Divorce is not the answer as nobody is perfect.
You both need a day to unwind esp her. This means choose a day, go to a relaxation spot & ask her things u know will make her talk.
Note: The idea is for her to talk & for u to listen, don't interrupt. To show you are really listening, from time to time, respond. U will just know the right time to tell her what u don't like about her & trust me, she will pick up.
You may not agree with all she says but by only LISTENING, u have struck a chord. Communication is bae.
What guarantee do u have that the next wife will not be worse?

I experience a similar issue worse than that, my wife complains that I abuse her and her family a lot when she provokes me. Bros, no Nigerian high court judge would divorce you both on that ground; so work on your marriage. My wife has practically destroyed my image before my inlaws

goslowgoslow:

This are the type of question that I hate! Is it possible for you to notice everything about somebody before getting married? If so then you should be looking for a perfect person to marry. Is that possible?

a parrot has no hiding place...he ignored it simple!!

Ishilove:

Errr, you are. Or at least you once were... https://www.nairaland.com/4927309/which-addict-wish-end-2018/3#74224997

Don't mind the silly fellow.
He's a hypocrite deceiving his family and his Church that he's a decent born again Christian who doesn't smoke or run around with ladies.
But he can't pull such a screen over his wife and she needs to let those who are blindfolded to know his true colours.
Let him commence the divorce proceedings and everybody will know that the wife was right all along: he's a fake!

Op, listen! If you want to genuinely worship God, drop all that hypocrisy and maintaining a decent man appearance. We can deceive the whole world but self-deception is the worst deception.
Nothing is wrong with your wife. Many things are wrong with you. Fix yourself or keep living in denial. It's just a matter of time.

Your wife is your enemy, if you don't divorce her early she will either set you up for police or arm-robbers to be killed

Divorce the b*tch

GogobiriLalas:
Your headline is 'How can I do away with my wife', the second part of the heading is an afterthought. Bros any accusation leveled against a chicken is an excuse to murder it. Enjoy yaself

So true! The chicken part. He's looking for excuse to justify his making his side chick his wife. DOA!

patorial:



Bro,the thing is that it's the kind of life your Wife choose to live, it's either you change her preference or you stop giving a Bleep about what he tells people about you.


But you trying to end your marriage just because your Wife is a gossip seems to me like you were never prepared for the marriage

you are underratting gossip like most naive men....a gossip and tale-bearer can give husband a high bp and heart attack leading to death...

Marriage has been reduced to nothing where you just walk in and out at will

eezeribe:
It seems your wife was a former journalist working with CNN... Lol
But on a more serious note, didn't you notice this 'reporting' attitude of hers when you were still dating her?

It doesn't always follow that way...people can change significantly...In fact marriage is in phases; dating, early marriage, children arrival, teenagers, adult children, and old age without children around. Each of this stage has its unique challenges that can make couples change especially the woman.

eezeribe:
It seems your wife was a former journalist working with CNN... Lol
But on a more serious note, didn't you notice this 'reporting' attitude of hers when you were still dating her?

Love is blind. Maybe it was not pronounced then but now it is like this. What is your advice?

AlphaT1:

It doesn't always follow that way...people can change significantly...In fact marriage is in phases; dating, early marriage, children arrival, teenagers, adult children, and old age without children around. Each of this stage has its unique challenges that can make couples change especially the woman.

a talkative never changes,it is their personalty.an introvert is an introvert and an extrovert is an extrovert....they can just manage it

I want to give you a good advice you should listen to. Ask yourself the following questions.
1. Was she having this 'reporting attitude' before you married her?
2. If she was not, what actually went wrong?
3. How is your communication with your wife as regards issues? Do both of you have a strong communication link?
4. What are the things you are doing that is affecting your marriage as regards trust?
My brother, my friend, sometimes, wives behaviors are a product of their husbands.
I want you to show more love, care and attention to your wife. Take her on Vacation. Do those things you were doing when you both were madly in love. Build on your communication. Involve her in your social circle and try to talk to her that reporting you to a third party is not the best.

EVILFOREST:
LOOK for the nearest TRASH CAN and empty her there
Nowadays Ladies lack Manners.
They NAG at slightest provocation.
If I have my way, NO MAN will ever marry any Lady.

How can a MAN, toil for many years, save up money only to use it to lure a DEVIL home...??
All in the name of marriage....

MEN should rather save up these cash, use such to adopt babies or better still pay off ladies that got pregnant for you.
More so, you can add 2 more wives to the one you already have. This will charge up the entire house, then the competition will start.

We have lost it entirely..

You have lost it entirely. Speak for yourself alone.

EVILFOREST:
LOOK for the nearest TRASH CAN and empty her there
Nowadays Ladies lack Manners.
They NAG at slightest provocation.
If I have my way, NO MAN will ever marry any Lady.

How can a MAN, toil for many years, save up money only to use it to lure a DEVIL home...??
All in the name of marriage....

MEN should rather save up these cash, use such to adopt babies or better still pay off ladies that got pregnant for you.
More so, you can add 2 more wives to the one you already have. This will charge up the entire house, then the competition will start.

We have lost it entirely..

My nigga

This young man has voiced out, yet most of the comments did not consider his state of the mind. I am afraid, he needs a psychologist before the frustrated man considers suicide as the only option.

