Personally I’ve never fancied the idea. Myself and my brothers live with this ideology even in marriage and we ain’t sad about that.

Now ...general question

Does it make sense to give a working class woman monthly upkeep or whatever that stuff is called ? Upkeep should only come into the equation if your partner is a housewife or so....and doesn’t work

I can’t even imagine not giving my wife upkeep money.
Working or not maybe because of my pride as the man of the house lol.

Then again can’t trust this women they be needing the slightest reason to cheat on you & i don’t want a “stingy husband” to be one.

YOUNGELDER1:
I can’t even imagine not giving my wife upkeep money.
Working or not maybe because of my pride as the man of the house lol.

Then again can’t trust this women they be needing the slightest reason to cheat on you & i don’t want a “stingy husband” to be one.

Cc lalasticlala dominique

The man provides. The working woman supports

Satoshi2019:
The man provides. The working woman supports

yes because she belongs to somebody, her money is just 4 her to show off as a working class

No give am upkeep o.

Yes she should be given upkeep money.as she is your responsibility.her money is to reduce expenses and not for her to be on her own

@plead

What financial model is your style in marriage?

bukatyne:
@plead

What financial model is your style in marriage?

combination of joint and individual accounts....while some parts are unified and can’t be spent without both of us consent ,some areas are separated and can be spent without either of us consent.

YOUNGELDER1:
I can’t even imagine not giving my wife upkeep money.
Working or not maybe because of my pride as the man of the house lol.

Then again can’t trust this women they be needing the slightest reason to cheat on you & i don’t want a “stingy husband” to be one.

seconded

Plead:


Personally I’ve never fancied the idea. Myself and my brothers live with this ideology even in marriage and we ain’t sad about that.


Now ...general question

Does it make sense to give a working class woman monthly upkeep or whatever that stuff is called ? Upkeep should only come into the equation if your partner is a housewife or so....and doesn’t work

I agree.

In addition to that, I believe feminists, psuedo-feminists, SJWs, in fact, any woman who claims to be a strong independent woman by attaching herself to any of these listed labels, ought NOT to expect to be given "upkeep" as a matter of principle.

Oh how I hate this word, "upkeep".

For wives (working or not) who deserve it, I'd rather refer to it as an 'honorarium'.

dollytino4real:
yes because she belongs to somebody, her money is just 4 her to show off as a working class

This is how I always know I'm on a Nigerian forum. I'd be hard pressed to find something like this on Reddit.

dollytino4real:
yes because she belongs to somebody, her money is just 4 her to show off as a working class

What the hell

crackhaus:

I agree.

In addition to that, I believe feminists, psuedo-feminists, SJWs, in fact, any woman who claims to be a strong independent woman by attaching herself to any of these listed labels, ought NOT to expect to be given "upkeep" as a matter of principle.

Oh how I hate this word, "upkeep".

For wives (working or not) who deserve it, I'd rather refer to it as an 'honorarium'.

Hmm

crackhaus:

This is how I always know I'm on a Nigerian forum. I'd be hard pressed to find something like this on Reddit.

crackhaus:

I agree.

In addition to that, I believe feminists, psuedo-feminists, SJWs, in fact, any woman who claims to be a strong independent woman by attaching herself to any of these listed labels, ought NOT to expect to be given "upkeep" as a matter of principle.

Oh how I hate this word, "upkeep".

For wives (working or not) who deserve it, I'd rather refer to it as an 'honorarium'.

Working wives shouldn’t think of any upkeep or personal allowance.

Just a gift every now and then will be cool.

Lol when we should be talking about how much she will bring to the table to settle family bills

dollytino4real:
yes because she belongs to somebody, her money is just 4 her to show off as a working class

Jeez they have arrived, ur money our money n my money my money crew

A good wife should even submit her entire salary to her husband and the man will give her sth for upkeeps from there n save the rest for the family

crackhaus:

I agree.

