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I'll advise you to marry that girl, you may not see someone you'll be this emotionally attached to and you'll surely regret when you loose her.
My advice though, take or leave it na your choice.

Unblind this "love", O Brother.

Nna from this your long narrative I didn't see where you said you love the girl and will like to marry her and also help in changing her life style. The girl in question really loves you and despite you not returning the love, she abides by your house rules and regulations. Now you want to throw her out of your house because your friends told you to do so. Talking about not knowing her background, have you discussed it with her, because I know that if you have discussed it with her she would have told you about it. She might even going to the extent of taking you to her place. Since you have made up your mind to throw her out of your house, I don't know what you want from us anymore, so go ahead.

Bishopvic:
Good day my country people pls am in dilemma and need your matured advice.biko am not good in writing thank you. their is this girl I met 3 months ago via my friend girlfriend. about 2 weeks of our hangout she moved in with me and I realized she was into runz. Which I asked her to stop and i also told her our relationship conditions which she agree to cooperate with.conditions is we are not getting married and I advised her to stop her wired life styles of runz,smoking,drugs and getting a better life for her self. And yes am very proud of her she has stopped all this and seriously looking for a job.(was not easy sha) I won't blame her though she has a rough parental up bringing by the age of 20 she is already into full-time runz and living weird life styles.by 22 she was a victim of human traffic for sex slaves in one of West Africa countries she escaped and got her freedom early this year after she was 5 months pregnant.(her escape leed to the arrest of the people involved in the trafficking) she aborted the baby early this year after so many attempts with help from her mother. 2 months after abortion she is already back to the streets(She will be 23 next month) hustling from one guy house to the other 3 months ago she met me I advised her to stop and yes she has stopped. I actually want to help her by giving her little change to help her self but she might not mange it well. now my problems is I believe she is overstaying in my house am not that kind of person that keeps visitors for long(already told her these) also all my friends be like I should discharge her before something go wrong like she might get pregnant or be filling over comfortable in my house ( and yes she is really feeling comfortable these days) secondly since I don't know her or her baground she might be of harm spiritual or physical. i actually want her out but she will cry heavenly and say she don't want to stay with her mom or her girlfriends she is likely to go back in to her old life styles which she don't want to, as all her friends are runz girls things like this week me especially when she is emotional and be praying for me for all the help,money,gift and support I have render her to change. But I still want her out of my house as I can't be living with someone I am not getting married to I have never done that before.

After fvking person pikin tirelessly
You won get back up to push her out
I am outta here

Some of these silly ladies want to guilt-trip the OP into not evicting the lady. All because of what? Free pûssy? It cost from 300 Naira upwards to afford pûssy in Nigeria every day. Let's say the girl's own is worth 500 Naira, I'm sure the cost of staying in the OP's house plus feeding per day far outweighs the value of the vaginà. OP, cut her loose. I'm talking from experience. It's easier for people with messed up lives to fück up yours than for you to fix theirs.

Bishopvic:
Good day my country people pls am in dilemma and need your matured advice.biko am not good in writing thank you. their is this girl I met 3 months ago via my friend girlfriend. about 2 weeks of our hangout she moved in with me and I realized she was into runz. Which I asked her to stop and i also told her our relationship conditions which she agree to cooperate with.conditions is we are not getting married and I advised her to stop her wired life styles of runz,smoking,drugs and getting a better life for her self. And yes am very proud of her she has stopped all this and seriously looking for a job.(was not easy sha) I won't blame her though she has a rough parental up bringing by the age of 20 she is already into full-time runz and living weird life styles.by 22 she was a victim of human traffic for sex slaves in one of West Africa countries she escaped and got her freedom early this year after she was 5 months pregnant.(her escape leed to the arrest of the people involved in the trafficking) she aborted the baby early this year after so many attempts with help from her mother. 2 months after abortion she is already back to the streets(She will be 23 next month) hustling from one guy house to the other 3 months ago she met me I advised her to stop and yes she has stopped. I actually want to help her by giving her little change to help her self but she might not mange it well. now my problems is I believe she is overstaying in my house am not that kind of person that keeps visitors for long(already told her these) also all my friends be like I should discharge her before something go wrong like she might get pregnant or be filling over comfortable in my house ( and yes she is really feeling comfortable these days) secondly since I don't know her or her baground she might be of harm spiritual or physical. i actually want her out but she will cry heavenly and say she don't want to stay with her mom or her girlfriends she is likely to go back in to her old life styles which she don't want to, as all her friends are runz girls things like this week me especially when she is emotional and be praying for me for all the help,money,gift and support I have render her to change. But I still want her out of my house as I can't be living with someone I am not getting married to I have never done that before.

