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Re: Should Working Class Wives Be Given 'Upkeep'? by BRATISLAVA: 6:52pm On Nov 03, 2019 |
crackhaus:both |
Re: Should Working Class Wives Be Given 'Upkeep'? by crackhaus: 7:34pm On Nov 03, 2019 |
BRATISLAVA:Lol |
Re: Should Working Class Wives Be Given 'Upkeep'? by DexterousOne(m): 8:06pm On Nov 03, 2019 |
dilodavid: Exactly Know yourself And do what works for u Dasall 1 Like |
Re: Should Working Class Wives Be Given 'Upkeep'? by DexterousOne(m): 8:09pm On Nov 03, 2019 |
ednut1: Madness |
Re: Should Working Class Wives Be Given 'Upkeep'? by DexterousOne(m): 8:15pm On Nov 03, 2019 |
blank: I'm happy for you too |
Re: Should Working Class Wives Be Given 'Upkeep'? by bukatyne(f): 8:22pm On Nov 03, 2019 |
@crackhaus: Please read this article and comments: https://www.nytimes.com/2017/03/31/opinion/sunday/do-millennial-men-want-stay-at-home-wives.html |
Re: Should Working Class Wives Be Given 'Upkeep'? by Amanda4life: 10:18pm On Nov 03, 2019 |
I don't think I can cheat because of upkeep money., the only reason that "may" make me cheat is lack of companionship, or loneliness. Its only the lazy ones that cheats : because of money |
Re: Should Working Class Wives Be Given 'Upkeep'? by Nobody: 11:55pm On Nov 03, 2019 |
bukatyne: Nice article, you didn't post for me but I enjoyed it, the comments on the article are even far more enlightening. I am quite sure If I was a woman, I'll never be a stay-at-home wife for any reason. Most people don't see value in any work they can't quantify such as House chores, taking care of kids etc. So Men tend to look down on those roles & I'll definitely not want a Man looking down on me so I rather work & put my children in an expensive day care. So I might not even be needing the "upkeep" except when necessary. According to the article, the financial advantages of dual-earner couples over male-breadwinner families have increased significantly in recent years --- This is why i hate the narrative of "my money is my money" that Nigerian women always push because It defeats the purpose of dual-earnings which is suppose to make up the financial advantage a couple should have. The 1950s model of the nuclear family is gone. |
Re: Should Working Class Wives Be Given 'Upkeep'? by Nobody: 3:44am On Nov 04, 2019 |
Plead: Wrong bro. I think our comments like these are actually making our women lazy these days and not submissive. Who said women dont work back then? Have you asked yourself why most men marry more than 1 wife then? It's because of many farm works. Women actually work then, just that they are more loyal and respectful. I happen to live with my grannies and even stayed in the village for some years. Women assist their husbands in farming, they sell farm produce, even have shops in markets for their little businesses. With all these they balance everything perfectly with home chores. They dont give attitudes because they see their husbands as their lords in small letter "l". Women now compete with their husbands in other areas except finances. Mind you, then most women have their own separate farms which their husbands only help them to brush and plant/stick yams. The other jobs like weeding, seedlings, harvesting etc are done by the women and their kids. And they still assist their husbands in the main farms. Some are also into fishing, weaving, etc depending on the locality. Mothers were actually hardworking back then, understood their roles, and respected their husbands as the head of the home just like Jesus christ said. But now they have transferred the respect for their husbands to their "Daddy" in church (Pastors). Average Nigerian wife respects her pastor than her husband......... Note: still in some parts in Delta state you still see women doing labourers jobs in construction sites while their husbands are at home.....with wrappers on their waist, long chewing sticks in their hands, and bottles of ogogoro on the table playing draft. 3 Likes |
Re: Should Working Class Wives Be Given 'Upkeep'? by crackhaus: 6:47am On Nov 04, 2019 |
