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Re: I’m Suspecting My Wife by Ilekokonit: 9:24pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
Samolaogun: Ponder this :- Once they start, they never stop. Once your wife starts disrespecting you, she will never stop and the same woman who cleans your shoe today will attack you tomorrow 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I’m Suspecting My Wife by baby124: 9:26pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
OP, You are almost 10yrs older than your wife. At the age she is now, you were just getting married. You married someone that had not gotten all her youthful exuberance out of her system. This is what you now have to deal with. This is why some women marry in their 30’s because they really need to live that life. It’s not about a certificate, job and car. It’s about life’s experiences, good and bad. It also seems like you are the very reserved type and mostly stuck on how much more mature or older you are. The thing with men married to women who they are much older than, is that they have to act younger. Dress and look as young as their wives. Go clubbing with them and be able to relate to vain things . To catch a monkey you have to act like a monkey. When a woman is looking for attention all over the place, it means she is not getting attention from the husband. Are you the type that works too much or thinks some of her interests are beneath you? Please adjust. Though for everyone, we all feel nice when we are wanted. Even unsolicited advances sometimes give an ego boost . As you say, you are older, all of 43. Use wisdom to manage your home. Try to get her to plan some time for you both to spend together. Slowly you would start spending time together and more frequently. No matter how stupid her requests to spend time with you is, just do it. It may be club, your children’s activities, owambe, or even baby shower. Just go and make those memories. I don’t think she’s cheating or she’s a bad person. Women who wear hijab also cheat on their husbands. So, it’s not by dressing. You can also go shopping for her and pick out dresses you like or think look nice on her. Take it easy and please do not cheat or divorce your wife. Simple communication and compromise is needed here. You married a woman that is your type. This one is annoying you now, when you divorce her you will subconsciously seek out her type again. You are quiet so you married someone more outgoing than you! With a quiet person like you, Na dead zone and such relationships will not last for you. Don’t threaten anyone with divorce as you may just find out that you are not an angel either. 7 Likes |
Re: I’m Suspecting My Wife by ACE1010: 9:31pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
LordKO: God bless you... Some of them running their mouth like rain water here would have collapsed due to HBP if they're in the shoes of the poster 2 Likes |
Re: I’m Suspecting My Wife by mechanics(m): 10:21pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
Consult with her family members to talk to her. |
Re: I’m Suspecting My Wife by stormborn28(m): 10:27pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
mysticgal:i thought you supported someone who accused OP of insecurity... So why abuse someone who wants to confirm what OP has said |
Re: I’m Suspecting My Wife by stormborn28(m): 10:34pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
baby124:im pleased that nairaland still has mature female folks here... The way some girls reacted to what OP state was so annoying |
Re: I’m Suspecting My Wife by Avedonn: 10:34pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
daddytime: What transpired between you and your ex wife and how did you handle it. |
Re: I’m Suspecting My Wife by stormborn28(m): 10:36pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
sinaj:it is not about insecurity... Some women go beyond the limit forgetting they are married |
Re: I’m Suspecting My Wife by stormborn28(m): 10:38pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
baby124: Compare your statement to the above. sinaj: Lwkmd grin Isnt this what some men are praying for? To get a wife that will remain sexy and goodlooking after child birth. If it was the opposite you would have still opened a thread too. One man meat is another's poison sha grin Oga work on your insecurities jore or better still wait till you catch her redhanded before you give yourself hbp. |
Re: I’m Suspecting My Wife by stormborn28(m): 10:49pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
truthsayer009: This is the type of woman he wants "quiet and reserved " Oga my problem is not her looking good as you can see I praised her for it. My problem is her scandalous behaviour, partying every minute, too friendly behaviour and extreme seductive dressing. No man will be comfortable with such behaviour. As it is, I just want her out of the house. Do not envy what is shallow, as you see me so I’m dreaming of a quiet decent woman who will give me peace of mind over this scandalous show off wife that I have at the moment. Be careful what you wish for. |
Re: I’m Suspecting My Wife by mysticgal(f): 10:52pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
Braaa can you let me be, go to the fridge and get the chilled pill stormborn28: |
Re: I’m Suspecting My Wife by stormborn28(m): 10:54pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
mysticgal:mediocracy |
Re: I’m Suspecting My Wife by mysticgal(f): 10:58pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
Re: I’m Suspecting My Wife by UnknownQueen(f): 10:58pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
emmaodet: So divorce Don become bread and butter. |
Re: I’m Suspecting My Wife by stormborn28(m): 11:01pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
Breaststroke:you are objective to the matter... I believe it is because you had personal experience about it... As a female, the first thing majority of you always say is "insecurity ".. I have argued this out here on several occasions.. That one can as well say God has insecurity issues too since He said have no other god except Him.. To be sincere people have failed in reasoning |