After setting her up, rent a room for her.

AntiMCU:
Logobenz!

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stinflame:
Don't Conclude in your comfort my Brother.People are really suffering.Poverty can make a person do crazy things just to survive.
Op if you are financially buoyant get her even if its a room around . Take this as a special assignment to liberate a soul.We are actually our brothers keeper.

Ah can't help anybody that isn't related to me financially especially Naija girls,they don't deserve to be helped.
And as for housing a HOE,Its a No no no for me

Bishopvic:
Good day my country people pls am in dilemma and need your matured advice.biko am not good in writing thank you. their is this girl I met 3 months ago via my friend girlfriend. about 2 weeks of our hangout she moved in with me and I realized she was into runz. Which I asked her to stop and i also told her our relationship conditions which she agree to cooperate with.conditions is we are not getting married and I advised her to stop her wired life styles of runz,smoking,drugs and getting a better life for her self. And yes am very proud of her she has stopped all this and seriously looking for a job.(was not easy sha) I won't blame her though she has a rough parental up bringing by the age of 20 she is already into full-time runz and living weird life styles.by 22 she was a victim of human traffic for sex slaves in one of West Africa countries she escaped and got her freedom early this year after she was 5 months pregnant.(her escape leed to the arrest of the people involved in the trafficking) she aborted the baby early this year after so many attempts with help from her mother. 2 months after abortion she is already back to the streets(She will be 23 next month) hustling from one guy house to the other 3 months ago she met me I advised her to stop and yes she has stopped. I actually want to help her by giving her little change to help her self but she might not mange it well. now my problems is I believe she is overstaying in my house am not that kind of person that keeps visitors for long(already told her these) also all my friends be like I should discharge her before something go wrong like she might get pregnant or be filling over comfortable in my house ( and yes she is really feeling comfortable these days) secondly since I don't know her or her baground she might be of harm spiritual or physical. i actually want her out but she will cry heavenly and say she don't want to stay with her mom or her girlfriends she is likely to go back in to her old life styles which she don't want to, as all her friends are runz girls things like this week me especially when she is emotional and be praying for me for all the help,money,gift and support I have render her to change. But I still want her out of my house as I can't be living with someone I am not getting married to I have never done that before.

So much for a 23 years old girl, but you sef no try at all, you took someone you weren't planning to marry in bleeping her day and night, if na olosho you know how much you go pay,

My advice

The consequence of your action is to help her, let her stay till you can gather a reasonable amount of money for her to start a life, infact help her get a work to do.

All this girls na scam... Laslas Op you will end up in tears....

Thank you my country people to all the positive and negative comments. Now I have realized it's a cross am willing to bear since am the one who got my self into these my plan she should get a job and yes she has been seriously searching for job if she can work for 3 months and I see how serious she is I will set up a mini business for her. Joint with what she have saved and the little her elder sister can contribute. Then she will stay with her elder sister in-law or my elder sister. it's not gonna be easy for me doing this cuz I love her and she is the only girl that have lived with me from my past 3 relationship. Even though I don't like flate/company mates. As am use to staying alone. But I shall try my best. She worth it, being her playing me or not .
Secondly for the guys who think am using her? Hell No not all guys actually is cheap especially if you are young and doing very good for yourself most ladies might come into your life and use you. (Been a victim)

Bro, let me tell u d truth, initially, u tot she is someone u can continue to smash (free kpekus), as long as it last, u wanted her to stop d Runz tin so dt u will be d only one accessing her Kpekus but when she opened up her can of worm (how many dick has drilled her hole, d abortion, trafficking etc), Bro, fear catch u, d need u want her out of ur house n life as fast as possible.

Bro sit her down n have a hrt 2hrt talk with her to know her plans n next move if she leaves ur house, don't throw her out.

