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Pettyprincess:
Op God bless you for this write-up!!
Nigerian guys can lie ehh,even when it is obvious they still gonna deny it with clear evidence!! Guys nd cheating are like 5 nd 6
May God deliver us from promiscuous men!!

Just so you know, guys don't cheat with guys. They cheat with you ladies

Women cheat more

Pettyprincess:
Op God bless you for this write-up!!
Nigerian guys can lie ehh,even when it is obvious they still gonna deny it with clear evidence!! Guys nd cheating are like 5 nd 6
May God deliver us from promiscuous men!!

Not all guys are the same.
Me I have never cheated before.

m140:
You never cheated

Question or statement?

Annie001:
Lol
Men and cheating

African men don't cheat. They are naturally polygamous. If you're not satisfied with that, quit or you marry a white man.
I can categorically tell you that over 70% of Nigerian men have affairs outside marriage.

Look, avoiding cheating is not only about being honest with your partner(s), it's about being honest with yourselves--before anything happens. Before getting deep into a relationship. Before getting married. I think a lot of people never discuss how they will handle things as a couple, if one partner is attracted to someone else.

A lot of people take marriage vows without an understanding of their own nature, nor giving their natures due weight and consideration, and thus deal with the fallout later on. Marriage vows themselves seem not to account for human nature. And premarital counselling...how many couples have gone for this, and not just followed a script for marriage written by someone else...with the expectation that marriage will magically fulfill their needs--socially, sexually, emotionally, financially? How many people know their own needs deeply, never mind their partner's? How many people have made allowance for the changing needs of themselves and their spouse?

This is not to justify cheating. It's to point out that what makes cheating, cheating, is that one partner is going against their original agreement with the other partner, whatever that was. How many couples discuss what they will do, if one of them is attracted to another person? Absence of meaningful communication leads to lies, secrets, and distancing of the couple from each other. It manifests in BS such as the following:

1. S/he seduced me. Translation: I don't take responsibility for my actions.
2. S/he didn't mean anything to me. Translation: And you don't mean all that much to me, either.
3. It was the devil's handiwork. Translation: I don't take responsibility for my actions.
4. I didn't want to do it, but... Translation: I don't take responsibility for my actions.
5. It was never my intention to hurt you. Translation: I snuck around so you wouldn't find out.
6. It only happened once. Translation: Once is almost never, right?
7. You are the one I truly love. Translation: But we don't communicate, don't understand one another, and don't fully trust each other.

How many married people on this forum have the trust built within their marriage, to freely discuss their attraction to others, with their spouse? How many of you have an agreement with your spouse, on how you will handle such attractions? How many of you have a strong enough marriage that you would trust your spouse on a date with someone else, and not feel that your marriage was threatened?

Pettyprincess:
Op God bless you for this write-up!!
Nigerian guys can lie ehh,even when it is obvious they still gonna deny it with clear evidence!! Guys nd cheating are like 5 nd 6
May God deliver us from promiscuous men!!

Who are we cheating with? Other men?

Pettyprincess:
Op God bless you for this write-up!!
Nigerian guys can lie ehh,even when it is obvious they still gonna deny it with clear evidence!! Guys nd cheating are like 5 nd 6
May God deliver us from promiscuous men!!

and deliver us from promiscuous women too! AMEN....

egwekwe:
Cheating isn't gender based.

Thanks to poverty in the country, ladies now cheat as equal if not more than men.

true talk.….this cheating thing is becoming 50-50

Zita55:
No 3 and 7 very common with them

probably talking out of experience..pele, he go be

that thing in between your leg is your greatest enemy,

You forget to add,you made me do it.

MissJoy29:
Question or statement?

Question

Pettyprincess:
Op God bless you for this write-up!!
Nigerian guys can lie ehh,even when it is obvious they still gonna deny it with clear evidence!! Guys nd cheating are like 5 nd 6
May God deliver us from promiscuous men!!

See who is talking....

Shakaranews2:
Lol.. Hear to read lies.
Meanwhile, see beautiful Transformation and latest update on the life of Destined Kids, Rejoice Iwueze.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UUNTOir0oOg

They can't sing.

