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Omo see brother x2
Brother wey mumu
Brother oponu

You marry harlot put house!!
She con they cheat on you

She go they Bleep her ex
You con they cry



Lemme let you in on somethings when it comes to a woman cheating there's no need for second chance, a woman actually won't resort to cheating as last esort except she's not in love with you or she's an hvrlot....


I don't care even if she's pregnant with jesus i would have left her the min i discover that she was cheating....

Come to think of it!!! Play close attention, most ladies that are caught cheating are always fucking their exs...

Says a lot about how some relationship end up spoiling marriages.

Age of sexual freedom they call it.

Kiezodumah:
Pls u can go on and on and on.. It only solidifies my point abt u.

I care less ... just fvck off. I don't do sissies

favour32:
Please,call her our wife
Until she gives you a "serious" sexually transmitted disease,you will call her my wife.
Your relationship with her is already past the elastic limit,so advise yourself.
For me personally,I only forgive once(infidelity related matter)!

that's the problem....

our thought processes are different...
A man can decide to cheat as a one time thing..... maybe alchy-induced indulgence ......

but once a woman decides to cheat and it wasn't forced on her....
my brother forget it!!!

and it's usually with exes or old crush....
once that dam (barrier) is destroyed, my brother na free flow be that oh....
takes the metaphysical to rebuild the dam!

You forgive and forgive but will she change? See any woman whos cheating on her man can decide to kill him cos of her promiscuous ways .. Run before its too late..

hurthubby:
My story is too long but let me try to summarize everything.

(I have been a member of Nairaland since 2009, but i just created this account to hide my identity)

I got married in the year 2000 and wedded in Dec 2001. Before the actual wedding, my wife got a job in Abuja, where she stayed for one year before our wedding and her joining me in Ibadan. During the cause of that year, i have a friend who stays in Abuja that knows my wife very well, who reported about my wife's infidelity to me then, though i ignored it.

In the year 2005, my wife confessed to me that she committed adultery after our wedding. (She was actually about 2 months pregnant in Feb 2002 when she sought my permission to visit her sister in Lagos. I never knew that she actually visited one of her old boy friends and spent 2 days with him).

I was down cast for some days when i heard her confession before i got back myself and forgave and forgot everything.

She later got a job which made her travel often, sometimes spending weeks outside but i never suspected anything even though her boss, (A lady) called me several times to complain about my wife's behavior, which is contrary to that of a married woman but i didn't take her serious because my wife always complained of the harshness of the woman. She later lost the job and joined me in my business, but always going to Lagos to buy jewelry, which she sells in Ibadan.

In the year 2014, i got some texts from a concerned fellow about how my wife have been sleeping with his neighbor for over 2 years in Lagos. It happens that the fellow knows us very well and didn't want to cause any problem in our marriage but the the acts became too much, he had to let me know. When i confronted my wife with all the evidence and some dates, she owned up and pleaded for forgiveness. She confessed that the affair started when she was working for the lady i mentioned earlier and anytime she travels to Lagos for her jewelry business, she always go and sleep with the man. She promised to turn a new leaf.

In the year 2018, i discovered that she had been communicating with the same man, to the extent that he even knew that my wife traveled to Owerri for a wedding. I discovered that they had reconnected back and chats always. When i confronted my wife, she said that they have nothing, just chats, which i made her to stop (I don't know if they actually stopped).

Before i married her, a man actually dumped her and married her friend, 6 years earlier. The next boy friend left her and traveled abroad for over 2 years, without any communication (before i met and married her) but unfortunately, it didn't work out for him and he came back and discovered that shes married. He started pestering her,pretending that he wanted to marry her, that he traveled to make money for both of them, but been that she's already married, she introduced the man to her cousin and he married the cousin.

Now the issue is that my wife is flirting with her former boyfriends, sending pornographic pictures and nude pictures with dirty chats. I used to monitor her chat but to save myself from HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE, i stopped checking her phone.

My wife even told the one that dumped her for her friend that she still loves him so much. She also tells the one that married her cousin the same thing and regrets that distance is so much between them. (The one that married the cousin is based in Kano while the one that married her friend is based in Abuja) Whenever i confront her, she will deny anything serious but when she sees my evidence, she will beg for forgiveness. My business is down and she provides about 70% of the house up keep (She is a teacher). We have 4 children, the eldest being 17. I have been trying to sell my house or land to reestablish my business but it has not been easy. My wife now does as she like, even having male friends here in Ibadan and keeps too much secret? What should i do.

I know this is long, but its just a summary. Forgive any typo.

