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Re: He Cheated And Blames Me by Yinibixema: 11:29am On Oct 27, 2019 |
cococandy:Shut up. Husband comes before kids. So the husband no go Bleep well because of kids abi? 2 Likes |
Re: He Cheated And Blames Me by StPete: 11:29am On Oct 27, 2019 |
ImaIma1: I like your response. Even though we may argue on varying lines, you’re couth and reasonable |
Re: He Cheated And Blames Me by cococandy(f): 12:42pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
He can get a vasectomy so he will never impregnate anyone ever. That way he won’t have to worry about the children he made with his own peniss getting in the way of his fvck. Solved. Yinibixema: 5 Likes |
Re: He Cheated And Blames Me by bukatyne(f): 12:59pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
Zainab20198: You & your husband have three special needs sons whom you supposedly care for alone. How do you cope with your three kids + full time work + house chores? Do you want to kill yourself? If you don't take care of yourself, how can you even available for your husband? Why is your husband not hands on or involved in your life? Why is he an intimate stranger? Why don't you have helps to care for the home why you face the kids coupled with professional help? I am waiting to hear from you. 3 Likes |
Re: He Cheated And Blames Me by bukatyne(f): 1:04pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
Octopusssy: Hahahahahahaha Leave her na. 2 Likes |
Re: He Cheated And Blames Me by ImaIma1(f): 2:00pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
Yinibixema: No doubt, husband before kids. I totally agree. But the husband needs to find a way to relieve her of the plenty work. If not she will always be fagged out. Try taking care of twins and doing the housework all alone and come and testify. Kids wear you out and they don't know or care that you are tired. They want to eat, they poo, the litter the place. One can make you go crazy, not to talk of three BOYS. Her husband needs to face his responsibility and help his wife and not conveniently going out to cheat and blaming her. 2 Likes |
Re: He Cheated And Blames Me by crackhaus: 2:11pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
bukatyne: They should drag her very well oo. These women here need to understand that the divorce solution they so easily administer is not that easy to follow through if they were in similar situations. I remember typing something to you sometime last week or so about how majority of the females on NL forgive/have forgiven/will forgive their cheating husbands. Most of them are also the ones doing all the chores in their homes despite working. The internet just provides a platform to share an idealized version of how marriages should be, not how it really is for them. 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: He Cheated And Blames Me by generationz(f): 2:40pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
StPete:You men are wicked o. What happened to the man helping her with the triplets. His he also a baby? 2 Likes |
Re: He Cheated And Blames Me by bukatyne(f): 2:51pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
crackhaus: True people project their fantasies alot online. Some others can see clearly until it is their turn. Others realize that people bring half baked stories here to look like saints. But the OP nor try sha. Three divorce advises back to back with calling the husbands names. I try to internalize situations and analyze critically before I advise. I also search to see if I have real life references of the end point for further guidance. I believe we would all give account of our words and actions to God. Whether typed, said or written. With that in mind, I don't dish what I can't follow. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: He Cheated And Blames Me by generationz(f): 2:52pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
Shibaraba: Oga police weldone o. I hope you will remain with your wife if she was sleeping with your nephew or you found out she has HIV 1 Like |
Re: He Cheated And Blames Me by crackhaus: 3:22pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
bukatyne:This is certainly obvious from your comments a lot of times. No let your head swell 1 Like |
Re: He Cheated And Blames Me by bukatyne(f): 3:40pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
crackhaus: The head that haff burst. Gracias. |
Re: He Cheated And Blames Me by crackhaus: 3:52pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
bukatyne: |
Re: He Cheated And Blames Me by crackhaus: 3:54pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
generationz:My dear, it's better to divorce him now before he starts sleeping with her younger sister or gives her AIDS. Why wait until it's too late. 5 Likes |
Re: He Cheated And Blames Me by frozen70g(f): 5:20pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
Zainab20198: Relax my dear, men will always have reasons to cheat Only the descent ones will want to respect themselves You are busy with your twins and boys gives more problems at home than girls Just try and reserve little energy for him when they demand Sex is like food to men, that is where nature death with them He can't leave you for another woman but he can tell another woman that he is tired of your marriage with him, do you know why ❓ Just to keep her and keep using her and she too will be expecting him to marry her, until she realises that he is not breaking up with you then she pulls out Don't just get borethed about his flirt, that's men for you |
Re: He Cheated And Blames Me by Octopusssy(f): 2:45am On Oct 28, 2019 |
bukatyne:That's the thing. People come here to dish out all sorts of advice that they can't apply to their own situations. That's why we should be very careful the kind of counsel to follow 1 Like |
Re: He Cheated And Blames Me by CHoccolaTE: 8:40am On Oct 28, 2019 |
