simplesearch:
The girl don't love you a hoot she's an initiate and will want you to belong as well, her tell tails of cult guys all hitting on her at random is a calculated attempt at instilling fear in you which will lead you to seeking for a way out, of which she'll eagerly sermonise you into joining them and be free, and once she succeeds that's when you'll know she's a member, she'll eventually desert you to prey on other campus newbies. Her show of affection is to get you entrapped like delilah to samson, she's on a mission and so acting out a well rehearsed script, play safe and don't take a fearful leap into an unknown abyss, end the romance as fast as possibly now. However your best bet at this point is to surrender your life to Jesus AND seek help from some committed christian group on campus, be consistent in your decision and watch her leave you in no time. If you however resort to self help, be sure they'll come after you and once you are found to be defenseless you'll be coerced into joining them. And once this happens be sure your academic life will suffer and your chances of graduating with your head on your neck is 50/50. Jesus is the safe place. PEACE!

Timil:
I've been thinking of this but when I think of how much we love each other and how young the relationship is I feel like staying in the relationship.

Datazone:

My bad, I was thinking Northerners don't do cultism like that. Are you done with school? Have you contacted Rose since?

Timil:
A friend actually suggested that I should stay in the relationship but we should stop with the PDA and limit how we communicate in public for some time just to confuse the gang members.

MyphoneandI:


Which school are you in, dm me or WhatsApp

Martinsvp1:
I feel like giving you a dirty slap and hot knock on d head combo...

Freehuman:
The question now is if she loves you not if you love her.
She's definitely not innocent and she's definitely stupid is she's innocent. When a girl is in a relationship and keeps telling you her male friend invited her and she went out with him dump such girl . She can't take decisions for herself and doesn't know what she wants.

If she loves you and is innocent of cultism, let her tell the cult guy that she doesn't want him for a boyfriend and if he insists or threatens find 50,000 naira go pack 25 soldiers armed to their teeth for barracks make them arrest the cultists wey dey worry the girl place them for guard room make them sign undertaking say if them rape the girl or anything do am them go shoot them. No do make dem sabi say na you. The Girl fit yan the guy prior to this raid that her favourite uncle who always shower her with gifts is a high ranking military officer. Believe me guys go distant from the girl.
Na Egede men dey find your girl lol.
You also have to exercise patience and don't court her openly. Give her a break and resume when the tension has reduced. But after all these the girl would leave you. Take heart in advance.

PerfectlyPerfect:

I kept scrolling and looking for someone who will say this. You're totally right, that babe is a cultist too. I know because I've seen this same scenario play out several times

Abcruz:


In all you do thread with caution, acknowledge your boundary and never compromise your standard because we are tempted mainly by the evil which appears to be normal. But look!

Can you carry fire against your chest without burning your clothes?
proverbs 6:27

Timil:
Good day Nairalanders I'm Jay (psuedonym) by name and I need your candid advice please bear with me if my writeup is long.

Several thoughts have been running through my mind all day and I've been trying to get an answer within but none is forthcoming. Flash back to some few months ago there's this girl I met in school, she's sweet, lovely and she's got everything I want in a woman, we started talking and we got to know each other.

During one of our conversations she told me about a particular guy of the Aiye confraternity who has been hitting on her but she claimed its nothing to be worried about so I waved it aside.

Few months later she gave in and gave me a yes, precisely six weeks ago but on the 7th of this month (Sunday). She told me a friend of hers decided to take her out only to discover that its a gathering organised by some gang members to celebrate their annual anniversary (7/7).

She said she met some other gang members who has been hitting on her there, according to her claim she said nothing transpired between her and the members of the secret society but during the convo I got to know that apart from the other guy in Aiye there are also two other cult guys from different gang who are also after her.

I didnt take it as much of a big issue I just told her to be careful of friends and people she moves with. Sunday went by and today (Wednesday) after lectures while hanging around the school premises she showed me two other gang members who had approached her and who still holds an interest in her making it 4/5 or more cult guys who are hitting on her.

From that moment I wasn't at ease but she didn't seem bothered or disturbed like I do infact she was still getting cosy and all loved up with the PDA despite the fact that I was trying not to draw attention at that very moment.

When I got back to my hostel while thinking of what to do I remembered that two-three weeks before we started dating I had a nightmare in which some gang members were after my life.

I thought of the nightmare and the current circumstance I am and I can see some sort of relation I've been thinking whether to continue the relationship or end it even though its still young, fresh and filled with love.

Please Nairalanders I need your advice on this, thanks for your help.

Balolord123:
very wrong advice. Bro free DAT girl.egede men dangerous ooo.forgiveness is a sin

Timil:
For what specifically bro?... sorry if I'm being inquisitive.

dboY1123:
Remember that if they kill you, you will die..

2special:
is either you belong or you run for your life.... if those guys drop you now, the girl will move on to another lover.

Techcrunchng:
She is a cultist as well, her mission is to initiate you! Don't neglect the power of dreams, dreams usually come to reality in a case like this, though it might not happen exactly as seen but believe you me, it will surely happen in a similar way, human soul is powerful and I have experienced the power of dream.

Timil:
I've asked her on multiple times the reason why numerous cult guys could be hitting on her but she doesn't seem to have an answer and I've this feeling those cult guys may be seeing what cool guys like us who dont do voodoo aint seeing.
Thanks anyways!

Timil:
I've been thinking of this but when I think of how much we love each other and how young the relationship is I feel like staying in the relationship.

Timil:
Good day Nairalanders I'm Jay (psuedonym) by name and I need your candid advice please bear with me if my writeup is long.

Several thoughts have been running through my mind all day and I've been trying to get an answer within but none is forthcoming. Flash back to some few months ago there's this girl I met in school, she's sweet, lovely and she's got everything I want in a woman, we started talking and we got to know each other.

During one of our conversations she told me about a particular guy of the Aiye confraternity who has been hitting on her but she claimed its nothing to be worried about so I waved it aside.

Few months later she gave in and gave me a yes, precisely six weeks ago but on the 7th of this month (Sunday). She told me a friend of hers decided to take her out only to discover that its a gathering organised by some gang members to celebrate their annual anniversary (7/7).

She said she met some other gang members who has been hitting on her there, according to her claim she said nothing transpired between her and the members of the secret society but during the convo I got to know that apart from the other guy in Aiye there are also two other cult guys from different gang who are also after her.

I didnt take it as much of a big issue I just told her to be careful of friends and people she moves with. Sunday went by and today (Wednesday) after lectures while hanging around the school premises she showed me two other gang members who had approached her and who still holds an interest in her making it 4/5 or more cult guys who are hitting on her.

From that moment I wasn't at ease but she didn't seem bothered or disturbed like I do infact she was still getting cosy and all loved up with the PDA despite the fact that I was trying not to draw attention at that very moment.

When I got back to my hostel while thinking of what to do I remembered that two-three weeks before we started dating I had a nightmare in which some gang members were after my life.

I thought of the nightmare and the current circumstance I am and I can see some sort of relation I've been thinking whether to continue the relationship or end it even though its still young, fresh and filled with love.

Please Nairalanders I need your advice on this, thanks for your help.