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Re: Should Working Class Wives Be Given 'Upkeep'? by Nobody: 2:36pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
bukatyne: Swedish women? |
Re: Should Working Class Wives Be Given 'Upkeep'? by bukatyne(f): 2:36pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
Plead: @last paragraph: I gathered that from his last post. @ 1st and 2nd: I agree a lot of people throw a lot of labels around. I have never used 'independent' woman, boss lady, real man, ideal man etc. I have however labeled myself a feminist, Christian, Yoruba etc. This post does not answer why you mentioned postmann. |
Re: Should Working Class Wives Be Given 'Upkeep'? by bukatyne(f): 2:38pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
crackhaus: Was this obtainable for Igbo society? |
Re: Should Working Class Wives Be Given 'Upkeep'? by bukatyne(f): 2:39pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
crackhaus: Ok. Let's stick to financially then. |
Re: Should Working Class Wives Be Given 'Upkeep'? by Nobody: 2:40pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
crackhaus: Do you believe this? |
Re: Should Working Class Wives Be Given 'Upkeep'? by LordKO(m): 2:51pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
Plead: Formally and rationally, there's nothing like independent woman (man) anywhere - human beings will always remain interdependent on each other - one is either independent-minded/strong-minded or expedient or headstrong. So, when some people throw around the "independent woman" cliche, they mean they're economically emancipated. One can be economically emancipated without being independent-minded (and vice versa) - it's a case of materialism vs immaterialism respectively. Independent-mindedness is the major hallmark of a principled/spiritual person. However, there's a thin line between it and expediency; for example, both expedient woman (person) and independent-minded woman are usually vocal, but you'll always know the expedient woman for her hypocritical disingenuousness. 7 Likes |
Re: Should Working Class Wives Be Given 'Upkeep'? by crackhaus: 2:51pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
Plead:Like i said, don't take my word for it. Find out. 3 Likes |
Re: Should Working Class Wives Be Given 'Upkeep'? by crackhaus: 2:53pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
bukatyne:Was there ever a time that farming was the prevalent source of livelihood in Igbo society? If yes, then it was obtainable. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should Working Class Wives Be Given 'Upkeep'? by bukatyne(f): 2:54pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
crackhaus: When we talk housewifery in Nigeria, Igbos are the poster child hence my question. |
Re: Should Working Class Wives Be Given 'Upkeep'? by crackhaus: 2:58pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
bukatyne:Less hours and less stressful jobs does not make one a housewife, but I get where you're going. |
Re: Should Working Class Wives Be Given 'Upkeep'? by bukatyne(f): 3:00pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
crackhaus: @bold: Tell me something |
Re: Should Working Class Wives Be Given 'Upkeep'? by bukatyne(f): 3:01pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
LordKO: I agree with you. 4 Likes |
Re: Should Working Class Wives Be Given 'Upkeep'? by crackhaus: 3:03pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
Plead:You realize that alimony is only given to non-earning women who by some reason decide to be stay-at-home wives by joint decision between them and their husbands right? The alimony given to lesser earning spouses is not what Buka was referring to. However, this one is even rare especially when there are no children from the marriage... and in situations where it is given, it is usually for a specified period NOT a lifetime. I get your point anyway |
Re: Should Working Class Wives Be Given 'Upkeep'? by ednut1(m): 3:10pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
Plead:100%. Many men can barely have savings while their wives build houses in secret. Is that no madness 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should Working Class Wives Be Given 'Upkeep'? by Nobody: 3:16pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
LordKO: She was talking about financial independence in marriage not independence in life .... most of those women using the term “independent woman” are mostly using it to showcase a life of financial independence (meaning they don’t depend on anybody/man for their funds) |
Re: Should Working Class Wives Be Given 'Upkeep'? by crackhaus: 3:18pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
bukatyne:Lol. You'll have to dig farther into the times when farming was their major occupation to confirm or refute your bias. |
Re: Should Working Class Wives Be Given 'Upkeep'? by crackhaus: 3:20pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
bukatyne:Tell you what na? So a housewife is now also that woman who is employed in a less stressful job and works less time? 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should Working Class Wives Be Given 'Upkeep'? by LordKO(m): 3:20pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
Plead: E bi like say u don dey get comprehension issue ni, lol. Na de same tin we de talk. |
