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Re: He Wants To Break My Virginity Before Marriage-help??? by totosucker(m): 12:15pm On Nov 01, 2019 |
NwaAmaikpe2nd:Who told you a man and a woman has equal right in a relationship?. The man is the head and the woman is his help meet. For your marriage to succeed you need to know your place and be there and your man needs to know his place and be there. Don't enter your marriage with this mentality that you and your husband has equal right otherwise your marriage will suffer. You owe him submission and he owes you love . As for your man, if you are truly sure you are a virgin, talk to someone he respects to talk to him on your behalf. maybe your pastor or somebody. Then make sure you don't have any secret date, because if he finds out that is the end of it. |
Re: He Wants To Break My Virginity Before Marriage-help??? by Nobody: 1:45pm On Nov 01, 2019 |
iamgprince:He objected to that,wants to ascertain it manually. |
Re: He Wants To Break My Virginity Before Marriage-help??? by Nobody: 1:50pm On Nov 01, 2019 |
totosucker:I don't agree with you on these,because the woman is the neck supporting the head. That is why there a lot of divorce in marriages and breakups in relationship because men wants to be seen as god and do anyhow. 1 Like |
Re: He Wants To Break My Virginity Before Marriage-help??? by RuggedArab: 1:51pm On Nov 01, 2019 |
NwaAmaikpe2nd: You didn’t address if this dude is genuine/real. I have seen girls/women who lost their virginity to their husbands which then was a boyfriend. No worries, it’s just one body count. Your personality won’t change and don’t expect your unborn kids to live like you. This is the mistake most parents do; trying to persuade them to live a particular style/route (you must be a Lawyer or Doctor/ you must be a born again et al). Are you a born again? Your reply with determine my next advise to you. |
Re: He Wants To Break My Virginity Before Marriage-help??? by Nobody: 1:57pm On Nov 01, 2019 |
RuggedArab:I won't choose the career part of my unborn kids. They will be what they want to be in the future but i won't sit and see them destroy their body all in the name of love or relationship. And as for the born again part that is for my God to know. |
Re: He Wants To Break My Virginity Before Marriage-help??? by RuggedArab: 2:20pm On Nov 01, 2019 |
NwaAmaikpe2nd: Do you think you can control what your kids do in a relationship? Big No if you think otherwise. Well, since you don’t know your stance in the other divide you can give him your virginity only on the point that you are fully convinced and he has done the needful. As for the fertility, even medical results cannot give full assurance if one is fertile or not reason why some men insist the lady must take in. I can’t say on this because I don’t believe in “you must take in” before marriage. Sort yourself out, you are wearing the shoes. I’m more concerned about the virginity thingy. This your pride isn’t worth 30billion so let the nigga blow the bloody hemen out!!!!! |
Re: He Wants To Break My Virginity Before Marriage-help??? by Nobody: 3:16pm On Nov 01, 2019 |
NwaAmaikpe2nd: Okay bro |
Re: He Wants To Break My Virginity Before Marriage-help??? by Trimque2k1(m): 3:28pm On Nov 01, 2019 |
NwaAmaikpe2nd:4 things here that I could point out that has made you stayed with that man are all for ur personal gains. 1.He spoils you with money and stuffs 2.He promised to get u a job 3.your brother's school bills is on him 4.He's rich and has a good job With all these point I can say you don't have natural love for this poor man in the first place.Insult me sha,me have said my own.Las las you nor go be first class virgin |
Re: He Wants To Break My Virginity Before Marriage-help??? by boxer022(m): 4:17pm On Nov 01, 2019 |
My sister I understand what you are saying. Virginity is very vital and very much important, and I could deduce from your write up that you really love this guy and also that he had started the process of marriage. I will like you to plead with him to have a little more patience till after your wedding for him to break your flower. If he is the understanding type, he will wait and also be proud of you for keeping yourself clean till your wedding night. |
Re: He Wants To Break My Virginity Before Marriage-help??? by midnighter(f): 4:20pm On Nov 01, 2019 |