bukatyne:You realize that this article disproves your assertion that westerners prefer the housewife/working husband situation right? Well for one, the age group in focus are mostly an unmarried age group...hence what they prefer isn't a representation of their own personal experiences but a reaction to being brought up in homes where both of their parents were working. The article/comments also proved that the male breadwinner/housewife model of the pre-1950s is long gone especially due to economic factors. And guess what, that was about the period the women's rights began to achieve women enfranchisement in the workforce - ergo, more women working. The economy then and now in most parts of the world is just not built suitably to support the housewife/working husband system - double income-earning is necessary. The millennials who form the bulk of the respondents in the article should get married and see if their preference for one working spouse will not bite them in the ass in the long run. As stated in the article, American millennials are basically just acting out because they missed seeing their mothers at home when they were growing up and as such, they want the pre-1950's family system for themselves and their future families. One fact they quickly forget though is that the reason they are college graduates/in college, is because both their parents were working and with enough income to pay for their education, buy them their first car, and give them health insurance. One person in the comment section said he has children in the younger millennial age group and will not take a survey involving this age group seriously...because if you ask them again 5mins later, they would probably change their minds. That shít killed me 4 Likes |
Re: Should Working Class Wives Be Given 'Upkeep'? by crackhaus: 6:50am On Nov 04, 2019 |
couragemurphy:Man, I don't know who started that bullshít that Nigerian women were housewives in those days. Complete bullshít. Those women were hardworking (farmwork and/or market women for that matter), and they still kept the home-front (housewife). It's the newer generation of women that started seeing chores/child-care as a job description in itself. 3 Likes |
Re: Should Working Class Wives Be Given 'Upkeep'? by Nobody: 6:59am On Nov 04, 2019 |
crackhaus: I dey tellz you. Our women then were actually hardworking. You will see a pregnant woman then almost due for labour still going to farm carrying loads on her head. Nowadays woman wey dey pregnant don get excuse full ground.....smh |
Re: Should Working Class Wives Be Given 'Upkeep'? by crackhaus: 7:07am On Nov 04, 2019 |
couragemurphy:Not like we are saying things should not get easier, but these women ought not make it seem like they are the ones who started something new by combining housework with formal employment. Watching too much Hollywood and Telemundo styled programming has affected their psyche. Soft princess life Somebody will go to an AC-tight office where she is sitting down most of the time making small talk and gossiping with co-workers, head back home inside a car (not trekking oo), then start complaining of being tired to do anything. Are you mad? 6 Likes |
Re: Should Working Class Wives Be Given 'Upkeep'? by makavelli80(m): 3:26pm On Nov 04, 2019 |
BRATISLAVA:the later bro |
Re: Should Working Class Wives Be Given 'Upkeep'? by ZIMDRILL(m): 4:58am On Nov 05, 2019 |
seanjy4konji: its not being stingy but financially illiterate based on culture and tradition, tradition requires you look after your wife in all aspects of life, then on the women side she is supposed to look after you based on what he brings on the table so traditional women are mainly to survive on what the man's brings home, than what both bring home now because of human development in educating our women and culture and work places being liberal we find women working, just like men but you find someone not adapting the new ways of life, her salary is called MINE and his salary OUR salary few earn enough salaries that one can say darling your salary is yours, my salary will cover everything few of those type of women put their salaries to good use eg using her salary for kids college/uni foundation fund or family trust most women are busy mistreating their husband, just like how their father's used to mistreat their mother, simply because they now have the power tthrough money to make someone jump upkeep money was also used by some men to control their wives thereby being abusive in certain way |
Re: Should Working Class Wives Be Given 'Upkeep'? by Ewuro4: 3:34am On Nov 11, 2019 |
Plead: And what does she use her own money for? Abi she no get work? |
Re: Should Working Class Wives Be Given 'Upkeep'? by nlPoster: 4:21am On Nov 11, 2019 |
Plead: Who is your question directed at? |
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