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Should I Send Her Packing? by Bishopvic: 1:21pm On Oct 05, 2019 |
Good day my country people pls am in dilemma and need your matured advice.biko am not good in writing thank you. their is this girl I met 3 months ago via my friend girlfriend. about 2 weeks of our hangout she moved in with me and I realized she was into runz. Which I asked her to stop and i also told her our relationship conditions which she agree to cooperate with.conditions is we are not getting married and I advised her to stop her wired life styles of runz,smoking,drugs and getting a better life for her self. And yes am very proud of her she has stopped all this and seriously looking for a job.(was not easy sha) I won't blame her though she has a rough parental up bringing by the age of 20 she is already into full-time runz and living weird life styles.by 22 she was a victim of human traffic for sex slaves in one of West Africa countries she escaped and got her freedom early this year after she was 5 months pregnant.(her escape leed to the arrest of the people involved in the trafficking) she aborted the baby early this year after so many attempts with help from her mother. 2 months after abortion she is already back to the streets(She will be 23 next month) hustling from one guy house to the other 3 months ago she met me I advised her to stop and yes she has stopped. I actually want to help her by giving her little change to help her self but she might not mange it well. now my problems is I believe she is overstaying in my house am not that kind of person that keeps visitors for long(already told her these) also all my friends be like I should discharge her before something go wrong like she might get pregnant or be filling over comfortable in my house ( and yes she is really feeling comfortable these days) secondly since I don't know her or her baground she might be of harm spiritual or physical. i actually want her out but she will cry heavenly and say she don't want to stay with her mom or her girlfriends she is likely to go back in to her old life styles which she don't want to, as all her friends are runz girls things like this week me especially when she is emotional and be praying for me for all the help,money,gift and support I have render her to change. But I still want her out of my house as I can't be living with someone I am not getting married to I have never done that before. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Send Her Packing? by Fountainofyouth(f): 1:33pm On Oct 05, 2019 |
Tell her like this " hey my only for sex visitor, I'd like you to leave my house cos you bore me, and I'm done with you okay, pls pack all your things and leave" she'll leave don't worry. 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Should I Send Her Packing? by Bobbyfreshh(m): 1:34pm On Oct 05, 2019 |
Lol baba don tire already for the puna 15 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Send Her Packing? by iykeklef(m): 1:36pm On Oct 05, 2019 |
hmmm dis guy is a bastard!!.. u said u dnt want her and u are askin us of our own opinion hmmm dis guy is a bastard!!.. u said u dnt want her and u are askin us of our own opinion 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Send Her Packing? by Bishopvic: 1:44pm On Oct 05, 2019 |
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Re: Should I Send Her Packing? by Bishopvic: 1:44pm On Oct 05, 2019 |
iykeklef:Bro if you really don't have any good thing to say you press the back button on your computer/phone yes we are dating and yes I want her to leave as I have been telling her from day one. At least I have helped enough than what most guys wouldn't do for any street girl. My fear is if she leaves she might go back to the streets and all my efforts will be of waste 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Send Her Packing? by madridguy(m): 1:46pm On Oct 05, 2019 |
You don't want her to continue with her kurukere waka so don't chase her out. From your story you want her to become a new leaf which she's working on that, i would suggest you leave her at your place. For the risk, arrange to meet her relatives and let them know she's staying with you as a friend. 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Send Her Packing? by Bishopvic: 2:10pm On Oct 05, 2019 |
Thank you bro have actually talked to her elder sister on phone and she can't help but thank me alot. She is actually working in hands to put her straight and am actually running a daily contribution schame to raise 80k for her that if she will start working and am seeing some progress now my fear is she staying with me for too long and from start we actually set a limit not to get too emotional as the relationship might not end in marriage. She understands this alot than me lieing and cheating on her.my mom and siblings are actually not happy am staying with a girl that I won't get married to their prefer her coming to visit time from time as she might get pregnant and another matter will enter. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Send Her Packing? by Bishopvic: 2:11pm On Oct 05, 2019 |
