edward1984:


And where did I mention I adore the whites? And when did I say only their way is too good? Just read what you wrote again,,

BRATISLAVA:

It is wt u implied wit d 20 euro story. U said we shd copy dt. Dt we need 2 emul8 d west. As if u don't know dt ppl do whatevr dey want n if Africans want fanfare, den allow Dem. White's DNT HV everytn right. When in Rome b roman

BRATISLAVA:

It is wt u implied wit d 20 euro story. U said we shd copy dt. Dt we need 2 emul8 d west. As if u don't know dt ppl do whatevr dey want n if Africans want fanfare, den allow Dem. White's DNT HV everytn right. When in Rome b roman

BRATISLAVA:


Dia r sum weddings which if u r not bringing money den don't come n u must pay 4 ur meal. I kid u not. All d choice of the ppl wedding themselves. So no one cn say sum gypsies married on 20 euro n make that d standard 4 Western weddings. Diff folk diff stroks

khiaa:


So that's the choice of an individual couple but you made it sound like it was the norm, part of the culture.

edward1984:


I just said I have a friend who got married with this amount,,I was just implying it was simple and easy what is wrong with that? And of cox the whites also throw big wedding parties if they have the money

Pettyprincess:
This is one of the things i dnt like about us,many guys are in debt after their lavish wedding just to impress family nd friends.
What i know is that on my wedding day it will be very simple with just family nd close friends,i will rather use the money to establish myself nd hubby.

JONNYSPUTE:
3yrs and 1yr 9months.

khiaa:


Awww! Give them a kiss from me. Are you trying for a girl?

JONNYSPUTE:
.I believe the 3rd and last one will be a girl because that's what I and my wife wanted.Let the boys have a sister.

khiaa:


Good luck on baby girl. Just beautiful!

Offpoint:
Being single is one privileged I can't trade for a billion naira, marriage is equivalent to life imprisonment.


The fear of someone standing at the door demanding to know where I was coming from by 11pm scare the shít outta me.

ademijuwonlo:
You are not alone!

Kapeter:
Then we manage to host them successfully (thanks to loans), now we are together as husband and wife, we have to watch it when we will be giving birth cuz right now it's time for repayment hence there must be little delay in that.

And then, just a year after, your far distance cousin is also getting married, your husband who is only responsible for the family even with the meagre he receieve monthly is again mandated to buy aso ebi and not just ending there, must accompany you, not just that, getting there, you must also show a sense of belonging, you must show them your husband too is there(if you know), money must be spray by force and then another loan again for another unnecessary course. I don't really understand, is this really why God made union? Did he created eve to just frustrate adam for no cause or for other reasons?

Because of this many reasons which i just cannot fully list here, marriage is seen as some very hard job for men who ought to be married when actually it isn't hard. I made it an African thing because i have seen the way other youths in western world are living compared to how we live down here. All is not perfect everywhere all over the world but trust me if it's 30% worst over there, it is 97% worst down here in Africa.

Fornication, soapy and other are now what the youths indulge in because society won't let them become who they ought to be at the right time. It's insane and i hope things can really change for better.

And men(youths) go ahead and marry and still be you, no one should pressurize you to what you are not and cannot be, once you can take care of yourself and your wife, no problem, it's not your duty to take care of wifes family, it's hers buh willingly from your heart you can if you so wish buh must not be forced and mind you marriage isn't force, if it's not working it's totally not working, there's nothing like i'm doing it for this or that, stop making things hard unnecessarily, it can easily be disolved and you try again. Let's all stop making marriage seems hard and encourage youths instead of scaring them into fornication and others.

Offpoint:

Is it illegal to return home 11pm if it ain't work related?