In addition to that, I believe feminists, psuedo-feminists, SJWs, in fact, any woman who claims to be a strong independent woman by attaching herself to any of these listed labels, ought NOT to expect to be given "upkeep" as a matter of principle.

Oh how I hate this word, "upkeep".

For wives (working or not) who deserve it, I'd rather refer to it as an 'honorarium'.

Honorarium?

Seriously?

Hahahahahahaha!

I don't think there is anyone that is truly independent.

crackhaus:

This is how I always know I'm on a Nigerian forum. I'd be hard pressed to find something like this on Reddit.

Well, I am sure you would rarely find a working wife opening a tread on how to handle all the chores alone on reddit.

We have different cultures.

Most other cultures realize that for a wife to really keep the house, she can't work outside it so they frown at working wives.

Nigerians expect a wife doing 9 - 5 bar commute time to keep the house alone while the husband wants to 'rest' and hangout on weekends working same schedule.

We would continue to see comments like these.

Plead:


combination of joint and individual accounts....while some parts are unified and can’t be spent without both of us consent ,some areas are separated and can be spent without either of us consent.

Ok

Do you have percentages in mind?

How would you handle house chores?

YES YES YES.

Plead:


Personally I’ve never fancied the idea. Myself and my brothers live with this ideology even in marriage and we ain’t sad about that.


Now ...general question

Does it make sense to give a working class woman monthly upkeep or whatever that stuff is called ? Upkeep should only come into the equation if your partner is a housewife or so....and doesn’t work

Provided that she is/remains submissive, she'll always have unrestricted access to available and accessible money at any time, whether or not she earns money directly/personally.

As a submissive/good/aristocratic/humane/virtuous/loving woman who's independent-minded:

- Her word is bankable, so there won't be any need to take up the task of monitoring and controlling an adult, because she'll always be altruistic and conscientious and knows how to deploy each where and when necessary. And that, broadly, means that one won't dissipate energy in the pursuit of oneness with her in particular, and peace of mind in general, because she understands that liberty doesn't negate decorum.

- With her, personal longing to achieve eternal oneness with an opposite sex of a nonkin automatically becomes an easy task.

So, she deserves the absolute best treatment.

LordKO:




Provided that she is/remains submissive, she'll always have unrestricted access to available and accessible money at any time, whether or not she earns money directly/personally.

As a submissive/good/aristocratic/humane/virtuous/loving woman who's independent-minded:

- Her word is bankable, so there won't be any need to take on the task of monitoring and controlling an adult, because she'll always be altruistic and conscientious and knows how to deploy each where and when necessary. And that, broadly, means that one won't dissipate energy in the pursuit of oneness with her in particular, and peace of mind in general, because she understands that liberty doesn't negate decorum.

- With her, personal longing to achieve eternal oneness with an opposite sex of a nonkin automatically becomes an easy task.

So, she deserves the absolute best treatment.

Take it easy with the English.... btw the bolded has nothing to do with whether a partner is submissive or not .

That only happen in few or less families /marriages these days

bukatyne:


Ok

Do you have percentages in mind?

How would you handle house chores?

Same way...joint

Btw we have househelps.

NoToPile:
YES YES YES.

Why?

blank:
Just a gift every now and then will be cool.

I think your answer is the most realistic and humane so far

ogawisdom:
Lol when we should be talking about how much she will bring to the table to settle family bills

Off course

bukatyne:


Well, I am sure you would rarely find a working wife opening a tread on how to handle all the chores alone on reddit.

We have different cultures.

Most other cultures realize that for a wife to really keep the house, she can't work outside it so they frown at working wives.

Nigerians expect a wife doing 9 - 5 bar commute time to keep the house alone while the husband wants to 'rest' and hangout on weekends working same schedule.

We would continue to see comments like these.

This is so not a Nigerian thing. Working wives doing chores is still a big discussion in 'most other cultures' as you put it.
Don't let what these chics type here make you think otherwise.

Let's not digress anyway