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Re: Why Do We Justify The Actions Of Philandering Men? by Thermodynamics(m): 6:40pm On Oct 21, 2019
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Re: Why Do We Justify The Actions Of Philandering Men? by don4real18(m): 6:40pm On Oct 21, 2019
Cheating isn't okay but a man can have as many wives or concubines that he can cater for.
Re: Why Do We Justify The Actions Of Philandering Men? by Toxay(m): 6:42pm On Oct 21, 2019
The truth is cheating is wrong on all levels, that is a fact..... But some women accept it not because it's right but because of the overwhelming majority of men who cheats most of which once claimed to love their wives(some sincerely did love their wives). According to some statistics(worldwide),up to 70% of men would at sometime cheat on their wives (women=40-50%).
It's just rational that as much as you make fidelity a requirement in your marriage, you should accept the significant possibility of it happening and then deciding what to do if/when it happens.


A lot of our societal mythos is wrong yet normal.... normal in the sense of it being usual,common,random, conventional.

Things like lying, cheating, stealing, corruption in government agencies,it happens all over the world,of course we should try and change it by changing our societal values but it is reasonable to expect these things and plan towards it and how you do that is up to you

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Re: Why Do We Justify The Actions Of Philandering Men? by Nobody: 6:43pm On Oct 21, 2019
It's because they are the bread winner .
Re: Why Do We Justify The Actions Of Philandering Men? by Ebonygirl1(f): 6:44pm On Oct 21, 2019
A time is coming when more and more women will realize they don't need these men in their lives to feel fulfilled.

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Re: Why Do We Justify The Actions Of Philandering Men? by dirtystout: 6:44pm On Oct 21, 2019
Women should learn to let go of a cheating spouse.

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Re: Why Do We Justify The Actions Of Philandering Men? by Lordbricks(m): 6:44pm On Oct 21, 2019
As long as their are willing females,,there will always be male cheats..that's the root problem..if it isn't addressed every other thing we talk about will amount to flogging a dead horse no solution will ever come from it..A man's sense is aroused by sight which already puts him at a disadvantage, without determination and self control it becomes impossible to stay faithful..

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Re: Why Do We Justify The Actions Of Philandering Men? by A305: 6:44pm On Oct 21, 2019
When a woman thinks of a man, she thinks of him as her shield and comfort zone and when a man thinks of a woman, he thinks of her as his property and his pride, so a man can NEVER sit back and watch his property being abused because it would hurt his ego and pride.

In this 21st century, people irrespective of gender cheat for different reasons. Some women cheat because they love the validation of a new flame, the chase, the feeling of being wanted and adore or worshipped.

Married women cheat because of dead beadroom and loosing every sexual appeal in their husband but one FACT both gender fails to consciously realize that being bad(cheating) and stealing sex is a fetish that appeals to both gender. Stolen sex is the most pleasurable, memorable and orgasmic.

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Re: Why Do We Justify The Actions Of Philandering Men? by IjebuWarrior: 6:45pm On Oct 21, 2019
OP... You dey OK? Dem swear for you ni? Wetin concern you? Na Thunder go fire you las las... angry

Re: Why Do We Justify The Actions Of Philandering Men? by Austine567(m): 6:45pm On Oct 21, 2019
Op! are you a victim?
Re: Why Do We Justify The Actions Of Philandering Men? by MrBrownJay1(m): 6:45pm On Oct 21, 2019
Fuckthamods:

And who told you they don't cheat back? I can't count the number of married women I've slept with. Infact they cheat more than the men but hardly get caught. You must be a learner

sadly, these are the ones that are fighting fire with fire...but again, the main issue here is that, if thats what you wanna do, then so be it, but be fully upfront with it from get go. crawling at the dead of night (like a rodent) to go get pleasure outside your marriage/partner, while coming back pretending all is ok (and possibly infecting her with whatever diseases you brought back) is totally wrong IMHO.

