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Re: My Ex- Girlfriend Harbours Bitterness Towards Me. by Nobody: 9:27am On Jul 25, 2019
whiteeyes:
No, don't say that!! Heaven honours the tears of a woman passionately especially when she is hurting for no just cause.
You see @poster, I'll tell you to apologize, speaking out of experience.
I had this relationship for about 5years, gave and put my all in it to succeed. The guy hurt me in the end, i vowed never to forgive him because he never considered my emotionally grieving heart. He went ahead and got married to another, till today as I type, no offspring yet after more than 10years.
Yes, I eventually forgave him and moved on but it's a scar never to be forgotten. What am I saying? Do NOT allow this issue linger, ask her to forgive while still fresh, tuck in your ego and kneel for her. You might have hurt her in several ways and she stomached it all for love, she's hurting because of her sacrifice for you. Yes, not all relationships must lead to marriage but, must not end in hate either.
Good luck!

Nonsense, so u saying he should go and beg even tho she cheated?

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Re: My Ex- Girlfriend Harbours Bitterness Towards Me. by drginger(f): 9:28am On Jul 25, 2019
What if your story isn't complete? U have to say it exactly hw it is so u can get help here. A girl who cheated on U shld be ashamed and sorry and not bitter, she shld be d one running away from explaining to people abt the break up, because she knows they will get d real gist from you that she was Straffing oda guys,, for her to be dis bitter then sometin is wrong, but I tink u shld jus ask her to forgive you weda u r wrong or right, so u can walk away free, a bitter woman is dangerous and not everybody you see fears God

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Re: My Ex- Girlfriend Harbours Bitterness Towards Me. by Nobody: 9:35am On Jul 25, 2019
Rahyberg:
Ijebu ladies are the best. I'm willing to have one as my wife cos I'm also from Ijebu but I'm stuck with a beautiful Abeokuta gal


Thanks for the compliment. We're truly the best.
Pls stick to her. Ijebu o, Abeokuta o, na the same thing we be wink
Re: My Ex- Girlfriend Harbours Bitterness Towards Me. by folake4u(f): 9:37am On Jul 25, 2019
Godmademan:
Learnt something new. My blacklist is almost comprising all 36 states based on data available. Bettet woman for marriage dey this Nigeria sef?


undecided undecided
Re: My Ex- Girlfriend Harbours Bitterness Towards Me. by Rajahbite(m): 9:48am On Jul 25, 2019
That time wia you been dey chop her kpomo and kpanshing her kpekus you no tell us . Wetin you wan make we advice now that you have drained the poor gal and dump her, who you wan leave your leftover to?




See make I tell you the truth. ......na this kind things dey lead to 45% of mad young folks you see roaming the streets, those that have gone under for same/similar reasons are numerous.
Bros you been dey chop alone, so if death should come out of this abeg die alone. .....no come carry us join body.

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Re: My Ex- Girlfriend Harbours Bitterness Towards Me. by tunjilee003: 9:59am On Jul 25, 2019
nellyelitz:
pls i'm not against ur comment bro, but i want to know the grounds the op should beg her and what will say to her, good morning.
what am saying is he should try and clear all grudges with here or else she might still have The contempt towards the op
Re: My Ex- Girlfriend Harbours Bitterness Towards Me. by Magnoliaa(f): 9:59am On Jul 25, 2019
SaucyBenks:
would you come help me confirm if there's anything left sweetie? Would be nice if you can spoil me once in a lifetime..


Nope, sorry. I don't deal with used and second-hand things.

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Re: My Ex- Girlfriend Harbours Bitterness Towards Me. by Modarun(m): 10:00am On Jul 25, 2019
SaucyBenks:
listen... Listen bro... Lemme tell you what everyone here is scared to tell you...

She has become obsessed with you and won't mind if she gets to Bleep you again and again, she doesn't just want to say it... I bleeped my pastor's daughter who was so mean to me.. Guess where I bleeped her the very first day we talked "in an incompleted building" and it continued till she left for school... She misses you bro, use your head, invite her over and let the rest be history

