To the single guyz...marry only ladies that want to marry..dont cut a flexing lady's excapade short with marriage cuz ur lured by their looks nd u can fund marriage

A desirous marriage lady nd that described above are not same thing

truthsayer009:
OP, if i get married and have what you have right now I would totally be happy.

10 years of marriage and your wife still looks really good to 100% is rare. You need to ask God for forgiveness because you dont deserve what you have.

Even if your wife wants to play around or go back in shape, it should motivate you to join her in the Gym, get yourself in shape too. Go out with her to events, look like a power couple.

You guys always admire Beyonce when you see her. You think it was by Juju she maintained her figure after 2 kids, imagine if she was with Men like you?

What makes you think she doesnt want to take care of your children.

why don't you join her in looking good?

Be careful what you wish for

@op before you take any drastic action get evidence she might not be cheating even if she's doing all u say she is.

Samolaogun:
So I got married to my wife 10 years ago. She was 24 at the time and now we are blessed with 2 kids. My wife has always been one of those self centred all about her looks type of person but I just ignored it and saw the good side of it. After two kids and at 34 my wife still looks very good, I guess that’s one of the perks of marrying young.

But one thing I noticed is that when she was pregnant with our first son all she ever talked about from day one was getting back in shape and losing weight, she was never excited about being a mother or bringing life into the world. Well She’s maintained her shape and when you look at her you will think she’s 25/26. I’m grateful for that however

Now the downside of this is that she gets a lot of Male attention which she entertains and I’m not comfortable with. On her instagram she’s following a lot of males which I’m not comfortable with.

I addressed it to her and she complains I’m being paranoid that they are school friends. When she goes out with her friends she’s always over dressing and looking seductive almost like a single lady looking for toasters.

She’s that over friendly type of woman, always on her phone, likes to do too much shakara and it’s just starting to irritate me. I checked her phone last week and theres one guy that keeps on addressing her as ‘love’. I’ve not addressed it to her yet because I’m waiting to catch her red handed so she will not be able to come up with any flimsy excuse.

One day when her and her friends came to my house to meet up for a birthday party, they all dressed like a bunch of ashewos. The following day we got into a huge argument because I warned her to never try that again.

She is still stubborn and she hasn’t changed. Im fed up of her attitude I’m thinking of separating from this woman before she gives me high blood pressure. She’s not a homely wife at all. All she wanna do is go out, to even attend to the kids effectively is now becoming a problem. I’m tired.

Bros, i understand... this stuff u are complaining of does happen to some ladies who feel their husband is over dressing, etc....

I think one way to maybe counter this feeling is to ensure you step up your game in za ozza room, then start dressing to kill too ....use perfumes if u don't ... get some good jeans materials and polo tops ... buy good sunshades and live your life but don't cheat ....

She will pay attention to you once she notices that ... and who knows, she might be angry with u for not dressing to kill, don't u think?

I'm talking from experiences of other people in marriage ....

Ohh, and pls, don't feel insecure ... unless she ain't giving u none in za ozza room ... be cool man ...

truthsayer009:
OP, if i get married and have what you have right now I would totally be happy.

10 years of marriage and your wife still looks really good to 100% is rare. You need to ask God for forgiveness because you dont deserve what you have.

Even if your wife wants to play around or go back in shape, it should motivate you to join her in the Gym, get yourself in shape too. Go out with her to events, look like a power couple.

You guys always admire Beyonce when you see her. You think it was by Juju she maintained her figure after 2 kids, imagine if she was with Men like you?

What makes you think she doesnt want to take care of your children.

why don't you join her in looking good?

Keep lying to yourself,there is a difference between dressing for your man and dressing for attention.

I'm sure you will be cool when you see another guy calling your wife LOVE and she doesn't even do anything to stop him from doing so. She pay less attention to the kids because she loves to go out with friends.

Keep lying to yourself,na your type dey later beat nonsense comot for woman body.

Dear OP, your wife is going through "Midlife Crisis". You married her quite early and she hadn't discovered herself then.

She just did and I am sure almost everything in her is different.

Please call her attention to this and probably try to find out if she still loves you because it's possible you are not even her type anymore.

If she still does love you, this phase will pass. It will take some time but it will be over.

Please do not divorce her.

Just be more aware.

Does this help you sleep

AkupeMBANO:

we want you to shut the hell up!!!

It makes sense

ericsmith:



limitations are;
1. a married woman shuldnt be dressing like tiwa savage in public. whatever sexy killer wears you av , wear dem to turn ur hubby on indoor. why should u turn guys on outside.