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Re: Why Do We Justify The Actions Of Philandering Men? by terroristbuhari: 6:45pm On Oct 21, 2019
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IjebuWarrior:
OP... You dey OK? Dem swear for you ni? Wetin concern you? Na Thunder go fire you las las... angry
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Re: Why Do We Justify The Actions Of Philandering Men? by henryobinna(m): 6:46pm On Oct 21, 2019
MrBrownJay1:


but bro, the reason many women dont cheat back isnt because of the lack of desire/opportunity, but rather because they wanna keep that marriage at any cost, and know that the insecure man she is married to will NEVER accept her cheating....aka majority are royally fukced!
oga if your husband cheats, dump his arse or you cheat and he dumps your arse. Simple.

stop disturbing us with an old topic.

Always looking for whom to blame

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Re: Why Do We Justify The Actions Of Philandering Men? by imitateMe(m): 6:47pm On Oct 21, 2019
UnknownQueen:
Our useless culture made it so, sometimes I wish I could change some certain things about our useless culture, but unfortunately for me there's nothing I can do....

If we can't beat them, we just join them...
BTW, I guess I'm one of the lucky married women, cos when people complain about domestic, sexual abuse amongst others, I can't help but thank God for giving me a man Dat suits my sweet self....
The same tradition that makes it seem okay for a young girl to demand airtime and money from an innocent young boy.

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Re: Why Do We Justify The Actions Of Philandering Men? by Toks2008(m): 6:47pm On Oct 21, 2019
AmazonTopaz:
Why does society make it seem ok for men to cheat? Why do we lie under the guise of men are polygamous in nature and that it is natural for men to cheat? Men should be held accountable for their irresponsible actions and should not be condoned.

If the tables are turned I bet you that a lot of men will not be able to take in the nonsense they dish out to women because they know that in their subconcious it is wrong.

Why the excuses such as that a man who cheats loves his wife but wants to explore and give stupid reasons as to why men do that I don't understand the logic behind that .

To the men who philander have you for once thought about the women in your lives how they would feel or have you for once sat down to ask yourself if it was you and how you would feel?

Why does society make it okay for men to cheat and chastise women for doing same why? Why condition women into believing that it is okay and normal for a man to cheat on committed partners or spouses.

I don't believe it is okay it kills the self esteem of the woman and it is an insult to her self respect.

How can you conciously disrespect someone who you claim to love and vowed to be faithful to?

If you give the woman disease nkor what about your kids? I don't get it

I blame society for feeding men with that crappy notion that it is okay to behave like an irresponsible dickhead and get away with it.

I also blame women for allowing themselves to be manipulated into thinking that it is okay for a man to cheat on you. It just goes to show how we train our daughters with little self worth into thinking that it is okay to get disrespected by a man and their life begins and ends with men and marriage. If daughters are trained with some level of swlf esteem, love, independence and are boys are thought right they will think twice before cheating and our ladies will not condone such from them.

In a nutshell, we teach our girls to take poo and our boys to dish out poo.

No faithful partner deserves a cheating partner.

No one is justifying cheating...it is what it is....Men are natural polygamists.

My advise for you is to face reality or you may end up living in fools paradise.

If your husband cheats on you and you leave him because of that just remain single for life cos there is no guaranty that you will find a faithful man anywhere.

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Re: Why Do We Justify The Actions Of Philandering Men? by crackhaus: 6:48pm On Oct 21, 2019
MrBrownJay1:


but bro, the reason many women dont cheat back isnt because of the lack of desire/opportunity, but rather because they wanna keep that marriage at any cost, and know that the insecure man she is married to will NEVER accept her cheating....aka majority are royally fukced!
Which is why I insist they damn the consequences, otherwise I see no point to the issue.

It's not like society can legislate (control) the 'perception' to male infidelity, neither can laws be created to keep men from cheating.

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Re: Why Do We Justify The Actions Of Philandering Men? by henryobinna(m): 6:50pm On Oct 21, 2019
Ebonygirl1:
A time is coming when more and more women will realize they don't need these men in their lives to feel fulfilled.
yes you're very right. they'll come to realize that.

