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Re: My Ex- Girlfriend Harbours Bitterness Towards Me. by kingjrofficial(m): 7:16am On Jul 25, 2019
akaahs:
Hope we aren't dating the same girl. My ex used to have the same character and attitudes not until I decided to frustrate till she quit the relationship by herself.
Till up to date, she is so pained after 3 years each time my friend called her , she keeps lamenting what I did to her thinking I ll come back and apologise.
Ops don't ever apologise, there type ll never apologise either they think they have what it's takes to attract their kind of guys. Just live ur life nature has a of resolving such issues. Move on.
I've got same version of ur story... I've been dating this lady for about 9months... Tho she's a private school French teacher, while I'm just a home tutor teacher... I decide to further my education, so I applied for D.E into my state university, its not even up to a complete semester I did, but she began lamenting me as someone who careless about her, that I've got a new girlfriend who's in university and I'm showing her attitude... I tried explaining things to her, but she always believe I'm lying and calling me some silly names and also bringing out how she helped me financially to secure the admission... I got tired and frustrated because this might affect my studies, so I decide to break the relationship to focus much on my studies... Hmmmm, ever since I broke the relationship, I've become the Judas of her generation... All her friends and family believed all what she told them...saying we were good together not until I secure the admission into the university and I started acting weird, some say she deserve an apology from me, but I ask "apology for what"!!??
She's still waiting for apology from me as I typed... But I've moved on coz I don't want her suspicious attitude making me a kid and a decision less man.... So I do what I feel is right cool

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Re: My Ex- Girlfriend Harbours Bitterness Towards Me. by Nobody: 7:18am On Jul 25, 2019
greggng:



I thought the said ijebu woman worse pass?


*rolls eyes*
Pls leave us out of this o
Re: My Ex- Girlfriend Harbours Bitterness Towards Me. by emsco(m): 7:24am On Jul 25, 2019
Celestial777:



Bro pls ignore her...i have been in a similar situation. I broke up with the hoe cos I found out she od bleeping like nine guys plus me at yje same time. She own a wine kiosk and I spend most of my time after work there. I never know she is a paod olosbo as well. Other guys bleep her for 5k and so one while i was busy planning future with her. The day I found out I didn't fight her.. she had a child though. She usually takes the two year old with her if she is going on mission sometimes.
I tuse style discharge her and then she begin tell people how bad I am. In fact she carry my matter go Alfa Dem side. Bro I hear weinn
But now i am better pls fear ondo gals..
Jus leave her alon I beg you. She will be fine lad las
Some part of Ondo state is no go area for a bachelor when getting a wife.
Re: My Ex- Girlfriend Harbours Bitterness Towards Me. by nellyelitz(m): 7:27am On Jul 25, 2019
tunjilee003:
I'll advice you to drop ego and beg her, begging her won't cost you anything
pls i'm not against ur comment bro, but i want to know the grounds the op should beg her and what will say to her, good morning.
Re: My Ex- Girlfriend Harbours Bitterness Towards Me. by whiteeyes: 7:28am On Jul 25, 2019
healthserve:
You men should stop being unreasonably problematic. Always imagine that what you do to other women will be done to your sister. Maybe that'll make it better




Women. Na wa o. You people should be forgiving us nau
Re: My Ex- Girlfriend Harbours Bitterness Towards Me. by Jemc(m): 7:28am On Jul 25, 2019
Poster, forgiveness that will guarantee the both of you peace of mind is what you need to achieve. You can only achieve that by settling with her. Take her out and settle over some plates of food and drinks. NB. Never you talk about taking her back as a your girlfriend if you don't wish to. Peace.

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Re: My Ex- Girlfriend Harbours Bitterness Towards Me. by luvyaself95(m): 7:38am On Jul 25, 2019
tommyken:

I followed your advice bro, I went to her house with a friend with an intension to tell her no need to hold a grudge against me when we could all moved on happily but guess the funny thing? She lock herself inside the room with key that she don't want to see but she can talk with my friend. So I went outside and she began to list all my sins to my friends and she swear that she will never forgive me till she die.
Well, you advice me to " give her a kind of victory she deserve" and move on which I have done. At least I have move on happily and holds no grudge towards her. Thank you.
That is most wisely thing to do to a girl but to girl you're a fool...
well you done your best...
Re: My Ex- Girlfriend Harbours Bitterness Towards Me. by luvyaself95(m): 7:46am On Jul 25, 2019
emilas1979:
Dunno why naija ladies be like that
Having same experience with one,
For 6yrs was asking her out she refused.
Later when she found out that I traveled out of
the country, she got me contact through a friend. Came back later we had 3months romance but my h@has been taken by another.
She later marry another and I to another
But she is not saying anything good about me and ready to kill saying I disappointed her.
am still finding how you disappoint her.
she is a useless human being...
Re: My Ex- Girlfriend Harbours Bitterness Towards Me. by MrFly(m): 7:47am On Jul 25, 2019
Girlfriends come and go, beg not for she wasnt ur wife. Let d hatred consume her
Re: My Ex- Girlfriend Harbours Bitterness Towards Me. by drskyfly007(m): 7:50am On Jul 25, 2019
tommyken:

Yes I did....
This is the problem angry

Only Promise ladies marriage when you have done the background check and are serious to settle down..

