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Re: My Dilemma: My Girlfriend's Confessions. by safarigirl(f): 11:41am On Oct 29, 2019 |
ChiefSweetus: A 20-year old girl has done all that for a man, and this OP thinks she isn't under the man's thumb? She was manipulated by her ex, emotionally blackmailed to sleep around for him, she is so young that she has most likely not released herself from that chain. The problem is that she is still too young to say with all sense of certainty that she has changed. One day, the ex boyfriend will walk in and collect his property that he only borrowed to OP, because women do not easily get over their teenage loves. |
Re: My Dilemma: My Girlfriend's Confessions. by paix(m): 11:42am On Oct 29, 2019 |
Forget her past and move on with the relationship. But please, don't use this against her tomorrow when the relationship goes SOUR!!!!!!! |
Re: My Dilemma: My Girlfriend's Confessions. by djoe21(m): 11:42am On Oct 29, 2019 |
Logan95: If this is the only issue you have with her, then you no get problem. You feel pained because you are a guy. We always feel we can have as many body count as we like while ladies should remain virgins. That's why you see guys using the 'master key' analogy (rubbish by the way). Well, what I have to tell you is not to be judgemental otherwise, you will discourage her honesty with you or the next person she will be in relationship with if you decide to break up with her. If you decide to continue with her, you must forgive and let go, and never bring such issues (her past) up when you have misunderstanding. Brother, nobody holy pass. Let LOVE lead! |
Re: My Dilemma: My Girlfriend's Confessions. by chuksjuve(m): 11:43am On Oct 29, 2019 |
BarrElChapo: God bless you ! A common ground has been struck.. You nailed it 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Dilemma: My Girlfriend's Confessions. by ogunsbanjul(m): 11:44am On Oct 29, 2019 |
She might be testing you to know how truly you lover her. Remember nobody is without past whether rough or smooth. Just be patient with her and try to encourage her because even if you leave her because of the confession she made to you without you asking, do you think the next lady you will take in replacement will be a saint? Pray with her and God will surely answer your prayer. Thanks |
Re: My Dilemma: My Girlfriend's Confessions. by Iykenuwa(m): 11:50am On Oct 29, 2019 |
Logan95: You said yourself that she buys you stuff. Anyway, I think you should hold on to her. She opened up to you because: 1. She trusts you 2. She is comfortable with you 3. She is really into you 4. She doesn't want to be dishonest with you. 5. She wants to leave that past behind and stick with you. ... If you want to throw all that away, you might regret it later. Her type used to be 214 in Nigeria before 24 got married last weekend. so right now they are just 190 left. |
Re: My Dilemma: My Girlfriend's Confessions. by sophy17(m): 11:52am On Oct 29, 2019 |
Pls don't break up with her simply on the account of this confession. Don't get carried away either, into believing that she truly loves you to have willingly made the confessions without you asking. If you can handle it, since she started it, ask her all that is still missing concerning her past so as to be able to understand her issues and advice her properly. Focus more on your present relationship with her and what the future holds for both of you and not on the past because everybody sure have their own baggage. |
Re: My Dilemma: My Girlfriend's Confessions. by drealcivilceno(m): 11:55am On Oct 29, 2019 |
HarunaWest: Oshey... TUALE BABA! |
Re: My Dilemma: My Girlfriend's Confessions. by emonis88: 12:00pm On Oct 29, 2019 |
The main issue is do u love her? If yes u can go on with her as long as she has changed n stays true. Cus if u love a woman u won't judge her like that, n u ve to try n close ur eyes to her past relationships as far as there r no baggages like an illness or otherwise, cus when u r with a woman n she tells you about her past is cus she believes you can handle it. |
Re: My Dilemma: My Girlfriend's Confessions. by Gazzy88(m): 12:02pm On Oct 29, 2019 |
rossovu:pátápátá no spoil Yoruba for us. |