Re: I’m Suspecting My Wife by smeag0l(m): 11:11pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
i owe you an outing for this comment. Rare to find ladies who would point out the stark truth even when it stares them right in the faceespecially for matters concerning them. pocohantas: |
Re: I’m Suspecting My Wife by stormborn28(m): 11:12pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
lilbest4:can you help with your knowledge |
Re: I’m Suspecting My Wife by stormborn28(m): 11:26pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
seunmohmoh:im also suspecting her |
Re: I’m Suspecting My Wife by Spidermon: 11:38pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
TempleHouse: You have spoken my mind. |
Re: I’m Suspecting My Wife by Teegelop(f): 11:53pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
That's what you get when you only aspire for ladies that can socialize not knowing they are not good as a wife. |
Re: I’m Suspecting My Wife by Modarun(m): 12:02am On Sep 24, 2019 |
Bros you are a weakling from the get go. This have nothing to do with age or time. A man that can't curtel his woman excess is not worth to be called a man. You said she was showing these signs and you over looked it for the good, which I presume the sex ws good and her good looks abi? Nothing disgusts me than weak ass men. You are not rooted spiritually, physically and mentally to be that woman's husband. She was chipping it in bit by bit and you kept on swallowing every poo until she has grown strong enough wings to fly about. now you want to hold her down. This is why bad guys gets the best and most loyal women while the weaklings get retired oloshos. Theu take charge and never tolerate nonsense. Before you call yourself a husband you must have grown the balls and character to lead your home. Una dey irritate me I swear. From your post, it's obvious you can't even teach your wife anything, talk more lead ypur house. what or why and how in the world would a woman not give her kids proper aytention and still can walk and misbehave anyhow in my house? dem never for your father well. Guy like you have nothing to teach or lead your family to, but will be running to wife people's daughters. As for me you have to man up. I don't ascribe to beating her but sometimes it takes a fee very hot slaps to jerk a loose woman back to her senses. Akmetimes yoi have got to ahow a woman that yiou love yes i love you to death but hell no i wont tolerate nonsense. infact if you walk out to that party dint come back here. if that party is better torr imortant than our kids. please go and not comeback. or set boundaries. If she crosses them out comes the beast mode. and watch s she crave for that nice version of you. Imagine someone suggesting he should go clubbing? oga don't mess with fire o. if you must go that route make sure you can out dance, flirt and hotter than guys in that club. E be like sey ypu never see wherr man carry him babe come club got drunk fought cos one finer bobo dey eye and end up fighting and leavung with the fine bobo abi? You have to bring ya A game to the level even her friends will want to bed you. Bleep the hell outbof her everyday if neccessay, set your rules. or do it the old fashion way, give am belle every 1year until she loose guard, that's how she will realize she is throwing a gem for just rocks. As per all Those am modern weaklings. here is some piece of native wisdom. Your forefathers didn't follow these rules for nothing. 1. Never marry a woman whose is raised by a mother thats not in her husbands or fathers house. 2. never mary a woman who doesn't have fear for her parents or elders. I mean a woman that has no one she fears. Cos when her mumu start who go call am to order? 3. Never force, buy or bribe a woman to marry you. marry someone that wants to be married. cos what you beg to get, you will beg to keep. 4. Finally grow some balls. Stop being feminine you are a man, a man leads his home spiritually, financially , mentality and physically. You must have capacity to teach and lead your wife and children, you point to where your family should be headed not the other way around. call me a cave man. but no babe of mine will cheat in my face. bad as e bad na to bleep all her friends. when a woman know say you love am well , but wherr her were end na their your own dey lay start, she go adjust. Her friends will be like let's go party, and she by her self will be yelling them ypu wan make My oga kee me? noo make una dey go. 3 Likes |
Re: I’m Suspecting My Wife by Modarun(m): 12:03am On Sep 24, 2019 |
Bros you are a weakling from the get go. This have nothing to do with age or time. A man that can't curtel his woman excess is not worth to be called a man. You said she was showing these signs and you over looked it for the good, which I presume the sex ws good and her good looks abi? Nothing disgusts me than weak ass men. You are not rooted spiritually, physically and mentally to be that woman's husband. She was chipping it in bit by bit and you kept on swallowing every poo until she has grown strong enough wings to fly about. now you want to hold her down. This is why bad guys gets the best and most loyal women while the weaklings get retired oloshos. Theu take charge and never tolerate nonsense. Before you call yourself a husband you must have grown the balls and character to lead your home. Una dey irritate me I swear. From your post, it's obvious you can't even teach your wife anything, talk more lead ypur house. what or why and how in the world would a woman not give her kids proper aytention and still can walk and misbehave anyhow in my house? dem never for your father well. Guy like you have nothing to teach or lead your family to, but will be running to wife people's daughters. As for me you have to man up. I don't ascribe