You don't sound like a man,you are too weak

Just hope this story is made up. If not wahala dey o.

Op was even lucky enough to find out her cheating antics years ago.

First of all, run a paternity test on ALL your kids. Even those that "look like you" as they could belong to your brother or cousin.

Then decide what you want: early death after severe heartache or long life and peace of mind.

If you choose the former continue as you are. If the latter, you know what to do.

AreaFada2:
Just hope this story is made up. If not wahala dey o.

Op was even lucky enough to find out her cheating antics years ago.

First of all, run a paternity test on ALL your kids. Even those that "look like you" as they could belong to your brother or cousin.

Then decide what you want: early death after severe heartache or long life and peace of mind.

If you choose the former continue as you are. If the latter, you know what to do.

so the innocent kids suffer for the SINs of their father?

Yes, I meant father.....
if the father wasn't keen on being blind, I'm sure that woman wouldn't have thought about keeping 4 kids!

hurthubby:
Thanks. Her parents are dead, and capitalises on it all the time, telling me to remember that she's an orphan.

She is manipulating you. Emotional blackmail. Oga run very far. She nor Dey tire. Almost 20 years in marriage and she still sleeps around. I can imagine how people see you now. If few have summoned courage to tell you what about the others that just turned a blind eye. She may even be the cause of bad luck. Most times when married women sleeps around it brings bad luck to the husband. Your wife has never respected the sacrament of marriage and will never. Better chase her out before she drives you into depression.

Safitu:
The man is not under any spell. The reality is that a lot of men endure cheating from their wives contrary to what you read on social media. Do you know what marriage entails? It’s not just a ceremony, it’s a physical and spiritual bonding, a soul tie that becomes extremely difficult to get out of, especially after many years and reproducing together. It just takes a lot of strength and grace to walk out. A lot of men do not come out to confess the problems their wives put on them because it’s a huge dent to their ego. Just pray that you marry a virtuous woman because it’s not easy.

God bless you my sister. Kids advicing divorce every time there is a crack in marriage. Please get it straight, 80% of marriage you see has a problem but everybody tries to find a unique cushion effect to their unique problems.

there is no home again , both of you are just room partners and also if you want to rise again find something else to make you happy ,it’s vivid that your wife is the source of your sorrow and it’s takes a settled mind to do business.my advice for you now is to forget your wife for now and focus on your business that is the most important thing for now..the lord will surely open a new chapter for you

hurthubby:
My story is too long but let me try to summarize everything.

(I have been a member of Nairaland since 2009, but i just created this account to hide my identity)

I got married in the year 2000 and wedded in Dec 2001. Before the actual wedding, my wife got a job in Abuja, where she stayed for one year before our wedding and her joining me in Ibadan. During the cause of that year, i have a friend who stays in Abuja that knows my wife very well, who reported about my wife's infidelity to me then, though i ignored it.

In the year 2005, my wife confessed to me that she committed adultery after our wedding. (She was actually about 2 months pregnant in Feb 2002 when she sought my permission to visit her sister in Lagos. I never knew that she actually visited one of her old boy friends and spent 2 days with him).

I was down cast for some days when i heard her confession before i got back myself and forgave and forgot everything.

She later got a job which made her travel often, sometimes spending weeks outside but i never suspected anything even though her boss, (A lady) called me several times to complain about my wife's behavior, which is contrary to that of a married woman but i didn't take her serious because my wife always complained of the harshness of the woman. She later lost the job and joined me in my business, but always going to Lagos to buy jewelry, which she sells in Ibadan.

In the year 2014, i got some texts from a concerned fellow about how my wife have been sleeping with his neighbor for over 2 years in Lagos. It happens that the fellow knows us very well and didn't want to cause any problem in our marriage but the the acts became too much, he had to let me know. When i confronted my wife with all the evidence and some dates, she owned up and pleaded for forgiveness. She confessed that the affair started when she was working for the lady i mentioned earlier and anytime she travels to Lagos for her jewelry business, she always go and sleep with the man. She promised to turn a new leaf.

In the year 2018, i discovered that she had been communicating with the same man, to the extent that he even knew that my wife traveled to Owerri for a wedding. I discovered that they had reconnected back and chats always. When i confronted my wife, she said that they have nothing, just chats, which i made her to stop (I don't know if they actually stopped).

Before i married her, a man actually dumped her and married her friend, 6 years earlier. The next boy friend left her and traveled abroad for over 2 years, without any communication (before i met and married her) but unfortunately, it didn't work out for him and he came back and discovered that shes married. He started pestering her,pretending that he wanted to marry her, that he traveled to make money for both of them, but been that she's already married, she introduced the man to her cousin and he married the cousin.