Re: My Dilemma: My Girlfriend's Confessions. by BarrElChapo(m): 12:03pm On Oct 29, 2019 |
I can relate with you on this cos I have aunts' who are unmarried and are well into their 60s and some who were stood many things on their traditional wedding and another introduction. My younger sister is in her afternoon newspaper stage of her life and is unmarried and i sometimes fear for her not to end up like our aunts and she definitely won't... that being said; I must commend you for at least trying to stay true to your moral values as it is the best decision/choice but I want you to know that's it's almost same for both men and women. how do I know I am in that boat.. I was in a relationship last 6years ago and I made a conscious decision to stay morally upright and maintain a non sex relationship until amongst others. But between then and know if i tell you how many heart wrenching experiences I've had from one who claimed had known no man but was having a filled day outside cos she knew I didn't even wanna confirm if she was or wasn't just wanted to be with her for who she was to others who like you but can't commit because of your standards.. Then when you come on here and see that at least 90% of persons here subscribe and are subscribing to it, what I sometimes think to myself is that if I want such relationship, it must be like one week to my wedding night. lolz. I believe if I opened a thread on the kind of relationship I want, you'd may see persons labeling me impotent perhaps ! The lonely nights are there, those times when you really wanna talk to her and not your best buddy are there, the feeling of missing out when your friends are with, talking or chatting with theirs is there, what about when you just wanna share your dreams visions the future with her.. Its a cold and lonely world flying solo you know. But have I given up on love ? nope ! do I believe I'd meet someone someday that believes in what I believe a relationship should be ? yep !. Until then I keep being myself and hoping for the best.. I guess you should too ! it's not your making but it's worth the wait for the right time and the right person.. hope you get some comfort... cheers ! safarigirl: |
Re: My Dilemma: My Girlfriend's Confessions. by tomdon(m): 12:04pm On Oct 29, 2019 |
Logan95: Oga she didn't offend you so there's nothing to forgive. If you're OK with marrying a lady that's not a virgin what's the dilemma you're in, whatever she's done in the past is in the past, no difference She's stupid to have told you all that bullshitt. There's absolutely no need for it I prefer a girl that will look me in the eye and tell me I couldn't control my hormones, wanted to fvck and I fvcked. We're all humans Rather than all these emotional blackmail of saying I supported him, I only fvcked him cos we were in a relationship bla bla bla. OK so you were married, and now a divorcee. Carry your load go front front 1 Like |
Re: My Dilemma: My Girlfriend's Confessions. by Freemaxon: 12:16pm On Oct 29, 2019 |
Is a trap bro, by confessing her sins to you...She wanted to gain your trust in her by doing such thing.. Kindly used your head bro..... Only the legend will better |
Re: My Dilemma: My Girlfriend's Confessions. by jeff1607(m): 12:19pm On Oct 29, 2019 |
Logan95: No biggie if u no want make better pesin wife her. |
Re: My Dilemma: My Girlfriend's Confessions. by NwaScore442(m): 12:19pm On Oct 29, 2019 |
rossovu: Bruh.. You talk am all!... |
Re: My Dilemma: My Girlfriend's Confessions. by ACE1010: 12:21pm On Oct 29, 2019 |
Is her kpekus different from others ones you have Knack before? |
Re: My Dilemma: My Girlfriend's Confessions. by IHate9jerianss(m): 12:25pm On Oct 29, 2019 |
lilwetdick:Nigerian men really do like their women.It's just too bad Nigerian women don't feel thesame way about them |
Re: My Dilemma: My Girlfriend's Confessions. by pocohantas(f): 12:26pm On Oct 29, 2019 |
Octopusssy: |
Re: My Dilemma: My Girlfriend's Confessions. by frozen70g(f): 12:26pm On Oct 29, 2019 |
