shit like this happens, brothers in the house don't spend a dime for a lady you are trying to date, until you guys have started dating and you have sipped from her honey pot and she worth it then spend when needed and at will not on demand if not anytime she sees you all she sees is an ATM ready to dispense, let her call you stingy for as long as she wants that's her P.

I actually fell a victim once and since then this rule has been a baby

kennygee:


No. They didn't just meet. They were already dating. Read the first page. I am not talking about greedy and materialistic women. Read the comments on the first page.

Stop jumping into conclusions. Nobody said I didn't help at first. When the demands became much i started wondering if she was with me for love or for what she is getting. This is a lady I want to marry not a fling. We are humans and we want people to marry us for whom we are not what we have.

kennygee:
Ladies. See the comments in this post. The one that really saddened me was the sweet girl who got dumped cause she was "demanding". Were her demands really a necessity or were they vain demands?

If you can afford to help out a woman you claim you love when she was in need, not out of vanity, is that a bad thing?

Maybe she was poor and couldn't afford those things she needed, if you could afford it and you've ascertained it is a necessity, is it too bad to help her out?

I pray she is able to hustle, get through this poor phase of her life by getting a decent job or business so she can stand on her own.

If you hustle your way through and become financially independent, they'll say you won't be submissive. If you ask them for money for needs, they'll say you're demanding.

If you dim your light so they can shine, they'll say you lack ambition. If you go to school, gather degrees paid for by yourself and your parents, they'll say you won't be submissive.

If you're a working career woman, they'll say you are not fulfilling your wifely duties, if you're a house wife, you're a liability.

The Nigerian woman is screwed either ways.

Make your own money ladies, work hard to achieve your dreams. Carve a path for your self and observe and look out for the one worth committing to.

In all these, stay off fornication and live the kind of life Christ wants you to live.

Shalom.

First, on behalf of all the men who have hurt u with their statements, I say we are sorry for all their words and I am sincere although I know it sounds like mockery.


Second, there is truth in what u said but you forgot to advice ladies who are really leeches. There are girls who really have such annoying entitlement attitude or does your post suggest that there aren't?

One that took me to the supermarket and was shopping. She shopped for goods worth 11k. This was after eating Shawarma and drinking Chapman ohhh. I paid as a guy man and ex the babe sharp sharp.

zeb04:
Lol. Funny thread.

First date with my boyfriend,I don’t ask for nothing really because “as a big girl concern” anyway I even paid for some smoothie and popcorn when we later to the cinemas.

My boyfriend said. “Baby my money is yours oh, better enjoy yourself. Ahh first date. Okay oh uncle, at least this one get sense.

Dated, got married every every in 6months because uncle no go let me rest.

2years now. Still eating my money and his money. Naso.

Marriage been good so far, the fights been crazy too. Because the Igbo girl get sharp mouth and witty tongue.

Una thank you

This is a good testimony.
Make sure you drop testimony offering my sister..

Any other testifier in the house

I am happy for you!!!! God bless your home!

After reading all the comments above, I think I've been fortunate enough oo. Dated quite a few and never come across such ladies who demands on first date.

Inception:



AND YOU SIMPLY CAME HERE TO PROVE A POINT TO THE LADIES!?
THUNDER FAYA U THERE!

thank for the insult sir its the condition that i am that caused it all
thanks once again

naijaschoolguru:
They always have this "obe to dun Owo lo pa" mentality.

Make-up to dun

zed7:

Na luck everything be. Some women will make your life sweet, others will make it miserable. It depends on what you end up with. Sometimes it's when you are in you will realise you've been scammed. For me, so far it's been beautiful. I got lucky bro.

Like Black Market??

Michelle55:
Here to read comments as usual

1 chair for me and 1 for my friend abeg...

Regiomontanus:
Stop complimenting AwkaetitiBabe. I am getting jealous.

ok

Randy91:
She asked of a particular amount...

I told her I don't ve such amount...

she then asked if I don't having savings?