Just as men already know they don't need these leeches
Re: Why Do We Justify The Actions Of Philandering Men? by AmazonTopaz(f): 6:51pm On Oct 21, 2019
Fuckthamods:

Goan sleep.. It's a man's world.
If e pain you go create your own man or nack head for wall.
The usual nonsense they spit out when they fail to be logical. Yes the world is mainly patriarchal but it does not change the fact that humans are becoming more exposed and wiser. I believe this world is big for everyone and it is our world for now maybe when we move to mars it would be entirely for women but for now it is our world and when women stand up for themselves support themselves and stop taking bullshit from men such rubbish will stop regardless of whether na man world or not

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Re: Why Do We Justify The Actions Of Philandering Men? by bezimo(m): 6:53pm On Oct 21, 2019
Nothing to justify about brostituting while married..its an inexcusable behaviour... However why do you sound like Nigerian women are saints..or should I remind you that Nigerian women are reputed to be the no 1 most unfaithful women in the world...

https://www.channelstv.com/2012/07/16/nigerian-women-are-most-unfaithful-in-the-world-durex/amp/

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Re: Why Do We Justify The Actions Of Philandering Men? by Nobody: 6:54pm On Oct 21, 2019
If daughters are trained with some level of swlf esteem, love, independence and are boys are thought right they will think twice before cheating and our ladies will not condone such from them.

This is the simple truth. Raise an independent woman is the best gift you can give to your female child in this society.

Also Society permit for men to diss out shit but it's totally up to you to accept or strictly reject.

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Re: Why Do We Justify The Actions Of Philandering Men? by UnknownQueen(f): 6:55pm On Oct 21, 2019
imitateMe:

The same tradition that makes it seem okay for a young girl to demand airtime and money from an innocent young boy.

How many guys out there give in to the demands of these girls...

If you check around you now, ull notice the demands of those girls have been put in check in other words, it has reduced drastically, women are now waking up to reality, we are no longer being parasites, symbiotic relationship is the order of the day now for us, except for some few leeches here and there...
Don't worry we are getting there.

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Re: Why Do We Justify The Actions Of Philandering Men? by Nobody: 6:56pm On Oct 21, 2019
AmazonTopaz:
Why does society make it seem ok for men to cheat? Why do we lie under the guise of men are polygamous in nature and that it is natural for men to cheat? Men should be held accountable for their irresponsible actions and should not be condoned.

If the tables are turned I bet you that a lot of men will not be able to take in the nonsense they dish out to women because they know that in their subconcious it is wrong.

Why the excuses such as that a man who cheats loves his wife but wants to explore and give stupid reasons as to why men do that I don't understand the logic behind that .

To the men who philander have you for once thought about the women in your lives how they would feel or have you for once sat down to ask yourself if it was you and how you would feel?

Why does society make it okay for men to cheat and chastise women for doing same why? Why condition women into believing that it is okay and normal for a man to cheat on committed partners or spouses.

I don't believe it is okay it kills the self esteem of the woman and it is an insult to her self respect.

How can you conciously disrespect someone who you claim to love and vowed to be faithful to?

If you give the woman disease nkor what about your kids? I don't get it

I blame society for feeding men with that crappy notion that it is okay to behave like an irresponsible dickhead and get away with it.

I also blame women for allowing themselves to be manipulated into thinking that it is okay for a man to cheat on you. It just goes to show how we train our daughters with little self worth into thinking that it is okay to get disrespected by a man and their life begins and ends with men and marriage. If daughters are trained with some level of swlf esteem, love, independence and are boys are thought right they will think twice before cheating and our ladies will not condone such from them.

In a nutshell, we teach our girls to take poo and our boys to dish out poo.

No faithful partner deserves a cheating partner.

[b]Amazontopaz....this wailing....this topic is not one the women can win especially in the African setting that it is almost impossible to separate religion and culture from our way of life...
U women always wanna equate men and women...it’s not just possible...this things are both ways...society ddnt sit down to make these rules...it’s just an unconscious gender construct....
women do somethings in this society that they seem to easily get away with it...just like it’s normal when women collect money from men regularly....but when a man does same, it doesn’t look cool....women dress almost naked all the time...men can’t do that dat shiit...or have u seen a man exposing his balls in public or his tighs...?? I don’t know how u are looking at it but somethings don’t just look cool with a particular gender....
As a man I can easily hide under the canopy of polygamy to cheat...To get a second or third wife I have to start the process with cheating.. I don’t see how a woman wants to do the same..it will never be seen as polygamy for women...it will be seen as “whoring”.....
Don’t get me wrong I’m not saying it’s okay for a man to cheat...but it’s just what it is....[/b]

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Re: Why Do We Justify The Actions Of Philandering Men? by anochuko01(m): 6:58pm On Oct 21, 2019
I once heard my uncle say "its the duty of a man to ask, and it's the duty of a woman to accept or decline"

And I say to my female friends "You don't blame a goat for eating your yam, you blame yourself for keeping the yam at the goats reach"

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Re: Why Do We Justify The Actions Of Philandering Men? by pocohantas(f): 7:00pm On Oct 21, 2019
Just poison him...