madridguy:Thank you bro have actually talked to her elder sister on phone and she can't help but thank me alot. She is actually working in hands to put her straight and am actually running a daily contribution schame to raise 80k for her that if she will start working and am seeing some progress now my fear is she staying with me for too long and from start we actually set a limit not to get too emotional as the relationship might not end in marriage. She understands this alot than me lieing and cheating on her.my mom and siblings are actually not happy am staying with a girl that I won't get married to their prefer her coming to visit time from time as she might get pregnant and another matter will enter. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Send Her Packing? by Nobody: 2:15pm On Oct 05, 2019 |
You came into her life and disrupt it... Stopping her 'business' and her survival (drugs and alcohol) and now you want her out... Pls, who send you 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Send Her Packing? by Nobody: 2:23pm On Oct 05, 2019 |
Bishopvic: You have a narcissistic mindset... You're not doing this to help her... You're doing it for validation and to be 'better than others' You were sleeping with her so your accommodation was 'paid for in kind' and now that you are bored of the mission, you've come for one more round of 'validation' by creating this thread. You have more issues than that poor girl. But, we hail you boss! You are a great man! All praise 'King save a hoe' All hail thee 21 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Should I Send Her Packing? by Headlesschicken(m): 2:25pm On Oct 05, 2019 |
Una dey try sha,all for the sake of regular purry.... Make person no wake up for nite one day stab una to death... 3 Likes |
Re: Should I Send Her Packing? by Bishopvic: 2:34pm On Oct 05, 2019 |
Guest007:did you read the post where I said we are dating and she moved with me after 2 weeks and their where terms in the relationship? 3 Likes |
Re: Should I Send Her Packing? by Nobody: 2:37pm On Oct 05, 2019 |
Op ur reward is in heaven. Continue ur care OK. U her divine helper on this earth. |
Re: Should I Send Her Packing? by Bishopvic: 2:42pm On Oct 05, 2019 |
Headlesschicken:why are some guys like this you think woman and materials things is problem for every guy? |
Re: Should I Send Her Packing? by Nobody: 2:44pm On Oct 05, 2019 |
Bishopvic: Do you hear yourself when you say this? Like I said 'all hail you' 1 Like |
Re: Should I Send Her Packing? by missjo(f): 2:48pm On Oct 05, 2019 |
Bishopvic:Did all this become a problem before or after you started sleeping with her? 3 Likes |
Re: Should I Send Her Packing? by Chike4all: 2:53pm On Oct 05, 2019 |
bros, What an easy marriage for you,,,,,,,, miss this opportunity and you have yourself to blame. My submission. .. gather money and rent house for her while you and she hunt for job since she is ur date(girlfriend ) and you've enjoyed enough. Then visit time to time to ensure she didn't go off track, lead her to a humble and better life by taking her along to church programs and always check on her. YOU too should minimise the fucking, , as you can't be fucking a runsgirl and yet be advising her to change.... be what you preach 15 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Send Her Packing? by madridguy(m): 2:58pm On Oct 05, 2019 |
God will continue to bless you. Bro, no one knows tomorrow so please don't send her away. Also make sure you don't get too attach with her. Bishopvic: 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Send Her Packing? by LilMissFavvy(f): 3:00pm On Oct 05, 2019 |
Give her money to start something for herself. Advice her on what she should set up. She should go and live with her mum, not friends. Or is her mom a bad woman? As you give her the money, record the conversation through audio, before you send her away, incase she decides to frame you up. Bishopvic: 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Send Her Packing? by Nobody: 3:07pm On Oct 05, 2019 |
hello bro, please discard that girl ASAP, if you continue with her am afraid your relationship with her might lead to real love(marriage). think of it...... she's a victim of human trafficking. she has done abortion before. she's a legendary Ashawo. person wey like 2thousand dicks don enter her puna. for the sake of humanity; you can set up something for her(I mean business). 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Send Her Packing? by OgaVoltron: 3:14pm On Oct 05, 2019 |
