Good evening everyone in this forum.

I have a big problem in regards to my relationship with this man I love.

I met him in 2017,two years back to be precise.

It was love at first sight as we both click immediately after an hour conversation with him.

He introduced himself to me as a banker and a senior one at that.

He has always spoil me with money and stuffs.

Though we had kisses but no sex not until now.

He has been pestering me for sex after our family introductions 3 months back.

I have made it clear to him that i will break my virginity until our wedding night but he said No that he has to know if i am fertile before taking me to the altar.

This is tearing our relationship apart and the painful thing is that he is the one sponsoring my brother in tertiary institution and also promise to get me a slot where he works with his position.

I love him but his decision to break my virginity on the basis of fertility is breaking me emotionally and i don't know if i should call it quit with him and damn the consequences or yield to his demand and destroy my personal pride.

Pls what should I do?

Your moniker is enough for me not to take you serious.

Let him break it. Losing your pride won’t kill you either.

RuggedArab:
Let him break it. Losing your pride won’t kill you either.

We are talking about my pride here sir.

Ahmed0336:
Your moniker is enough for me not to take you serious.

Moniker doesn't have anything to do with a real life situation.

After chopping his money. You think you are smart.

NwaAmaikpe2nd:
We are talking about my pride here sir.

How much is it? Monetize it please!

What’s with virginity. Breaking the bloody hemen? It won’t erase your name neither will it reduce your self worth or brideprice.

Your worries should be how genuine is this guy. Is he for real and not this one chance dudes walking around looking for who to devour.

Tell him to take a long walk to reason.

If he gets there, he'll understand the meaning of holding on to one's chastity unto marriage.

If he doesn't get there, then let him go.

You're in the right track. Please don't waver. Bless up

Ur monikar tho



Anyways its ur choice
Ur bros education
The slot.
Marriage



Ur choice hun

Listen to your heart...

OP, there are men who will do anything to have sex with you and then move on. They can do introduction, bang the babe and then skip.

I think your man just want to taste the cookie and skip. Have you ask him how he intends to check if you are fertile? I guess he wants to bang you continuously until you get pregnant to confirm that you are fertile.

What happens if you don't get pregnant after 1 or 2 years on continuous banging? He will drop you and move on. What if the infertility is from him?

My advice is this, if he wants to check your fertility, both of you should go and see a doctor who will carry out medical checks on both of you to confirm that you are both fertile.

Atlanticfire:
OP, there are men who will do anything to have sex with you and then move on. They can do introduction, bang the babe and then skip.

I think your man just want to taste the cookie and skip. Have you ask him how he intends to check if you are fertile? I guess he wants to bang you continuously until you get pregnant to confirm that you are fertile.

What happens if you don't get pregnant after 1 or 2 years on continuous banging? He will drop you and move on. What if the infertility is from him?

My advice is this, if he wants to check your fertility, both of you should go and see a doctor who will carry out medical checks on both of you to confirm that you are both fertile.

Exactly. You've said it all.
Fertility check isn't a good reason to have sex with someone.

NwaAmaikpe2nd:
Good evening everyone in this forum.

I have a big problem in regards to my relationship with this man I love.

I met him in 2017,two years back to be precise.

It was love at first sight as we both click immediately after an hour conversation with him.

He introduced himself to me as a banker and a senior one at that.

He has always spoil me with money and stuffs.

Though we had kisses but no sex not until now.

He has been pestering me for sex after our family introductions 3 months back.

I have made it clear to him that i will break my virginity until our wedding night but he said No that he has to know if i am fertile before taking me to the altar.

This is tearing our relationship apart and the painful thing is that he is the one sponsoring my brother in tertiary institution and also promise to get me a slot where he works with his position.

I love him but his decision to break my virginity on the basis of fertility is breaking me emotionally and i don't know if i should call it quit with him and damn the consequences or yield to his demand and destroy my personal pride.

Pls what should I do?

he is a ritualist into virgin fetish at his age and position he wants to deflower run for your destiny o

I think this is a response to another thread created by one guy yesterday. That thread got up to 28 pages.
He said exactly the opposite of all these you said but one thing very important to complete my connection is if you were at Imo state before.

OP, were you at oweri but now living with him, (Abuja)?

I think you are the lady he talked about but your answer will let me know.

He bought/owns your ancestors destiny, what's a virginity

RoyalBlu:
Tell him to take a long walk to reason.

If he gets there, he'll understand the meaning of holding on to one's chastity unto marriage.

If he doesn't get there, then let him go.

You're in the right track. Please don't waver. Bless up

Let him go, ke? She and her family seemed like they're fully dependent on him already.

NwaAmaikpe2nd:
Good evening everyone in this forum.

I have a big problem in regards to my relationship with this man I love.

I met him in 2017,two years back to be precise.

It was love at first sight as we both click immediately after an hour conversation with him.

He introduced himself to me as a banker and a senior one at that.

He has always spoil me with money and stuffs.

Though we had kisses but no sex not until now.

He has been pestering me for sex after our family introductions 3 months back.

I have made it clear to him that i will break my virginity until our wedding night but he said No that he has to know if i am fertile before taking me to the altar.

This is tearing our relationship apart and the painful thing is that he is the one sponsoring my brother in tertiary institution and also promise to get me a slot where he works with his position.

I love him but his decision to break my virginity on the basis of fertility is breaking me emotionally and i don't know if i should call it quit with him and damn the consequences or yield to his demand and destroy my personal pride.

