ibkayee:

I’m just happy you suggested a practical medical solution and not just prayer lol

Smh. Too much nollywood is affecting you?

essenceplus:



Smh. Too much nollywood is affecting you?

At all

ibkayee:

At all

Healthy marriage must be intentional. Now I've got couchy to eat. Bye

essenceplus:



Healthy marriage must be intentional. Now I've got couchy to eat. Bye

Lol odabo

Please nobody wakes up and decides to divorce, there must have been series of events that led to that. Divorce isn't cheap and easy, staying together when things ain't working is. My mom left my dad after 30 years and we (my siblings and I) wished it had happened earlier. Their marriage was a battlefield and the whole church and family meetings didn't make it easier because no matter what my dad does heck even if he broke my mum's head she still had to beg even when its glaring that she wasn't at fault. My parents divorce was the BEST solution to their wars because now we can relate with them individually unlike before. My point is this; sometimes staying together for the sake of the kids isn't really always what's best for the kids.

Bossjakande:
yet some pple work on thier marriage and fix it.some wife kill hubby and vice versa.is not a gud thing but divorce no be solution still.av u not heard of a man also attacking and killing ex wife.I Neva said die in marriage by dont let divorce so easy and cheap. DAT why our celebrity too much of modern life na 2 year highest dey marry and divorce.

Mstick:
Please nobody wakes up and decides to divorce, there must have been series of events that led to that. Divorce isn't cheap and easy, staying together when things ain't working is. My mom left my dad after 30 years and we (my siblings and I) wished it had happened earlier. Their marriage was a battlefield and the whole church and family meetings didn't make it easier because no matter what my dad does heck even if he broke my mum's head she still had to beg even when its glaring that she wasn't at fault. My parents divorce was the BEST solution to their wars because now we can relate with them individually unlike before. My point is this; sometimes staying together for the sake of the kids isn't really always what's best for the kids.

Well said

Thanks. Nigerians need to understand that there's more to life than marriage.

ibkayee:

Well said

Mstick:
Please nobody wakes up and decides to divorce, there must have been series of events that led to that. Divorce isn't cheap and easy, staying together when things ain't working is. My mom left my dad after 30 years and we (my siblings and I) wished it had happened earlier. Their marriage was a battlefield and the whole church and family meetings didn't make it easier because no matter what my dad does heck even if he broke my mum's head she still had to beg even when its glaring that she wasn't at fault. My parents divorce was the BEST solution to their wars because now we can relate with them individually unlike before. My point is this; sometimes staying together for the sake of the kids isn't really always what's best for the kids.

u sound matured am so tired right now well chat later.

Bossjakande:
OK am sorry ma just DAT av been holding dis anger since on Monday.divorce divorce na so e dey sweet. Dis is like a joke but pple are influenced.am calm alredy

With your kind of anger, no woman would want to be with you. Na divorce straight..

Acidosis:


Many women of old were "forced" into marriage yet many of them succeeded to the end (success is relative). But how come people of this generation with so much freedom to sleep around, date multiple spouses, etc. still end up with useless partners (divorce)? Don't you think those making bad decisions in our generation are also useless? Did anyone forced them to choose a useless partner?

Overall, do you consider this trend a progress or retrogression?

Succeeded is a relative term. I have an aunt who went through an exceedingly difficult marriage. She and her husband had fights all the time. They are still married, she is over 70 and they had five girls. Only one of those girls is married today. The rest are over 40 successful career ladies, but more or less completely uninterested in marriage. That is their parents legacy to them.

A lot of us put up with things and at the very end look back and realize we wasted our lives. There's a story 9f a journalist who had a violent wife on fp. They divorced after 5 years. Would you advise the man to stay in a lifetime of domestic violence? Is that an environment in which you want to raise kids?

How many of those women of old would marry the same man if given the chance?

