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Re: My Husband Is Being Insensitive, I Need An Advice by Thegoodone13(m): 10:14am On Nov 07, 2019 |
He should find something to do. Following politician is waste of time and a lazy people use to do that. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is Being Insensitive, I Need An Advice by Nsarug80: 10:14am On Nov 07, 2019 |
Sanchez01:The lady in question has no job yet she has the temerity to refer to her husband as broke. That's really unfortunate!. Her contemporaries are somewhere setting up multimillion dollar investments for their husbands while she's here complaining about her husband being broke & insensitive. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Is Being Insensitive, I Need An Advice by dazzlingd(m): 10:15am On Nov 07, 2019 |
Acidosis: Things we idolised in this part of the world is responsible for our hardship, backwardness. That's why we are one way traffic with poor achievements. I must marry, born children, buy a car and build a house, then drive my family to church and make donations to GOD for keeping me and my family safe...That's the definition of success to an average black man.. Mediocre thinking. Meanwhile, somewhere in Germany, China people are thinking futuristic, breaking human boundaries, creating enterprises and modelling systems. Nobody celebrate you for how many children you have or if you are a landlord of one uncompleted building 7 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Husband Is Being Insensitive, I Need An Advice by Mariangeles(f): 10:16am On Nov 07, 2019 |
luminouz:Okay. I see your point. I'm just going by the information the woman gave |
Re: My Husband Is Being Insensitive, I Need An Advice by Nobody: 10:16am On Nov 07, 2019 |
safarigirl:Don't be surprised that she accepted him because he said he is a politician and know some big wig That is an average Nigerian woman for u. If the guy is a political thug or not, is not her business as long as the money is coming in. There is bush around her house and she can't clear that. Can she hear herself? She can't sew torn net? Like marries like. She and her husband are why Nigeria is the way it is today. |
Re: My Husband Is Being Insensitive, I Need An Advice by pocohantas(f): 10:17am On Nov 07, 2019 |
Sterope: Don't mind them. Always giving convenient examples. Messi and Ronaldo were definitely not the only kids who could tap soccer in their village. Where the rest them? Fix the now, while we wait on the POTENTIAL. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Is Being Insensitive, I Need An Advice by dazzlingd(m): 10:18am On Nov 07, 2019 |
safarigirl: The generation of men these days are pathetic, it's highly irresponsible for a man not to be capable of fixing things that exposes his family to danger. Chai, that natural instinct is beginning to die. And as for jobless people getting married, their pastors as told them to do so because it will open blessings and favour to them...mumu religion, mumu africans 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband Is Being Insensitive, I Need An Advice by luminouz(m): 10:18am On Nov 07, 2019 |
Sterope: Your first statement is unverified,so I will put it under 'potentiality' Your second statement? I agree the man should do more, be more driven,at least for his kids sakes. He is a man after all. Your third paragraph is funny. You suggested such without knowing his skill sets? I get all your points but its funny that the single ladies here are on fire about this issue. Check out the married women and their responses. Most times, they are more patient. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is Being Insensitive, I Need An Advice by AleAirHub(m): 10:19am On Nov 07, 2019 |
My husband has been so broke for years now = Madam you are a disgrace to motherhood if you can call your husband such name public simply because of the financial challenge in your family right now. he never gets money if we have an emergency for my kid's sickness, school fees, etc = Before you run here for a matured advice, can you please outline the major steps you took when your husband was not meeting the family emergency needs?. I am not employed at the moment but I struggle and hustle the little way I can to assist in the house upkeep. = No too much big deal about that because you are doing it because of your children and family at large because my Late mum did more than that when she was alive. marriage is not always a bed of roses, gold, diamond sometimes unplanned event occur. Now our room window net split and there is a big bush just around the window. = Madam please buy a very cheap rubber net and ask someone to fix it for you and also get a cheap chemical from the market, spray on the big bush around your window. He leaves the house every day to come back very late, cause he still serves these political big guys = Woman hide your shame, Biko, I guess when the going was smooth and cool you enjoyed all the benefit and even agree to marry him as well. My Advice for you. Call your husband's attention in a manner that he will give you listening ears both of you should brainstorm intensively about the family challenges and ask him ways you both can overcome them. Then also tell him on how you too can be supportive too as well, I bet you your husband will listen to you. @All Men. Please have at your back of mind that receiving salary alone will never guarantee your family financial freedom. Skills and investment will help you in a long way in family finances. Please don't get married to any woman if you are not sure of your financial freedom because if you do, the outcome will be HELL ON EARTH. 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband Is Being Insensitive, I Need An Advice by Nobody: 10:19am On Nov 07, 2019 |