Problem with this forum is that, there are no meams to check or confirm peoples age. This small boy here is comparing his pastors teenage daughter with a retired Olosho bar owner. Can you imagine? So this hediat doesnt knw the kind of level of desperation such a woman can exibit? Bros We sha go read your obituary here is you that these type inexperienced bafvvns advice. So you managed to rid your self of a cheating farm tool, but nahh you must go bavk and die there? So Bros shoukd return, so that what nah? he woukd marry her and then die of STD or Depressiin caused by his wife bleeping her entire customers? Well as long as you didnt set out to hurt her and. had genuine good intention which she fvcked up, you are free to fly brah. That reminds ne, Download that track from the Kids see ghost Album of Kanye west and Kid kudi titled Freee!!!!!
Re: My Ex- Girlfriend Harbours Bitterness Towards Me. by akaahs(m): 10:03am On Jul 25, 2019
kingjrofficial:
I've got same version of ur story... I've been dating this lady for about 9months... Tho she's a private school French teacher, while I'm just a home tutor teacher... I decide to further my education, so I applied for D.E into my state university, its not even up to a complete semester I did, but she began lamenting me as someone who careless about her, that I've got a new girlfriend who's in university and I'm showing her attitude... I tried explaining things to her, but she always believe I'm lying and calling me some silly names and also bringing out how she helped me financially to secure the admission... I got tired and frustrated because this might affect my studies, so I decide to break the relationship to focus much on my studies... Hmmmm, ever since I broke the relationship, I've become the Judas of her generation... All her friends and family believed all what she told them...saying we were good together not until I secure the admission into the university and I started acting weird, some say she deserve an apology from me, but I ask "apology for what"!!??
She's still waiting for apology from me as I typed... But I've moved on coz I don't want her suspicious attitude making me a kid and a decision less man.... So I do what I feel is right cool
Nice move. Secure the future fire

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Re: My Ex- Girlfriend Harbours Bitterness Towards Me. by Rahyberg(m): 10:21am On Jul 25, 2019
tohyorsih2:



Thanks for the compliment. We're truly the best.
Pls stick to her. Ijebu o, Abeokuta o, na the same thing we be wink

which part of Ijebuland are u from?
Re: My Ex- Girlfriend Harbours Bitterness Towards Me. by akaahs(m): 10:22am On Jul 25, 2019
Mustsucceed:


The question his did u frustrate her ? Were your actions commiserate with her own behaviour .did the weight of your actions hold equal kg to hers? My dear this is what revenge isn't good....if your actions were more evil or she had pure intentions then best you know how to appease her

Don't deceive your self or that young man..nature is KARMA the fact that time moved doesn't mean it forgot .you would be having issues but have no idea its a rope pulling you due to your actions..nature never resolves ..it moves u forward to meet fruits of your labour .why do u think you have death then hell and paradise ?
I didn't do it intentionally, I did it out of defending myself from her manipulative ways which didn't go well with her thinking doing that ll make her realise that I have enough of it after series of conversation about same issue.
She is the type that ll always want to be at the driving seat, I detest that even if my bae senior me, is not everything i ll allow my bae take control. I know, I have my own flaws as a being but realising them and try to work on them is the real thing but her, never believe she is wrong.
Just last week, my friend was telling me that she called him around Easter period lamenting on what happened over 3 years ago about us.
Truth be told, I have never loved any girl like her upto date but her arrogant nature isn't helping her. I just have to let things be bro.

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Re: My Ex- Girlfriend Harbours Bitterness Towards Me. by Nobody: 10:25am On Jul 25, 2019
Rahyberg:
which part of Ijebuland are u from?


I'm from Ijebu Ife
Re: My Ex- Girlfriend Harbours Bitterness Towards Me. by SaucyBenks(m): 10:28am On Jul 25, 2019
Magnoliaa:



Nope, sorry. I don't deal with used and second-hand things.
lol... and you're brand new grin grin grin grin don't make me laugh ahbeg.

For your mind now, you've finished me with the quote bah grin grin
Re: My Ex- Girlfriend Harbours Bitterness Towards Me. by luminouz(m): 10:29am On Jul 25, 2019
whiteeyes:
No, don't say that!! Heaven honours the tears of a woman passionately especially when she is hurting for no just cause.
You see @poster, I'll tell you to apologize, speaking out of experience.
I had this relationship for about 5years, gave and put my all in it to succeed. The guy hurt me in the end, i vowed never to forgive him because he never considered my emotionally grieving heart. He went ahead and got married to another, till today as I type, no offspring yet after more than 10years.
Yes, I eventually forgave him and moved on but it's a scar never to be forgotten. What am I saying? Do NOT allow this issue linger, ask her to forgive while still fresh, tuck in your ego and kneel for her. You might have hurt her in several ways and she stomached it all for love, she's hurting because of her sacrifice for you. Yes, not all relationships must lead to marriage but, must not end in hate either.
Good luck!
So na because of your unforgiveness that made them barren for 10 years abi? Whatever happened to the innocent woman he married? That one no get God? undecided