I lost interest immediately

For her mind, she deserved your savings She be clown ooo...

nwanneni:
Na their way na.
And know she can also see your bank balance from her computer so she knew what her feminineness could make you do for her
Use to do that too to one cashier at heritage bank when I use to have a savings account there.
I gave her some dried snails which i got from when I wanted to send a sample to some clients in the US.
And was tipping her all the time.
So one evening I got there late and on my way out,I saw her trying to flag a cab.
I carried her and we started talking and all..
Made some advances but she later said to me;hope you know I'm married
Moral died immediately and I stopped using her branch.
Life sha,wonder if she's still there

I feel your pain bro

specie103:
Those things she demanded on first date/meeting or whatever is called "Acceptance Fee"

Hahahaha
You nailed it .

cyprus000:

you know, kenny, it's either you're dyslexic or your sentiment is too opaque to allow the ray of objectivity and rationality to sift through.

how is asking for an iPhone as a proviso for marriage, tantamount to 'genuine' demand. or you just feel like yelping without comprehending what the guy said.

Please don't insult me without comprehending what my post meant. Did I in my post talk about iPhones?

Read the first page, maybe you'll understand what I was talking about, after that, kindly apologize.

Thank you.

nwanneni:
I did not succeed with it.besides that was sometime 2017.
Never got past sample stage!

Eyah! Alright.

sisilimart622:
u right babe... and some guys u date, if u didn't ask dey won't give u

Must they give you? Something you can't ask your father and probably can't do for someone else. Why ask a guy simply because he wants to be friends?

raymi:


You made some really good points. I actually feel Nigerian ladies are unfairly vilified at every turn generally and on this forum especially. I have met some really desirable and decent women. However, being submissive and independent should not be mutually exclusive. You can be independent, success-driven and still be respectful to your man. A woman's greatest asset is her character.

A decent lady should know not to over-burden a man with incessant requests. Everything should be done moderately and in order. If a man truly loves you anyway, he'll do much more than what you expect or ask cos he knows your needs. Personally, I have spent over 250k on an ex for shopping. She deserved it cos she was there for me when the going was tough. However, the relationship wasn't meant to be but I have no regrets whatsoever over everything I did for her.

I'm not talking about requests here. I am totally against materialistic women who want to slay at the expense of men. I'm talking about decent women who are unable to meet a need or the other. If you are in a relationship with a woman who has a need that you know is a need, is it wrong to help her if you can afford to?

Is being a poor woman now a criteria for dating or dumping a woman?

If the woman can't ask you for help, who else can she ask? Makes me even wonder if such men will take care of a woman after marriage.

I'm not talking about the human hair, iPhone and make up slay queens.

This particular guy said that gf was a really sweet woman but they broke up cause she was too demanding. If he hadn't brought it up here, I wouldn't have made reference to it cause in my opinion, his was a relationship, not a leech trying to be greedy on the first date.

Mariangeles:
She does not need permission from you to choose where she's more comfortable.
She's doing you a favour by agreeing to go on a date in the first place ...
All she has to do is comport herself like a lady.

She is doing her a favour because ladies never need a relationship

Riele:
let me throw my mat here...


Who wants to take me on a date

Some want calender no be only date

nwanneni:
maybe you should up your game a little so that little things won't sound impossible to you

How will I up my game Mr Smooth guy? And even if I do, somethings will still be sounding impossible to me like this your post!
I see Una table, well done bro!

Kenneth10110:
it was officially announced to be released November 2013. And was officially released in Japan February 2019. Don't tell me your were so rich then to get it even before it got to Nigeria.

Stop arguing what you don't know. It was released in Europe, Australia, South America and North America in late 2013. And guys in Nigeria bought it since that 2013.

Again. Google and Wikipedia is your friend.

It's not that hard to confirm.

pansophist:


Why do you guys see sex as a reward, a goal or something divine? To the women, the sex is nothing, it's like giving you a cup of water to drink from an endless stream. The lady is the smart one here, she has used up his resources, which he spent at least a month slaving to get (he admitted it), and also, still spend more to get a few mins of sex. Pathetic.