Uchechi20:okay, let me be of help to you, even if this information will be the only assistant I'd give to someone in need. well, I'm a guy and I fix faulty things in my house. the Net issue is a very easy one. trust me, you can replace the net. go to where building materials are sold, tell them to sell a full window size net for you. Buy a full length, take a screwdriver, go outside the room of your window, there you'll see where the scroll that's holding the frame. take a star or flat screwdriver with you, loose all the screw. before you loose down the frame, make sure you've bought the net already, it very affordable. not up to a thousand naira or between #1200. place the frame downward a flat surface. there's a rubber round the frame, this black rubber is used to hold the net to the frame. remove the rubber by using the flat screwdriver to pull a little side of it then remove the entire one with your hand. then remove the old net, place the new one to cover the entire frame. place the rubber on one end of the frame, then press the rubber with a cover of a pen, make sure the cover is attached to the pen for a little force. reason why you can't use the flat side or star side of the screwdriver, it because you might cut the rubber with it. so I prefer you use a pen with a cover. now press the rubber from one end till you meet the cycle. make sure you don't stand on the middle of the net, otherwise you'll not get a smooth job. do it outside the box of the frame. now cut the extra part of the net using a scissor or a rizor blade. easy you know. anybody can do it. as for your husband, call him to order and pray for him. you're a woman, use your ego to talk to him and do your best for your husband. but don't go out and sex outside to come put food on the table. if you're doing such, you better stop, cause your husband won't live long because of such consequences. I'm not married although, I'm 28 and I'm taking from experience of others. God bless you, no hard feelings. winks 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is Being Insensitive, I Need An Advice by Ibkay32(m): 10:19am On Nov 07, 2019 |
Acidosis: senseless dey worry you sir |
Re: My Husband Is Being Insensitive, I Need An Advice by Nobody: 10:20am On Nov 07, 2019 |
Uchechi20: My dear, praise God and pray to God always. He'll turn things around for the better. Stop magnifying your problems, rather, magnify God and see Him spring into action. In this times we are in, its only God that can sustain us. I was telling my sisters my testimony yesterday of how confused I was at some point without any directions but when I turned to God and stopped complaining about everything, God began to redirect my life and make things happen for me easily. All you need do is praise God and speak what you want to that situation with authority in the name of Jesus, and watch what God will do. It is well. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is Being Insensitive, I Need An Advice by izzou(m): 10:20am On Nov 07, 2019 |
pocohantas: Lol Some women dey try sha |
Re: My Husband Is Being Insensitive, I Need An Advice by Nobody: 10:21am On Nov 07, 2019 |
dazzlingd: That is it my brother. See shanti houses everywhere blocking drainage. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Is Being Insensitive, I Need An Advice by kevoh(m): 10:21am On Nov 07, 2019 |
chiboyo:Because the average Nigerian believes owning a house and being called a Landlord is the ultimate goal even if it means living in corrugated iron sheets in some far away community, that commuting to work and finding good schools for your kids becomes a Herculean task. Owning a property is good if the property is located in a conducive environment and your financial power is not being depleted. 5 Likes |
Re: My Husband Is Being Insensitive, I Need An Advice by Sterope(f): 10:21am On Nov 07, 2019 |
I know plenty more who are still struggling. It is much worse when their party is not in control. Lucky wives? . It is more painful where their party is in power but their main politicians decide to railroad some factions. I made mention of finding something to do. Mutemenot: |
Re: My Husband Is Being Insensitive, I Need An Advice by luminouz(m): 10:22am On Nov 07, 2019 |
Mariangeles:Ok, I get you. |
Re: My Husband Is Being Insensitive, I Need An Advice by whitedove(m): 10:22am On Nov 07, 2019 |
Slawormir:Yeah,it might pay off eventually......what do i know sef? |
Re: My Husband Is Being Insensitive, I Need An Advice by showafrica(m): 10:23am On Nov 07, 2019 |
Acidosis: I tell you, tie money down in one useless structure. When a good business can just return that money 100% in few days 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband Is Being Insensitive, I Need An Advice by Nobody: 10:24am On Nov 07, 2019 |
Acidosis: You have spoken well but only few people can relate |
Re: My Husband Is Being Insensitive, I Need An Advice by Mutemenot(m): 10:24am On Nov 07, 2019 |
midnighter: The mistake they made was going into a project without having atleast a business to provide for immediate needs, if the man n his wife planned well, I don't think they will be room for room for complain...And remember there's no profession with 100% wealth assurance, it's all about grace...so I wouldn't look down on the man atall. Ex governor of Delta state used to play draft almost every evening den at one spot near my primary school but today he's a made man. Picnick of NFF used to eat in one local restaurant in my area then, met him severally as a nobody but today you know the story... d woman should just manage d man, There's no home without imperfections 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is Being Insensitive, I Need An Advice by Nobody: 10:25am On Nov 07, 2019 |
