Guys, this is gonna be really short.

I have been having this experience, since University days, and lately it's been bothering me a lot.

Girls easily fall for me, and things always quickly progress, even ladies in a relationship. It's more like with me they don't have boundaries. But then, the problem is, these ladies can do anything conceivable with me, and would always want more, but would never want to be with me totally. Like I mean, they won't want to leave their boyfriends for me, or date just me alone.

And I'm thinking of setting down, but I see that the same circle keeps playing out. What could be the problem with me? Even when they always tell me that I'm a good person, that I'm every woman's dream, yet they still can't choose me if it comes to that..

IamSantafe:
Guys, this is gonna be really short.

I have been having this experience, since University days, and lately it's been bothering me a lot.

Girls easily fall for me, and things always quickly progress, even ladies in a relationship. It's more like with me they don't have boundaries. But then, the problem is, these ladies can do anything conceivable with me, and would always want more, but would never want to be with me totally. Like I mean, they won't want to leave their boyfriends for me, or date just me alone.

And I'm thinking of setting down, but I see that the same circle keeps playing out. What could be the problem with me? Even when they always tell me that I'm a good person, that I'm every woman's dream, yet they still can't choose me if it comes to that..

you must have a very good physical build or set of qualities that make them drawn to you just for SEX and FUN.

LADIES are wise, they do not want a man other Ladies will be dragging with them... so right now just enjoy the game.... play it till you find the ONE WHO WILL STAY AND PURSUE ALL OTHER LADIES AWAY FROM YOU.

ikh777:


you must have a very good physical build or set of qualities that make them drawn to you just for SEX and FUN.

LADIES are wise, they do not want a man other Ladies will be dragging with them... so right now just enjoy the game.... play it till you find the ONE WHO WILL STAY AND PURSUE ALL OTHER LADIES AWAY FROM YOU.

The thing is, I'm not well built or anything, I'm slim and not even very attractive facial..just an everyday guy..

I am only reserved, kind-hearted and intelligent...according to them..I'm not even a womanizer because, I'm naturally shy... These things just happen..I can't even explain it..

Just chatting with a girl, she easily falls for me, or even mere talking on the phone constantly...I don't get it..

I just feel like it's a problem.

Oga, everybody wants to be exclusive.

People want to know that there are specific things you will do for only them- by virtue of them being your romantic partners.

When you go about doing these things for every other person, in the name of "kind hearted" guy, you remove some thrill and element of feeling special from relationships.

That is how you will remain the kind-hearted and non-judgmental guy. The guy who they can tell everything...but will most likely not end up with.

What is the perk of dating you when I can get all the benefits by being "just a friend"?

WHY BUY THE COW WHEN YOU CAN GET THE MILK FOR FREE?"

Humans should have some degree of unpredictability and mysteriousness. That is what evokes curiousity to know anyone more/better.

You have the problem of every rich man. Stop looking for relationship. Everyone is good enough when they quit looking for what to make them look good enough.

Let me narrate an experience that even made me bring this to this public forum.

There is this pretty girl I met on a bus while traveling, I helped her with the phone that was giving her issues and stuff, so we got talking, exchanged numbers and all.
We just kept chatting and she told me she had a boyfriend whom she loves, I said fine, we could still be friends. We kept on chatting, she tells me stuffs, and I was always advising her and at a point, I was more like her got-to-guy for issues bothering her. As the months rolled by, we started video-calling and all...and then she started professing love and all of that.

We just met only twice, and that was very briefly, we stay in different cities, yet, just via chatting she started professing love, and always asking for calls, and always wanting to see me. Now, this is a very, very pretty and endowed girl. Something happened that I had to go for an interview in the town where she schools, and she was so happy to see me. We met up, and everything happened so fast and she was totally okay with it, even though she has a boyfriend. Now the issue is, I'm falling hard for this girl but, she just wouldn't want to entertain the idea of leaving her boyfriend, even though she still wants me so badly and is even planning for me to visit soon..I don't know what to do..I feel like cutting ties because, I will get hurt in the end. She's really my kind of woman.