Bossjakande:
I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I
Did u know why I put DAT I think u are so selfish.u neva consider if uve born a children.dey shld be ur no1.f he cheat before u jump as a parrot ask for divorce ask urself if u are at fault.I watch a film d woman who should be with her hubby was moving from party to party.her hubby was lonely and later cheat.who get fault. A man marry wife yet always travel for work d wife cheat.who get fault. Abuse as how.nobody is perfect if as a human being u cant forgive den u are evil.nobody is perfect dear

Your mentality is so redundant.
If na me cheat you go advice my husband make him stay?Yeah I am very selfish when it comes to my wellbeing.
If you break the rules I am done children or not.I do not want my kids to grow up in a toxic environment. Don't tell me you do not understand what abuse is
Don't worry if your wife does it put up with her.

Apparently, women are wining and the men are whining all over town about it. Marriage is becoming a choice not a must nowadays with divorce a viable option.
The old newspaper shaming is no longer working again. Now they have resorted to blackmailing women on how divorce is demonic without sparing a thought on their fellow men who most times instigate the divorce proceedings.

Men will cry taya. The paradigm shift just started as most women don't give a fvck what society thinks anymore.

JoannaSedley:
Apparently, women are wining and the men are whining all over town about it. Marriage is becoming a choice not a must nowadays with divorce a viable option.
The old newspaper shaming is no longer working again. Now they have resorted to blackmailing women on how divorce is demonic without sparing a thought for their fellow men who must times instigate the divorce proceedings.

Men will cry taya. The paradigm shift just started as most women don't give a fvck what society thinks anymore.

Emeka Ike the actor comes to mind. The man can whine for Africa...

Acidosis:

Continue to do your best and ensure you inform the females around you (spouse, sisters, friends, etc.) about the dangers of Nairaland's family section. People around here are not ready to correct any anomaly. The common "solutions" here are divorce and tit-for-tat.

Sure, an archaic and misogynistic man like you will want a woman to stay irrespective of what you dish out to her .


The kinda words you’ve spoken on this forum are very disheartening and embarrassing.

African men need to be excommunicated from this earth ..smh

Op, stop using redundant texts on this forum . If you can’t make simple sentences in English or Pidgin, start typing in Yoruba ,Igbo or Fulani .

You’re gradually becoming a nuisance on this forum

AmazonTopaz:

You keep forgetting that longetivity of marriage does not always mean that the couples were happy or that it was a success. Some of them just stayed because of reasons best known to them.

The OP is a learner!!

That he has never seen a happily married divorced woman or man!

Op must still be a boy for saying this! Wetin He don see for this life sef!!

Bossjakande:
if u can face challenge in life u can face in marriage.u no be Christain so get lost. dats were prayer and cancelling comes in.

when you eventually marry and have kids....then your daughter marries and finds out that her husband has a hidden abusive nature, you'll tell her to remain in the marriage abi...even when he beats her to the point that she faints, you go tell her say every marriage get challenges abi? Sometimes divorce is the ONLY option left, okay. Stop all this nonsense you're saying about counselling

essenceplus:



My father was amazing o. Leave thrash for lawma. Ladies can't manage success. Small thing na divorce. Cause of small change. Electricians and all what nits would now be greasing the engine. Chai. Men have suffer

Oga better park well o @bolded. Who is talking about small misunderstandings here? We are referring to when a man inflicts emotional and physical abuse on his wife. A man that flogs his wife in front of his children. A man who gets his side chick pregnant, parades her in front of his wife and beats her when she quarrels about it. What kind of prayers and counselling will rectify such things. When you have a daughter who finds herself in an abusive marriage, what exactly will you tell her?

Bossjakande:
if u say a man cheat more Dan once before u gjvr up u should be talking of forgiveness and stronger marriage not divorce.u are a Christain.if hubby cheat on u find out why if d fault is with u.go for cancelling. If not den u still go for cancelling. And if he keep cheating den u know he is stupid.u can seprate for a while. A man is a cheater today dosnt mean he cant change tomorrow.

Lmao. Anytime anyone mentions a man that abuses them physically or emotionally, you go quiet. Nothing to say?

Elder0001:



Sure, an archaic and misogynistic man like you will want a woman to stay irrespective of what you dish out to her .


The kinda words you’ve spoken on this forum are very disheartening and embarrassing.

African men need to be excommunicated from this earth ..smh

Archaic? Yes, that sounds like a compliment! Misogynistic? Do you mean taking my position as a bride groom, a groomer and the head of my family?