Fountainofyouth:
Tell her like this " hey my only for sex visitor, I'd like you to leave my house cos you bore me, and I'm done with you okay, pls pack all your things and leave" she'll leave don't worry.

Dat is cruel, she's human as well

Bishopvic:
Thank you my country people to all the positive and negative comments. Now I have realized it's a cross am willing to bear since am the one who got my self into these my plan she should get a job and yes she has been seriously searching for job if she can work for 3 months and I see how serious she is I will set up a mini business for her. Joint with what she have saved and the little her elder sister can contribute. Then she will stay with her elder sister in-law or my elder sister. it's not gonna be easy for me doing this cuz I love her and she is the only girl that have lived with me from my past 3 relationship. Even though I don't like flate/company mates. As am use to staying alone. But I shall try my best. She worth it, being her playing me or not .
Secondly for the guys who think am using her? Hell No not all guys actually is cheap especially if you are young and doing very good for yourself most ladies might come into your life and use you. (Been a victim)

yes dear.set her up.since u don't like d idea of having a flatmate,then let her go

You may or may not see the fruits of what you have done but my brother,it is God that will bless and reward you

In dj khaled's voice "Another one"

Bishopvic:
did you read the post where I said we are dating and she moved with me after 2 weeks and their where terms in the relationship?

why u go date runs girl?..if person call una mumu now, una go dey vex.

Fountainofyouth:
Tell her like this " hey my only for sex visitor, I'd like you to leave my house cos you bore me, and I'm done with you okay, pls pack all your things and leave" she'll leave don't worry.

you re from gh?

Guest007:
You came into her life and disrupt it... Stopping her 'business' and her survival (drugs and alcohol) and now you want her out... Pls, who send you

hahaha, abeg elp ask am but seriously I b nr wan comment but dis OG wey I quote do magic for my body..
U say u wan send am away but reason with her or put yourself for d girl shoe and u say she dey pray for u, my brother she dn already put emotion for d thing wey una call relationship
Abeg I wan sleep

Bishopvic:
Good day my country people pls am in dilemma and need your matured advice.biko am not good in writing thank you. their is this girl I met 3 months ago via my friend girlfriend. about 2 weeks of our hangout she moved in with me and I realized she was into runz. Which I asked her to stop and i also told her our relationship conditions which she agree to cooperate with.conditions is we are not getting married and I advised her to stop her wired life styles of runz,smoking,drugs and getting a better life for her self. And yes am very proud of her she has stopped all this and seriously looking for a job.(was not easy sha) I won't blame her though she has a rough parental up bringing by the age of 20 she is already into full-time runz and living weird life styles.by 22 she was a victim of human traffic for sex slaves in one of West Africa countries she escaped and got her freedom early this year after she was 5 months pregnant.(her escape leed to the arrest of the people involved in the trafficking) she aborted the baby early this year after so many attempts with help from her mother. 2 months after abortion she is already back to the streets(She will be 23 next month) hustling from one guy house to the other 3 months ago she met me I advised her to stop and yes she has stopped. I actually want to help her by giving her little change to help her self but she might not mange it well. now my problems is I believe she is overstaying in my house am not that kind of person that keeps visitors for long(already told her these) also all my friends be like I should discharge her before something go wrong like she might get pregnant or be filling over comfortable in my house ( and yes she is really feeling comfortable these days) secondly since I don't know her or her baground she might be of harm spiritual or physical. i actually want her out but she will cry heavenly and say she don't want to stay with her mom or her girlfriends she is likely to go back in to her old life styles which she don't want to, as all her friends are runz girls things like this week me especially when she is emotional and be praying for me for all the help,money,gift and support I have render her to change. But I still want her out of my house as I can't be living with someone I am not getting married to I have never done that before.

Pls guy, are u staying in jos city?

Alexaonfleek:
yes dear.set her up.since u don't like d idea of having a flatmate,then let her go

You may or may not see the fruits of what you have done but my brother,it is God that will bless and reward you

amen thank you and God bless you too

Finish what you started now. try and help her find something to manage with and send her packing.

Why don't you rent her a small place. By so there won't be drama. Honestly I'm a lady and I think she is already into you. So increase your savings and get her a small place then you discuss with her how she can fair after that. Truth is except you leave street and follow Christ or marry thee is always 95% possibility of going back.