Re: Should Working Class Wives Be Given 'Upkeep'? by crackhaus: 3:24pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
AwkaetitiBabe: Kai. 7 Likes |
Re: Should Working Class Wives Be Given 'Upkeep'? by Nobody: 3:27pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
LordKO: If we are saying the same thing then you’re wrong . People who are truly financially independent are abound. |
Re: Should Working Class Wives Be Given 'Upkeep'? by crackhaus: 3:28pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
Plead:Clout, nothing else. They don't know the meaning, one example is Awkaetitibabe above. Never do we hear of "independent man". 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should Working Class Wives Be Given 'Upkeep'? by Nobody: 3:29pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
ednut1: Is traditional setting what our forefathers practiced? If yes, then I don't really understand cos no woman from my background has ever been a house wife. They were always on the move. @topic, men give because it's a thing of pride as the ascribed head of the house and provider. It soothes the ego and makes them happy so why not indulge them, then look for way to balance it without robbing it on his face. 1 Like |
Re: Should Working Class Wives Be Given 'Upkeep'? by LordKO(m): 3:32pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
Plead: Volatility of money/material thing makes it an aberration for anyone to claim financial independence - so, financial independence is a cliche. Tell me that financially emancipated people abound and I will agree with you wholeheartedly. 2 Likes |
Re: Should Working Class Wives Be Given 'Upkeep'? by bukatyne(f): 3:35pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
crackhaus: I am serious. I grew up in an all Igbo community (we were just two Yoruba on a very long street) so I have first hand experience on some of their way of life. We've had a similar discussion where I told you that housewifery or a man fully responsible for home financially is not a Yoruba thing. In fact, an housewife or financially non-contributing wife is called alabodo (someone you feed to fvck). To not say that there are no outliners. Igbos however pride themselves in fully financing the home (I see this even in my colleagues with working wives). Growing up, most of the Igbo wives literally did not leave the house except to market or parties while you saw the husbands hustling (legit and non). The downside was that the men's words were law and upon the breakdown of the marriage, the wives did not leave with a pin so the marriage must not break. Comparing this to pre-colonial times when everyone farmed, where was the cultural shift for them? Igbos can also pitch in. 2 Likes |
Re: Should Working Class Wives Be Given 'Upkeep'? by Nobody: 3:35pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
sassysure: Lie small small . |
Re: Should Working Class Wives Be Given 'Upkeep'? by Nobody: 3:36pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
PrimadonnaO:If you can't do that, then choose your partner carefully , some men can kill you if you don't submit it , or it leads to divorce. And you might want to stay away from igbo guys . Providing for their family is a thing of pride , but if they lose their means of livelihood for a while. Then you must submit yours to them , good thing is that they mostly hand it back to you. 1 Like |
Re: Should Working Class Wives Be Given 'Upkeep'? by Nobody: 3:37pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
bukatyne: As for Igbo women not leaving marriage,you’re correct. Irrespective of what happens they hardly leave , you’ll be the one to runaway from them or else no amount of assault or embarrassment will make them leave their marriage |
Re: Should Working Class Wives Be Given 'Upkeep'? by bukatyne(f): 3:37pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
crackhaus: You clearly understood that post. |
Re: Should Working Class Wives Be Given 'Upkeep'? by crackhaus: 3:48pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
bukatyne:My submission on the idea of housewives being relatively a new invention, is based off the pre-colonial period. By the time salaried jobs became the source of income in families, men are the ones who got most of the jobs particularly due to physical strength. It's the same reason men were educated more than women - the time and concentration it took to earn a degree would have made women ditch the markets which was the only way farm produce could be turned into cash. It made sense for the males to go to school while females continued in the farms and selling what they harvest. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should Working Class Wives Be Given 'Upkeep'? by crackhaus: 3:50pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
bukatyne:I understood it, does not mean you are right. Are you about to create another dictionary definition of 'Housewife'? |
Re: Should Working Class Wives Be Given 'Upkeep'? by bukatyne(f): 3:50pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
crackhaus: Ok |
Re: Should Working Class Wives Be Given 'Upkeep'? by bukatyne(f): 3:52pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
crackhaus: I introduced that to buttress my point. I see you are just winding me. |
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