I actually don't blame women for being so vain and materialistic, men enable it, and with your outlook of seeing sex as a reward, a trend like this will continue.

I agree that sex shouldn't be put on a pedestal or over-valued else some women can exploit that as a weakness and use it to manipulate and get whatever they want from a man. Although, I do think sex means a lot to some ladies. This idea that ALL women can just open their legs for every dick and harry without having affection towards them is a far-fetched theory. These same women who gobble up some men's resources use those same resources on other men to which they are emotionally invested. It hurts ladies deeply when they truly give their heart and body only to realize they've been played for a fool.

Again, it's nauseating when certain men feel they are immune to falling head over heels for a woman, especially men who often boast that they never spend on ladies but it is the other way around. Does that not make you the 'leech' which you have branded most women? In their naivety, they think it's some form of prestigious thing they can use to gloat. In my experience, these sort of men are the biggest prey to needy and deceitful women. Wiser and stronger men throughout history have fallen to the schemes of women. Having said this, a good relationship should be symbiotic. Each side needs to sacrifice for the other party when it is required.

kennygee:
Ladies. See the comments in this post. The one that really saddened me was the sweet girl who got dumped cause she was "demanding". Were her demands really a necessity or were they vain demands?

If you can afford to help out a woman you claim you love when she was in need, not out of vanity, is that a bad thing?

Maybe she was poor and couldn't afford those things she needed, if you could afford it and you've ascertained it is a necessity, is it too bad to help her out?

I pray she is able to hustle, get through this poor phase of her life by getting a decent job or business so she can stand on her own.

If you hustle your way through and become financially independent, they'll say you won't be submissive. If you ask them for money for needs, they'll say you're demanding.

If you dim your light so they can shine, they'll say you lack ambition. If you go to school, gather degrees paid for by yourself and your parents, they'll say you won't be submissive.

If you're a working career woman, they'll say you are not fulfilling your wifely duties, if you're a house wife, you're a liability.

The Nigerian woman is screwed either ways.

Make your own money ladies, work hard to achieve your dreams. Carve a path for your self and observe and look out for the one worth committing to.

In all these, stay off fornication and live the kind of life Christ wants you to live.

Shalom.

Thank you sis. Spot on

Lol hear my own na... Guys pardon me for any typos you may come across. I'm just an ssce holder and I'm not good in writing. Meanwhile certificate no stop me from balling weller...

Matter full ground. I met this babe on fb when I drop one naughty comment on her page. Later I apologize to her and delete the comment. After that boom we're friends online so close that we began to share stories. Well I pretend to be just a poverty wrecking person but I never new she check my timeline. But I have never ever post any good pictures or boosty pic cuz I have this believe that one day I might come across real white babe I might follow and travel out if God permits and sure this are going very well just as if I'm really directing but in physical and in spirit. 1 2 babe say na airtel. I simply told her that I don't have any dime cuz I haven't received my salary yet. After that I came up with a bigger hit and apologized for not being there for her when she needed me most lol. Babe Fall in again we continue. You I'm among those dude dishing it hot to materialistic ladies. I'm 100% sure she saw most of my crazy posts slamming them. When babe saw that I wasn't maga she sometimes ignore me while I play to care. Hmmm Long story but let me cut it short.
1. I monitor every first chat from 1st week to 2 weeks or 3 weeks.
2. I know how she chats so the moment she starts showing me characters I drop.
She starts forming not feeling fine when I ask she said she's fine I tried get what the problem was but she kept pretending. As a guy man who has been on the game since primary school even big brother and uncle them de use me finish work then. Lol bad guy. But now a change person.
She told me how her her exams is fast coming and needed money for her exam 2ook. I laughed in my mind I told her well let's see how it gonna be. In fact I told her that I will assist just to calm her down. Guys that's how I bullshit her off.

You just need screenshots of our long chats not even what I put up there cuz I really made mistakes and I couldn't dig out everything of head.

Frankicent:
Me have never fall into this stupid scam. The hrt brk I had then my guys hoe story, gist and personal experience is enough for me to be wise.

Me met a girl during practical class If you see the way this smally was forming like say she no dey shit. That one the first sign I notice but I ignore it.