Don't ever say it for saying sake! Cos she might think you took advantage of her and deceived her with marriage!

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Re: My Ex- Girlfriend Harbours Bitterness Towards Me. by Psainte20(m): 7:52am On Jul 25, 2019
tommyken:
I broke up with her just last month and I have move on fine although sometimes I miss her but I throw away such feelings immediately they appear.

I broke up with her due to her cunning and cheating nature but the problem here is that whenever any one ask her of me she replies them with anger and people have been telling she is really bitter towards me.

Someone came to my house and told me she said she will never forgive me that when I was sick she was there for me but she has forgotten I was also there for her and my own sacrifices I made towards her, well am not move by such manipulation.

My problem now is that some people are telling me to beg her for forgiveness even if we won't be together but for the sake of peace and to forget the past BUT that is against my principle because doing that will give her a kind of victory and feeling that I miss her.

My Intuition is telling me to ignore her that a time will come when she will realise her mistakes and be the one to call me up, I just have this deep conviction in me to just allow her be and keep hating for all I care.

Please I would like your advice concerning this issue.
Thanks.
I just see two people who pride is killing
Re: My Ex- Girlfriend Harbours Bitterness Towards Me. by sanusikebbe(m): 8:01am On Jul 25, 2019
There's no way u can be advised properly without knowing actually what led to your separation. Knowing the truth will let people know who was wrong, and who was at the receiving end. I think with this, people will know how to advice properly, cos, sorry to say, u could have wronged her, or it could be the other way around.

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Re: My Ex- Girlfriend Harbours Bitterness Towards Me. by ImaIma1(f): 8:02am On Jul 25, 2019
Celestial777:



Bro pls ignore her...i have been in a similar situation. I broke up with the hoe cos I found out she od bleeping like nine guys plus me at yje same time. She own a wine kiosk and I spend most of my time after work there. I never know she is a paod olosbo as well. Other guys bleep her for 5k and so one while i was busy planning future with her. The day I found out I didn't fight her.. she had a child though. She usually takes the two year old with her if she is going on mission sometimes.
I tuse style discharge her and then she begin tell people how bad I am. In fact she carry my matter go Alfa Dem side. Bro I hear weinn
But now i am better pls fear ondo gals..
Jus leave her alon I beg you. She will be fine lad las


How do you even date someone like that? What was the attraction? Do you guys share the same views about life? Sounds like you had a night with a sex worker and decided to convert her to girlfriend status
Re: My Ex- Girlfriend Harbours Bitterness Towards Me. by ImaIma1(f): 8:07am On Jul 25, 2019
tommyken:
I broke up with her just last month and I have move on fine although sometimes I miss her but I throw away such feelings immediately they appear.

I broke up with her due to her cunning and cheating nature but the problem here is that whenever any one ask her of me she replies them with anger and people have been telling she is really bitter towards me.

Someone came to my house and told me she said she will never forgive me that when I was sick she was there for me but she has forgotten I was also there for her and my own sacrifices I made towards her, well am not move by such manipulation.

My problem now is that some people are telling me to beg her for forgiveness even if we won't be together but for the sake of peace and to forget the past BUT that is against my principle because doing that will give her a kind of victory and feeling that I miss her.

My Intuition is telling me to ignore her that a time will come when she will realise her mistakes and be the one to call me up, I just have this deep conviction in me to just allow her be and keep hating for all I care.

Please I would like your advice concerning this issue.
Thanks.


Did she apologize for cheating on you?

What are you apologizing for anyway? That you broke up with her after she broke the trust? If you want to apologize, you need to know what you are apologizing for and if there's something you did that warrants an apology.

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Re: My Ex- Girlfriend Harbours Bitterness Towards Me. by fowlyansh181(m): 8:16am On Jul 25, 2019
Don’t dig yourself into the same hole you just dug yourself out of.. don’t listen to advices telling you to go beg this girl, ignore her, ignore those friends telling you about her and move on.. dude you are being emotionally blackmailed, but Nigerians due to being ignorance on here are giving you stupid advices like it’s a small world, go beg her... be a man and stop worrying about what these jobless people and stupid girl is saying.. ignore that that nonsense and move on.. you have broken up with her, stick to it..

