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Re: My Husband Is Being Insensitive, I Need An Advice by emmaodet: 9:53am On Nov 07, 2019 |
pocohantas: Poco, haba u too get bad mouth. Why are u like dis poco? Who do u dis? |
Re: My Husband Is Being Insensitive, I Need An Advice by Whoeppme(m): 9:53am On Nov 07, 2019 |
Sister ask your husband to secure a loan from his political boss open up a business that you will manage, if you guys choose the right business thats the end of poverty. Don't think of leaving your husband or selling off your landed property that's the only assets your family has now. Your husband get sense na just money dey yab the guy. Please bear with him |
Re: My Husband Is Being Insensitive, I Need An Advice by Nobody: 9:53am On Nov 07, 2019 |
J2381: So how much is the savings that was supposed to give them stability....people that are complaining of net on windows.. u think they have millions saved |
Re: My Husband Is Being Insensitive, I Need An Advice by J2381: 9:53am On Nov 07, 2019 |
ikelords:you my friend is the real MVP. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Is Being Insensitive, I Need An Advice by luminouz(m): 9:54am On Nov 07, 2019 |
Mariangeles: Shit changes, babe...That man you ridiculed could become the next governor. Women aren't built to take all responsibilities in marriage but if you see a husband hustling his best,enciurage him,not pile up pressure till he lashes out and the marriage collapses. Most times what a man needs is a loyal wife and prayers. His sustained success is in her hands. Single ladies have no clue about marriage at all. Its not a bed of roses,24/7. Its commitment, 24/7. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Is Being Insensitive, I Need An Advice by Nobody: 9:54am On Nov 07, 2019 |
What have you done to help him as his wife as well 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is Being Insensitive, I Need An Advice by Elliot2(m): 9:54am On Nov 07, 2019 |
Acidosis:Some Nigerians build their houses with one bag or two of cement per month,with sand picked from the road side which accumulate during rain(they cannot afford tippers of sand). Those are small changes that cannot solve real issues,so rather than waste it they put to the project. People are really poor in this country; so owning a house of their own is a wise decision. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Is Being Insensitive, I Need An Advice by Acidosis(m): 9:54am On Nov 07, 2019 |
studentofTruth:So as inflation is rising, you will bury your money in the ground and sleep on like the unprofitable servant in the New Testament? 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband Is Being Insensitive, I Need An Advice by Frankiss44(m): 9:55am On Nov 07, 2019 |
carlede: The title broke husband means the guy wasn't always broke.. It is someone that has seen money before that can be classified as broke |
Re: My Husband Is Being Insensitive, I Need An Advice by J2381: 9:55am On Nov 07, 2019 |
1StopRudeness:I'm not talking about the couple in question, I'm speaking from a general point of view. Stability is key in any given circumstance. |
Re: My Husband Is Being Insensitive, I Need An Advice by Whoeppme(m): 9:56am On Nov 07, 2019 |
Sister ask your husband to secure a loan from his political boss open up a business that you will manage, if you guys choose the right business thats the end of poverty. Don't think of leaving your husband or selling off your landed property that's the only assets your family has now. Your husband get sense na just money dey yab the guy. Please bear with him. If you must sell the property the money must be used only for a well planned business venture. Else you guys might have nothing on fall back to... This is the only solution to your problem, as e be now so no too carry body near pastor or father in the lord, na this kind things them take dey sleep with people wife ooh Sister get sense ooh |
Re: My Husband Is Being Insensitive, I Need An Advice by Nobody: 9:56am On Nov 07, 2019 |
carlede:My dear, some people can package for Africa. |
Re: My Husband Is Being Insensitive, I Need An Advice by tweakdude1: 9:56am On Nov 07, 2019 |
khallebb:The best comment ever |
Re: My Husband Is Being Insensitive, I Need An Advice by luminouz(m): 9:56am On Nov 07, 2019 |
safarigirl: Lmaoooo, nice one. I'm not married or lazy. You wrote the man off as bring useless. I tried to correct that. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is Being Insensitive, I Need An Advice by llade(m): 9:56am On Nov 07, 2019 |
Uchechi20:Men need to work harder and make money oh to make their families comfortable. I am a living witness. |
Re: My Husband Is Being Insensitive, I Need An Advice by Acidosis(m): 9:56am On Nov 07, 2019 |
Elliot2: That's because they have chosen to enjoy the rat race. There are mutual funds of 5k. You can save as little as 3k per week and watch it grow with accumulated interest. You can't be hungry without a job and desire a property so much. It is needless. 5 Likes |
Re: My Husband Is Being Insensitive, I Need An Advice by shakaranews: 9:56am On Nov 07, 2019 |
Uchechi20: Eyhaaaa. I feel for you. That's the problem with doing boy boy for politicians and not being smart enough to secure a job. Meanwhile, Watch shocking untold story of Mark Angel and his little prodigies below https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PTuDW2QoKCI |
Re: My Husband Is Being Insensitive, I Need An Advice by kevoh(m): 9:57am On Nov 07, 2019 |