Bishopvic:
Thank you bro have actually talked to her elder sister on phone and she can't help but thank me alot. She is actually working in hands to put her straight and am actually running a daily contribution schame to raise 80k for her that if she will start working and am seeing some progress now my fear is she staying with me for too long and from start we actually set a limit not to get too emotional as the relationship might not end in marriage. She understands this alot than me lieing and cheating on her.my mom and siblings are actually not happy am staying with a girl that I won't get married to their prefer her coming to visit time from time as she might get pregnant and another matter will enter.

Oga,

Who told you the girl needed saving, in the first place?

Bishopvic:
Good day my country people pls am in dilemma and need your matured advice.biko am not good in writing thank you. their is this girl I met 3 months ago via my friend girlfriend. about 2 weeks of our hangout she moved in with me and I realized she was into runz. Which I asked her to stop and i also told her our relationship conditions which she agree to cooperate with.conditions is we are not getting married and I advised her to stop her wired life styles of runz,smoking,drugs and getting a better life for her self. And yes am very proud of her she has stopped all this and seriously looking for a job.(was not easy sha) I won't blame her though she has a rough parental up bringing by the age of 20 she is already into full-time runz and living weird life styles.by 22 she was a victim of human traffic for sex slaves in one of West Africa countries she escaped and got her freedom early this year after she was 5 months pregnant.(her escape leed to the arrest of the people involved in the trafficking) she aborted the baby early this year after so many attempts with help from her mother. 2 months after abortion she is already back to the streets(She will be 23 next month) hustling from one guy house to the other 3 months ago she met me I advised her to stop and yes she has stopped. I actually want to help her by giving her little change to help her self but she might not mange it well. now my problems is I believe she is overstaying in my house am not that kind of person that keeps visitors for long(already told her these) also all my friends be like I should discharge her before something go wrong like she might get pregnant or be filling over comfortable in my house ( and yes she is really feeling comfortable these days) secondly since I don't know her or her baground she might be of harm spiritual or physical. i actually want her out but she will cry heavenly and say she don't want to stay with her mom or her girlfriends she is likely to go back in to her old life styles which she don't want to, as all her friends are runz girls things like this week me especially when she is emotional and be praying for me for all the help,money,gift and support I have render her to change. But I still want her out of my house as I can't be living with someone I am not getting married to I have never done that before.

You must be caring that's why she doesn't want to leave because of the comfort you gave her

But pls be real and serious

Sit her down and tell her that you want some privacy in your life

As she is going, let her know that, she has to start planning for her future because this is her time and if she doesn't start planning to be focused she will lose her balance

You can dash her some money if you have, but make sure you send it to her account not hand to hand

After this, reduce your communication with her
Stop making love to her
Leave her to find your bearing

Before you tell her that, try and make sure she has had her monthly period so that she won't cine back to tell you she is pregnant

If she wants to cry, let her cry her emotions out, the more you keep her the harder it will be to discharge her

In every relationship, women knows what they want more than the men that calls them fish brain

Next time don't allow a woman to pack into your house

After you don chop

Good with evil you mean. I know. It crazy

LilMissFavvy:
It is not an easy thing to be able to change someone the way you have impacted this girl and changed her to a better person. Try and tolerate her till you sort the things you mentioned. Like I said, you can save an audio or video messages that contain whatever agreements you have with he, cuz we live in a bad world where some heartless humans like to repay evil with good.

Yeah......it was an error.

eelbay:
Good with evil you mean. I know. It crazy

Apart from the OP, every other person on this thread is a hypocrite .

Op please do all you can to help her if you can afford to. It is not an obligation.


When you met her, you wanted sex, you told her what you want and she agreed. But because of her kind of lifestyle, you also made it clear that you can’t marry her. You also told her that, and she still agreed to be opening legs for you. I mean, she is 23, she is no longer a kid. She can take decisions for herself which she did.


You can decide to Bleep a girl without paying a dime for it, it all boils down to the agreement and understanding between the both of you.


2ndly, it is not a must that you will marry any girl you fuccked.



Please, op, help her if you can, but don’t make a life long mistake out of pity