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Re: My Ex- Girlfriend Harbours Bitterness Towards Me. by Catchfirez: 8:18am On Jul 25, 2019
Unik3030:
u self dey date ondo girls, they too like sex n money n they see no big deal about having multiple partners. the worst thing is if ondo girl born 10 children for u e no mean say she no go leave u

Confirm.
Re: My Ex- Girlfriend Harbours Bitterness Towards Me. by emelda86(f): 8:23am On Jul 25, 2019
Celestial777:



I never know say they bad reach like that
Na now I know ....i dey date her friend now and her younger sister na my sure prissy now wey sure gidi

U see your life, u dey date her friend and her sis be your prissy

Why can't u guys have sense for once

Tufiakwa!!!

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Re: My Ex- Girlfriend Harbours Bitterness Towards Me. by Rahyberg(m): 8:23am On Jul 25, 2019
tohyorsih2:



*rolls eyes*
Pls leave us out of this o
Ijebu ladies are the best. I'm willing to have one as my wife cos I'm also from Ijebu but I'm stuck with a beautiful Abeokuta gal
Re: My Ex- Girlfriend Harbours Bitterness Towards Me. by Iyajelili(f): 8:25am On Jul 25, 2019
Celestial777:



Bro pls ignore her...i have been in a similar situation. I broke up with the hoe cos I found out she od bleeping like nine guys plus me at yje same time. She own a wine kiosk and I spend most of my time after work there. I never know she is a paod olosbo as well. Other guys bleep her for 5k and so one while i was busy planning future with her. The day I found out I didn't fight her.. she had a child though. She usually takes the two year old with her if she is going on mission sometimes.
I tuse style discharge her and then she begin tell people how bad I am. In fact she carry my matter go Alfa Dem side. Bro I hear weinn
But now i am better pls fear ondo gals..
Jus leave her alon I beg you. She will be fine lad las
I know her
Re: My Ex- Girlfriend Harbours Bitterness Towards Me. by Wizy123: 8:32am On Jul 25, 2019
BareFacedLies:


In that case she has every reason to be bitter towards you cos she probably turned away other potential suitors cos of your promise
Did you read the part that says she was cheating? undecided
Re: My Ex- Girlfriend Harbours Bitterness Towards Me. by OMOTOWO(m): 8:35am On Jul 25, 2019
Celestial777:



Bro pls ignore her...i have been in a similar situation. I broke up with the hoe cos I found out she od bleeping like nine guys plus me at yje same time. She own a wine kiosk and I spend most of my time after work there. I never know she is a paod olosbo as well. Other guys bleep her for 5k and so one while i was busy planning future with her. The day I found out I didn't fight her.. she had a child though. She usually takes the two year old with her if she is going on mission sometimes.
I tuse style discharge her and then she begin tell people how bad I am. In fact she carry my matter go Alfa Dem side. Bro I hear weinn
But now i am better pls fear ondo gals..
Jus leave her alon I beg you. She will be fine lad las
ha ondo girl?ah a fear dem so tey a fear them..u understand me?While still a bachelor,I dated one and the girl almost killed me
imagine a girl pulled out knife she will kill me or cut my prick(she was holding my prick in her hand ooo while she was threatening me o).

I still bleeped her that night though after reconciling but after that night,mo japa ni oooo.I carry my leg run oo

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Re: My Ex- Girlfriend Harbours Bitterness Towards Me. by Wizy123: 8:35am On Jul 25, 2019
placeofallure:


Sorry bro, but your post gave me a lot of headache trying to figure out You can hire me as your English tutor. No malice intended.
Which kind insult be dis undecided
Re: My Ex- Girlfriend Harbours Bitterness Towards Me. by Nobody: 8:37am On Jul 25, 2019
skultrick:


I dare to say you're a real puxxxsy, unless the story you initially told us is lie.

Why do we have so many weak men this days, ehh, why?

You claimed your so called love betrayed your trust and love by sleeping with other guys, and that's why you broke up with her.

Why then should it concern you if she wears a fucking grudge against you, even to the extent of going to beg her. Tomorrow now you'll come here telling us how you ended up with the wrong woman.

Common, it's like your saleman you employed and trusted, steals from you, you find out, then sacked him, but because he bears grudges against you for sacking him, you then went to his house to beg him to forgive you.

You're a very big fool, you deserve the worse kind of women.

Trust is golden and when it's broken, it's better to work away, otherwise it'll be an impending catastrophe waiting to happen.




Niggas like you are worse than the devil. No offence brother. I have a friend like you, who is quick to hurl insults at us whenever we have issues with our girlfriends. He will never proffer solution nor will he ask us to improve ourselves in order to spur baes to jealousy but guess what : He was an insecure, flapwit mofo . We caught him one time when his girlfriend threatened to leave him. He took ill, lost weight, bed ridden and got depressed. All those time he lambasted us for small issues we never knew we had more control than he did.

