need be, call the cops. Joining in to beat her would mean you're as much of an animal as she is.

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Re: Husband Started Hitting Me During A Arguement And I Am Pregnant by TonyeBarcanista(m): 7:40am On Jun 08, 2019
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theButterfly:
You make an attempt to separate them right away and if need be, call the cops. Joining in to beat her would mean you're as much of an animal as she is.
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Re: Husband Started Hitting Me During A Arguement And I Am Pregnant by TonyeBarcanista(m): 7:44am On Jun 08, 2019
breakerofchains:


LMAO

And the wives whose husband's treat them like trash are not bitter? Just go abeg.
you will be alright

Re: Husband Started Hitting Me During A Arguement And I Am Pregnant by menix(m): 7:46am On Jun 08, 2019
Sumk:
I feel like all you males are not capable enough to understand my viewpoint here.......are rules different for men and women after marriage.....is physical abuse justified if one is not doing the right thing?




I think u re the person who ve failed to see ur wrong...
U said he did same in the past, did u speak about it to him If truly he did same with someone alone, it would ve been a concern to you nd u would ve spoken out.. Except u intend telling us, you decided to pay back


Lastly, I don't think anyone is justifying the abuse neither should you also justify that "Judith's" stunt of urs...

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Re: Husband Started Hitting Me During A Arguement And I Am Pregnant by Nobody: 7:49am On Jun 08, 2019
Who are these barbaric men supporting this wicked act of hitting a pregnant woman and even telling her to go and apologize....

Apologize for what biko.Their mothers sure did a bad job in their upbringing.

Any man that tries this stupid act with me would have been cooling his ass in prison now cheesy but area thugs will first reason his matter

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Re: Husband Started Hitting Me During A Arguement And I Am Pregnant by Sumk: 7:52am On Jun 08, 2019
I know my mistake and even during the argument I was trying to explain it to him but he was waiting to physically abuse me ....the look on his face was like I have committed a sin to go out like that and I deserved the beating he gave me ......Lord I was worried that I will start bleeding from all of this but luckily enough the baby was safe

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Re: Husband Started Hitting Me During A Arguement And I Am Pregnant by menix(m): 7:54am On Jun 08, 2019
breakerofchains:



Some of you men are desperately wicked.

Home breakers yen yen yen...

A place your husband beats and treats you badly, a place you are not happy, how do you call that home?

If she wants to stay, by all means do so.
Home breakers indeed.

What does anyone here have to gain from breaking the home of a stranger.

I wonder if you use your brain before typing.

Disgusting.

See how bitter a woman you are..

Pls, just go out there and marry Urself ur supposed man..

Take this as my last mention...
Re: Husband Started Hitting Me During A Arguement And I Am Pregnant by Nobody: 7:54am On Jun 08, 2019
TonyeBarcanista:
you will be alright


It's like this is the new dumb naija men anthem...

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Re: Husband Started Hitting Me During A Arguement And I Am Pregnant by Nobody: 7:57am On Jun 08, 2019
menix:


See how bitter a woman you are..

Pls, just go out there and marry Urself ur supposed man..

Take this as my last mention...


Look at you

First, I'm not bitter but you want to know what else? You're completely silly for thinking using the word bitter will make me shut up...LMAO

I know that it's just a silencing technique.
Women should tolerate every trash behavior and not complain so they won't be called "bitter"

News flash: I don't care!

undecided

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Re: Husband Started Hitting Me During A Arguement And I Am Pregnant by sisisioge: 8:02am On Jun 08, 2019
Lawd! Don't mind those saying its all your fault. Given, you ought to have disclosed that you were meeting the friend but he had no rights to put his hands on you! Especially not in your condition. Nice that you called the cops...he should face the music. If he had fatally hurt you or your unborn child, the story would have been different!

Those people talking should imagine their sisters or daughters being kicked around while pregnant undecided

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Re: Husband Started Hitting Me During A Arguement And I Am Pregnant by ibkayee(f): 8:07am On Jun 08, 2019
Married people shouldn't be going out with friends of the opposite gender without telling their spouses but that isn't justification for hitting you. He's also gone out with a female friends without notifying you? What a hypocrite

The 4 MONTH PREGNANCY didn't phase him either? Damn, what a monster

Apparently you two have gotten into physical arguments before but it sounds like you've only gotten physical in retaliation, not necessarily that you're both abusive towards one another. Am I correct?

Seems he showed signs of abuse before the marriage too? They don't tend to change dear, it usually only gets worse

I would leave the marriage, if he can beat you while you're pregnant with his child, he obviously has absolutely no limitations. Not only is it unjustified, he's also hypocrite

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Re: Husband Started Hitting Me During A Arguement And I Am Pregnant by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 8:15am On Jun 08, 2019
Acidosis:


grin grin grin



what is funny? Sexist.

