Deep... It's a part of our customs and tradition and has nothing to do with buying a human.

oluwaseyi000:


Do marriage need bride price to succeed

it is a of appreciating those that trained your woman to be.

No... states just really need to go back to their drawing board and look into the amount some families charge

no..it's cultural and it d is doesn't hurt anyone

Feminist topic

Many Igbo fathers of pretty and regular but educated girls and villagers go hear am oh.
Akwa Ibom too and similar cultures that sell their daughters by exploiting grooms will never accept it ra ra...
Most other tribes won't be affected because pride price has always been a symbolic thing rather expensive list of outrageous demands.

sex should be abolished.
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I Think it should be abolished

Na Okoro people carry am for head just to extort the groom. Everything to those savages na money, money and money..

Cursed tribe indeed!

Jokerman:
Bride price cannot be abolished ??

This is what God knows about about two persons who are legally married

OK, correct. But did God also know about gender equality in marriage? If women want to be with God, then it should be 100% if they want civilization, its also 100%

It was ordained by God Himself
Don't mistake stupidity for civilisation

That shittt is extortion



I don't care if I have the money or not.....but I hate been held to ransom in the smallest way

Toks2008:


Your opening phrase has an error...you wrote Pride price so correct that....but the irony is that it should actually be tagged Pride price and not bride price cos These days there is no pride in most ladies we pay a huge price to marry.

Further more...the original purpose of bride price in the bible was to serve as punishment for rape and it was Abraham who first gave gifts to the family of his son's wife to be Rebecca who was a virgin at that time.

What is the point?

Bride price was made for virgins and any lady who is no longer a virgin deserves no bride price in the days of old but today the practice have been manipulated by greedy families that you still have to pay so much to marry a lady who has slept with every Kunle, Peter, Chinedu,Amodu...


My opinion is that we go back to the days of old and pay bride price for virgins only.

Na dem Okoro people lay too much emphasis on top am just for the monetary value whereas, Yoruba people are more concerned about the cultural and traditional value behind it hence, the reason where the monetary value is of little or no importance.

pocohantas:
I have never seen women collect bride price It is always men collecting and sharing it.

One man pays, comes online to whine.

25yrs later, same man is billing another young man for his daughter.

Men are their own enemies.

Men will never stop collecting bride price, a practice they put in place to validate themselves.

#spits

You have never attended traditional weddings from any of the Southern tribes in Nigeria

YES, YES, YES!!
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Toks2008:


Your opening phrase has an error...you wrote Pride price so correct that....but the irony is that it should actually be tagged Pride price and not bride price cos These days there is no pride in most ladies we pay a huge price to marry.

Further more...the original purpose of bride price in the bible was to serve as punishment for rape and it was Abraham who first gave gifts to the family of his son's wife to be Rebecca who was a virgin at that time.

What is the point?

Bride price was made for virgins and any lady who is no longer a virgin deserves no bride price in the days of old but today the practice have been manipulated by greedy families that you still have to pay so much to marry a lady who has slept with every Kunle, Peter, Chinedu,Amodu...


My opinion is that we go back to the days of old and pay bride price for virgins only.

Is like you are trying to take us back to stone age.
Abolish the tradition is better

ifyalways:
No.

Y IS IT SUCH A BIG HEADACHE FOR AFONJA.


OVER AND OVER AND OVER AGAIN.


THE CONEHEAD OWNER OF NAIRALAND WILL BE RUSHING THE TOPIC TO FP, IN HOPE THEY CAN USE FEDERAL GOVERNMENT TO CONTROL OTHERS.



ALL TRIBES IN NIGERIA AND AFRICA OBSERVE BRIDE PRICE EXCEPT AFONJA SKULL MINERS.


DO YORUBAS HAVE BRIDE PRICE SYSTEM IN THERE PLACE OR THEY WILL FORCE THEIR IDEOLOGY ON EVERYONE ELSE, WITH THEIR HIGHEST DIVORCE RATE IN NIEGRIA?

yes pls, i dont want to pay...

oluwaseyi000:
Bride price is money and gift items that a man give out to a lady family to marry her, of cause it is like something in exchange for something, a business, a transaction.

Looking at the 21st century and the advocacy for gender equality, I think pride price completely has no place in today's world, women want equality but once a man paid for acquiring you you are more or less his surbodinate,

The argument of if he values you he will pay anything for you do not hold any water, it only hint at the fact that you are a material thing that is more expensive

The argument of your parent taking care of you is also baseless, his own parent took care of him too and your parents took care of their male children without expecting anything in return except from their child and this argument actually hint that your parent do not trust you to succeed and take care of them after all they've spent on you hence they are willing to cut their loss and cash out when any man comes calling

I think African parents/family are simply long throat and outrightly archaic, they are never willing to let go of the tiny gains for a better society for their daughter

Also it seems Africans cannot achieve anything on their own except their slave master (Whites) ask them to, if the slave master want to abolish pride price in Africa they would have, but Africa can't just do it on their own, I'm sure if not for the white killing of twins will still be here

Saying a man won't respect his wife if he doesn't pay to acquire her is a complete lie, guys don't pay their friends to be friends with them yet they won't undervalue their friends


The fact that feminists are not taking this matter up against their family still baffles me, there is even no NGO organisation against it yet thousands of NGO are up for women right and unwilling to attack its root cause

In as much as there is bride price, there can never be a successful and established women right, a wife will always feel like an employee to her husband the employer rather than a partnership business startup

Of cause since it is a game of money, the man will marry another woman or chase other girls if/when he can afford more than one person bride price

Women/ladies rise up against bride price, you are humans not commodity

NO MARRIAGE NEED BRIDE PRICE TO SUCCEED



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I'm with you brother, I'm in total agreement pride price should be abolish.
It's just an illegal-legal human trading.