Logan95: We all have a past and only few can open up, she loves you truly and wants to be open with you The issue now is, do you love her to take a bullet for her or do you see her simplicity as being stupid ? What about getting someone who has the worst secret and kept you in the dark until alarm blows ? Keep loving her she is open and have no mind to hurt you Just nurture her to be strong and be a good woman and maintain the character you know her with If you find peace with her, go ahead Don't be surprise if she becomes pregnant for you because at this stage their hormones are rushing like tap water 1 Like |
Re: My Dilemma: My Girlfriend's Confessions. by uthompson2001: 12:26pm On Oct 29, 2019 |
Because of you I joined this forum, stop taking advice from single guys who don't know what life n marriage is all about. That girl is Gold ,if you don't take her some other guy will. he without sin let them cast the first stone. how many girls have u slept with. without using condoms have many babies would you have had by now. and how many abortions will u have had to do if not for condoms. she ticks all the wife material boxes forget her past cos we all have one. Go look for a married friend who has a happy home and ask for advice in confidence. 2 Likes |
Re: My Dilemma: My Girlfriend's Confessions. by TemmyT002(m): 12:27pm On Oct 29, 2019 |
The fact that she confesses shows how much she loves you. Give her a chance |
Re: My Dilemma: My Girlfriend's Confessions. by wandeykul(f): 12:28pm On Oct 29, 2019 |
Logan95:She's just a fool,some things are better left unsaid.. 1 Like |
Re: My Dilemma: My Girlfriend's Confessions. by frozen70g(f): 12:28pm On Oct 29, 2019 |
Logan95: That's how they rush everything, even to comment they rush to comment with out understanding the contents |
Re: My Dilemma: My Girlfriend's Confessions. by rezy15(m): 12:31pm On Oct 29, 2019 |
Logan95:OP you made 3 mistakes: First u brought your personal problem to NL Second u brought your personal problem to NL Third u brought your personal problem to NL Won't tell you what to do, but give her credit for spilling it to you before you got it from somewhere else. Who among the knw-it-all advisers will volunteer that info to their partner? Everyone is a hoe except them and their siblings. Bro lie down and make a decision. Does her flaw outweigh the joy she brings you? Are u any better? Mind you for every hoe, theres a co-hoe. 1 Like |
Re: My Dilemma: My Girlfriend's Confessions. by Masterdazhem: 12:31pm On Oct 29, 2019 |
What exactly do you want Do you want to keep her YES or NO All I know is that a leopard never changes its spot...your call bro |
Re: My Dilemma: My Girlfriend's Confessions. by adebopo: 12:33pm On Oct 29, 2019 |
HarunaWest:abeg no kill me with lafta here o |
Re: My Dilemma: My Girlfriend's Confessions. by Billion2612(m): 12:34pm On Oct 29, 2019 |
Bro, thank God she opened up for you. You really need to respect her |
Re: My Dilemma: My Girlfriend's Confessions. by safarigirl(f): 12:35pm On Oct 29, 2019 |
pocohantas: Sense. Sense is very important in every relationship. The issue is not sleeping around, the issue is her reason. Very stupid reason to sleep around, it would have even been better if she was using the money to buy handbags and shoes for herself, than to dash money she smashed for, to one yeye boy. Doesn't he have dick? Is it not his mates that are servicing sugar mummies? Why will she use her pussy and womb to elevate one useless fowl, that went on to throw her away. I bind senselessness in my life, God gave everybody private parts, I cannot be using my own to work for somebody's son. 3 Likes |
Re: My Dilemma: My Girlfriend's Confessions. by Nobody: 12:37pm On Oct 29, 2019 |
Ibrahim79mantu: there are good girls, it is like saying all girls are evil and that is impossible, there are bad and good girls likewise bad and good boys. a man that has stayed with woman for a long time will be able to determine if she is good or bad, action speaks louder than voice. |
Re: My Dilemma: My Girlfriend's Confessions. by ramatintin(m): 12:38pm On Oct 29, 2019 |
op you are a weakling to bring such confidential matters to a public forum where direct degrading words will be used on someone who trust you to open up about her past is terrible. Amuofia iberebe |
Re: My Dilemma: My Girlfriend's Confessions. by Octopusssy(f): 12:39pm On Oct 29, 2019 |
pocohantas:Buhahahahahaha!! No you have made spill water all over my desk |
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