Pls what should I do?

So what about yur virginity?
Will yur virginity sponsor yur brother? If he marry yu as virgin do yu think it will change anything or gaurantee yu of a happy marriage?
Supposing he marry yu and yu guys start making Babies and the Babies are not coming? Do you think he will dump yur ass for another girl especially where the test confirm his OK. Do yu think yu are ready to stand the emotional trauma that comes with a childless marriage?

Betta use yur sense. If yu have a good answer to all the above Qs then u can do the needful

Atlanticfire:
OP, there are men who will do anything to have sex with you and then move on. They can do introduction, bang the babe and then skip.

I think your man just want to taste the cookie and skip. Have you ask him how he intends to check if you are fertile? I guess he wants to bang you continuously until you get pregnant to confirm that you are fertile.

What happens if you don't get pregnant after 1 or 2 years on continuous banging? He will drop you and move on. What if the infertility is from him?

My advice is this, if he wants to check your fertility, both of you should go and see a doctor who will carry out medical checks on both of you to confirm that you are both fertile.

Yeah you re right,i have told him this but he said no way that he will do it his own way manually.
Just imagine that.

kingkakaone:
I think this is a response to another thread created by one guy yesterday. That thread got up to 28 pages.
He said exactly the opposite of all these you said but one thing very important to complete my connection is if you were at Imo state before.

OP, were you at oweri but now living with him, (Abuja)?

I think you are the lady he talked about but your answer will let me know.

NO i am not,this is a different real life situation.

Guest007:
He bought/owns your ancestors destiny, what's a virginity

Is not funny pls.

Next2Bezee:


Let him go, ke? She and her family seemed like they're fully dependent on him already.

We are not depended on him or anyone rather he is because i don't see why he is depended and hellbent on breaking my virginity on the basis or reason of me been fertile or not.
Men i must say are selfish,always dictating and bossy when it comes to relationship.

They tend to forget that women too has equal right too in any relationship.

Fornication is a big sin but ppl now take it lightly, plz tell him u not a fornicator, let him go away with his money and quest for fornication. Who knows, he may want to use d blood to further his money ministry and afterwards move to another virgin girl to continue boosting his ministry with their blood

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So what about yur virginity?
Will yur virginity sponsor yur brother? If he marry yu as virgin do yu think it will change anything or gaurantee yu of a happy marriage?
Supposing he marry yu and yu guys start making Babies and the Babies are not coming? Do you think he will dump yur ass for another girl especially where the test confirm his OK. Do yu think yu are ready to stand the emotional trauma that comes with a childless marriage?

Betta use yur sense. If yu have a good answer to all the above Qs then u can do the needful[/quote]Your comment is indirectly seeing or taking me as a infertile lady already.

No one pray and wish for a childless marriage so don't take side with him that i may be infertile all along.

I love this man with all my heart but he should understand my personal decision.

Quality20:
Fornication is a big sin but ppl now take it lightly, plz tell him u not a fornicator

That is the kind of society we now live in.

I will do that,though he may see my word as harsh,ungrateful and disrespectful to him.

So what do you think as a man?

RuggedArab:


How much is it? Monetize it please!

What’s with virginity. Breaking the bloody hemen? It won’t erase your name neither will it reduce your self worth or brideprice.

Your worries should be how genuine is this guy. Is he for real and not this one chance dudes walking around looking for who to devour.

I cherish my pride as a spotless virgin.
Is not about the monetary or pecuniary gains of virginity.

It is about who I am,the person and personality i want my kids to be.
The pride i always cherish everyday of been one of the few different people in this sex saturated world.

I am sad at this your advice.
Pls don't push me into depression.

i respect virginity as ur tin, buh u've to know the world don't give a fvck anymore ....
your man is financially stable & after two year it is most likely e is ready to settle down pregnancy b4 marriage is what most family esp. d groom side support nowadays nd i don't think any factor shuld be a barrier to that, giving him ur virginity b4 marriage is a risk also on the otherside the man believin ur words to be a virgin & hoping u're fertile is also a risk.
You just av to sit n calculate d probability of u guys gettin married, if it is high then you just av 2 stop been selfish ...i think e wants to impregnate u , y wil he do that. what is the probability the nex 10 men u wil meet after him will wait 2yrs or won't want sex b4 marriage, do u really wana find out .. pls try it

NwaAmaikpe2nd:
Your comment is indirectly seeing or taking me as a infertile lady already.

No one pray and wish for a childless marriage so don't take side with him that i may be infertile all along.

I love this man with all my heart but he should understand my personal decision.

My dear, I dear not wish my worst enemy to be infertile. OK....let me rephrase. Assuming it the other way round, the challenge is same.

It will never be yur portion...IJN

However, what u should be concern about is if tour man loves u genuely enough to have u as wife virginity or no virginity.

He will take yur virginity after marriage and rest will be story but if he does not love u, d challenge ahead of the marriage can be life treathnining ....

I understand your pain but ma ask yourself what if he divorces you later ie after breaking your virginity on the wedding night.
What i am trying to say is is not because your husband was the one to break your virginity that if he wants to divorce you that he won't. So virginity is not an issue of keeping a man now instead it is good behavior or character that can keep a man, besides so many ladies who there marriages are going well were even married as non virgin.
Just like someone said go for medical check-up to ascertain if you are fertile, if you are provide the result to him and see what reason he will give just to break your virginity before the wedding.