Pettyprincess:
Op God bless you for this write-up!!
Nigerian guys can lie ehh,even when it is obvious they still gonna deny it with clear evidence!! Guys nd cheating are like 5 nd 6
May God deliver us from promiscuous men!!

And women too..Amen!!

Out dated excuses. Anyman using such lines is still a learner.

I remembered about 7yrs back. I was dating a guy who's a serial cheat. One day, I tried to visit him unannounced. Caught my guy with one foolish girl who I earlier tought to be his friend's sister in his room in heated romance. I quickly made for the door and bounced out. Boo messaged me to tell me he knew I was coming and had to arrange for the girl just to see how I will react if I saw them. He said I didn't love him judging from the way I reacted. The stupid me had to apologise and started doing everything for him so he can know-how much I love him. Love is stupid and over rated. May God punish James anywhere he's now.

jackals:
I remembered about 7yrs back. I was dating a guy who's a serial cheat. One day, I tried to visit him unannounced. Caught my guy with one foolish girl who I earlier tought to be his friend's sister in his room in heated romance. I quickly made for the door and bounced out. Boo messaged me to tell me he knew I was coming and had to arrange for the girl just to see how I will react if I saw them. He said I didn't love him judging from the way I reacted. The stupid me had to apologise and started doing everything for him so he can know-how much I love him. Love is stupid and over rated. May God punish James anywhere he's now.

.. Hahahaha. Very funny but I like the guys lyrics sha.

op naija ladies who cheat also use these similar lines nau
naija relationships are always deceitful abeg
its always how we can scam our partner it always entails

m140:
Question

Then no. At least not with my full senses

NiCurious:
Look, avoiding cheating is not only about being honest with your partner(s), it's about being honest with yourselves--before anything happens. Before getting deep into a relationship. Before getting married. I think a lot of people never discuss how they will handle things as a couple, if one partner is attracted to someone else.

A lot of people take marriage vows without an understanding of their own nature, nor giving their natures due weight and consideration, and thus deal with the fallout later on. Marriage vows themselves seem not to account for human nature. And premarital counselling...how many couples have gone for this, and not just followed a script for marriage written by someone else...with the expectation that marriage will magically fulfill their needs--socially, sexually, emotionally, financially? How many people know their own needs deeply, never mind their partner's? How many people have made allowance for the changing needs of themselves and their spouse?

This is not to justify cheating. It's to point out that what makes cheating, cheating, is that one partner is going against their original agreement with the other partner, whatever that was. How many couples discuss what they will do, if one of them is attracted to another person? Absence of meaningful communication leads to lies, secrets, and distancing of the couple from each other. It manifests in BS such as the following:

1. S/he seduced me. Translation: I don't take responsibility for my actions.
2. S/he didn't mean anything to me. Translation: And you don't mean all that much to me, either.
3. It was the devil's handiwork. Translation: I don't take responsibility for my actions.
4. I didn't want to do it, but... Translation: I don't take responsibility for my actions.
5. It was never my intention to hurt you. Translation: I snuck around so you wouldn't find out.
6. It only happened once. Translation: Once is almost never, right?
7. You are the one I truly love. Translation: But we don't communicate, don't understand one another, and don't fully trust each other.

How many married people on this forum have the trust built within their marriage, to freely discuss their attraction to others, with their spouse? How many of you have an agreement with your spouse, on how you will handle such attractions? How many of you have a strong enough marriage that you would trust your spouse on a date with someone else, and not feel that your marriage was threatened?

Nice!


At your last paragraph, that's a recipe for disaster especially if the person doesn't value honest discussions/revelations. I once told a bf of my crush or admiration for a male colleague. Infact, i ended up regretting it

MissJoy29:
Then no. At least not with my full senses

Smiles, okay.

egwekwe:
Cheating isn't gender based.

Thanks to poverty in the country, ladies now cheat as equal if not more than men.

it's not just poverty

it's moral bankruptcy

ClitRaider:
A woman is not a MAN.

We are MEN, not cowards.
I can slay and get a medal, when you slay you become a stupid ass's bitchh.

this is ludicrous

xHorsemenx:
how about the women many of them who don turn olosho because of material things and iphone

they are talking about men, you come here dey talk trash cause you can't stand the heat. See your life