Bossjakande:
I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I
Did u know why I put DAT I think u are so selfish.u neva consider if uve born a children.dey shld be ur no1.f he cheat before u jump as a parrot ask for divorce ask urself if u are at fault.I watch a film d woman who should be with her hubby was moving from party to party.her hubby was lonely and later cheat.who get fault. A man marry wife yet always travel for work d wife cheat.who get fault. Abuse as how.nobody is perfect if as a human being u cant forgive den u are evil.nobody is perfect dear

Reading all your comments on this thread is just making me angry I swear. Are you this deluded? .
Think of the children? Yes let's take the kids into consideration right here and now. when you were a child, was your dad abusive to your mom? If your answer is no, then pls stop all this NONSENSE you're saying. My dad was and still is abusive to my mom. Both physically and emotionally. Why is she still in the marriage? Cos of her kids. Do you have any idea how that shiit messes with a child's phyche? .
The thing I want most right now is to get my degree, start earning money and get her the fvck out of that toxic marriage.
Who marriage epp?

ebonyggurl:


Reading all your comments on this thread is just making me angry I swear. Are you this deluded? .
Think of the children? Yes let's take the kids into consideration right here and now. when you were a child, was your dad abusive to your mom? If your answer is no, then pls stop all this NONSENSE you're saying. My dad was and still is abusive to my mom. Both physically and emotionally. Why is she still in the marriage? Cos of her kids. Do you have any idea how that shiit messes with a child's phyche? .
The thing I want most right now is to get my degree, start earning money and get her the fvck out of that toxic marriage.

Better go and take malt to cool down. Whoever you saw I. Supportive of abusive relations here. If I tear you hawt slap

ebonyggurl:


Oga better park well o @bolded. Who is talking about small misunderstandings here? We are referring to when a man inflicts emotional and physical abuse on his wife. A man that flogs his wife in front of his children. A man who gets his side chick pregnant, parades her in front of his wife and beats her when she quarrels about it. What kind of prayers and counselling will rectify such things. When you have a daughter who finds herself in an abusive marriage, what exactly will you tell her?

It seems you want to be unfortunate sha. I park for inside your toto? Beta carry your stibky thrash off my lane. Perhaps you need help with English. If not show me where I support any kind of abuse physical, psychological or emotional.

God allows divorce when one spouse is guilty of sexual immorality and unwilling to repent. Sometimes is better than be

essenceplus:




It seems you want to be unfortunate sha. I park for inside your toto? Beta carry your stibky thrash off my lane. Perhaps you need help with English. If not show me where I support any kind of abuse physical, psychological or emotional.

First of all, my pvssy is cleaner than your mouth .
Secondly, you're one of those advocating against divorce
With the way society is presently, every woman ought to have an alternative in mind in case their marriage goes south. Even my dad said so. So all this nonsense about how planning for divorce even b4 marriage is sick is exactly that...Nonsense

essenceplus:



Better go and take malt to cool down. Whoever you saw I. Supportive of abusive relations here. If I tear you hawt slap

Pls shut up. Didn't you read the so-called boss' comments?

ebonyggurl:


Fse

Stay off my lane. Don't mess around with just anybody. Anonymity is decodable. I warned you

No one gets married w| the intention of divorcing but sometimes it's the best option, not just for the couple but the children involved. Physical, emotional, verbal or financial abuse; constant and unrepentant infidelity; realizing you married the wrong person are tangible reasons for divorce, to name a few. Kids are sponges who soak up everything and continuing to raise them in an unhappy, toxic environment does them more harm than good.

As for me ....I support divorce.reasons best known to me.infact I had a first time experience with a mother of one this morning.and she's functioning well

Another just left my house now for assistance... she's a mother of 7 kids...that one z still in the 'manage'enduring all the beatings.she said she's staying put because of her kids.i 'm fervently praying she makes it out alive.

Pls someone shud put me tru on how to copy another topic into this thread.

Another domestic violence thread...but the man killed his wife.

ahnie:
Pls someone shud put me tru on how to copy another topic into this thread.

Another domestic violence thread...but the man killed his wife.

We won't teach you ahnie. Stay off that lane