Some men never learn. That flaw in character never goes. It can be hidden but not eradicated. You might well be helping her to package for the next level. If her desire to stop isn't stronger than external efforts to help her,then continue wasting resources captain. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Send Her Packing? by AstroG: 3:19pm On Oct 05, 2019 |
Bishopvic: We all knw it will all End in tears House a LovePeddler,cloth a LovePeddler,feed a LovePeddler,train a LovePeddler,marry a LovePeddler. 'A LovePeddler IS STILL A LovePeddler" And the worst part be say na Nigeria Girl (LovePeddler) 4 Likes
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Re: Should I Send Her Packing? by AstroG: 3:22pm On Oct 05, 2019 |
Bishopvic: We all knw it will all End in tears Aff u forgotten that there is a adage which says,Cloth a Pig,feed a pig,bath a pig. A Pig is still a Pig, but in ur case its a LovePeddler. "So House a Hoe,cloth a hoe,feed a hoe,train a hoe,marry a hoe. 'A HOE S STILL A HOE" And the worst part be say na Nigeria Girl (HOe)
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Re: Should I Send Her Packing? by Bishopvic: 3:23pm On Oct 05, 2019 |
LilMissFavvy:yes I think her mum is a bad person from my gathering her mum's lives a wayward life. And always asking her for money even though she knows her daughter ain't working.my plan is she going either stay with my elder sister or her sister in-law ( female) but I want her to ge t a job first before she leave. As I might rent mini apartment for her and she might go back to street. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Send Her Packing? by AntiMCU: 3:24pm On Oct 05, 2019 |
Bishopvic:Logobenz! 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Send Her Packing? by Nobody: 4:02pm On Oct 05, 2019 |
AstroG: Don't Conclude in your comfort my Brother.People are really suffering.Poverty can make a person do crazy things just to survive. Op if you are financially buoyant get her even if its a room around . Take this as a special assignment to liberate a soul.We are actually our brothers keeper. 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Send Her Packing? by Nobody: 4:10pm On Oct 05, 2019 |
you cant turn a prostitute into a House wife. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Send Her Packing? by seangy4konji: 4:12pm On Oct 05, 2019 |
U mum small.. U Don 5want to marry her, but the free toto Don sweet you but now u r4tired... If u don't v plans marrying her, u better send her packing now till she bring real give enter ur house.. I mean d one that u will spend ur last long too leave that trouble or case.. Olonsho MO deh leave body of... How old r u self. . U better japa and focus well on urself |
Re: Should I Send Her Packing? by srclark: 4:14pm On Oct 05, 2019 |
op get her out of your house in no time .Dont let it get to the point pity will now overcome your rational decisions.And most people like these only pretend they have changed until she see the next vulnerable person then the cycle continues ,most of them are users and will tell you a very sorrowful tale of their past and how people have been unfair to them to gain unnecessary sympathy.Be very very careful i used to know a lady like this infact i dated the lady for 6 months before i could say jack Robinson she was co-habiting with me (she fed me with all sort of lies about her background) when i was able to discharge her successfully she moved to the next victim like 2 to 3 guys like that but the last time i was home i was so surprised to see her working as a bar tender in a cool spot i went to hang out .So stop wasting your time and resources on a fruitless venture sit her down and tell her she has to leave your house and advice her to take her life more seriously ."ASHAWO WEY MARRY NA HOLIDAY SHE GO " 5 Likes |
Re: Should I Send Her Packing? by sacramento1212: 4:19pm On Oct 05, 2019 |
Bishopvic: If you know you were not going to complete the journey that you started, why did you embark on it? If that lady as a result of chasing her out goes back to her old ways, you will be responsible for that. By the way, are you sleeping with her? 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Should I Send Her Packing? by LilMissFavvy(f): 5:24pm On Oct 05, 2019 |
It is not an easy thing to be able to change someone the way you have impacted this girl and changed her to a better person. Try and tolerate her till you sort the things you mentioned. Like I said, you can save an audio or video messages that contain whatever agreements you have with he, cuz we live in a bad world where some heartless humans like to repay evil with good. Bishopvic: 3 Likes 1 Share |
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