I'm confused.

Newboss:
You have the problem of every rich man. Stop looking for relationship. Everyone is good enough when they quit looking for what to make them look good enough.

I'm not rich, bro, at least not for now.

IamSantafe:


I'm not rich, bro, at least not for now.

It's an analogy, bro.

Newboss:

It's an analogy, bro.

Alright.

IamSantafe:


The thing is, I'm not well built or anything, I'm slim and not even very attractive facial..just an everyday guy..

I am only reserved, kind-hearted and intelligent...according to them..I'm not even a womanizer because, I'm naturally shy... These things just happen..I can't even explain it..

Just chatting with a girl, she easily falls for me, or even mere talking on the phone constantly...I don't get it..

I just feel like it's a problem.

so it works for you even online? like whatsapp and facebook?

ikh777:


so it works for you even online? like whatsapp and facebook?

.

ornicus:

?

ikh777:


so it works for you even online? like whatsapp and facebook?

Yeah...sure!

Please, I also need some perspective from the ladies, too.

IamSantafe:
Let me narrate an experience that even made me bring this to this public forum.

There is this pretty girl I met on a bus while traveling, I helped her with the phone that was giving her issues and stuff, so we got talking, exchanged numbers and all.
We just kept chatting and she told me she had a boyfriend whom she loves, I said fine, we could still be friends. We kept on chatting, she tells me stuffs, and I was always advising her and at a point, I was more like her got-to-guy for issues bothering her. As the months rolled by, we started video-calling and all...and then she started professing love and all of that.

We just met only twice, and that was very briefly, we stay in different cities, yet, just via chatting she started professing love, and always asking for calls, and always wanting to see me. Now, this is a very, very pretty and endowed girl. Something happened that I had to go for an interview in the town where she schools, and she was so happy to see me. We met up, and everything happened so fast and she was totally okay with it, even though she has a boyfriend. Now the issue is, I'm falling hard for this girl but, she just wouldn't want to entertain the idea of leaving her boyfriend, even though she still wants me so badly and is even planning for me to visit soon..I don't know what to do..I feel like cutting ties because, I will get hurt in the end. She's really my kind of woman.

I'm confused.

You're sweet and broke. It's a terrible contradiction that leaves naija women confused.

Just keep enjoying the pussy. Relationship is the least of your problems right now. Eating the chicken without paying the bill is the dream.

IamSantafe:


Yeah...sure!

ha, go for deliverance o

Newboss:


You're sweet and broke. It's a terrible contradiction that leaves naija women confused.

Just keep enjoying the pussy. Relationship is the least of your problems right now. Eating the chicken without paying the bill is the dream.

Her boyfriend is even more broke than I am...

ikh777:


ha, go for deliverance o

Maybe, just maybe, you're right!

you didn't portrait some equalities expected of a man. maybe you are a guy who always do whatever they want and never say NO to any of their request or wishes. like Ubunja used to say 'sisi'. I'll advice you man up and show your real self, stop been too nice, learn to say out things as they comes from your mind. You'll continue to be friend zoned until you wake up and present yourself as someone who can control her.
don't always do things for compliments, try and be stricts sometimes don't always be a nice guy.

jawalis:
you didn't portrait some equalities expected of a man. maybe you are a guy who always do whatever they want and never say NO to any of their request or wishes. like Ubunja used to say 'sisi'. I'll advice you man up and show your real self, stop been too nice, learn to say out things as they comes from your mind. You'll continue to be friend zoned until you wake up and present yourself as someone who can control her.
don't always do things for compliments, try and be stricts sometimes don't always be a nice guy.

Thank you.

IamSantafe:
...

A spirit is telling me to help you and solve your issues once and for all, but another one is saying I shouldn't.

Download and read this, https://shop.wetclef.com/blog/2019/05/30/download-mr-friendzone/ then let me know and I'll help you out. You'll smile is the next 48 hours.