Now the issue is that my wife is flirting with her former boyfriends, sending pornographic pictures and nude pictures with dirty chats. I used to monitor her chat but to save myself from HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE, i stopped checking her phone.

My wife even told the one that dumped her for her friend that she still loves him so much. She also tells the one that married her cousin the same thing and regrets that distance is so much between them. (The one that married the cousin is based in Kano while the one that married her friend is based in Abuja) Whenever i confront her, she will deny anything serious but when she sees my evidence, she will beg for forgiveness. My business is down and she provides about 70% of the house up keep (She is a teacher). We have 4 children, the eldest being 17. I have been trying to sell my house or land to reestablish my business but it has not been easy. My wife now does as she like, even having male friends here in Ibadan and keeps too much secret? What should i do.

I know this is long, but its just a summary. Forgive any typo.

This man is a FOOL period. Surprisingly there are people this gullible in our planet. Any female in this forum supporting the wife or asking him to endure is as dirty as the wife. The risk involve is too much. Just imagine this man is your brother.

crackhouse:
If I catch my wife cheating I will simply design her with cutlass and push her back to her father's house to nurse her wounds if she survives it.

bro just pray she doesn't cheat, designing her with Cutlass won't change the deed that has already been done

obekediamondfuto:
so the innocent kids suffer for the SINs of their father?

Yes, I meant father.....
if the father wasn't keen on being blind, I'm sure that woman wouldn't have thought about keeping 4 kids!

Well, should they all turn out not to be his, she will have to locate their father or fathers. The bad luck of having a donatus for a mum.

In the African system, only blood kinship matters. The kids will search for their father sooner or later. No matter how nicely he treated them growing up.

As for the man, love and fear of the unknown can make "some" people mumu and indecisive. But his capacity to do the ostrich is quite gargantuan.

All of a relative's kids were not his. Despite giving his young wife cars and a very nice life. He died suddenly not long after finding out that the kids he loved so much were not his.

Remember that over 35% of firstborn kids (many of those "I dey pregnant, make we marry quick" cases) and up to 25% of all kids belong to another man outside.

Embassy re-union visa DNA tests, bone marrow donation, genetic diseases tests or just due to mere suspicion have revealed many things.

hurthubby:
My story is too long but let me try to summarize everything.

(I have been a member of Nairaland since 2009, but i just created this account to hide my identity)

I got married in the year 2000 and wedded in Dec 2001. Before the actual wedding, my wife got a job in Abuja, where she stayed for one year before our wedding and her joining me in Ibadan. During the cause of that year, i have a friend who stays in Abuja that knows my wife very well, who reported about my wife's infidelity to me then, though i ignored it.

In the year 2005, my wife confessed to me that she committed adultery after our wedding. (She was actually about 2 months pregnant in Feb 2002 when she sought my permission to visit her sister in Lagos. I never knew that she actually visited one of her old boy friends and spent 2 days with him).

I was down cast for some days when i heard her confession before i got back myself and forgave and forgot everything.

She later got a job which made her travel often, sometimes spending weeks outside but i never suspected anything even though her boss, (A lady) called me several times to complain about my wife's behavior, which is contrary to that of a married woman but i didn't take her serious because my wife always complained of the harshness of the woman. She later lost the job and joined me in my business, but always going to Lagos to buy jewelry, which she sells in Ibadan.

In the year 2014, i got some texts from a concerned fellow about how my wife have been sleeping with his neighbor for over 2 years in Lagos. It happens that the fellow knows us very well and didn't want to cause any problem in our marriage but the the acts became too much, he had to let me know. When i confronted my wife with all the evidence and some dates, she owned up and pleaded for forgiveness. She confessed that the affair started when she was working for the lady i mentioned earlier and anytime she travels to Lagos for her jewelry business, she always go and sleep with the man. She promised to turn a new leaf.

In the year 2018, i discovered that she had been communicating with the same man, to the extent that he even knew that my wife traveled to Owerri for a wedding. I discovered that they had reconnected back and chats always. When i confronted my wife, she said that they have nothing, just chats, which i made her to stop (I don't know if they actually stopped).

Before i married her, a man actually dumped her and married her friend, 6 years earlier. The next boy friend left her and traveled abroad for over 2 years, without any communication (before i met and married her) but unfortunately, it didn't work out for him and he came back and discovered that shes married. He started pestering her,pretending that he wanted to marry her, that he traveled to make money for both of them, but been that she's already married, she introduced the man to her cousin and he married the cousin.