If I'm paying bride, I'm cutting off any further support to the family.

There's no valid marriage without bride price

Toks2008:


Your opening phrase has an error...you wrote Pride price so correct that....but the irony is that it should actually be tagged Pride price and not bride price cos These days there is no pride in most ladies we pay a huge price to marry.

Further more...the original purpose of bride price in the bible was to serve as punishment for rape and it was Abraham who first gave gifts to the family of his son's wife to be Rebecca who was a virgin at that time.

What is the point?

Bride price was made for virgins and any lady who is no longer a virgin deserves no bride price in the days of old but today the practice have been manipulated by greedy families that you still have to pay so much to marry a lady who has slept with every Kunle, Peter, Chinedu,Amodu...


My opinion is that we go back to the days of old and pay bride price for virgins only.

@Toks2008 Sense non go kill you.

Ryan03:
Some in-laws are so greedy that they see bride price as a means to cripple the would be couples financially. It will be better if they abolish it, men will learn to respect their wives more. I have a married cousin who is being battered by her husband on a regular basis, after reporting the matter to family, all my greedy uncles could say was that "marriage is not a bed of roses" simply because they Dont want to refund bride price and she can never leave that marriage without doing that. If she do, she can never marry another man or even have sex, the laws binding married women of the land still binds her.

So even if she gets a formal divorce, the laws still binds her?

That's bondage.

@OP:

Before dowry was abolished in Britain, wives gave their husbands yet they were maltreated.

In India, wives still pay dowries yet their husbands treat them like crap.

@cancelation: it was symbolic and part of the rites of marriage and building up another family with the husband as the head.

ibkayee:
It’s meant to be a symbolic gesture/formality, but all I see it as is buying the woman as a commodity, a chance for greedy in laws to extort and take advantage and an excuse for some men to mistreat their wives and lord 'ownership' over them during arguments. Then again men who use it as an excuse were probably going to mistreat her without it anyway tbh.

Let me pay your bride price

Paying of bride does not potentially put the woman in marriage in a precarious position rather it gives a sense of pride and value. Imagine marrying a woman for free
The whites you're trying to copy, how's successful are their marriages? Their marriages are extremely poor with over 60% failed marriages. Surely that shouldn't be a standard to copy.

Poco,
Not reacting to your comment just quoting you cos it's been long

pocohantas:



Oga, when they come to marry that your sister, tell your father not to collect.

Women should fix the mess you guys made?

When will you people start taking responsibility for your actions?

Even when God asked Adam simple question,
"Adam, where are you?", Adam started to talk another thing.

Centuries later, these sons of Adam are still blaming woman. Oh Gosh!!

Yes, it should be abolished.
People can still get married, witnessed by everyone in their village and they should feed their guests and everybody goes home.
Some cultures return the bride price. All that yam, honey and what not should also go away with the bride price.

arthurmate:
i swear...it should not only be abolished but also criminalised

Go to akwa ibom and see fine ladies not getting married because the men are scared of the very exorbitant bride price

I don't think bride price is the reason why they are not yet married. I think it's their character or beauty or something else.

A man can go any length to marry someone he sees as a wife material.
Again, if he can afford to feed her, he can just easily meet the family of the girl and explain his condition to them, the marriage process will be made easy for him. At least, that's how they do it in the north.

So, I don't think it is the bride price issue, I think they are not good for

bukatyne:


So even if she gets a formal divorce, the laws still binds her?

That's bondage.

Not until the bride price is returned, court paper wont hold. That is the main reason i hate it, but for me, i wish to pay for my wife

GoTV:



Let me pay your bride price

You again

Talking about bride price, some communities does not collect the so called bride price but you have a long list of items to buy, at the end of the day, you are the one who will entertain your visitors on the day of traditional marriage which will take place in the family home of the bride which most time makes the marriage exorbitant.
Looking at the whole arrangement, you will see that, marriage and process of marrying in Africa should be revisited and redefined.
The truth remains that the man will always be the head of the union whether their is price or not. All I will suggest is that the cost of marriage should be brought down to the barest minimum where everyone who wants to marry can do so conveniently. In that case, it will be a win win situation for all.
Even in Europe and America where there is nothing like bride price, the man is still the head of the union but respects his wife. Remember also, that these countries have laws that protects the woman from being cheated or molested.

I totally support its abolishment. Some greedy parents have turned there in laws to ATMs. They did same to me, but them go meet me for front. I love my wife, wouldn't do anything we didn't consent to though.