2. socializing : weytin married woman dey find on baddo, tinder e.t.c, hanging out alone @bar or club ,what is the essence of meeting more guys & xchanging number when you're married, even business clients they backfire not to talk flirting contacts.

3.i don't expect a married woman to keep a league of single female friends becos women count on there friends for advice n those ones will only influence her negatively.
Everything action a woman exhibits tells are status, if she available or not

Sister I was trolling, I get what the man is saying

virago:


Being a lady doesn't mean I'll not say the truth , there's a line between class and crass. It's not difficult seeing this line , saying a lady should dress classy doesn't involve dressing like a hoe. And for a married lady and mother to always have the urge to go clubbing is wrong in all aspects

Mid life crisis at 34? When I met her she was already driving, she was working, she knew herself well. She is just stubborn and she is tired of being a wife and mother, and I will grant her her wishes.

tendareo:
Dear OP, your wife is going through "Midlife Crisis". You married her quite early and she hadn't discovered herself then.

She just did and I am sure almost everything in her is different.

Please call her attention to this and probably try to find out if she still loves you because it's possible you are not even her type anymore.

If she still does love you, this phase will pass. It will take some time but it will be over.

Please do not divorce her.

Just be more aware.

Focusmind:
Op, how good are you in bed? No matter how slutty or stubborn she behaves or spend time with her friends, if you are still "Rocky" and gives her satisfaction, she wont cheat. But she will continue to give people attention and flirt with her friends without actually cheating on you except if she is not getting sexual satisfaction.

Don't worry your self - As someone said, start slaying yourself and start looking good. Let those slay queen in your neighborhood start admiring you. Her senses would come back

Go and sleep. You that aren't good self are giving advice. Haven't u seen a gf that u have turned to a sex slave with different styles that still cheats and u end up leaving her? You can't hold these species with bang alone, you need other inner attributes to compliment.
Peace!!!

excessmon:
What do you know? As responsibilities never come your way na

Your head correct, wella...some of these guys are still eating from their mothers pot.

tendareo:
Dear OP, your wife is going through "Midlife Crisis". You married her quite early and she hadn't discovered herself then.

She just did and I am sure almost everything in her is different.

Please call her attention to this and probably try to find out if she still loves you because it's possible you are not even her type anymore.

If she still does love you, this phase will pass. It will take some time but it will be over.

Please do not divorce her.

Just be more aware.

Oga, did you even read the texts at all. He has spoken to her in several times.

sinaj:
Lwkmd

Isnt this what some men are praying for? To get a wife that will remain sexy and goodlooking after child birth.
If it was the opposite you would have still opened a thread too.
One man meat is another's poison sha

Oga work on your insecurities jore or better still wait till you catch her redhanded before you give yourself hbp.

So you'll like a husband that doesn't have time for the kids and you self abi?

AreaFada2:


Women mostly see what they want to see. In any case having boyfriends outside while married is now common. So they are just covering up their game with "the guy is insecure" yarn.

I wonder how his "insecurity" turned her into a poor mother to her kids.

Spot on! Good talk.

[quote author=Samolaogun post=82470588]So I got married to my wife 10 years ago. She was 24 at the time and now we are blessed with 2 kids. My wife has always been one of those self centred all about her looks type of person but I just ignored it and saw the good side of it. After two kids and at 34 my wife still looks very good, I guess that’s one of the perks of marrying young.

But one thing I noticed is that when she was pregnant with our first son all she ever talked about from day one was getting back in shape and losing weight, she was never excited about being a mother or bringing life into the world. Well She’s maintained her shape and when you look at her you will think she’s 25/26. I’m grateful for that however

Now the downside of this is that she gets a lot of Male attention which she entertains and I’m not comfortable with. On her instagram she’s following a lot of males which I’m not comfortable with.

I addressed it to her and she complains I’m being paranoid that they are school friends. When she goes out with her friends she’s always over dressing and looking seductive almost like a single lady looking for toasters.

She’s that over friendly type of woman, always on her phone, likes to do too much shakara and it’s just starting to irritate me. I checked her phone last week and theres one guy that keeps on addressing her as ‘love’. I’ve not addressed it to her yet because I’m waiting to catch her red handed so she will not be able to come up with any flimsy excuse.

One day when her and her friends came to my house to meet up for a birthday party, they all dressed like a bunch of ashewos. The following day we got into a huge argument because I warned her to never try that again.

