I have been in a relationship with a girl for 5 years but she went to school for 3 years in imo last year out of boredom I met another girl and we started dating, before we started I told her I had a girlfriend and that I would take care of her and provide for her, the problem now is that my girlfriend is rounding up next year febuary and we are planning on getting married, but the problem is that I have gotten used to the other girl, she is funny and full of life and the thought of not hearing from her when I am married scares me, but I cannot let my girlfriend down because she stood with me when I had nothing and we are already preparing for marriage March next year
I cannot even sleep at night because of what i caused myself, I just wanted a little fling but fell into this, sometimes I just feel depressed thinking of it
When the other one is around, i think of the other one, and when I am around the second one I think of my girlfriend
Please help a brother, please do not insult me no human is perfect

This is our biggest problem in nigeria...one leg in apc and the other leg in pdp...choose one party and remain a loyal party member.

donbachi:
This is our biggest problem in nigeria...one leg in apc and the other leg in pdp...choose one party and remain a loyal party member.

I tell you

Your case needs special hands. Just marry the two of them and ur problem is half solved

Ladies will soon storm here and start shouting Purple Pill, The Box, The Circle.

Here we go again!

Which kain Man U be sef? That’s not supposed to be a problem now. Go ahead with your plans , and keep the other girl by the side. You’ll need her some day. If only she wants out, then free her, let her go on with her life. You can’t be eating whisk everyday. Sometimes u gotta top it up with oha or vegetable.

My brother I wish it was that easy

clive2u:
Your case needs special hands. Just marry the two of them and ur problem is half solved

What is happening to you is called divided emotions. You are billed for a bigger trouble if you go into marriage with divided emotions. Cut off one of the girls now or else you end up with a messier situation

You made it a lot easier for you!

It's good U told her u have a qirlfriend, just casually tell her you nd ur woman would be qetting married soon! watch her Reaction

Treat her like a friend, let her know you quys are just friends, unless if u've been f**kinq her! (which miqht be FWB*friends with benefits* relationship)
Which takes nothinq away from it!

If u cannot heed to my piece of advice above, don't joke with this one!

Since u have fallen for her, it's best u avoid her like plague, force yourself to do it!
it's the only you would kill that spark subconciously !, and do well to give her the impression it's a casual friendship so u don't quilt yourself Afterwards!

Xoxo !

elmagnifico411:
Which kain Man U be sef? That’s not supposed to be a problem now. Go ahead with your plans , and keep the other girl by the side. You’ll need her some day. If only she wants out, then free her, let her go on with her life. You can’t be eating whisk everyday. Sometimes u gotta top it up with oha or vegetable.

she still calls me everyday and keeps me company and very fun to be with

cerpvad:
What is happening to you is called divided emotions. You are billed for a bigger trouble if you go into marriage with divided emotions. Cut off one of the girls now or else you end up with a messier situation

that is the problem

vickyhow:
You made it a lot easier for you!

It's good U told her u have a qirlfriend, just casually tell her you nd ur woman would be qetting married soon! watch her Reaction

Treat her like a friend, let her know you quys are just friends, unless if u've been f**kinq her! (which miqht be FWB*friends with benefits* relationship)
Which takes nothinq away from it!

If u cannot heed to my piece of advice above, don't joke with this one!

Since u have fallen for her, it's best u avoid her like plague, force yourself to do it!
it's the only you would kill that spark subconciously !, and do well to give her the impression it's a casual friendship so u don't quilt yourself Afterwards!

Xoxo !

My brother thank you, and the problem is that both of them are extremely beautiful

Just here for the comments

akpoguma1989:

My brother thank you, and the problem is that both of them are extremely beautiful

I can imagine bwoda !
i knw u hv beinq kpanshinq her
#lol
has she acknowledged u quys are datinq ?

If you already see one to make better wife, stop calling the other, pick her calls, respond to her chats but don't initiate either call or chat, and whenever you miss her call, don't call her back and don't sweet talk her when you are having conversation

akpoguma1989:

My brother thank you, and the problem is that both of them are extremely beautiful

post their picz let choose the most beautiful with gentle face

healthserve:
Just here for the comments

not you only bro

Just go for the one your heart wants.

But you should know that the heart can still fail.

When dating you use your heart. But when getting married use your brain.

Simple!

Test the both of them.
And see who fails.

serosa:
Just go for the one your heart wants.

But you should know that the heart can still fail.

When dating you use your heart. But when getting married use your brain.

Simple!