So i woo her she acted like am saying story another sign.. meaning she don hear am Tire


After this hungry b*tch gave me her number I chatted her up she was forming hard girl. Another sign lol.


So I changed my tactic and started forming. So I ask her for a meetup her place or my place just to minimize cost ..

B*tch said neither is OK I went ahead to ask her where she said an eatery I was eatery just like that. Funny enough she wouldn't even give attention to my word cause she will be focused on what on her table... Guys do this mistake by taking girls out within few days or weeks of meetup.

Na food she con chop no be discussion.


So I rebuke her request eatery like that for 5 mins get to you talk... My plan was we go somewhere quiet talk and maybe goto the eatery after had physiology text her But she failed oo.

So I told her straight mba we should be go to a quiet park or the school zoo... Sh was like me park. I smiled nd told her to park well I deleted her number no time ooo..

Me self dey hungry I can't sacrifice shit cause I need pussy never.

What are you even saying sef?

Elbone2:
Back then in school...Met this pretty chic on campus and got her number...I could tell she was my next gf...Called her by the weekend for us to meet and hang out at a restaurant(fast food)...We agreed to rendezvous by 6pm...At around 5:30pm she called me to ask if she can come with her friends that they were bored and she doesn't want to leave them like that at home,I was like ahh no probs sha thinking she was a reasonable Girl....I got there before her and kept calling to make sure they were coming since i was expecting to see her and may be two of her friends....Only for she to show with five other girls making them six in number....To me this was the height of madness and i wonder what would be more demanding on a simple first date than this?! ..Me wey don budget like 5k for the night but carry extra 5k incase the enjoyment com enter another level(thats i was with 10k only)...I had to call her aside and ask her if they came for a birthday party or something and she kept saying"but i told u na"...I just kept back my cool and asked them to order something...Na when them begin dey place order for rice and chicken with a can of Smirnoff ice each...i just do like say i dey receive call from there Ben Johnson...Dem call my fone tire that night.

Na their squad be that. God save you.

Mariangeles:
Abeg!
If you ask a lady out on date, and she agrees, she's doing you a favour.
Same goes if a lady asks you out.

She should keep her favour with that mentality!!

franchasng:
Internet and social media has really tried in changing Nigerian ladies sha....most of them who use internet often, especially those of them that browse through forums like Nairaland are gradually developing sense and doing away with all those yeye character, kudos to Nairaland, and other social media platforms helping to transform our ladies to human beings

and our guys too

AwkaetitiBabe:
Here to read lies o. Cos I can't imagine making demands on a first date! Unless you don't like the guy and wanna chase him off

when is the right time to make demands?

kennygee:


I'm not talking about requests here. I am totally against materialistic women who want to slay at the expense of men. I'm talking about decent women who are unable to meet a need or the other. If you are in a relationship with a woman who has a need that you know is a need, is it wrong to help her if you can afford to?

Is being a poor woman now a criteria for dating or dumping a woman?

If the woman can't ask you for help, who else can she ask? Makes me even wonder if such men will take care of a woman after marriage.

I'm not talking about the human hair, iPhone and make up slay queens.

This particular guy said that gf was a really sweet woman but they broke up cause she was too demanding. If he hadn't brought it up here, I wouldn't have made reference to it cause in my opinion, his was a relationship, not a leech trying to be greedy on the first date.

I understand you clearly. It's a fine line and it's all related. Materialistic women also make their requests look like important needs. The fact is most people don't like someone who asks for money or favours all the time. That's why I used the word 'incessant'. Your man knows your needs, if he really wants to help, you don't need to burden him all the time with your problems. It's a turnoff, no matter how sweet the lady may seem. Some women know how to suffocate you with all their 'genuine' problems not caring or being sensitive to the fact that everyone has his own problems.

wman:


Stop arguing what you don't know. It was released in Europe, Australia, South America and North America in late 2013. And guys in Nigeria bought it since that 2013.

Again. Google and Wikipedia is your friend.

It's not that hard to confirm.

Stop framing lies