patorial:


Though I don't care much about gossips cos I know most people are less busy these days but, I don't think divorce is the right approach to the issue.

i agree

AlphaT1:

It doesn't always follow that way...people can change significantly...In fact marriage is in phases; dating, early marriage, children arrival, teenagers, adult children, and old age without children around. Each of this stage has its unique challenges that can make couples change especially the woman.

U are very right..

Kirinwa:


His wife is a gossip according to him. Although most times people leave out their bad aspect to focus on their spouse bad sides.

She won't gossip if she dint catch him doing what she gossips about.

A wise woman builds her home...a wise woman doesn't wash her family dirty linen outside...even if she must, she can talk to very few wise people like her mother,pastor and not all her siblings and friends,many are devils pretending to be saints..I can imagine how you feel poster..still talk to her..you know her weak point...tell her how u feel when she does that..I pray she changes fast though before u loose your mind,may God restore ur home...amen

Kirinwa:


Seun
Lalasticlala

Dash this dude a life ban.

idiot.

life ban kill you there!!!

kayone6237:
Please house don't mind my construction but I will go straight to the point.

My wife always reports me to anybody that can help me spiritually and physically. What I mean by reporting is that, she always tarnishes my image everywhere, she has reported me to my Inlaw, her siblings, to the extent that I have amounted to nothing.

She reported me to my former pastor and now to my present pastor that I am a smoker of which I am not.

Anytime I go out of the house just to stroll or catch fun with my friends, the next thing is for her to tell me that I have smoked.

I am contemplating divorce because I don't see anything good about her anymore. I have corrected her several times but she won't listen.

I am saying this because it is my heart beat. I need a mature mind to give me candid advice.

Every contribution will be highly appreciated.

The Title of RCCG open heavens of yesterday is beware of the strange woman. I am afraid your wife exhibits one. Please read it and You can share it to her.

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Kirinwa:


Sort it out for them.

So that they will use me to settle. Husband and wife matter...

Sue her for defamation of character

kayone6237:
Please house don't mind my construction but I will go straight to the point.

My wife always reports me to anybody that can help me spiritually and physically. What I mean by reporting is that, she always tarnishes my image everywhere, she has reported me to my Inlaw, her siblings, to the extent that I have amounted to nothing.

She reported me to my former pastor and now to my present pastor that I am a smoker of which I am not.

Anytime I go out of the house just to stroll or catch fun with my friends, the next thing is for her to tell me that I have smoked.

I am contemplating divorce because I don't see anything good about her anymore. I have corrected her several times but she won't listen.

I am saying this because it is my heart beat. I need a mature mind to give me candid advice.

Every contribution will be highly appreciated.

On one of your thread, you said you would like to do away with smoking so why are you lying now?

You better don’t pass that bad habit to your child.
Also she needs to divorce you. You don’t have sense.

Oga,you have a suspicious life style and the friends you keep may contribute to your nightmare not your wife.

kayone6237:
Please house don't mind my construction but I will go straight to the point.

My wife always reports me to anybody that can help me spiritually and physically. What I mean by reporting is that, she always tarnishes my image everywhere, she has reported me to my Inlaw, her siblings, to the extent that I have amounted to nothing.

She reported me to my former pastor and now to my present pastor that I am a smoker of which I am not.

Anytime I go out of the house just to stroll or catch fun with my friends, the next thing is for her to tell me that I have smoked.

I am contemplating divorce because I don't see anything good about her anymore. I have corrected her several times but she won't listen.

I am saying this because it is my heart beat. I need a mature mind to give me candid advice.

Every contribution will be highly appreciated.

I'm baffled at the comments I've read so far, everyone is taking side with you without asking your wife side of the story.

What kinda *FUN* is a family man having we *FRIENDS* ?

You guys don't know what marriage is all about.