Elliot2:Owning a property is a good decision but not necessarily a wise decision. There are so many factors we are not considering and most of the comments, either for or against, have made the same mistake of applying a one size fits all to every person. The average Nigerian can afford buying and building in outskirts, where sometimes development hasn't taken place and just a few houses. No light, no road, No good schools, No nearby clinic or hospital, easy target for burglaries e.t.c You have to consider if it's worth the pain of moving your wife and kids to such areas or pray that one day development will come to that area before moving. This could be years or it could not come at all. This is one of the reasons why it may be a good decision to own a property but not necessarily a wise one. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Is Being Insensitive, I Need An Advice by OBTMOS(m): 9:57am On Nov 07, 2019 |
Tell him the political big guys don't care about him and they will never want to loose his slavery. So they won't offer him appointment. |
Re: My Husband Is Being Insensitive, I Need An Advice by pocohantas(f): 9:57am On Nov 07, 2019 |
darealbabe: Na them o 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is Being Insensitive, I Need An Advice by Nobody: 9:57am On Nov 07, 2019 |
luminouz:I hear u. |
Re: My Husband Is Being Insensitive, I Need An Advice by Kokaine(m): 9:57am On Nov 07, 2019 |
Acidosis:I understand your view. But there are states in Nigeria where accommodation is such a big issue that owing a container house is even a relief. Imagine paying 150k yearly in a shanty in Lagos because its on the island and you still spend a lot on transport to your work place. For a low income earner, saving monthly for the next years rent is quite a task. If you stumble on bulk funds and it can give you a room of your own, I think its a fair thought to grab it 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Is Being Insensitive, I Need An Advice by chiboyo(m): 9:57am On Nov 07, 2019 |
Acidosis: I wonder why this logical explanation seems so difficult for some people to comprehend... |
Re: My Husband Is Being Insensitive, I Need An Advice by Sambaby7640: 9:58am On Nov 07, 2019 |
AwkaetitiBabe:lol i'm not yet married so I don't know. Are you speaking from experience? |
Re: My Husband Is Being Insensitive, I Need An Advice by Nobody: 9:58am On Nov 07, 2019 |
J2381: This is not a general point of veiw... it’s a point of view of people who can afford net on their window.... |
Re: My Husband Is Being Insensitive, I Need An Advice by JONNYSPUTE(m): 9:59am On Nov 07, 2019 |
J2381:, So right. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is Being Insensitive, I Need An Advice by DLuciano: 9:59am On Nov 07, 2019 |
Uchechi20: Why did you have to ask for advice from Nairaland forum as though they can give you good advice, they will only negatively influence you and put you into serious confusion by diverse kind of advice you will read. You may say I will just pick one, but I tell you what you read or hear has a great impact on your inner mind knowingly or unknowingly, negatively or positively. All I can say is that you should show him more love, he is your husband and continue to support him. First thing you need do, is to let him know that you have something that bothers your heart, that you would like to discuss with him. When he gives you audience, softly discuss it with him, so that you can both proffer solution, or come up with an understanding and a hope for the future. Be patient with him, don't put him under pressure, but stand by him to see him succeed. Also put him in your prayers. God bless you. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is Being Insensitive, I Need An Advice by J2381: 9:59am On Nov 07, 2019 |
1StopRudeness:Oh okay. |
Re: My Husband Is Being Insensitive, I Need An Advice by olisaEze(m): 9:59am On Nov 07, 2019 |
babyfaceafrica: You sound like u need this ur advice for urself more than she does... |
Re: My Husband Is Being Insensitive, I Need An Advice by farady(m): 9:59am On Nov 07, 2019 |
OP dis your matter abi story get as im be. (1) You did not state what he was doing when you got married to him. (2) You didn't state for how long you have been married and the ages of the kids. (3) You didn't tell us at what time he lost his job or his business nose-dived (4) You didn't tell us the kind of project you both are into - whether building a house or ........ (5) You didn't tell us the side hustle you are into. From your write up, it's like it is a building project and it seems though not completed, you guys have moved in like that to at least settle into one or two rooms. I guess the building is located in a developing area - which explains the "big bush" close to the apartment. In any case, you have only succeeded in demonizing your husband as we have not heard his own version. I think you both are not communicating. Unfortunately your husband belong to the class of those who depend on "politics money" to survive or stay afloat. So it's hard to advise him. However, for you, I'll go with the advice of one guy up there who said you should try to be independent financially, don't give money again (though this will create tension but you should stand your ground) and try and meet up the demands of the kids and home the much you can. If it gets out of hand, please alert your family and his family. |
Re: My Husband Is Being Insensitive, I Need An Advice by chiboyo(m): 10:00am On Nov 07, 2019 |
kevoh: Well Said...! All in all, liquidity and steady flow of income seems to be a better option for me. Enough said though 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is Being Insensitive, I Need An Advice by Nobody: 10:00am On Nov 07, 2019 |
Sambaby7640:kids observe from parents. |
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