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Am beginning to wonder if something is wrong with me as I have become some how unemotional and insensitive about things people hold in high esteem.
Am the kind of partner who is not that "caring" in relationship, am not abusive or anything close but I don't just commit as expected even if I wish my partner well.
When a Lady tells me its over ,my response will just be OK good luck, and most later call back to tell me its was just a test.
When a lady cheat on me I don't go mad or complain instead the love and feelings just died, as I strongly feel once a cheat remain a cheat.
The philosophy behind my attitude is that, there is nothing that cannot be lost no matter how precious.
I strongly feel I should not spend on a lady heavily when other guys are bleeping her too, is this attitude right?
One thing I realise about most ladies is that long term planning does work on them, what works is instant care in form of hair, cloths, cream and etc, this are important for sure but not that important.
Saving to raise at least 300k for my girl to start up something, though I have not discuss it with her, but only telling her to save from her salary of 25k even if its 10k monthly just to test her saving habit she still couldn't do that even after promising she could more than that, I believe she can't manage her finance properly she will surely fail to handle a business ass well.
Am 31 years old and feel the need to be in a relationship that can lead to marriage but we are world apart.
So am about to dump her and move on I don't know how to take shit for too long. She is single mother of one.

[color=#1980BC] Your indifference to feminine manipulations could be as a result of maturity settling into your psyche...Your immunity has made you focus on your priorities. Unfortunately one of your priorities is not only warped but has turned into a distraction of sorts...Are you aware of the intricacies getting down with a single mother? the emotional consequences and opportunity costs?So she offers up the ass,kept her game tight to hook you but is that enough to trade your best years for someone with much pussy mileage? Ok if a lady has got some baggage the least she can do is to bring some sort of resourcefulness or utility into the relationship[/color][color=#1980BC]. Something you can hang your coat on....something you can rely on in the coming uncertain years..Could it be she's business savvy? A creative manager of resources or even a partner in bread winning? Does she have her own spot? I could say there are so many fishes in the sea with better opportunities,potentials and much less baggage to be bothered by one single mum but if your guts tell you to go ahead...Well, something must always kill a man.[/color]

Keep it going bruh. Being unemotional is the power a real man need to maintain his relationship/marriage. But this does not mean you have to fail in your responsibilities to her as her boyfriend or husband.

If she has everything you want in a lady and you love her, marry her. Dont dump her because she is a single mother.

Don't worry when ubunja and co comes, they will tell you to dump her.

That's what you want to hear right?

OP im just like you , i dont really put my whole heart in a relationship if they mess up im moving on . life is too short ,

Ask her how much she has saved from her salary

nigeriagospel:
Am beginning to wonder if something is wrong with me as I have become some how unemotional and insensitive about things people hold in high esteem.
Am the kind of partner who is not that "caring" in relationship, am not abusive or anything close but I don't just commit as expected even if I wish my partner well.
When a Lady tells me its over ,my response will just be OK good luck, and most later call back to tell me its was just a test.
When a lady cheat on me I don't go mad or complain instead the love and feelings just died, as I strongly feel once a cheat remain a cheat.
The philosophy behind my attitude is that, there is nothing that cannot be lost no matter how precious.
I strongly feel I should not spend on a lady heavily when other guys are bleeping her too, is this attitude right?
One thing I realise about most ladies is that long term planning does work on them, what works is instant care in form of hair, cloths, cream and etc, this are important for sure but not that important.
Saving to raise at least 300k for my girl to start up something, though I have not discuss it with her, but only telling her to save from her salary of 25k even if its 10k monthly just to test her saving habit she still couldn't do that even after promising she could more than that, I believe she can't manage her finance properly she will surely fail to handle a business ass well.
Am 31 years old and feel the need to be in a relationship that can lead to marriage but we are world apart.
So am about to dump her and move on I don't know how to take shit for too long. She is single mother of one.

When a Lady tells me its over ,my response will just be OK good luck, and most later call back to tell me its was just a test.

Correct guy!

nigeriagospel:
Am beginning to wonder if something is wrong with me as I have become some how unemotional and insensitive about things people hold in high esteem.
Am the kind of partner who is not that "caring" in relationship, am not abusive or anything close but I don't just commit as expected even if I wish my partner well.
When a Lady tells me its over ,my response will just be OK good luck, and most later call back to tell me its was just a test.
When a lady cheat on me I don't go mad or complain instead the love and feelings just died, as I strongly feel once a cheat remain a cheat.
The philosophy behind my attitude is that, there is nothing that cannot be lost no matter how precious.
I strongly feel I should not spend on a lady heavily when other guys are bleeping her too, is this attitude right?
One thing I realise about most ladies is that long term planning does work on them, what works is instant care in form of hair, cloths, cream and etc, this are important for sure but not that important.
Saving to raise at least 300k for my girl to start up something, though I have not discuss it with her, but only telling her to save from her salary of 25k even if its 10k monthly just to test her saving habit she still couldn't do that even after promising she could more than that, I believe she can't manage her finance properly she will surely fail to handle a business ass well.
Am 31 years old and feel the need to be in a relationship that can lead to marriage but we are world apart.
So am about to dump her and move on I don't know how to take shit for too long. She is single mother of one.

My guy, move on with your life.
You have already made up your mind.

nigeriagospel:
Am beginning to wonder if something is wrong with me as I have become some how unemotional and insensitive about things people hold in high esteem.
Am the kind of partner who is not that "caring" in relationship, am not abusive or anything close but I don't just commit as expected even if I wish my partner well.
When a Lady tells me its over ,my response will just be OK good luck, and most later call back to tell me its was just a test.
When a lady cheat on me I don't go mad or complain instead the love and feelings just died, as I strongly feel once a cheat remain a cheat.
The philosophy behind my attitude is that, there is nothing that cannot be lost no matter how precious.
I strongly feel I should not spend on a lady heavily when other guys are bleeping her too, is this attitude right?
One thing I realise about most ladies is that long term planning does work on them, what works is instant care in form of hair, cloths, cream and etc, this are important for sure but not that important.
Saving to raise at least 300k for my girl to start up something, though I have not discuss it with her, but only telling her to save from her salary of 25k even if its 10k monthly just to test her saving habit she still couldn't do that even after promising she could more than that, I believe she can't manage her finance properly she will surely fail to handle a business ass well.
Am 31 years old and feel the need to be in a relationship that can lead to marriage but we are world apart.
So am about to dump her and move on I don't know how to take shit for too long. She is single mother of one.

Never burden yourself with Another man's responsibility.

Make Oga Chook Mouth First. . ./ But In All Honesty, Ur Level Of Handling Some Emotion Is Highly Commendable_ Haven Seen All The Opinions Here, Take Ur Stand As A Man, because Na Only U Know Where It Pinches Most!