It's your choice to break the virginity but doing it on the basis of fertility is no good There are plenty of people who never had sex who still face fertility issues so that's not a reason If he wants to test your fertility tell him to take you for a check up |
Re: He Wants To Break My Virginity Before Marriage-help??? by Spaceclenzy1(m): 4:33pm On Nov 01, 2019 |
Don't do it.. If he love and cherish u he should wait till after the wedding.. Stand on ur word if he is a good ood man that decision alone will make him to love u the more.. BUT.. Make sure u reciprocate with wat u claim to be.. DON'T HURT HIM |
Re: He Wants To Break My Virginity Before Marriage-help??? by boxer022(m): 5:20pm On Nov 01, 2019 |
I forgot to add this very important line. Why should he be wanting to test your fertility when he knows that you are a virgin? Supposing tomorrow after testing the fertility and the marriage doesn't work, what happens next? Testing your fertility means impregnating you which is a norm among men of now a days. If you weren't a virgin, I would have supported him testing your fertility as girls now may have damaged their wombs from abortion or may have done much abortion that may affect their fertility. |
Re: He Wants To Break My Virginity Before Marriage-help??? by Nobody: 6:20pm On Nov 01, 2019 |
RuggedArab:I am won't insult you bro,your advice is okay but sorry that i won't break it. |
Re: He Wants To Break My Virginity Before Marriage-help??? by Nobody: 6:21pm On Nov 01, 2019 |
Guest007:I am a young lady,don't quote me wrongly. |
Re: He Wants To Break My Virginity Before Marriage-help??? by Nobody: 6:24pm On Nov 01, 2019 |
NwaAmaikpe2nd: Ok bro |
Re: He Wants To Break My Virginity Before Marriage-help??? by Nobody: 6:24pm On Nov 01, 2019 |
Trimque2k1:Thanks for your advice all along. I won't insult you although your comments will want me to do that. Just be in my shoe,well you won't and can't. 1 Like |
Re: He Wants To Break My Virginity Before Marriage-help??? by clinton21: 6:27pm On Nov 01, 2019 |
[quote author=Atlanticfire post=83638353]OP, there are men who will do anything to have sex with you and then move on. They can do introduction, bang the babe and then skip. I think your man just want to taste the cookie and skip. Have you ask him how he intends to check if you are fertile? I guess he wants to bang you continuously until you get pregnant to confirm that you are fertile. What happens if you don't get pregnant after 1 or 2 years on continuous banging? He will drop you and move on. What if the infertility is from him? My advice is this, if he wants to check your fertility, both of you should go and see a doctor who will carry out medical checks on both of you to confirm that you are both fertile. Follow this advice is the best so far |
Re: He Wants To Break My Virginity Before Marriage-help??? by Nobody: 6:27pm On Nov 01, 2019 |
boxer022:Thank you for your empathy. May your days be crown with laughter. |
Re: He Wants To Break My Virginity Before Marriage-help??? by Nobody: 6:31pm On Nov 01, 2019 |
midnighter:Thank you sis for this,i have discussed this with him but hell no he refuse to budge until he has his way with me,men are just sturbborn. |
Re: He Wants To Break My Virginity Before Marriage-help??? by Nobody: 6:32pm On Nov 01, 2019 |
Spaceclenzy1:Thank you brother,he is sturborn. |
Re: He Wants To Break My Virginity Before Marriage-help??? by Nobody: 6:34pm On Nov 01, 2019 |
boxer022:Thank you,thank you. Your comment is worth it. |
Re: He Wants To Break My Virginity Before Marriage-help??? by Nobody: 6:35pm On Nov 01, 2019 |
Guest007:I am a woman pls,am not a man,guy or boy ok. |
Re: He Wants To Break My Virginity Before Marriage-help??? by Nobody: 6:41pm On Nov 01, 2019 |
[quote author=clinton21 post=83661091][/quote]Thank you but I will not go with his advice. 1.He has shown that he wants to settle down with me. 2.He has spent a lot and he is still spending. 3.He is a responsible man that has shown commitment to me. My problem with him is trust on the basis of fertility. He should know that i cherish my virgin status and should be proud of that. |
Re: He Wants To Break My Virginity Before Marriage-help??? by midnighter(f): 6:43pm On Nov 01, 2019 |
NwaAmaikpe2nd: You're welcome, are you guys religious? Have you tried talking to him from a spiritual angle At least it would sound strange to a practicing Christian to be pregnant on their wedding day |
Re: He Wants To Break My Virginity Before Marriage-help??? by Nobody: 6:51pm On Nov 01, 2019 |