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Re: My Ex- Girlfriend Harbours Bitterness Towards Me. by Rahyberg(m): 10:30am On Jul 25, 2019
tohyorsih2:



I'm from Ijebu Ife
Waoh! While I'm from Ijebu-Ode. Nice meeting u ma
Re: My Ex- Girlfriend Harbours Bitterness Towards Me. by luminouz(m): 10:31am On Jul 25, 2019
tohyorsih2:



I'm from Ijebu Ife
Oh God!!!
Not U!!!
Nooooooooooooo!!!!!! undecided
Re: My Ex- Girlfriend Harbours Bitterness Towards Me. by Nobody: 10:36am On Jul 25, 2019
akaahs:

I didn't do it intentionally, I did it out of defending myself from her manipulative ways which didn't go well with her thinking doing that ll make her realise that I have enough of it after series of conversation about same issue.
She is the type that ll always want to be at the driving seat, I detest that even if my bae senior me, is not everything i ll allow my bae take control. I know, I have my own flaws as a being but realising them and try to work on them is the real thing but her, never believe she is wrong.
Just last week, my friend was telling me that she called him around Easter period lamenting on what happened over 3 years ago about us.
Truth be told, I have never loved any girl like her upto date but her arrogant nature isn't helping her. I just have to let things be bro.

Then bro,call her and tell her that u were shocked to hear she was holding grudge against you ..tell her the truth that yy have never loved any woman like her but her arrogance sent you packing wish her well and pray for her. End it well ....never leave a door that is supposed to be locked opened ..if you can't then sent your pal to tell her indirectly .

Many men make such mistake of thinking to hell with it but honestly it isn't so ..a lot of unhappy marriages is caused by karma but many don't know

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Re: My Ex- Girlfriend Harbours Bitterness Towards Me. by luminouz(m): 10:37am On Jul 25, 2019
Catchfirez:


Confirm.
Tell me more jor
Re: My Ex- Girlfriend Harbours Bitterness Towards Me. by Nobody: 10:38am On Jul 25, 2019
Rahyberg:
Waoh! While I'm from Ijebu-Ode. Nice meeting u ma

Pleasure is mine smiley

Have you ever heard of my type of Ijebu?
I believe it isn't common
Re: My Ex- Girlfriend Harbours Bitterness Towards Me. by Nobody: 10:39am On Jul 25, 2019
luminouz:

Oh God!!!
Not U!!!
Nooooooooooooo!!!!!! undecided


It's me!!!

Yessssssssssss!!!
Re: My Ex- Girlfriend Harbours Bitterness Towards Me. by akaahs(m): 10:39am On Jul 25, 2019
Mustsucceed:


Then bro,call her and tell her that u were shocked to hear she was holding grudge against you ..tell her the truth that yy have never loved any woman like her but her arrogance sent you packing wish her well and pray for her. End it well ....never leave a door that is supposed to be locked opened ..if you can't then sent your pal to tell her indirectly .

Many men make such mistake of thinking to hell with it but honestly it isn't so ..a lot of unhappy marriages is caused by karma but many don't know
Thanks bro, I ll think about it. Good to have ur type around.
Re: My Ex- Girlfriend Harbours Bitterness Towards Me. by Nobody: 10:40am On Jul 25, 2019
luminouz:

So na because of your unforgiveness that made them barren for 10 years abi? Whatever happened to the innocent woman he married? That one no get God? undecided

Yes my dear whether u accept or not its true..many have suffered over such ..this is why elders always warn we younger generations over hurting men or women innocently ...some don't know that their issue is due to karma

You better take her true life story seriously
Re: My Ex- Girlfriend Harbours Bitterness Towards Me. by Nobody: 10:42am On Jul 25, 2019
whiteeyes:
No, don't say that!! Heaven honours the tears of a woman passionately especially when she is hurting for no just cause.
You see @poster, I'll tell you to apologize, speaking out of experience.
I had this relationship for about 5years, gave and put my all in it to succeed. The guy hurt me in the end, i vowed never to forgive him because he never considered my emotionally grieving heart. He went ahead and got married to another, till today as I type, no offspring yet after more than 10years.
Yes, I eventually forgave him and moved on but it's a scar never to be forgotten. What am I saying? Do NOT allow this issue linger, ask her to forgive while still fresh, tuck in your ego and kneel for her. You might have hurt her in several ways and she stomached it all for love, she's hurting because of her sacrifice for you. Yes, not all relationships must lead to marriage but, must not end in hate either.
Good luck!