She is still stubborn and she hasn’t changed. Im fed up of her attitude I’m thinking of separating from this woman before she gives me high blood pressure. She’s not a homely wife at all. All she wanna do is go out, to even attend to the kids effectively is now becoming a problem. I’m tired. [/quote











Better dont listen to anyones advise to divorce.

Marriage is not about divorcing.
You have to endure.


I know of a couple that are going to 60 years in Marriage.
The woman lived with the man being a cheat.
But she never backed out.
She fought For her home even when slay queens wanted to ruin It.

If You are thinking about divorce It shows your immatured.
And consider your children.
Children from broken homes suffer a lot.

If You think she goes to party.
Then try to attend with her.
You are the one being boring in the relationship.
The more You go in a Marriage the more You spice up things.

I know also of a couple every saturday And sunday they go to the bar to chill.
And during some special occassions they go to the club.
Why dont You start being free.


For the text messages its normal.
Most women Just love when some unknown guy calls them sweet names espically If your not used to that.
But If You think she is cheating.
Talk to her And to the elders in her family.
Most women in her case do this For fun not actually to cheat
Because from your post It seems your not this kind of social man.
And its not cool.


Even my dad tooo isnt social.
And that some of the problems my mum is facing.
He doesnt go to party. I mean wedding parties, birthday parties, And other stuffs.


That Why mum tells us to marry a social man.
Because a man that is social spices the home And It becomes Better If the woman is tooo.
You end up spicing your sex life, You spice up your romance, And even in the family You would want the best For them.
And when You dress You become a killer in fashion.

So thats my point.
But my advice is that dont divorce
It will only make things worst.
Nothing is peaceful or good about separating.
Even now You have kids.
If You do this.
Your children will never respect You.

You can try And look For other ways to sought the Marriage out.
Besides only a wise man.
Endures to the end.
And only a real man knows how to make the home shake.

So think wise
Bye. ]

donstan18:
This is insecurity at its peak since you're yet to catch her.

Or maybe, just maybe, you have very good reason to think and feel the way you are feeling because there are some flirty activities that is expected of a married Nigerian to quit or reduce.


But in my opinion bruv, I'll advice you to reduce the way you stalk her phone and life and focus on how to train your kids, before you die of HBP, because you never complained of her inability to contribute on the welfare of your kids, you are just uncomfortable with her Slaying life . Stop stalking her so that you don't find out what you've been longing to see. If possible; Start slaying too.

Not all women are ready to turn to an old mgbeke because of marriage, some like looking good and you should be happy you have one because they are few.

everybody is innocent until you catch am

Just carry your cross bro.

islandmoon:
Op! I understood you well, she's got her eyes outside and you are making her confident with your jealous attitudes, you will end up being a single father if you follow some people's advice here, she's about to ruin her home, He he he he! reduce her slay rating, load her with twin, pet her and over pamper her till she's 7 months pregnant , then change mode, stop communication, women don't value men they understood, this is the best way to switch shoes with her, start clubbing and she will be the one to run to your pastor doing the worrying, retire her with pregnancy, prove her wrong , clear her doubt using sense.

Forget that thing oga. I know someone like this his wife, she will abort the pregnancy.

mysticgal:


My dear I don tire for men,

What do you guys want?

What men want is simple : RESPECT

Unfortunately, many women and recently, a great many Nigerian women confuse this with possessiveness or a man feeling insecure. No.

Naturally, a man will always guard what's his.
I'm not saying by guarding, the wife becomes his slave. No.

Once married, the wife becomes a representation of the man's values by way of how she conducts herself.
It's that simple.

These are things the lady should come to terms with before they jump into the marriage.
You must ask yourself, am i ready to live by his ways 70% and not, the man living by your own rules.

He's the man of the house and the Bible states he's the head of the home.

Nowadays, girls cunningly trick guys into marriage with that smokescreen of submission on all fronts, only to dump it once they are married and renew their worldly frivolities to the dismay of the man.

Some men can live with that.
Most can't...and one can't blame them.

mysticgal:
Sister I was trolling, I get what the man is saying

Oh ok

mysticgal:
Sister I was trolling, I get what the man is saying

someone went beyond his ego and pride as a man to seek help relating to his marriage which is almost hitting the rocks and u see it as as avenue to troll, karma still exists oo, better keep quiet if u don't have any reasonable contribution to make.

madjune:


What men want is simple : RESPECT

Unfortunately, many women and recently, a great many Nigerian women confuse this with possessiveness or a man feeling insecure. No.

Naturally, a man will always guard what's his.
I'm not saying by guarding, the wife becomes his slave. No.

Once married, the wife becomes a representation of the man's values by way of how she conducts herself.
It's that simple.

