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Satoshi2019:
The man provides. The working woman supports

The comment is a simple description of most modern day marriages.............
And I concur with you

GreatResearcher:
This qustn is not necesary. No hoe shud b given a dime

That your wife and other women around you are hoes doesn't mean the story is same for everyone.

And who brought this to FP after the discussion has ended?

All depend if both are using same account yes, if not allowance here and there okay.

AwkaetitiBabe:
No need for upkeep money as she is free to take money from the joint accounts at her own discretion. Men use the monthly upkeep money as a tool to make women submit.

AIN'T WOMEN SUPPOSED TO SUBMIT?

dollytino4real:
yes because she belongs to somebody, her money is just 4 her to show off as a working class

Hmmmm...Obinrin

YOUNGELDER1:
I can’t even imagine not giving my wife upkeep money.
Working or not maybe because of my pride as the man of the house lol.

Then again can’t trust this women they be needing the slightest reason to cheat on you & i don’t want a “stingy husband” to be one.

You are a wise man. Leave them boys to be fooling themselves.

You know it costs 50K to run the home but you give her 30K and say "baby please manage" You can add "everything will be alright soon."Trust me that woman will add even 40K to supplement.

You stop being a man to your wife the day you start throwing logic of " you are working" on your wife.

AwkaetitiBabe:
Being independent does not mean they won't enjoy their husband's financial capabilities.

LOL.. WOMEN!! SMH

Davesaves:
AIN'T WOMEN SUPPOSED TO SUBMIT?

Definitely d woman ought to submit. It's biblical. Two captains can't sail a boat.

YOUNGELDER1:
I can’t even imagine not giving my wife upkeep money.
Working or not maybe because of my pride as the man of the house lol.

Then again can’t trust this women they be needing the slightest reason to cheat on you & i don’t want a “stingy husband” to be one.

Upkeep is not feeding money for the house, or money to run the home o. Let's not confuse the 2, now over to you...

Plead:


Personally I’ve never fancied the idea. Myself and my brothers live with this ideology even in marriage and we ain’t sad about that.

Now ...general question

Does it make sense to give a working class woman monthly upkeep or whatever that stuff is called ? Upkeep should only come into the equation if your partner is a housewife or so....and doesn’t work

Not having money makes one debate this... But truly she deserves an upkeep and nothing she owns is her private property.
You know a selfish woman from the point of dating...Please run away from her.

ednut1:
are you handicapped? That u need upkeep . No go find work

Did you comprehend what I wrote? Please read it again, this time slowly.

SilvaBullet:
What could have been wrong mentioning me?

Nothing

I wonder why he did when you are not on this thread.

Hmmm

It is irrational but this is where we are

Satoshi2019:
The man provides. The working woman supports

God bless you for this.
Truly the word of God doesn't return void. Working class or not, do d provisions and leave the rest especially if u want to truly be called *THE HEAD OF THE HOME*

I've been giving before she got the job, I'm still giving. It gives me peace of mind.

ednut1:
God bless you. May God punish such women. Many men are under pressure to keep up while madam get 2m savings or q building project. He better make person no marry self

i swear...assvi deh see d money no him I deh spend. I no even get savings unttl I see madam account balance..i change am straight from that day..as I see buy gas, na hin I pay for Nepa, pay dstv, buy food, pay for beers, ssugt drinks, clothes, beer no saving. Almost 70k every week and madam den confirm over 3m inside account just buying wig... I Don change am..now she is spending and putting food on our table.i no free again.

Plead:


Personally I’ve never fancied the idea. Myself and my brothers live with this ideology even in marriage and we ain’t sad about that.

Now ...general question

Does it make sense to give a working class woman monthly upkeep or whatever that stuff is called ? Upkeep should only come into the equation if your partner is a housewife or so....and doesn’t work

men give ur wife money o women money na for powder

You said it all]


This is how I always know I'm on a Nigerian forum. I'd be hard pressed to find something like this on Reddit.[/quote]

CHoccolaTE:
If she is cooking and cleaning and acting as sex machine and baby making machine and nanny, then the man must give her money. No ifs ands or buts.

Even if the guy hires a housemaid today to cook and clean and care for his kids he will still have to pay her but Nigerian men think women are God given slaves.

They want their wives to be housemaid and baby making machine and to also contribute financially while they themselves absolve themselves completely of any responsibility to the wife.


Selfish users

U OBVIOUSLY WON'T MAKE A GOOD WIFE.. U HAVE SO MUCH HATE IN U..

U BE REAL DANGER ZONE

Juliearth:
Yes, it should be one of your prerogatives. In a saner clime, a wife should be actively involved in footing some of the household expenses. It is also advised that a man appreciates his wife by giving her personal upkeep allowance. I am not married, but I think it would be romantic to have my husband fix me on a monthly allowance for
my upkeep.

Lmaoooo!

So your idea of 'romantic' is to be given monthly stipend?

These girls won't kill me aswear!!!!

Op80:
I am a lady and I like what you put up there. That's what would drive me out because I will feel not cared for and any guy that shows me he can care, I won't look back before I follow.

Ezeanna:
If this thread is about personal allowance for wify after the husband has provided for the major part of the household expenses, then I would say it is not a regular thing in many households in this Naija.

Husbands usually just get their wives nice gifts once in a while or support their businesses financially once in a while.

Regular (monthly) cash allowances for working wives is a rarity presently o. Husbands are not finding providing the major part of the expenses for their families easy, you now want to add a flimsy thing as wify's personal allowance to it? Mbanu, kolework.

Abeg the working sisters that receive personal allowances regularly should indicate by commenting so that others can know if they are to review the present MOUs they signed with their significant others.

Tenkiu.

U just spoke my mind

madampresident:
You are a wise man. Leave them boys to be fooling themselves.

You know it costs 50K to run the home but you give her 30K and say "baby please manage" You can add "everything will be alright soon."Trust me that woman will add even 40K to supplement.

You stop being a man to your wife the day you start throwing logic of " you are working" on your wife.

Are you sure you even understand the upkeep I’m talking about?

luminouz:
Lmaoooo!

So your idea of 'romantic' is to be given monthly stipend?

These girls won't kill me aswear!!!!

No be small thing my brother

bukatyne:
Nothing

I wonder why he did when you are not on this thread.

I thought it is tradition for OPs or other forum participants to mention someone whose contribution to the discuss is sought after?

I've been a regular participant on this section and it is within reasonable expectations to get mentions on hot/controversial topics.

What is “upkeep”?

SilvaBullet:
I thought it is tradition for OPs or other forum participants to mention someone whose contribution to the discuss is sought after?

I've been a regular participant on this section and it is within reasonable expectations to get mentions on hot/controversial topics.

In the OP, yes.

On a specific post when the quoted moniker is not active on the whole thread?

I hear you.

what's the use of being a Man if you can't give ur wife money for up keep? no matter how much she earns it's a man's responsibility to provide for his wife/family

bukatyne:
In the OP, yes.

On a specific post when the quoted moniker is not active on the whole thread?

I hear you.

It's still within normalcy for someone to get a mention on a thread he/she has been a major participant or contributor even after a spell of inactivity by other participants of same thread.
Some lagacies are that enduring.

dollytino4real:
yes because she belongs to somebody, her money is just 4 her to show off as a working class

Show off for what exactly