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Re: Husband Started Hitting Me During A Arguement And I Am Pregnant by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 8:15am On Jun 08, 2019
breakerofchains:


Trash advice.

OP what do you mean by please help?!

Please help with what?

Anyway, don't apologise to him.
If he insults you, insult him back.

Are you on twitter?
There are activists that can help you arrest him if he lays his hands on you and lock him up.

Who does he think he is?
A fool.

Plot your escape from that marriage.

Don't take any stupid advice from nl men...

WhO knows how they treat their wives at home?




I concur babe.
Re: Husband Started Hitting Me During A Arguement And I Am Pregnant by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 8:17am On Jun 08, 2019
TonyeBarcanista:


What kind of argument?



So you went out with another man and you couldn't even be sober enough to tell him till he finds out? I put it to you that you are hiding something from him.


There is nothing to discuss though hitting you wasn't appropriate. The appropriate thing is to ignore you indefinitely using the silent treatment formula


I am also suspecting and questioning the paternity of the child. I think your husband should distance from you pending the DNA test result of the child.


Yimu


Why seek help here when you have the police? Is the NL the Police station?

Conclusively, you need Christ not help.

So you know, my gf/fiancee/wife is not permitted to keep and go on date with any male except her father and male sibling (Same mama, same papa). Not even "cousin" is permitted or half/step brother (if any exist). She isn't even permitted to introduce any male to me, whether as friend or whatever.

You are delusional. SEXISTS!

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Re: Husband Started Hitting Me During A Arguement And I Am Pregnant by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 8:20am On Jun 08, 2019
What is wrong with going out with male friends now· Since her husband will not give her attention, let her seek solace elsewhere. NL men are no good. I wonder how they treat their wives at home. Acidosis and Tonyebarcanista, i spit on you people.

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Re: Husband Started Hitting Me During A Arguement And I Am Pregnant by Acidosis(m): 8:35am On Jun 08, 2019
UyaiIncomparabl:

what is funny? Sexist.
Lmao! grin grin

Is that how you see me now?
Re: Husband Started Hitting Me During A Arguement And I Am Pregnant by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 8:37am On Jun 08, 2019
Acidosis:


Lmao! grin grin


Is that how you see me now?

Yes. You support bad things.

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Re: Husband Started Hitting Me During A Arguement And I Am Pregnant by Acidosis(m): 8:46am On Jun 08, 2019
UyaiIncomparabl:
What is wrong with going out with male friends now· Since her husband will not give her attention, let her seek solace elsewhere. NL men are no good. I wonder how they treat their wives at home. Acidosis and Tonyebarcanista, i spit on you people.


My dear, those indoctrinating you do not mean well. I do not support violence of any form but I was surprised to read from a woman who takes delight in retaliating side-kicks. Never seen a woman that is so determined to fight her husband.

That being said, the OP seems like a good person. You could see that from the way she painted the story. Others would have provided a one-sided & biased view about the whole events, but like she has said, they're in this together. Only issue here and why she's come forth to vent is largely because she's 4 month pregnant and has no strength to fight back.

Please look at the bigger picture, darling. I have no idea how to resolve this issue, but I would advise her to seek (with her husband) good counsel from qualified counsellors. And yes, both need to apologize to each other and seek adequate help. We don't need to take sides at all, it will do her and her family no good.
Re: Husband Started Hitting Me During A Arguement And I Am Pregnant by TonyeBarcanista(m): 8:54am On Jun 08, 2019
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breakerofchains:


It's like this is the new dumb naija men anthem...
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Re: Husband Started Hitting Me During A Arguement And I Am Pregnant by TonyeBarcanista(m): 8:56am On Jun 08, 2019
virgoquin:
Who are these barbaric men supporting this wicked act of hitting a pregnant woman and even telling her to go and apologize....

Apologize for what biko. Their mothers sure did a bad job in their upbringing.

Any man that tries this stupid act with me would have been cooling his ass in prison now cheesy but area thugs will first reason his matter
NA DEM

Re: Husband Started Hitting Me During A Arguement And I Am Pregnant by crackhaus: 9:02am On Jun 08, 2019
TonyeBarcanista:

