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NL introverts, how do you meet other introverts?

Personally, I have no experience with other introverts, but I've realized I can't date an extrovert. Just different wavelengths. It's hard to not foresee a "managed marriage" with someone so different.

You're an introvert if...
* You're quiet (most call you shy... till you trust them enough)
* Your best friend is in your head. I.e; you converse with yourself a lot, you're a deep thinker
* You love your alone time & personal space
* You're highly misunderstood
* After spending time with a large number of people, you need some alone time to "recharge"
* You have a small circle of friends
* You're self-sufficient
* You always read &/or stay updated/geeked up in your niche
* You're observant of people's behaviors, you can easily read fake from real, ergo the tight circle of friends
* You're intelligent! (I don't mean school results)
... and other traits you can google.

Being all that and more, the easiest answer would be online. But, how do you know other introverts online? We're mostly anons and just have social media accounts to view occasional updates, we're not really active online. (I think)

What sort of events might be of help to attend?

I'm here, where are the others?

MASTERCHIEF0847:
I'm here, where are the others?

Do you have any experience befriending other introverts?

U dey form introvert abi? Dis economy never get you,you for no only turn extrovert, you for turn street dey shout "warri".

favoryte33:
U dey form introvert abi? Dis economy never get you,you for no only turn extrovert, you for turn street dey shout "warri".

Not everyone is a hustler, some are very financially comfortable.

favoryte33:
U dey form introvert abi? Dis economy never get you,you for no only turn extrovert, you for turn street dey shout "warri".

There was never a time everyone in a population would agree that the economy is good. Yet, there's always been introverts. No matter how bad an economy is, introversion and extroversion are never endangered species.

As an introvert, I may be shy in unprepared situations but when there's something to do and it's compulsory, I prepare myself for it though you'd notice my quietness.
On meeting people, it takes me time to connect. Sometimes, you'd have to be the first person to connect with me and if I observe that we're similar, we become friends you won't want to drop (this might take some time of building trust though).
As for the marriage part, I wouldn't want to marry someone as introverted as I am but I wouldn't want a lousy extroverted partner also.

I don't bother myself with knowing other introverts online (though introverts have inner circle friends, we also enjoy being one man mopol). More so, it takes me more time to connect with a fellow introvert than an extraverted individual.

Bottom Line: I'm an introvert but my introversion ceases when I trust you fully and when you fit in to my personality.

If you are an introvert then you must be financially balanced or else you will suffer in silence. Some people are just introverted offline and can't make a sufficient living online.
Especially those mama boys and girls. You better get your butt up and join tech groups around you. You will get to know one or two people that can easily connect you.
I don't subscribe to shying away from tech events with the sole excuse that you don't like crowds.
Many introverts have nice skills but lack the connection to showcase them.
Introvert no be for street.

From the last two posters above, I got:
- Go with the flow, if you meet someone you connect with, good. (Currently how I live)
- Attend events where interests & skills lie (Crowd won't be of concern if you're interested in the event's activities)