Now the issue is that my wife is flirting with her former boyfriends, sending pornographic pictures and nude pictures with dirty chats. I used to monitor her chat but to save myself from HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE, i stopped checking her phone.

My wife even told the one that dumped her for her friend that she still loves him so much. She also tells the one that married her cousin the same thing and regrets that distance is so much between them. (The one that married the cousin is based in Kano while the one that married her friend is based in Abuja) Whenever i confront her, she will deny anything serious but when she sees my evidence, she will beg for forgiveness. My business is down and she provides about 70% of the house up keep (She is a teacher). We have 4 children, the eldest being 17. I have been trying to sell my house or land to reestablish my business but it has not been easy. My wife now does as she like, even having male friends here in Ibadan and keeps too much secret? What should i do.

I know this is long, but its just a summary. Forgive any typo.

Sorry
Sorry to ask, are you for real or this is just a fiction? If it's real, then you are a compound FOOL!

Yupng:
This man is a FOOL period. Surprisingly there are people this gullible in our planet. Any female in this forum supporting the wife or asking him to endure is as dirty as the wife. The risk involve is too much. Just imagine this man is your brother.

Na slap I go take reset him brain!

AreaFada2:
Well, should they all turn out not to be his, she will have to locate their father or fathers. The bad luck of having a donatus for a mum.

In the African system, only blood kinship matters. The kids will search for their father sooner or later. No matter how nicely he treated them growing up.

As for the man, love and fear of the unknown can make "some" people mumu and indecisive. But his capacity to do the ostrich is quite gargantuan.

All of a relative's kids were not his. Despite giving his young wife cars and a very nice life. He died suddenly not long after finding out that the kids he loved so much were not his.

Remember that over 35% of firstborn kids (many of those "I dey pregnant, make we marry quick" cases) and up to 25% of all kids belong to another man outside.

Embassy re-union visa DNA tests, bone marrow donation, genetic diseases tests or just due to mere suspicion have revealed many things.

I totally concur, but it was not like this before....

where did we go wrong?

Oga sharperly run go do DNA test for those childten first, I bet the first born is not yours.

obekediamondfuto:
I totally concur, but it was not like this before....

where did we go wrong?

It seems everywhere. With moral decay and money worship comes anything.

goooze:
God bless you my sister. Kids advicing divorce every time there is a crack in marriage. Please get it straight, 80% of marriage you see has a problem but everybody tries to find a unique cushion effect to their unique problems.

You point is not totally inline with hers....

problem yes but infidelity related problems?
I doubt that MANY men will know and still keep quiet.... because the fact that they know means 20other people know and that in itself is a problem!

Most men are like me, immediately the wife get to know that we have authentic Intel....

First she'll relocate to her village and try to do damage control from there!
which will end up being futile!


I'm not saying she should and I'm also not saying she shouldn't but there is a definite response to the former !

hurthubby:
My story is too long but let me try to summarize everything.

(I have been a member of Nairaland since 2009, but i just created this account to hide my identity)

I got married in the year 2000 and wedded in Dec 2001. Before the actual wedding, my wife got a job in Abuja, where she stayed for one year before our wedding and her joining me in Ibadan. During the cause of that year, i have a friend who stays in Abuja that knows my wife very well, who reported about my wife's infidelity to me then, though i ignored it.

In the year 2005, my wife confessed to me that she committed adultery after our wedding. (She was actually about 2 months pregnant in Feb 2002 when she sought my permission to visit her sister in Lagos. I never knew that she actually visited one of her old boy friends and spent 2 days with him).

I was down cast for some days when i heard her confession before i got back myself and forgave and forgot everything.

She later got a job which made her travel often, sometimes spending weeks outside but i never suspected anything even though her boss, (A lady) called me several times to complain about my wife's behavior, which is contrary to that of a married woman but i didn't take her serious because my wife always complained of the harshness of the woman. She later lost the job and joined me in my business, but always going to Lagos to buy jewelry, which she sells in Ibadan.

In the year 2014, i got some texts from a concerned fellow about how my wife have been sleeping with his neighbor for over 2 years in Lagos. It happens that the fellow knows us very well and didn't want to cause any problem in our marriage but the the acts became too much, he had to let me know. When i confronted my wife with all the evidence and some dates, she owned up and pleaded for forgiveness. She confessed that the affair started when she was working for the lady i mentioned earlier and anytime she travels to Lagos for her jewelry business, she always go and sleep with the man. She promised to turn a new leaf.