NA DEM
cheesy

That woman you uploaded 'Ifeanyi Adefarasin' is all manner of class. cool
Re: Husband Started Hitting Me During A Arguement And I Am Pregnant by TonyeBarcanista(m): 9:03am On Jun 08, 2019
Re: Husband Started Hitting Me During A Arguement And I Am Pregnant by TonyeBarcanista(m): 9:05am On Jun 08, 2019
crackhaus:

cheesy

That woman you uploaded 'Ifeanyi Adefarasin' is all manner of class. cool
She don join memes collection hahaha
Re: Husband Started Hitting Me During A Arguement And I Am Pregnant by TonyeBarcanista(m): 9:07am On Jun 08, 2019
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UyaiIncomparabl:
What is wrong with going out with male friends now· Since her husband will not give her attention, let her seek solace elsewhere. NL men are no good. I wonder how they treat their wives at home. Acidosis and Tonyebarcanista, i spit on you people.
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Re: Husband Started Hitting Me During A Arguement And I Am Pregnant by crackhaus: 9:07am On Jun 08, 2019
Sumk:
My husband and I have had arguements before where he hits me and I hit him in return as well. This time around I was pregnant by 4 months and went out to see museum with one of my good male friend(husband knew he was in town and was to be invited over for dinner) without telling my husband.He came to know about this 4 days later when he checked my bag and find the receipt. Instead of discussing the same like matured adults, he was waiting to hit me and started slapping me continously and kicked and punched me and thrashed me to the floor. And he even started saying nasty things like child is not his and started using bad words for me which made me more mad.I was lacking any strength to fight him back and said if he didnt stop I will call the police to which he said u can call the cops, so I did as I was bruised all over.......I am still not able to understand what kind of a man would hit his wife at such time............Please help
Nuff' said.

You deserve each other.

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Re: Husband Started Hitting Me During A Arguement And I Am Pregnant by crackhaus: 9:08am On Jun 08, 2019
TonyeBarcanista:
She don join memes collection hahaha
Lol
Re: Husband Started Hitting Me During A Arguement And I Am Pregnant by bukatyne(f): 9:12am On Jun 08, 2019
Sumk:
My husband and I have had arguements before where he hits me and I hit him in return as well. This time around I was pregnant by 4 months and went out to see museum with one of my good male friend(husband knew he was in town and was to be invited over for dinner) without telling my husband.He came to know about this 4 days later when he checked my bag and find the receipt. Instead of discussing the same like matured adults, he was waiting to hit me and started slapping me continously and kicked and punched me and thrashed me to the floor. And he even started saying nasty things like child is not his and started using bad words for me which made me more mad.I was lacking any strength to fight him back and said if he didnt stop I will call the police to which he said u can call the cops, so I did as I was bruised all over.......I am still not able to understand what kind of a man would hit his wife at such time............Please help

@OP:

Your story is one where we do not need hello from the 'other side', your post seems detailed.

From your account, you admitted that
1. You and hubby communicate by fighting so expecting a different form of communication is pretentious. He hits you and you hit back and you both of have not landed in the hospital. It is safe to say you both are aggressive and fighters because a truly abusive man would beat you to a pulp if you touch him except he knows you will over power him.

2. You went out with a mutual male friend without informing him. My sister it is disrespectful on your side. You are married and accountable to your husband. It is akin to sneaking behind his back. I know you feel 'he did it and I didn't bat an eyelid so what's the fuss?' Well, the fact that you are cool with it doesn't mean he should be cool with it. Ideally, it is disrespectful on both ends however if you do not mind been disrespected, he has shown you he minds. So going forward, you must tell him before going out whether he does or not.

3. The only reason why you did not fight back in this episode is because you did not have the strength to due to pregnancy. Yes, he is wrong to have hit you because you are pregnant as it shows he lacks self control. It could be that he used that opportunity to teach you a lesson since you couldn't fight back because he knows when you are stronger, you will wire him back. It could also be that he thought you are cheating and pregnant with another man's child hence the more aggressive beating. You called the cops and what happened?

When every thing is calm, apologize for going out without his knowledge and tell him you feel bad he beat you with mercy in your condition. Go for more checkups to ascertain all is well.

Use this opportunity to cure the madness of you both fighting when you have issues. A baby is on the way and you don't want to teach him/her that the only conflict resolution skill is fighting.

It is well with you both.
Re: Husband Started Hitting Me During A Arguement And I Am Pregnant by SageMK: 9:13am On Jun 08, 2019
Sumk:
I didn't make it one, he was emotionally abusive and controlling before marriage as well but I thought he will change. Sadly, it only got worse. Initially, I tried to communicate with him and explain him but he gets angry and start physically abusing me to which I retaliate by hitting him back.But this time around, it only got worse


Woman, you are the architect of your undoing.
As a matter of fact, I question your sanity.

You saw all these alarming signs yet you still went ahead and married him? — I take it back. You are dùmb.

You should thank your lucky stars that you are alive.

The title and content of your posts shows you still plan to go back to him. Well please do get a body bag ready.

But If you have any regard for the life of your unborn child, you'll pack your bags and disappear for good.

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