Geminita1:
Even if i have only N1 in my account, i will not not marry a poor man. I am a progressive not a regressive human. I want an asset not a liability. No woman should explain her choice to any man.

Have you ever seen a man saying he wants to build a woman so she can become a wife material for him? I rest my case.

Guest007:


How does one build a woman to become 'wife-material?

These men putting girls through school, opening businesses for them, sending them money for their upkeep and everything in between, are these men building women or what

Which one is building to wife-material?

Geminita1:
I mean women just groom themselves to be marriageable enough without asking for help or complaining. From the Original post, she is implying that men these days want women to ''co-groom'' them into becoming providers and she is not having it.

lilwetdick:


lol

but how will a woman co groom a man when she herself does not have something tangible doing?

the reality is there arent marry rich men in Nigeria to go about for the millions of marriageable women looking for rich men

the rich and poor women are fighting for the few rich men, at the end of the day, the poor women lose and will have to marry the poor and average men that are everywhere.

SteveOfu:
Let's be honest and stop letting Nollywood deceive us. A rich guy wants a rich girl and a rich girl wants a rich guy. This is how it has always been, this judgmental thing needs to stop already.

A beautiful girl made a post on how she saw a guy here, she thought he was the perfect one till she found out he doesn't have money and had to move on. It's obvious she is doing well for herself but needs a man who is also financially stable and some people (mostly guys) came to the post to advise her to build with him.

Do you think she has not tried building with guys in the past and they took advantage?

Is being in a relationship/getting married a do or die issue that she has to accept anyone?

She works hard for her money, I don't think she is asking for too much having the same kind of man by her side. She deserves to have a choice!!

Right now I'm working hard to make my money and I had to put marriage aside till I'm financially stable, then one day I decide to be in a relationship that may lead to marriage and one guy will come to me and use the "build with me " slogan. What were you doing while I was slaving my ass to make money? I will use my money and do love with you? Turn mini sugar mummy to you? What happened to spoiling me silly and I do the same? Oh please!! Go take several seats. Fine boy without money leads you no where.

So have you considered if this guy is a gold digger? Or is that term only used on women? Everyone wants the best in life, everyone has a class and status where they want to belong/remain in. Let's respect other's choices and stick to where we belong.

Martinez39:
Lol. You don't need to open this thread as you owe no one any explanation. Everyone is at liberty to have their preference and no one should be faulted for his or her preference.

Geminita1:
I mean women just groom themselves to be marriageable enough without asking for help or complaining. From the Original post, she is implying that men these days want women to ''co-groom'' them into becoming providers and she is not having it.

Geminita1:
All a woman needs is her femininity, looks and nurturing skills and she can hook a well to do man.

No one is saying a woman must marry a millionaire, but every woman must ensure her partner has a job or business that is able to sustain him, her and the kids. Financial sustainability is the key. If the man cannot secure basic requirements, he should be left in the dust.

However, i understand that there are some women that have been brainwashed to struggle with a man. They always learn the hard way or when time has ran out for them. Or how can a woman benefit from a man who has nothing to offer but wants the world from her? So many old and tired looking women out there. It could never be me or the ones i love.

Tajbol4splend:
When an asset marries a liability, it's a matter of time before it becomes a deficit too.

Geminita1:
I mean women just groom themselves to be marriageable enough without asking for help or complaining. From the Original post, she is implying that men these days want women to ''co-groom'' them into becoming providers and she is not having it.

lilwetdick:


the highlighted is where everything went wrong, there are millions of women in that category that are single and still waiting for their well to do man, the dating world does not work like that. many of them will at the end of the day, marry any man and live a quiet life.

reality check- you can check the history of many couples here in Nigeria, most female started with a struggling man in their one room apartment until they arrived at the destination they want, infact the most successful couples are those that both the man and the woman are both working to provide for the home,now aday financial sustainability does not rely on the man alone, with the economic situation both couples must work to get the things they want.

eni4real:
Please build with me babe

SteveOfu:

SteveOfu:
Let's be honest and stop letting Nollywood deceive us. A rich guy wants a rich girl and a rich girl wants a rich guy. This is how it has always been, this judgmental thing needs to stop already.

A beautiful girl made a post on how she saw a guy here, she thought he was the perfect one till she found out he doesn't have money and had to move on. It's obvious she is doing well for herself but needs a man who is also financially stable and some people (mostly guys) came to the post to advise her to build with him.

Do you think she has not tried building with guys in the past and they took advantage?

Is being in a relationship/getting married a do or die issue that she has to accept anyone?

She works hard for her money, I don't think she is asking for too much having the same kind of man by her side. She deserves to have a choice!!

Right now I'm working hard to make my money and I had to put marriage aside till I'm financially stable, then one day I decide to be in a relationship that may lead to marriage and one guy will come to me and use the "build with me " slogan. What were you doing while I was slaving my ass to make money? I will use my money and do love with you? Turn mini sugar mummy to you? What happened to spoiling me silly and I do the same? Oh please!! Go take several seats. Fine boy without money leads you no where.

So have you considered if this guy is a gold digger? Or is that term only used on women? Everyone wants the best in life, everyone has a class and status where they want to belong/remain in. Let's respect other's choices and stick to where we belong.

placeofallure:
Thank you OP, but some of us will rather marry for love. I cherish my peace of mind over anything.

Emilycp:
. You have seen nothing. You want to marry rich man? Have you considered your joy,happiness,peace of mind,respect and value,treatment, don't you know that there are things money can't buy?, you are scared of hunger, lack and want, the rich that divorce what is the course, is it money? If you are rich and your man is poor build with him but be sure he is not a gold digger.

Fountainofyouth:
[s] This post is all shades of wrong, there are stories of rich girls and a not well to do guy getting and staying happily married, everyone knows what they want, some prefer love, deep true love, than money, only the less privileged are money hungry, everyone human have their preferences [/s].

EmptyCoconutHead:
your broke amd your opinion is inconsequential so go and work on yourself and stop gallivanting around this romance section.
go get a life cos u sound so jobless