In the year 2018, i discovered that she had been communicating with the same man, to the extent that he even knew that my wife traveled to Owerri for a wedding. I discovered that they had reconnected back and chats always. When i confronted my wife, she said that they have nothing, just chats, which i made her to stop (I don't know if they actually stopped).

Before i married her, a man actually dumped her and married her friend, 6 years earlier. The next boy friend left her and traveled abroad for over 2 years, without any communication (before i met and married her) but unfortunately, it didn't work out for him and he came back and discovered that shes married. He started pestering her,pretending that he wanted to marry her, that he traveled to make money for both of them, but been that she's already married, she introduced the man to her cousin and he married the cousin.

Now the issue is that my wife is flirting with her former boyfriends, sending pornographic pictures and nude pictures with dirty chats. I used to monitor her chat but to save myself from HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE, i stopped checking her phone.

My wife even told the one that dumped her for her friend that she still loves him so much. She also tells the one that married her cousin the same thing and regrets that distance is so much between them. (The one that married the cousin is based in Kano while the one that married her friend is based in Abuja) Whenever i confront her, she will deny anything serious but when she sees my evidence, she will beg for forgiveness. My business is down and she provides about 70% of the house up keep (She is a teacher). We have 4 children, the eldest being 17. I have been trying to sell my house or land to reestablish my business but it has not been easy. My wife now does as she like, even having male friends here in Ibadan and keeps too much secret? What should i do.

I know this is long, but its just a summary. Forgive any typo.

first, I am almost 100% sure that all the children, if not all, are NOT yours. Try secret paternity test.

second, if you don't cut her loose, things will get worse.

Yupng:
This man is a FOOL period. Surprisingly there are people this gullible in our planet. Any female in this forum supporting the wife or asking him to endure is as dirty as the wife. The risk involve is too much. Just imagine this man is your brother.

most of them have either done it, currently doing it or contemplating it.... so right now, such empathy is far fetched

Im sorry o but go and do a DNA for all the kids. If u dont have money, go and meet church and beg them and tell them ur story. Those kids may not be yours.

lol, ur wife na champion. Chaii, it is a pity u have been sharing ur wife with other men for these years to the point that someone had to tell u that it was too much. lol

Oga, ur case has no solution. U better divorce that woman before she kills u or dash u disease. U are a weak man. Nonsense.

So sorry man but with all you just said your wife can't stop cheating truth be told you have to part ways with her, for a married woman to be sleeping around with several men it's really not good it causes so many bad things in the family from hard luck to business failure but I am not saying her infidelity is the cause of your business low turn over but it might also be the cause man..... You have to man up & quit the marriage give her space to abit if she wants the marriage am sure she would change but for the idea of selling your land or house to finance your business that's laughable pls don't do it you might end up regretting it... I wish you the best most woman don't value soft men...... You have to man up

Born2Breed:
She is planning your death...

I'm wondering why Op still addressing this gongolo as his wife.

obekediamondfuto:
that's the problem....

our thought processes are different...
A man can decide to cheat as a one time thing..... maybe alchy-induced indulgence ......

but once a woman decides to cheat and it wasn't forced on her....
my brother forget it!!!

and it's usually with exes or old crush....
once that dam (barrier) is destroyed, my brother na free flow be that oh....
takes the metaphysical to rebuild the dam!

My brother,
you are absolutely correct.

hurthubby:
Your language is rude and crude. You are married for 7 years only. Wait till you get to over 19 years of marriage with teen children before you know that it is another kettle of fish. Thanks anyway

You are very mature, bros. Make I call you boss sef.
By God's grace, whatever you are experiencing shall pass and you will prevail in the end.
You should actively consider divorcing your wife when the children are grown enough and careful about who you sleep with at home and outside for STDs and HIV/AIDS are very real.

Your wife is an unrepentant chronic cheat that will not change even after many open confrontations in 19 years.

If you don't pull out of the union, I am afraid, you might contract HIV or one of her envious boy friends might get rid of you.

In your case, you currently do not have money to properly leave and maintain the respect of your children.

Have you stopped to think that all the time you're spending thinking about her whereabouts is robbing your brain of cells to find money?

How can a teacher be travelling all around the place?

Could you move or do Uber or something to augment your income in the meantime?

JudgeOGBUNABALI:
Get lost pls. Quit my mention while at it.

D respect dey shack U ba? If you really treasure respect. You would mind your English. Just this little banter, you're bleeping red. How unfortunate. You can't give what you demand. Litmus test. Failed... and you can kill for respect. Hahahahahaha

I can't read this trash finish
It's annoying seeing men act like some sort of dumb ass.What kind of stupid love is that?