Problem solved
Re: Why Do We Justify The Actions Of Philandering Men? by imitateMe(m): 7:00pm On Oct 21, 2019
UnknownQueen:


How many guys out there give in to the demands of these girls...

If you check around you now, ull notice the demands of those girls have been put in check in other words, it has reduced drastically, women are now waking up to reality, we are no longer being parasites, symbiotic relationship is the order of the day now for us, except for some few leeches here and there...
Don't worry we are getting there.
Good. You see; when a man is compelled to believe he is mainly responsible for your welfare, you've given him the "go ahead" to cheat on you. And that's only natural.
Re: Why Do We Justify The Actions Of Philandering Men? by anochuko01(m): 7:02pm On Oct 21, 2019
pocohantas:
I will Just poison him...

Problem solved
Re: Why Do We Justify The Actions Of Philandering Men? by AmazonTopaz(f): 7:03pm On Oct 21, 2019
Toks2008:


No one is justifying cheating...it is what it is....Men are natural polygamists.

My advise for you is to face reality or you may end up living in fools paradise.

If your husband cheats on you and you leave him because of that just remain single for life cos there is no guaranty that you will find a faithful man anywhere.
No not true you are the one creating a stupid reality sorry. I am too big to be manipulated into believing all men are bingos.
Control your local government toks and stop being a community dickhead. There are faithful and self disciplined men out there. Only irresponsible dickheads cheat. So stop supporting nonsense

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Re: Why Do We Justify The Actions Of Philandering Men? by emonis88: 7:03pm On Oct 21, 2019
First I know u r a woman. And women need to realize that when they see that it is a tradition for the man to provide. So also they should see it that it that in the olden days as men provide for women so they marry more than one wife to show their wealth and the women r submissive.
Fast forward to the modern day, the women want equal rights, 50/ 50 in marriage, but they still tell the man to provide for their everything. They do not want him to see another woman or ve another wife. But u still want him to provide everything. Men r the ones cheated here. If a woman wants her man not to see another woman, when he is wealthy enough to, she should also shoulder some financial responsibilities in the home. Today a woman wants her husband to help her out in the kitchen, with the children, and also provide everything. Abeg u want kill this man? Women want, women want, which do women give? Some women il come here n say the woman gives birth. Pls do u do it alone? The man's sperm must fertilize the egg for it to become a baby. Apart from that what else? So pls when you don't want ur man to look outside show him that u can help him out n he il cherish you for it.

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Re: Why Do We Justify The Actions Of Philandering Men? by DenreleDave(m): 7:04pm On Oct 21, 2019
Why do people believe that a lady can be raped but a man can't be rape?

When u answer that, I will answer you @op and any interested fellow

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Re: Why Do We Justify The Actions Of Philandering Men? by MrBrownJay1(m): 7:08pm On Oct 21, 2019
crackhaus:

Which is why I insist they damn the consequences, otherwise I see no point to the issue.

It's not like society can legislate (control) the 'perception' to male infidelity, neither can laws be created to keep men from cheating.

but bro, you know that society has a lot to do with this issue.... a society that brainwash women into accepting whatever rubbish under marriage, THEN that same society sees nothing wrong with men cheating while looking down on women who do... but, the main issue is that we are not answering the right question here: is it right to cheat?! and if it is, then why these cheating people dont say openly to their wives/husband that they are going to get their groove on with someone else?

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Re: Why Do We Justify The Actions Of Philandering Men? by AmazonTopaz(f): 7:09pm On Oct 21, 2019
DenreleDave:
Why do people believe that a lady can be raped but a man can't be rape?


When u answer that, I will answer you @op and any interested fellow
Men get raped and I believe men can be sexually abused.
Re: Why Do We Justify The Actions Of Philandering Men? by emonis88: 7:10pm On Oct 21, 2019
pocohantas:
Just poison him...
Problem solved
Husband killer located guys run for ur life.

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