These are things the lady should come to terms with before they jump into the marriage.
You must ask yourself, am i ready to live by his ways 70% and not, the man living by your own rules.

He's the man of the house and the Bible states he's the head of the home.

Nowadays, girls cunningly trick guys into marriage with that smokescreen of submission on all fronts, only to dump it once they are married and renew their worldly frivolities to the dismay of the man.

Some men can live with that.
Most can't...and one can't blame them.

Unfortunately, I agree with you

Sunnyobums:

someone went beyond his ego and pride as a man to seek help relating to his marriage which is almost hitting the rocks and u see it as as avenue to troll, karma still exists oo, better keep quiet if u don't have any reasonable contribution to make.

Okay

mysticgal:
Okay

One love

Skmoda360:

She might be though as per cheating ...

Exactly, I don't want to jump to conclusions but women that usually loves seeking attention outside are usually not faithful, my opinion though.

Hire a P.I

U might be true but be careful with hw u handle it, and if u try to stop her and she refuse, just open up to her that if it continue u will divorce her and be serious then see the reaction.

I am tired of women and their conclusion of insecurity for a man who is trying to guide his wife from going astray and making her be a responsible wife. When a woman begin to abandon her home and children for looking good and parties then so many things is going or has gone wrong.

Dear Op, if your assertions are true[color=#990000][/color], just calm down and allow her do whatever she likes and be a good FBI agent. And please dont try to play games of getting back at her otherwise you won't get her, that's how the game works. Ignore her and concentrate on taking care of the children.

Others please let's be guided. "Agbo ejo enikan da, agba osika ni" meaning "he who judges based on the complaints of a party without listening to the other party is wicked"

I rest my case.

Ire oooo

Samolaogun:
The partying started HEAVILY around last year. She is FOND of leaving the children with her mum.

Only a bad mum will let her married daughter leave her kids with her and go partying on a HEAVILY REGULAR basis.

Samolaogun:
So I got married to my wife 10 years ago. She was 24 at the time and now we are blessed with 2 kids. My wife has always been one of those self centred all about her looks type of person but I just ignored it and saw the good side of it. After two kids and at 34 my wife still looks very good, I guess that’s one of the perks of marrying young.

But one thing I noticed is that when she was pregnant with our first son all she ever talked about from day one was getting back in shape and losing weight, she was never excited about being a mother or bringing life into the world. Well She’s maintained her shape and when you look at her you will think she’s 25/26. I’m grateful for that however

Now the downside of this is that she gets a lot of Male attention which she entertains and I’m not comfortable with. On her instagram she’s following a lot of males which I’m not comfortable with.

I addressed it to her and she complains I’m being paranoid that they are school friends. When she goes out with her friends she’s always over dressing and looking seductive almost like a single lady looking for toasters.

She’s that over friendly type of woman, always on her phone, likes to do too much shakara and it’s just starting to irritate me. I checked her phone last week and theres one guy that keeps on addressing her as ‘love’. I’ve not addressed it to her yet because I’m waiting to catch her red handed so she will not be able to come up with any flimsy excuse.

One day when her and her friends came to my house to meet up for a birthday party, they all dressed like a bunch of ashewos. The following day we got into a huge argument because I warned her to never try that again.

She is still stubborn and she hasn’t changed. Im fed up of her attitude I’m thinking of separating from this woman before she gives me high blood pressure. She’s not a homely wife at all. All she wanna do is go out, to even attend to the kids effectively is now becoming a problem. I’m tired.

Go on your knees and pray. The heart of a queen is in God's hand. Stop going through her phone and look good, dress sexy. Do your manly duties. Also don't forget to watch war room.

donstan18:
This is insecurity at its peak since you're yet to catch her.

Or maybe, just maybe, you have very good reason to think and feel the way you are feeling because there are some flirty activities that is expected of a married Nigerian to quit or reduce.


But in my opinion bruv, I'll advice you to reduce the way you stalk her phone and life and focus on how to train your kids, before you die of HBP, because you never complained of her inability to contribute on the welfare of your kids, you are just uncomfortable with her Slaying life . Stop stalking her so that you don't find out what you've been longing to see. If possible; Start slaying too.

Not all women are ready to turn to an old mgbeke because of marriage, some like looking good and you should be happy you have one because they are few.

What are you talking about.. Will you be comfortable with such a woman?? Oh I get it, I don't need to ask, you're in the same category. Your type will cry fowl if your brother happens to marry this kind of woman..
Honestly you're not being fair to the poster at all...