Jewessgratitude:Praise and pray to God always so the husband's political career will hit big Are u ignorant of what Nigerian politicians do? Are you? |
Re: My Husband Is Being Insensitive, I Need An Advice by Emmaesty(f): 10:26am On Nov 07, 2019 |
QuickStandard:It was the moderator that changed the topic to that. That was not the title she used initially 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband Is Being Insensitive, I Need An Advice by Sterope(f): 10:26am On Nov 07, 2019 |
Potential head of the house and you are so shortsighted I don't need to fact check my first statement. Your delusion will not let you see road. It is sad you cannot also read and understand, did I ask him to become a teacher or a carpenter? Why don't you check out if this married women were airing their opinions or answering deluded humanoid with penis for brain matter? luminouz: |
Re: My Husband Is Being Insensitive, I Need An Advice by shadeyinka(m): 10:29am On Nov 07, 2019 |
Tenshades:He probably doesn't know that most married couple build their house with stress. And that difficult times change in Marriage if only they hold on together in unity |
Re: My Husband Is Being Insensitive, I Need An Advice by dederocs(m): 10:31am On Nov 07, 2019 |
You married a political sychophant,these are scums, his situation won't change, cos the juicy political posts are for those with money or power...find yourself another man. I hate political sycophants, it's for lazy lowlifes. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Is Being Insensitive, I Need An Advice by dazzlingd(m): 10:32am On Nov 07, 2019 |
tonididdy: Your myopic views make u think this way, if every one owns a house, by now, your world would have been destroyed.' For every new land developed, think of the impact on the ecosystem, from the little insects to the grasses and forests you wipe out, to the rocks you break and materials you gather to construct your buildings lead to deaths, loss of habitats and extinctions of plants and animals. Then think of the congestion and pressure you will add to drainage, waste, pollution.... The flooding, earth quakes, landslide etc u are experiencing are signs U people should continue exploding in population and expanding, sooner or later, the earth will fight back in form of natural disasters and eventually an apocalypse that will restart your civilisation all over again 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is Being Insensitive, I Need An Advice by midnighter(f): 10:32am On Nov 07, 2019 |
Mutemenot: There is no profession with assurance but some are riskier than others. They should have planned well, yes. But we are not talking about "should have" here, we are talking about the tangible present. The man is seeing that everything is sliding and is still chasing pipe dreams while mosquitoes devour his kids There is nothing wrong with being a nobody as far as you are doing your best. The ex-governor played drafts, wonderful, what is wrong with drafts?? How do we know he didnt play drafts after a long day of planning and budgeting? Of struggle? What about the countless guys he played drafts and Whot with Where are they all today? 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is Being Insensitive, I Need An Advice by pocohantas(f): 10:33am On Nov 07, 2019 |
luminouz: Being smart isn't all about typing big English on Nairaland. -As at 2016, only 2% of Nigerians owned over 90% of bank's deposits (NDIC report). That is enough to tell any sensible human the gap between the rich and the poor. It is also enough to tell the chance of being a MB in Nigeria. The NBS website is open to all. You can go there and check recent statistics on your country, Nigeria. Check unemployment rate, check poverty rate, check dependency ratio, check age-distribution ratio, check life expentancy. After that you proceed to NDIC and CBN for their various journals and publications. When you do all that, you won't come online to talk of 1 Mike Bamiloye in a country where over half of the population live below the poverty index. Yet when someone says a million others are unfortunate, you say it is unverified info. In case you are tempted to give that your ever predictable "okay"- skip it. Regards 5 Likes |
Re: My Husband Is Being Insensitive, I Need An Advice by Sterope(f): 10:33am On Nov 07, 2019 |
So many of them... I don't blame them. The idiots that got lucky have something yo say about women who did not believe in their dreams. They always fail to mention the percentage of their friends that will forever struggle. pocohantas: 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is Being Insensitive, I Need An Advice by luminouz(m): 10:34am On Nov 07, 2019 |
Sterope: There you go again, set off and boiling. Mariangeles,safarigirl and awkaetiti are the other girls I engaged on the topic, I never abused them nor did they abuse me. They made points,i countered and everyone learnt at the end.You could actually pass your messages across without sounding so ticked off. Must you be so vulgar? 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband Is Being Insensitive, I Need An Advice by airminem(f): 10:34am On Nov 07, 2019 |
AwkaetitiBabe:I Disagree. To me its a matter of misguided hatred and distrust towards men you think. |
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