That is it! Many will hurt u to end the relationship then think that nothing will happen..they assume them moving on and marrying means all is well..people need to be very careful honestly

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Re: My Ex- Girlfriend Harbours Bitterness Towards Me. by luminouz(m): 10:44am On Jul 25, 2019
Mustsucceed:


Then bro,call her and tell her that u were shocked to hear she was holding grudge against you ..tell her the truth that yy have never loved any woman like her but her arrogance sent you packing wish her well and pray for her. End it well ....never leave a door that is supposed to be locked opened ..if you can't then sent your pal to tell her indirectly .

Many men make such mistake of thinking to hell with it but honestly it isn't so ..a lot of unhappy marriages is caused by karma but many don't know
Aunty, stop all this karma talk...if karma was solo active,why is there so much evil or why politicians(obasanjo,babangida,even buhari) still dey alive with their kids prospering? Karma is a fear word invented for the weak to feast on.
On the guy you quoted, how is it possible for a domineering girl not to know she is like that? Or how her actions are hurting a guy? What's with the 'calling her to beg her stuff' when she hurts you every time?

Sometimes you need to man up and end shiit,never looking back or else the guy or girl won't learn or make amends and he/she will still continue hurting other people.

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Re: My Ex- Girlfriend Harbours Bitterness Towards Me. by luminouz(m): 10:46am On Jul 25, 2019
Mustsucceed:


That is it! Many will hurt u to end the relationship then think that nothing will happen..they assume them moving on and marrying means all is well..people need to be very careful honestly
So?
What will happen? Armageddon? undecided
Its a very myopic mindset to think you won't get hurt in life. Shiit happens,just move on or will u go diabolic because she/he cheated on you? Kill them perhaps?

Most breakups happen to make us better,so long you learn the lesson taught
Re: My Ex- Girlfriend Harbours Bitterness Towards Me. by Nobody: 10:46am On Jul 25, 2019
tommyken:
I broke up with her just last month and I have move on fine although sometimes I miss her but I throw away such feelings immediately they appear.

I broke up with her due to her cunning and cheating nature but the problem here is that whenever any one ask her of me she replies them with anger and people have been telling she is really bitter towards me.

Someone came to my house and told me she said she will never forgive me that when I was sick she was there for me but she has forgotten I was also there for her and my own sacrifices I made towards her, well am not move by such manipulation.

My problem now is that some people are telling me to beg her for forgiveness even if we won't be together but for the sake of peace and to forget the past BUT that is against my principle because doing that will give her a kind of victory and feeling that I miss her.

My Intuition is telling me to ignore her that a time will come when she will realise her mistakes and be the one to call me up, I just have this deep conviction in me to just allow her be and keep hating for all I care.

Please I would like your advice concerning this issue.
Thanks.

s
SEE YOUNG MAN,SET ASIDE THEAT PRIDE AND BEG HER MAKE HER SEE SENSE THAT IT WAS HER ATTITUDE..let me tell u if that lady sincerely loved you and never cheated on you or that u hurt her more than she hurt you ,then I guarantee you ..karma will hit you .its either your marriage will never be a happy one or something else ..

Part on good terms .don't mind all those telling you to over look they won't be there when u start to face life hmmm...if that lady dies before u realise your mistake then you are on your own ..end it well ..we didn't ask you to go back to her we simply said end it on good terms ensure she forgives u
Re: My Ex- Girlfriend Harbours Bitterness Towards Me. by niyidenrele: 10:47am On Jul 25, 2019
[quote author=akaahs post=80458928]Hope we aren't dating the same girl. My ex used to have the same character and attitudes not until I decided to frustrate till she quit the relationship by herself.
Till up to date, she is so pained after 3 years each time my friend called her , she keeps lamenting what I did to her thinking I ll come back and apologise.
Ops don't ever apologise, there type ll never apologise but rather they think they have what it's takes to attract their kind of guys. Just live ur life nature has a of resolving such issues. Move on. [/quote the fact is that ,women always see dating game as their area of specialization,from wooing, going out to when they are ready to make a choice between marrying and jilting,they don't like reliquecsh that part of process to we men ,no matter how they are being treated or treating men ,u just must play by what they put for u on table ,.. that's why they can die for an alpha male,who can control the relationship ,cos he has ability to usurp their power,they dream about him always,..mark this,u will be very successful in dating game if u can control the relationship, always no when to start or stop , especially after the first sex......