to beating her but sometimes it takes a fee very hot slaps to jerk a loose woman back to her senses. Akmetimes yoi have got to ahow a woman that yiou love yes i love you to death but hell no i wont tolerate nonsense. infact if you walk out to that party dint come back here. if that party is better torr imortant than our kids. please go and not comeback. or set boundaries. If she crosses them out comes the beast mode. and watch s she crave for that nice version of you. Imagine someone suggesting he should go clubbing? oga don't mess with fire o. if you must go that route make sure you can out dance, flirt and hotter than guys in that club. E be like sey ypu never see wherr man carry him babe come club got drunk fought cos one finer bobo dey eye and end up fighting and leavung with the fine bobo abi? You have to bring ya A game to the level even her friends will want to bed you. Bleep the hell outbof her everyday if neccessay, set your rules. or do it the old fashion way, give am belle every 1year until she loose guard, that's how she will realize she is throwing a gem for just rocks. As per all Those am modern weaklings. here is some piece of native wisdom. Your forefathers didn't follow these rules for nothing. 1. Never marry a woman whose is raised by a mother thats not in her husbands or fathers house. 2. never mary a woman who doesn't have fear for her parents or elders. I mean a woman that has no one she fears. Cos when her mumu start who go call am to order? 3. Never force, buy or bribe a woman to marry you. marry someone that wants to be married. cos what you beg to get, you will beg to keep. 4. Finally grow some balls. Stop being feminine you are a man, a man leads his home spiritually, financially , mentality and physically. You must have capacity to teach and lead your wife and children, you point to where your family should be headed not the other way around. call me a cave man. but no babe of mine will cheat in my face. bad as e bad na to bleep all her friends. |
Re: I’m Suspecting My Wife by UjuJoan2: 2:12am On Sep 24, 2019 |
Samolaogun: What exactly is your problem here? Is it that she's a slay Queen and vain, or that you think she's cheating on you? Because trust me even women what don't 'slay' also cheat. Would you rather she's fat and ugly and dresses like a nun Do you know what it takes for a mother of two to always looks good and keep fit? So she puts in all the work and all gets is contempt from her own husband. No wonders she's seeking for validation from other men. Even if she gets enough attention from you, it doesn't hurt to get some from other men. It does wonders for our ego. And yes, moreso now that she's a mother and thinks she is fast becoming 'evening news' You married a vain woman, much younger than yourself, I wonder what you were expecting in the first place. Please don't transfer your insecurities to your wife biko, she is dealing with her own as it is already. This is a phase, and will pass. But only if you support her and keep reassuring her that she means more to you than the way she looks. If you keeps treating her with disdain, she will seek for validation elsewhere. And you are 43? Be the 'adult' here. 1 Like |
Re: I’m Suspecting My Wife by UjuJoan2: 2:15am On Sep 24, 2019 |
Samolaogun: Actually, God will only give you a woman, it's your duty to find peace with her. Seperation is a very bad idea, you will just ruin your home for nothing. |
Re: I’m Suspecting My Wife by Dshocker(m): 4:16am On Sep 24, 2019 |
Samolaogun: Brother you married a slay queen |
Re: I’m Suspecting My Wife by femmoy(m): 4:52am On Sep 24, 2019 |
Samolaogun: op try talking to her before sending her out,if possible involve a family member. |
Re: I’m Suspecting My Wife by Nobody: 5:29am On Sep 24, 2019 |
donstan18: He said his wife o, not girlfriend. Why did she marry then? The kind of crap men like you are willing to put up with is amazing. |
Re: I’m Suspecting My Wife by Nobody: 6:35am On Sep 24, 2019 |
donstan18: This is not a matter of insecurity on the mans part or a matter of not wanting to look mgbekish on the woman's part. The mans suspicions are on point while the woman is seeking unecessary attention from other men outside. Imagine it is affecting her responsibility to look after the children but its not affecting her social media life as she keeps following and is being followed, for what exactly? Which tells you she has ulterior motives and her mind is no longer in that marriage. The cause of this whole thing is that she married too early. @ poster did not let her finish her shakara before tying her down in marriage. Now I see why pastors will always tell at youth meetings to maximize our youth cos once you're married, you're married. The woman did not maximize her youth so shes trying to make up for it and it might not end well as she's doing it at the wrong time. This is a warning to all the youth. Maximize your youth! 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I’m Suspecting My Wife by hopeforcharles(m): 7:04am On Sep 24, 2019 |
donstan18:You are a stupid guy, am sorry. No offence intended, that woman is 89% cheating on the man, either emotionally or physically. 1 Like |
Re: I’m Suspecting My Wife by Nobody: 7:04am On Sep 24, 2019 |
Princedapace: You supposed to know from that mugu post say him na dunce.. There are women who look good but are very disciplined, they don't create room for nonsense or entertain bs that would eventually lead to what can be avoided.. That mugu guy probably still stays under his parents or has not yet woken up to reality. Let him be enjoy his lala land for now |
Re: I’m Suspecting My Wife by Nobody: 7:15am On Sep 24, 2019 |
donstan18: Keep hustling likes from NL hoes and slows... i hope ur fvcking these hoes liking ur sh1t cos if not ur just a f00l. Women looking good has nothing to do with women being loose and entertaining bs and take that Kendrick pics off ur dp.. ur disgraceful to the culture 1 Like |
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