Test the both of them.
And see who fails.

you are right, my girlfriend has been with me from when I had nothing that is why I cannot even think of leaving her, this one came in period of abundance and I am not sure she would be with me without the money, but the problem is that her beauty and romantic nature is what confuses me, her beauty is out of this world
My girlfriend is not that romantic but she is a very good cook and has that motherly nature, my sister I am confused

akpoguma1989:
I have been in a relationship with a girl for 5 years but she went to school for 3 years in imo last year out of boredom I met another girl and we started dating, before we started I told her I had a girlfriend and that I would take care of her and provide for her, the problem now is that my girlfriend is rounding up next year febuary and we are planning on getting married, but the problem is that I have gotten used to the other girl, she is funny and full of life and the thought of not hearing from her when I am married scares me, but I cannot let my girlfriend down because she stood with me when I had nothing and we are already preparing for marriage March next year
I cannot even sleep at night because of what i caused myself, I just wanted a little fling but fell into this, sometimes I just feel depressed thinking of it
When the other one is around, i think of the other one, and when I am around the second one I think of my girlfriend
Please help a brother, please do not insult me no human is perfect

Convert to Islam.

akpoguma1989:
you are right, my girlfriend has been with me from when I had nothing that is why I cannot even think of leaving her, this one came in period of abundance and I am not sure she would be with me without the money, but the problem is that her beauty and romantic nature is what confuses me, her beauty is out of this world
My girlfriend is not that romantic but she is a very good cook and has that motherly nature, my sister I am confused

Beauty is not about everything.
And besides romance can't be everyday or every hour.

The truth be told when you reach a point in marriage you will want that motherly figure in your home.

A woman you can talk too. That gives you so much advice like your mum.
Romance you say, everyone can be romantic just depends on how you communicate.

People change.
Give them a trial like.
Act like something got wrong.
Cut them off for a week.
Before you cut them off get into a messy fight.
Then after one week of the distance from them.
Don't still call them.
Wait for the one that will call you.
Or ask your friends about the one that was soo bothered about you.
If none.
Call and try hit back on them and apologize the one that forgives you first is obviously the one that if you break her left hand she will actually use her right hand to cuddle you.

serosa:



Beauty is not about everything.
And besides romance can't be everyday or every hour.

The truth be told when you reach a point in marriage you will want that motherly figure in your home.

A woman you can talk too. That gives you so much advice like your mum.
Romance you say, everyone can be romantic just depends on how you communicate.

People change.
Give them a trial like.
Act like something got wrong.
Cut them off for a week.
Before you cut them off get into a messy fight.
Then after one week of the distance from them.
Don't still call them.
Wait for the one that will call you.
Or ask your friends about the one that was soo bothered about you.
If none.
Call and try hit back on them and apologize the one that forgives you first is obviously the one that if you break her left hand she will actually use her right hand to cuddle you.

Thank you very much for the advice

akpoguma1989:

Thank you very much for the advice

Your welcome

You don't have any problem atall, simply marry the both of them if you can afford it Shebi trouble been dey sleep iyanga go wake am.

Whatever you know that you won't eat, don't bother to smell it.

You need this to get rid of the confusion

akpoguma1989:

My brother thank you, and the problem is that both of them are extremely beautiful

Olojukokoro nie, longthroat!!! u wil b makin a big mistake if u dont ditch dat lady and stick to ur first love, why did u cheat on her self wen u knw she has bn with u even wen d goin was rough?

Can ur new gf be wit u dat long even tho d goin was rough?? i dont knw why u guys behave like dis, and u said ur real gf is beautiful oo.

And d poor girl wil even b striving to b faithful with u even wen faraway.

Guy dont b an ingrate, cut d ties and plan ur marriage with ur first gf wen u stil hav d grace now else u regret it later.


karma is real bro.

U c the problem, babe ur breast don fall I like the standing breast. Who fall am.

I’m trying to control my temper. I detest men like you. God forbid !!

The first girl was with you through difficult times, stood by you. The best way you could pay her was have an affair and still have the guts to say trash with that smelly mouth of yours that you can’t leave that gold digger.

O.p , you deserve slap from both sides of your face . Nonsense!!!!

If you marry the second girl you shall never have peace . You’re the reason girls do not like to struggle with broke boys cos the moment they hit it, na to begin to behave like pricks.

Enjoy your so called full of life and romantic girl. Assuming she met you broke , I hope she would be full of life o. Mugu. GET OUT!!!!

You can’t eat your cake and have it back. Choose one goat !

akpoguma1989:
I have been in a relationship with a girl for 5 years but she went to school for 3 years in imo last year out of boredom I met another girl and we started dating, before we started I told her I had a girlfriend and that I would take care of her and provide for her, the problem now is that my girlfriend is rounding up next year febuary and we are planning on getting married, but the problem is that I have gotten used to the other girl, she is funny and full of life and the thought of not hearing from her when I am married scares me, but I cannot let my girlfriend down because she stood with me when I had nothing and we are already preparing for marriage March next year
I cannot even sleep at night because of what i caused myself, I just wanted a little fling but fell into this, sometimes I just feel depressed thinking of it
When the other one is around, i think of the other one, and when I am around the second one I think of my girlfriend
Please help a brother, please do not insult me no human is perfect

F***k you!!!!

Ginaz:


F***k you!!!!

Hmmm

MedicH:


Hmmm

I soooooo hate ungrateful men like the o.p. This is someone who stuck with you for GOODNESS sake!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

You’re not even remorseful, not sober about what you did. You’re spewing nonsense about not being able to leave the second girl .

The only crime the first girl committed was to go to school and that prick of a man couldn’t hold himself. Shame on his bald empty head!!!

She was with you through it all. your so called full of life gold digger should have done that so we can compare notes.

Ginaz:


F***k you!!!!

You can be no 3 but your bad character and massive hatred disqualified you