EVEN FOR ADULTERY,NO MAN HAS THE BIBLE RIGHT TO DIVORCE HIS WIFE AS THE BIBLE ONLY PERMITTED DIVORCE FOR FORNICATION AND NOT ADULTERY. THIS IS HARD BUT TRUE AND YOU CAN READ IT UP IN MATTHEW 19:3-10. ONCE BOTH OF YOU TRUELY LOVED EACH OTHER AND THE CRISIS YOU ARE HAVING TODAY IS BECAUSE DEVIL HAS ENTERED IN.BEST APPROACH IS PRAYER APPROACH AS PRAYER CHANGES THINGS. PUTTING HER AWAY FOR THE REASON YOU GAVE,MEANS YOU HAVE TO REMAIN SINGLE TILL YOU DIE AS MARRYING ANOTHER WILL MEAN LIVING IN ADULTERY. 070 5414 2412

And so even if you smoke didn't she know before marriage. She doesn't want you to see friends or what maybe they'll help you to cheat on her? . You'll just feel lonely and unhappy she dey cage you like small pikin i mean how will she treat the children when your already being treated like one. You'll see married men cutting bottles some even smoking abi they dont have good wife's. If you don't smoke or drink ill advise you don't indulge into it now your married but if you do reduce it and be responsible no let woman cage your happiness but divorce isn't the action to take.

There must be something that informs your wife that you smoke. It is either you smell it or you appear such. And since you did not make mention of her having mental issue, i strongly assume she knows what she is saying.
Check yourself bro

salt1:


Don't mind the silly fellow.
He's a hypocrite deceiving his family and his Church that he's a decent born again Christian who doesn't smoke or run around with ladies.
But he can't pull such a screen over his wife and she needs to let those who are blindfolded to know his true colours.
Let him commence the divorce proceedings and everybody will know that the wife was right all along: he's a fake!

Op, listen! If you want to genuinely worship God, drop all that hypocrisy and maintaining a decent man appearance. We can deceive the whole world but self-deception is the worst deception.
Nothing is wrong with your wife. Many things are wrong with you. Fix yourself or keep living in denial. It's just a matter of time.

That is why one needs to be careful with all these online stories. They come online to paint their partners black, meanwhile they are the problem.

But there is no smoke without fire ooh, she will just start saying you do smoke without her seeing some proves. She smell's it from your mouth, cloths and even palm. Your do smoke my broda accept it.

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Guys, if you are married you will know hat it is almost impossible to see the bad part of a girl that is coming for marriage. Don't blame the guy.
You don't practice marriage outside marriage it is when you enter you will start and open the package to see what is inside.

eezeribe:
It seems your wife was a former journalist working with CNN... Lol
But on a more serious note, didn't you notice this 'reporting' attitude of hers when you were still dating her?

Character (dirtiness/dis respectfulness/over jealousy/the above mentioned xter).can shorten a mans life & deprive him of Alooot of things.those of u asking if he did not notice it during the dating stage, I wander if I guys ever dated women b4,they are so so perfect until u put the ring on thier finger.poster, if uve tried correcting her & she failed to change (& not that you do really smoke & hiding it from her) then pls make her leave u somehow. There are many ways divorce included...like someone said, soon u will have no good reputation anywhere

my brother urs s better, my wife shouts and Nags alot at me, she also raise her voice on me all the time, thought of my twins made me stay till now, but am travelling out soon to be coming back once in 3 months, want to do this becoz of my twins (Children), thinking of them made me stay till this moment but can not come and de young.

Just understand women, if you know them well they prefer news and information from friends more than any other thing. One of her friends might have told her that this you husband that goes out every day at night might be smoking you better stop him. There is nothing you can tell her to believe that you are not smoking. A smoker does not deny smoking unless you are a kid. If I tell you my own story you will laugh. The truth came out when my wife gave her life to Christ and changes came and she was able to see the truth form her wrong believes in the past all from stories from friends. The truth the guy does not smoke

Dizoski:
But there is no smoke without fire ooh, she will just start saying you do smoke without her seeing some proves. She smell's it from your mouth, cloths and even palm. Your do smoke my broda accept it.

Another pathetic marital story

Yet, this Saturday, another fool will get married to an unstable modern woman who brings nothing to the table but a used up punnaa and a truckload of stress and heartache.