What do women gain by reporting their spouses to the third party.

nicepoker101:
Bring one of your girlfriends home. Let's see if she will be able to withstand the shock.

Is this an advice?

So this is how you people want to destroy a man's marriage. Wicked people.

kayone6237:
Please house don't mind my construction but I will go straight to the point.

My wife always reports me to anybody that can help me spiritually and physically. What I mean by reporting is that, she always tarnishes my image everywhere, she has reported me to my Inlaw, her siblings, to the extent that I have amounted to nothing.

She reported me to my former pastor and now to my present pastor that I am a smoker of which I am not.

Anytime I go out of the house just to stroll or catch fun with my friends, the next thing is for her to tell me that I have smoked.

I am contemplating divorce because I don't see anything good about her anymore. I have corrected her several times but she won't listen.

I am saying this because it is my heart beat. I need a mature mind to give me candid advice.

Every contribution will be highly appreciated.

Oga no two person are alike... Man up and sit her down communicate with her and listen to her and tell her what you want from her... Divorce is not an option bro.

Nothing to say

kayone6237:
Please house don't mind my construction but I will go straight to the point.

My wife always reports me to anybody that can help me spiritually and physically. What I mean by reporting is that, she always tarnishes my image everywhere, she has reported me to my Inlaw, her siblings, to the extent that I have amounted to nothing.

She reported me to my former pastor and now to my present pastor that I am a smoker of which I am not.

Anytime I go out of the house just to stroll or catch fun with my friends, the next thing is for her to tell me that I have smoked.

I am contemplating divorce because I don't see anything good about her anymore. I have corrected her several times but she won't listen.

I am saying this because it is my heart beat. I need a mature mind to give me candid advice.

Every contribution will be highly appreciated.

Divorce her wouldn't solve anything how many are you gonna divorce if marry another and do the same talk to her when she's in a better mood take her out with you time to time to meet your friends woman love be adore spent quality time with her when you're available don't go out of your house when you need to spent time with your love ones, take her as your wife same time your best friend believe me you will appreciate her.

ImaIma1:
Why does she think you smoke? And why is she suspicious of your moves?

It could be that you have given her reason not to trust you.

Both of you know the full story. Sort it out

Sort it out for them.

That woman is digging your grave.
I am currently handling a similar case.
How can a wife start talking ill about the husband reducing his worth in the society.
Be brave, when she does the next thing call her and tell her you have told the lawyer to file for divorce.
Watch her attitude and actually prepare to be attacked. Such women are possessed and love trouble in homes.
She will go violent against you.
Just escape whilst you can

kayone6237:
Please house don't mind my construction but I will go straight to the point.

My wife always reports me to anybody that can help me spiritually and physically. What I mean by reporting is that, she always tarnishes my image everywhere, she has reported me to my Inlaw, her siblings, to the extent that I have amounted to nothing.

She reported me to my former pastor and now to my present pastor that I am a smoker of which I am not.

Anytime I go out of the house just to stroll or catch fun with my friends, the next thing is for her to tell me that I have smoked.

I am contemplating divorce because I don't see anything good about her anymore. I have corrected her several times but she won't listen.

I am saying this because it is my heart beat. I need a mature mind to give me candid advice.

Every contribution will be highly appreciated.

You dey smoke? Talk true.

Kirinwa:


Sort it out for them.

Let him tell us the real truth. Then we will help.

kazyhm:
she is using you for industrial training...... Just encourage her, she will soon blow into international investigative journalism




And by the way, Nigeria just lost to Algeria......

You are very wicked

agboghai:
I want to give you a good advice you should listen to. Ask yourself the following questions.
1. Was she having this 'reporting attitude' before you married her?
2. If she was not, what actually went wrong?
3. How is your communication with your wife as regards issues? Do both of you have a strong communication link?
4. What are the things you are doing that is affecting your marriage as regards trust?
My brother, my friend, sometimes, wives behaviors are a product of their husbands.
I want you to show more love, care and attention to your wife. Take her on Vacation. Do those things you were doing when you both were madly in love. Build on your communication. Involve her in your social circle and try to talk to her that reporting you to a third party is not the best.

You never jam bad woman. That will be praying and fasting for her husband to die

lomprico:


Let him tell us the real truth. Then we will help.

His wife is a gossip according to him. Although most times people leave out their bad aspect to focus on their spouse bad sides.

That's the smallest issue that should lead to divorce, if its just a smoking issue, check yourself bro ,no smoke without fire, marriage is patience and maturity, u might be hurt but grow up ma,we all have to

Trust is like an egg. Once it breaks, its usefulness is doubtful. Have you smoked before? Do you still move with friends that smoke? How does she view the habit? Do you do "solo" moves? Other habits you engage in Do you tell lies that get bursted? My advice: You have to work on how much she could trust you

babyfaceafrica:
you are underratting gossip like most naive men....a gossip and tale-bearer can give husband a high bp and heart attack leading to death...

Though I don't care much about gossips cos I know most people are less busy these days but, I don't think divorce is the right approach to the issue.

Ur wife cant call u a smoker for no reason.
Maybe u were once a smoker and she feels u haven't changed. Anyway try as much as possible to convince her u dont smoke anymore, sit her down and talk; let her know u don't like her reporting u to a third party, treat her right(not treating her right myt actually be d problem here).