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PrettyMelly:
Good morning, guys! Wat's ur take on this?


I met my bf January this year, at d time he said he was having issues with his gf of 2yrs n wanted calling it off. I told him to make amends with her. He kept saying I won't understand.
He's not a stranger, he's someone I've known for some years but we become really close this year. We kept in touch regularly n the love starting growing from both sides.
Two months into the relationship, I noticed he was back with the other girl, cos she was always calling. Asked him abt it, n he was truthful with me and told me to give him time. I opted out of the relationship n told him to continue with the girl. He kept begging saying he can't afford to loose me.
I accepted him back. But I told him it won't be the same. Knowing dat he loves someone else. We r in different states. Same with the other girl.

Although I love him, but I want a relationship where I can give it 100%.
Pls I need matured advice on this.

Babe tell the guy to break up with her first if he really wants you, if not forget him and remain friends if you want. He wants to eat his cake and have it

Deepfeel:
No doubt about that, let me hear yours

I believe love is about putting others before yourself.
Which is a part of our humanity.

AmazonTopaz:
I believe love is about putting others before yourself.
Which is a part of our humanity.

Can't you put two people before yourself? Is that impossible

Yes, a man can love more than one woman at the same time, it is called polygamy.

What makes a man faithful to his partner is not love, it is self-respect and a high level of morality. Do you honestly believe that the married men patronizing prostitutes do not love their wife? I bet many did. Men do not connect sex with emotions, and its something many women fail to grasp. Since women are wired for quality men (hypergamy), they make this mistake and project their biological predisposition to the male folk, who are biologically wired to spread their seeds and fertilize as many eggs as possible (quantity). The evolutionary driving force that pushes men to want sex with every woman is the need to spread their seeds.

He lacks self-discipline, respect for you and has a low moral threshold. But yes, it is possible he loves you and still wants to sleep with someone else, just as you may love him, but possibly find other richer men attractive.

Deepfeel:
Can't you put two people before yourself? Is that impossible

That definition I gave had nothing to do with romantic love.
You are just one person not two persons you connect with your other half not your other halves.
I hope this answers your question?

pansophist:
Yes, a man can love more than one woman at the same time, it is called polygamy.

What makes a man faithful to his partner is not love, it is self-respect and a high level of morality. Do you honestly believe that the married men patronizing prostitutes do not love their wife? I bet many did. Men do not connect sex with emotions, and its something many women fail to grasp. Since women are wired for quality men (hypergamy), they make this mistake and project their biological predisposition to the male folk, who are biologically wired to spread their seeds and fertilize as many eggs as possible (quantity). The evolutionary driving force that pushes men to want sex with every woman is the need to spread their seeds.

He lacks self-discipline, respect for you and has a low moral threshold. But yes, it is possible he loves you and still cheats on you.

What about polyandry you cannot say women do not have the tendency to love more than one man at the same time.
So what is your view on that.

AmazonTopaz:
What about polyandry you cannot say women do not have the tendency to love more than one man at the same time.
So what is your view on that.

My view is from the perspective as a man, you will have to ask a woman if she can love more than one man.

AmazonTopaz:
That definition I gave had nothing to do with romantic love.
You are just one person not two persons you connect with your other half not your other halves.
I hope this answers your question?

There is nothing like a half man and a half woman love is just a mind thing, the mind is strong enough to connect to multiple minds

pansophist:
My view is from the perspective as a man, you will have to ask a woman if she can love more than one man.

You don't say but you involved women in your post so I was wondering if you had knowledgevon women affairs.
I hope when a lady says this you do not judge her and call her names for loving more than one man at a time.
Anyways your opinion thank you for your time.

Deepfeel:
There is nothing like a half man and a half woman love is just a mind thing, the mind is strong enough to connect to multiple minds

Indeed.
Whatever makes you happy bye bye.

AmazonTopaz:
Indeed.
Whatever makes you happy bye bye.

But am a one man one woman type of guy don't get it twisted

Deepfeel:
But am a one man one woman type of guy don't get it twisted

I never did

AmazonTopaz:
I never did

Thanks, you belong to the NL ladies forever Amazons?

BLUEJAYY:
Sure OP, why not?

He loves you both equally and would do anything in the world to make you two happy and comfortable.

Pay no attention to these monogamy preachers. We humans are polygamous in nature but we make ourselves suffer in the delusion that is monogamy.

SICK.