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Hi guys, I need your candid advice pls.
No insult pls

I met this Caribbean guy last year here in New York and we started dating afterwards around November last year. He is from Jamaica to be exact and I Nigerian.

I fell in love with him because of the many attributes, his character, ethics to work and other things.
We became really close, I visited him, and spent nights at his every other weekend ..

As we progressd I noticed he wasn't spending money on me. I waved it and felt it was more of a Nigerian mentality thing.

So on this particular day in May, I was at his, was meant to spend the night over there. After we went to bed, he slept off I couldn't sleep and decided to go home instead . Before I left I told him I was leaving he wasn't happy and said i was going to another guys house, i told him no and left anyway.

Afterwards I tried contacting him, called, sent him text messages and he never responded.
I left him alone for a while like 3 weeks without contacting him.
Recently I learnt he is with another girl. I feel so heart broken because I was so in love with him.
I'm so heart broken right now I really need him back.

Is it him u want back or the ganja?

bev12:
Hi guys, I need your candid advice pls.
No insult pls

I met this Caribbean guy last year here in New York and we started dating afterwards around November last year. He is from Jamaica to be exact and I Nigerian.

I fell in love with him because of the many attributes, his character, ethics to work and other things.
We became really close, I visited him, and spent nights at his every other weekend ..

As we progressd I noticed he wasn't spending money on me. I waved it and felt it was more of a Nigerian mentality thing.

So on this particular day in May, I was at his, was meant to spend the night over there. After we went to bed, he slept off I couldn't sleep and decided to go home instead . Before I left I told him I was leaving he wasn't happy and said i was going to another guys house, i told him no and left anyway.

Afterwards I tried contacting him, called, sent him text messages and he never responded.
I left him alone for a while like 3 weeks without contacting him.
Recently I learnt he is with another girl. I feel so heart broken because I was so in love with him.
I'm so heart broken right now I really need him back.

...move on with your life!

Heartbreaks are normal, with time it will pass & u wud b fine again..

You think your Nigerian shakara will work with the Jamaican guy, madam if you love someone stop messing around, or perhaps you wanted to feel special, it's your loss, not all guys are the same.

nuggarito:
You think your Nigerian shakara will work with the Jamaican guy, madam if you love someone stop messing around, or perhaps you wanted to feel special, it's your loss, not all guys are the same.

i never messed around I was honest and straight with him

You left him alone for three weeks without contacting him? Wtf who does that?
Move on, you're not getting him back.

bev12:
i never messed around I was honest and straight with him

Story for the gods. Your motivation for 'loving' him was for your own greed. He is better off without you.

Thank your stars u dodge the baby mama bullet...

3 weeks u no contact am. Is he supposed to be begging u Serves u right. Jamo guy no be 9ja guy wey dey tolerate crap fro ladies.

bev12:
Hi guys, I need your candid advice pls.
No insult pls

I met this Caribbean guy last year here in New York and we started dating afterwards around November last year. He is from Jamaica to be exact and I Nigerian.

I fell in love with him because of the many attributes, his character, ethics to work and other things.
We became really close, I visited him, and spent nights at his every other weekend ..

As we progressd I noticed he wasn't spending money on me. I waved it and felt it was more of a Nigerian mentality thing.

So on this particular day in May, I was at his, was meant to spend the night over there. After we went to bed, he slept off I couldn't sleep and decided to go home instead . Before I left I told him I was leaving he wasn't happy and said i was going to another guys house, i told him no and left anyway.

Afterwards I tried contacting him, called, sent him text messages and he never responded.
I left him alone for a while like 3 weeks without contacting him.
Recently I learnt he is with another girl. I feel so heart broken because I was so in love with him.
I'm so heart broken right now I really need him back.

Take control of your emotions before you destroy other people chances in your life

Men can't even stay with out having a spare girlfriend unless the most decent ones

You loved him but he loves you too and still have the same ability to live another person

It hurts but you have to move on

Men don't experience heart break like women because of our emotional being

Free your heart and yourself and search for another that will appreciate you

They don't worth dying for because they don't want to know how it feels to be heart broken

Assuming is marriage and he left all the expenses for you

Will you still love him and carry the burden alone ❓

Pls be happy and move on, someone out there is crazy about you, try and locate him and give him a trial

My dear Nigerian Queen, its unfortunate that guy failed to see that he lost a treasure in you. Its sad that you overlooked certain attributes In him such as the fact he doesn't spend a dime on you. That should have been an indicator he wasn't really into you.

Heartbreak hurts. Time will heal you. Meanwhile find a time and emotionally demanding task and throw yourself in it.


Let that Jamaican guy go if he was into you when you withdrew he would have come knocking but alas it is what it is. Take care of yourself and don't let anyone, I mean anyone make you feel less of yourself.

This is a passing stage better men will come. Meanwhile upgrade yourself. Learn a new skill or something. Stay positive

My sister dt guy doesn't like you the way u do, just bcs you ppls are not from the same country, he just wants to eat you and live, move on with your life and wait for your own man.

Dobson43:
My dear Nigerian Queen, its unfortunate that guy failed to see that he lost a treasure in you. Its sad that you overlooked certain attributes In him such as the fact he doesn't spend a dime on you. That should have been an indicator he wasn't really into you.

Heartbreak hurts. Time will heal you. Meanwhile find a time and emotionally demanding task and throw yourself in it.
Let that Jamaican guy go if he was into you when you withdrew he would have come knocking but alas it is what it is. Take care of yourself and don't let anyone, I mean anyone make you feel less of yourself.

This is a passing stage better men will come. Meanwhile upgrade yourself. Learn a new skill or something. Stay positive

Thank u

frozen70:
Take control of your emotions before you destroy other people chances in your life

Men can't even stay with out having a spare girlfriend unless the most decent ones

You loved him but he loves you too and still have the same ability to live another person

It hurts but you have to move on

Men don't experience heart break like women because of our emotional being

Free your heart and yourself and search for another that will appreciate you

They don't worth dying for because they don't want to know how it feels to be heart broken

Assuming is marriage and he left all the expenses for you

Will you still love him and carry the burden alone ❓

Pls be happy and move on, someone out there is crazy about you, try and locate him and give him a trial

Thanks

Ilamina?

bev12:
Thanks

You are welcome

Mourn it and move on

You deserve the best