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Re: My Ex- Girlfriend Harbours Bitterness Towards Me. by niyidenrele: 10:49am On Jul 25, 2019
akaahs:
Hope we aren't dating the same girl. My ex used to have the same character and attitudes not until I decided to frustrate till she quit the relationship by herself.
Till up to date, she is so pained after 3 years each time my friend called her , she keeps lamenting what I did to her thinking I ll come back and apologise.
Ops don't ever apologise, there type ll never apologise but rather they think they have what it's takes to attract their kind of guys. Just live ur life nature has a of resolving such issues. Move on.
the fact is that ,women always see dating game as their area of specialization,from wooing, going out to when they are ready to make a choice between marrying and jilting,they don't like reliquecsh that part of process to we men ,no matter how they are being treated or treating men ,u just must play by what they put for u on table ,.. that's why they can die for an alpha male,who can control the relationship ,cos he has ability to usurp their power,they dream about him always,..mark this,u will be very successful in dating game if u can control the relationship, always no when to start or stop , especially after the first sex......

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Re: My Ex- Girlfriend Harbours Bitterness Towards Me. by luminouz(m): 10:49am On Jul 25, 2019
Mustsucceed:


Yes my dear whether u accept or not its true..many have suffered over such ..this is why elders always warn we younger generations over hurting men or women innocently ...some don't know that their issue is due to karma

You better take her true life story seriously
Really? shocked
I'm so shocked right now.
So I'm supposed to believe her story because I know her personally or what? The guy/his wife couldn't be impotent or having fertility issues?
What happens most time is that they may have lost their true soulmate and anywhere else they go,they won't be settled. Stop the fear mongering biko
Re: My Ex- Girlfriend Harbours Bitterness Towards Me. by Nobody: 10:50am On Jul 25, 2019
luminouz:

Aunty, stop all this karma talk...if karma was solo active,why is there so much evil or why politicians(obasanjo,babangida,even buhari) still dey alive with their kids prospering? Karma is a fear word invented for the weak to feast on.
On the guy you quoted, how is it possible for a domineering girl not to know she is like that? Or how her actions are hurting a guy? What's with the 'calling her to beg her stuff' when she hurts you every time?

Sometimes you need to man up and end shiit,never looking back or else the guy or girl won't learn or make amends and he/she will still continue hurting other people.

My dear do u now what obj and babangida are facing roght now ??hmmm don't spew trash go and find out especially babangida ..then you will know ..his own kids don't give him peace then look at him right now ..what of obasanjo ..see the fact that you didn't see doesn't mean it isn't happening ..go and find out
Let me tell you when you are patient and don't retaliation as you are sitting down na so gist go hit you on what happened to someone who harmed you

Be careful don't start this thinking..you will destroy your self its as if you are consoling your self to continue doing evil
Re: My Ex- Girlfriend Harbours Bitterness Towards Me. by luminouz(m): 10:51am On Jul 25, 2019
Mustsucceed:


s
SEE YOUNG MAN,SET ASIDE THEAT PRIDE AND BEG HER MAKE HER SEE SENSE THAT IT WAS HER ATTITUDE..let me tell u if that lady sincerely loved you and never cheated on you or that u hurt her more than she hurt you ,then I guarantee you ..karma will hit you .its either your marriage will never be a happy one or something else ..

Part on good terms .don't mind all those telling you to over look they won't be there when u start to face life hmmm...if that lady dies before u realise your mistake then you are on your own ..end it well ..we didn't ask you to go back to her we simply said end it on good terms ensure she forgives u
Guess u no read the pages self
He already begged,despite her cheating nature but guess what? She locked him out and said she won't ever forgive him....I still dey wonder what did he do to hurt her so badly when she should be the one begging? Abi someone wey cheat on u deserve to be begged again?
Re: My Ex- Girlfriend Harbours Bitterness Towards Me. by Bryan88(m): 10:51am On Jul 25, 2019
ITbomb:
If I were you, I would give her "the kind of victory that she wants" and move on (as long as it doesn't cost me anything) .
It's a small world bro.
you've said it all bro.

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