If you're going to help him move on, insulting him is not a great tactic .

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Re: My Ex- Girlfriend Harbours Bitterness Towards Me. by Bruno3000(m): 8:42am On Jul 25, 2019
I know how u feel. Ondo girls are terrible, never reliable. Did my NYSC in Akure, so I know what am talking about. Thank God she didn't cage u o.
Celestial777:



Bro pls ignore her...i have been in a similar situation. I broke up with the hoe cos I found out she od bleeping like nine guys plus me at yje same time. She own a wine kiosk and I spend most of my time after work there. I never know she is a paod olosbo as well. Other guys bleep her for 5k and so one while i was busy planning future with her. The day I found out I didn't fight her.. she had a child though. She usually takes the two year old with her if she is going on mission sometimes.
I tuse style discharge her and then she begin tell people how bad I am. In fact she carry my matter go Alfa Dem side. Bro I hear weinn
But now i am better pls fear ondo gals..
Jus leave her alon I beg you. She will be fine lad las
Re: My Ex- Girlfriend Harbours Bitterness Towards Me. by XklusivGistBlog(m): 8:47am On Jul 25, 2019
tommyken:

I followed your advice bro, I went to her house with a friend with an intension to tell her no need to hold a grudge against me when we could all moved on happily but guess the funny thing? She lock herself inside the room with key that she don't want to see but she can talk with my friend. So I went outside and she began to list all my sins to my friends and she swear that she will never forgive me till she die.
Well, you advice me to " give her a kind of victory she deserve" and move on which I have done. At least I have move on happily and holds no grudge towards her. Thank you.

You a real pussyyy nigga. You jobless too. After all the advice, you gave her more power over you. Idiot

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Re: My Ex- Girlfriend Harbours Bitterness Towards Me. by SaucyBenks(m): 9:08am On Jul 25, 2019
Magnoliaa:


I hope you have something left to keep for your future wifey sha? cheesy
would you come help me confirm if there's anything left sweetie? Would be nice if you can spoil me once in a lifetime..
Re: My Ex- Girlfriend Harbours Bitterness Towards Me. by SaucyBenks(m): 9:09am On Jul 25, 2019
Jaymoney5000:

Must you tell us that it was a pastor's daughter.... you bleeped a girl is enough Bruh...smh
lol... Was being raw n specific bro. No vez
Re: My Ex- Girlfriend Harbours Bitterness Towards Me. by luminouz(m): 9:09am On Jul 25, 2019
BareFacedLies:


Error of assumption...

The poster said and i quote "I broke up with her because of her cunning and cheating nature".

Where in the post did he say that he caught her with multiple guys?

Oversabi people like you just quickly jumped to conclusions!

The fact is that when an individual is tired of a relationship he/she hinges his decision to quit on a trivial issue like the OP has done here
U must really know the OP so well by ur last paragraph.
Hope u doing good today?
Re: My Ex- Girlfriend Harbours Bitterness Towards Me. by cucumbar: 9:10am On Jul 25, 2019
whiteeyes:
No, don't say that!! Heaven honours the tears of a woman passionately especially when she is hurting for no just cause.
You see @poster, I'll tell you to apologize, speaking out of experience.
I had this relationship for about 5years, gave and put my all in it to succeed. The guy hurt me in the end, i vowed never to forgive him because he never considered my emotionally grieving heart. He went ahead and got married to another, till today as I type, no offspring yet after more than 10years.
Yes, I eventually forgave him and moved on but it's a scar never to be forgotten. What am I saying? Do NOT allow this issue linger, ask her to forgive while still fresh, tuck in your ego and kneel for her. You might have hurt her in several ways and she stomached it all for love, she's hurting because of her sacrifice for you. Yes, not all relationships must lead to marriage but, must not end in hate either.
Good luck!
what makes you think his not having a child yet has anything to do with him hurting you in the past?

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Re: My Ex- Girlfriend Harbours Bitterness Towards Me. by luminouz(m): 9:13am On Jul 25, 2019
yeyeosoronga:


He never said she cheated on him though. He broke up with her due to her "cunning and cheating nature", which could also mean she lies abt money and gets it fraudulently from him or a thousand other things.
Ask OP to expantiate further on this cheating nature. Has he ever caught her ?
U may be right but when a man says a woman cheats, he is not talking about money or a thousand other things. All the people quoting me on this issue are ladies,why though?
N.B: your moniker should have given you all the answers you seek on this issue
Re: My Ex- Girlfriend Harbours Bitterness Towards Me. by Eberex(m): 9:21am On Jul 25, 2019
One sided story. OP are you telling us you never cheated on her during your time together?

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