IamSantafe:


Her boyfriend is even more broke than I am...

She's confused. Just keep fûcking her. No dull at all

iLegendd:
A spirit is telling me to help you and solve your issues once and for all, but another one is saying I shouldn't.

Download and read this, https://shop.wetclef.com/blog/2019/05/30/download-mr-friendzone/ then let me know and I'll help you out. You'll smile is the next 48 hours.

Thank you

You think too much, that's your problem, find a girl of your choice and hook up with her, dazor.

IamSantafe:
Guys, this is gonna be really short.

I have been having this experience, since University days, and lately it's been bothering me a lot.

Girls easily fall for me, and things always quickly progress, even ladies in a relationship. It's more like with me they don't have boundaries. But then, the problem is, these ladies can do anything conceivable with me, and would always want more, but would never want to be with me totally. Like I mean, they won't want to leave their boyfriends for me, or date just me alone.

And I'm thinking of setting down, but I see that the same circle keeps playing out. What could be the problem with me? Even when they always tell me that I'm a good person, that I'm every woman's dream, yet they still can't choose me if it comes to that..

This is exactly my case. I am fed up

iLegendd:
A spirit is telling me to help you and solve your issues once and for all, but another one is saying I shouldn't.

Download and read this, https://shop.wetclef.com/blog/2019/05/30/download-mr-friendzone/ then let me know and I'll help you out. You'll smile is the next 48 hours.

I have downloaded and read your book, though it's not complete. So, what next?

IamSantafe:
Let me narrate an experience that even made me bring this to this public forum.

We just met only twice, and that was very briefly, we stay in different cities, yet, just via chatting she started professing love, and always asking for calls, and always wanting to see me. Now, this is a very, very pretty and endowed girl. Something happened that I had to go for an interview in the town where she schools, and she was so happy to see me. We met up, and everything happened so fast and she was totally okay with it, even though she has a boyfriend. Now the issue is, I'm falling hard for this girl but, she just wouldn't want to entertain the idea of leaving her boyfriend, even though she still wants me so badly and is even planning for me to visit soon..I don't know what to do..I feel like cutting ties because, I will get hurt in the end. She's really my kind of woman.

I'm confused.

The issue is simple. Do not feel special that someone with a bf gave you the pussy, chances are she’s giving other guys too.

She knows that you won’t trust her if you become her bf, you will think she’s cheating on you like she cheated on him. Now asides the infatuation you have from been pvssy whipped, 4 months after you start dating you may leave her. Then she would have lost out on both sides, her bf and you.

Just stick to the fwb arrangement. Do not feel special because her current bf may have been smashing her while she had a bf too.

Firstly, Flee from fornication it's a destiny destroyer, break up with her she's not ready to date you, probably using you to satisfy her sexual urge, Find the girl of your choice and settle with her, it seems u can woo a girl to be your gf, be a man and do the right thing.

Keyword; Flee from Fornication.

eazzzy1:


The issue is simple. Do not feel special that someone with a bf gave you the pussy, chances are she’s giving other guys too.

She knows that you won’t trust her if you become her bf, you will think she’s cheating on you like she cheated on him. Now asides the infatuation you have from been pvssy whipped, 4 months after you start dating you may leave her. Then she would have lost out on both sides, her bf and you.

Just stick to the fwb arrangement. Do not feel special because her current bf may have been smashing her while she had a bf too.

There is really nothing to feel special about...
I get your points..

The problem is you don't have boundaries, When a lady begins to feel too free to do anything and everything around you, Guy know that you are a Friend. The truth is no matter how close a guy and a lady are in a relationship, there is always a space of spontaneity. Predictability brings about see finish, see finish leads to belittling. No lady will take a guy she knows all about or can do anything with seriously just like children will take their parents for granted because of over familiarity.

Here's the solution: Pack yourself together, don't be too accessible, predictable , available and . . Learn to say No, and be more with the guys.