Op ignore the people focusing on your former posts to write off point here, many are men who want women to stay in abusive and depressive marriages and swallow all sorts of rubbish from husbands like husband sleeping with wife sister. If a woman was useless enough to sleep with her husband's brother all the men on earth will be fast to advice him to leave her but they are here castigating you for same thing, as if women are some sort of lower class animals that must bear matreament. Next time use a new account to post your marital issues to avoid the childishness you see on this thread As for your selfish and self centered gaslighting husband, you wear the shoe with him so you know where it hurts most, you can use your knowledge of how his character is to know if the way out is reporting him to elderly members of his family or separating from him. If you can for now, use protection when having sex with him because if he infects you with HIV and you get sick or worse, nobody will be there to care for the innocent children he is currently neglecting. 2 Likes |
Re: He Cheated And Blames Me by Nobody: 11:23am On Oct 28, 2019 |
UjuJoan2: uju, while what the guy did is effed up abeg take it easy. if i say you should worship your husband and thank him everyday for everything he does for the family, you go gree? |
Re: He Cheated And Blames Me by Nobody: 11:24am On Oct 28, 2019 |
24kmagic: tell that to ned nwoko plenty of christian polygamists out there. so you can try some other argument |
Re: He Cheated And Blames Me by Nobody: 11:34am On Oct 28, 2019 |
unless you have the money for a live in nanny, or have a relative that will come by, taking care of a child from birth to age 3 is a full time job in itself. taking care of triplets is a complete nightmare. you will not even be able to have sex in peace because the children can wake up at any time. if the husband was so desperate to have sex, he should have hired a nanny. the girl he is messing with, he will still spend money on her. he could have simply diverted that money to maid/nanny/relative for support. unless OP has serious financial resources, not much she can do. this is Nigeria where people will make excuses for men even as they are killing their daughters |
Re: He Cheated And Blames Me by bukatyne(f): 11:46am On Oct 28, 2019 |
Octopusssy: True. |
Re: He Cheated And Blames Me by UjuJoan2: 12:26pm On Oct 28, 2019 |
ornicus: I already do that, just as he does for me. Appreciation, respect and acceptance is what keeps a marriage. Nobody is perfect, and accepting each other's weaknesses and helping them overcome it is the true definition of love. 2 Likes |
Re: He Cheated And Blames Me by Nobody: 12:33pm On Oct 28, 2019 |
UjuJoan2: uju has accepted hubby is not a billionaire |
Re: He Cheated And Blames Me by UjuJoan2: 12:41pm On Oct 28, 2019 |
ornicus: Okay you are still hung up on that abi? Sorry ooh, not my fault that I can never respect a poor man. 2 Likes |
Re: He Cheated And Blames Me by yeyeosoronga: 1:35pm On Oct 28, 2019 |
ornicus: Ned Nwoko is a Muslim as I heard. Though I agree we have many Christian polygamists who chose to live their own life as they so wish and not be bound by the dictates of their religion. Funny enough, in some core Muslim nations like Pakistan, most are still very monogamous. |
Re: He Cheated And Blames Me by Yinibixema: 3:57pm On Oct 28, 2019 |
ImaIma1:You have a point |
Re: He Cheated And Blames Me by Yinibixema: 3:57pm On Oct 28, 2019 |
cococandy:Vasectomy kor autonomy ni |
Re: He Cheated And Blames Me by yeyeosoronga: 5:23pm On Oct 28, 2019 |
Yinibixema: What's wrong with a vasectomy? It's one of the best forms of contraception. It has more advantages than disadvantages especially if you've completed having children, and its reversible if done properly too. |
Re: He Cheated And Blames Me by Yinibixema: 5:25pm On Oct 28, 2019 |
yeyeosoronga:Then the woman should remove her own womb instead |
Re: He Cheated And Blames Me by yeyeosoronga: 5:45pm On Oct 28, 2019 |
Yinibixema: A vasectomy is safer to do. Removing the womb is a major surgery with all the possible complications of surgery you can imagine such as bleeding to death, infections, blood clots to block the lungs, problems of anesthesia and even problem of village witches. It is a majorrrr and risky operation. Nobody does a womb removal for contraception. Perhaps you meant tying the woman's tubes? A vasectomy is still more effective than tying the tubes from research. The difference is 7up. Failure rate of tying the tubes is about 1 in 200, while that of a vasectomy is like 1 in a thousand. Vasectomy on the other hand is a minor procedure, where you're out within 15minutes and only mildly sedated. All those major risks of surgery are avoided. Tying the tubes has about 20x more MAJOR complications than a vasectomy, 10 - 37 times more likely to fail, costs 3 times as much as a vasectomy and mortality from the procedure (though rare) is 12 times higher than a vasectomy... https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/m/pubmed/10596397/ Pls kindly read this article. It's quite enlightening if you could be patient enough to read it. Also well researched, and can be corroborated by many other research articles |
Re: He Cheated And Blames Me by Yinibixema: 5:50pm On Oct 28, 2019 |
yeyeosoronga:Sorry i meant the tube instead. You’re a woman right |
Re: He Cheated And Blames Me by yeyeosoronga: 5:58pm On Oct 28, 2019 |
Yinibixema: Yes I am, though I'm not sure the relevance of my gender in this discussion between us, especially when we're talking about documented and well researched facts, not riddled with emotions and folktales. Our contraception talk has nothing to do with the obvious gender wars btw, not a case of him vs her. People get blinded and lose focus of the real issues when they get carried away with gender wars etc |
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