Almost every married man I know has turned to an emotional tampon for their wives.

Is the juice really worth the squeeze?

Please tolerate her excesses that is the only way. There is no perfect woman out there

babyfaceafrica:
guys will see trouble before marriage,but because of mumu love they will still go ahead to marry trouble..look my brother i only advise people to divorce for twt things,if she cheats(i dont tolerate itl!!) and if it is life and death..since it is none carry your cross..you know ur wife was a chatterbox before u married her

See eehn everyone conceals their real self during dating or courtships both male and female. Everyone pretends!

You see this marriage thing? Just leave it to God and hope for the best! There is little you can do about the package you'd receive.

eezeribe:
It seems your wife was a former journalist working with CNN... Lol
But on a more serious note, didn't you notice this 'reporting' attitude of hers when you were still dating her?

Your comment is devoid of a good substance .How will your unnecessary question solve his present problem ? No way .

Nwodosis:
Is it a crime if she joins you to see your friends? There is trust issue in your marriage and you need to restore that trust by letting your wife to have more access to your private life. Mind you, divorce had always being the worst option in marriage.

Even when the spouse is about snuffing live out of the partner ? Sometimes , it is THE BEST OPTION .

You have to DIVORCE this woman .She is very bad .If you face to do so , greater problems awaits you and she will eventually leave you after putting you in an unsurmountable problem .Act fast !

Una two need space...try and go on holiday...but coded prayer meetings for a east 1 week










use don't mind my construction but I will go straight to the point.

My wife always reports me to anybody that can help me spiritually and physically. What I mean by reporting is that, she always tarnishes my image everywhere, she has reported me to my Inlaw, her siblings, to the extent that I have amounted to nothing.

She reported me to my former pastor and now to my present pastor that I am a smoker of which I am not.

Anytime I go out of the house just to stroll or catch fun with my friends, the next thing is for her to tell me that I have smoked.

I am contemplating divorce because I don't see anything good about her anymore. I have corrected her several times but she won't listen.

I am saying this because it is my heart beat. I need a mature mind to give me candid advice.

Every contribution will be highly appreciated.[/quote]

Stop hanging out with friends or take her along. Where you can take your wife to, will always raise suspicion. Spend quality time with her, let her feel you love her more than those your friends. My humble submission.

kayone6237:
Please house don't mind my construction but I will go straight to the point.

My wife always reports me to anybody that can help me spiritually and physically. What I mean by reporting is that, she always tarnishes my image everywhere, she has reported me to my Inlaw, her siblings, to the extent that I have amounted to nothing.

She reported me to my former pastor and now to my present pastor that I am a smoker of which I am not.

Anytime I go out of the house just to stroll or catch fun with my friends, the next thing is for her to tell me that I have smoked.

I am contemplating divorce because I don't see anything good about her anymore. I have corrected her several times but she won't listen.

I am saying this because it is my heart beat. I need a mature mind to give me candid advice.

Every contribution will be highly appreciated.

It's either there wasn't real love before and during this marriage or the both of you are not connecting

If she is not working then get her something doing because she is too free that's why she has time to talk about

You on your own side, ask yourself if what she is complaining of is exactly what you are being accused of ❓

Are you treating her bad at home or you are stubborn to her at home ❓

Are you showing pride and ego to her ❓

Have you being giving her attention and affections or you just see her as bed mate

Marriage is meant to be enjoyed by both parties, but if by any chance the woman is not happy with you in that marriage, she will give you hell in it

Alternatively, she can travel to her parents or to your parents for a while, it will give you the room to think if the marriage worths the both of you to continue or not

Sadness in marriage is a time bomb that when it explodes, anyone of you must be affected

Don't make anything complicated, you and your wife have to come to an understanding, maybe some compromises, if it cannot work, divorce is okay, do not stay in a marriage where there is loss of cooperation, love and understanding, if there are children, then you couples have to think about your children first and do not expose them to conflicts, they are innocent parties.