midnighter:You re highly welcome too. He is a practicing christian worshipping with winners chapel while i am a practicing catholic. So you see that we are both religious but i don't understand why he doesn't see any wrong with pre-marital sex for christ sake. 1 Like |
Re: He Wants To Break My Virginity Before Marriage-help??? by Nobody: 6:54pm On Nov 01, 2019 |
midnighter:We are both good christians. He worship at winners chapel while I worship at a st.leo catholic church. I don't understand why he is not against pre-marital sex for christ sake. |
Re: He Wants To Break My Virginity Before Marriage-help??? by midnighter(f): 6:56pm On Nov 01, 2019 |
NwaAmaikpe2nd: Nawao. Well, you will just have to keep working on him...me I don't know what to say to that It seems like he is worried about something or he has heard some kind of bad story before somewhere that is making him to try to get a baby from you ahead of time. Maybe you will find out what's bothering him and explain to him why he has nothing to worry about |
Re: He Wants To Break My Virginity Before Marriage-help??? by Skmoda360(m): 6:59pm On Nov 01, 2019 |
Ahmed0336:Same here I won't even take her serious at all.....she might just be a loose clown .. |
Re: He Wants To Break My Virginity Before Marriage-help??? by victorian(f): 7:06pm On Nov 01, 2019 |
NwaAmaikpe2nd: You may think u and your family are not dependent on him but he thinks otherwise. With your write-up, I can deduce from his state of mind, that he feels he has cornered you already. Cornered you by going through the introduction process, sponsoring your brother's school fees, taking care of your needs financially. And in his mind he feels, if u don't allow him taste your cookie, he will drop all the financial assistance he has been offering all these while. And definitely your brother could drop out of school if he's no longer sponsoring him and you will not be able to bear the shame if he cancels the wedding except U do as he says. My dear, he has cornered you already. So choose one! Call off his pestering for the pussy and plans on knocking u up with pregnancy because that's the new deal going on in town now. Some devilish men don't mine spending so much to ruin a girls life by impregnating her and disssapearing into thing air. It gives them great joy. So think very well. As for me? I will tell him to go to hell if he can't be patient to marry me before getting one pregnant. You are a virgin for Christ sakes! Which one is fertility issues again? Is he God? You might even be surprised he could be a ritualist waiting to use your virginity for wealth. Or a bloody sadist, waiting to ruin your life. If you can ? Cut him off! And let your family think of how to sponsor your brother in school and take responsibility immediately. That man is bad news! Don't place yourself at his mercy. |
Re: He Wants To Break My Virginity Before Marriage-help??? by Nobody: 7:09pm On Nov 01, 2019 |
midnighter:I don't think that anybody has badmouth me to him. He is a very busy man and he doesn't have time for silly gossip,so i am not thinking in that angle. He is just sturbborn and am i ready to battle it with him with cogent reasons why his decision on my life is selfish and can not stand. 1 Like |
Re: He Wants To Break My Virginity Before Marriage-help??? by victorian(f): 7:14pm On Nov 01, 2019 |
NwaAmaikpe2nd: If he's not patient? Please cut him off, for your safety. Some men these days can do anything for money, especially in spiritual terms. I know what Im saying. Don't let his going to church deceive you. It's a scripted lie. No patience, then the wedding is off. Behave angry towards him and let him know u ain't scared of cutting loose from everything he has started. When u behave angry, and defiant. He will have a rethink and either wait til after marriage to have sex if he's sincere or cut off from you knowing his evil plans no work. But before cutting off, he will act some drama of wanting all his money back. Lol |
Re: He Wants To Break My Virginity Before Marriage-help??? by Nobody: 7:18pm On Nov 01, 2019 |
victorian:Victorian your good advice is very weighty back with reason and true life happenings. I don't think is a ritualist or sadist because i know that he is not one for he is financially and religously okay. But wait you are right on men been wicked and ready to destroy a girl's life despite spending much on her. I will confront him on his love that if he love me as he claim then he could wait after the wedding. |
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