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FreemanTJ:
We weren't dating. We were just friends and the marriage isnt based on love. I was trapped, she begged for the marriage. The plan was to take care of the baby once she delivers her but she insisted she would kill herself if I didn't marry her before the baby comes.

BatleFox:
You are so evil minded in the essence that you talk trash to everyone rather than getting to know what they stand for before opening your dirty mouth.

I'm on my own on nairaland and a gay guy, a man lover, picks on me and starts sending me love letters emails. When I reject him he comes on NL to attack me all over the place for no reason so I do the same, warning others in the process. You see the warnings but instead of heeding to advice or overlooking it you come typing rubbish to me.

Are you ok or did they tell you I'm gay? Do u even know how old i am that you think sleeping with men or women on a daily basis is my priority?

Please, get your useless self out of my mentions. Thank you in advance.

BatleFox:
Yes, sir, I am.

ifyalways:
A pastors daughter does not care about pre marital sex, even her Pastor parents that consented to the awkward marriage.

If it's just one of those church weddings and certificates and no registry certificate, its easy for you to walk out of the marriage now. Tell her how you feel and If she wants to keep wearing wedding band and stay married to herself just so she can keep up appearances, that's her own wahala.

Your child though should not suffer for your indiscretion. Make she s/he is well taken care of.

donstan18:
You got a lady pregnant, you married her.
Next thing, you connected with another lady while playing chess.
What next? You've started discussing orgasms with her after you both went to see a movie.
Now a short black lady has been chasing her in her dreams



TBH, Never in my life have I seen a BOY as so confused, wayward, deceitful, irresponsible and promiscuous as this OP.


Thanks.

kneehighbootz:
[s]I read the entire thread. If this story is true, OP Freehuman, you're scum! Human excreta. Maggot!!! You'll pay for what you did to those women especially your loving and trusting girlfriend.

As for Baby124, sassysure, ifyalways and all the other women bashing the girlfriend, I'm truly ashamed. Women like you are the reason I steer clear of women even though I'm female myself. I don't know what to say but I truly hope life will teach you women, if not for your own sake, at least for the sake of your daughters.

I'll just leave this little tidbit. You do not pull one woman down to uplift the other. Learn to put yourself in people's shoes and for God's sake, support your gender.Patriarchy is fine on its own. It doesn't need your help. Denigrating your gender to win the approval of the men folk doesn't make you one of 'the boys'.

It only makes you look stupid.

Freehuman, you're human scum. Bottom feeder. You will reap what you sow.[/s]

mrjojo:
What an Irony!! I'm sure u are joking!!.

Listen Mr, I will be succinct and blunt

Firstly, you are not as "smart" as you think you are. Your "wife" was your friend before the sex and the whole complications, so you know her, her situation about her been desperate for marriage. You took advantage of this and for someone who claims to be "smart" you couldn't use protection nor get a plan B after the act. I pretty sure the s.ex wasn't even a one-time event, but u didn't stop until she got pregnant. All of a sudden you don't like her and she is not your type. What exactly were you expecting having unprotected se.x? an Iphone?

They say to marry your friend, and you actually are. Except she never was one, as the deceitful person you always are, it was the se.x you were interested in all along. Because I can't explain how you will leave her all by herself during pregnancy, the emotional trauma you made her pass through.

In fact you wickedness will make the devil himself shiver, How do you leave a heavily pregnant lady all herself with no one even you both are in the same state? yet she didn't report you to anyone nor did she raise a fuzz, Most men don't do a quarter of this before a family meeting is summoned,
She didn't even forcefull pack her stuffs and relocate your bachelor's pad, don't forget she has the right to, after all she is your wife now. But all I see is a peaceful, calm lady that does everything to please you. Infact you don't deserve the both of them.


if you have an atom of smartness in you, then you will go on your knees and apologize to your innocent wife for all the stress and trouble you've caused her and move her and your child into your apartment with immediate effect. And also thank your ex-gf for not making things harder than they are, by her making sure you make good with your family. Stay with your wife for atleast a year before you conclude she is unlovable and divorcing, at least she was once your friend.



And I guess you said you are "smart" because you play chess.

ojun50:
So wetin be the koko of wetin you write now

FreemanTJ:
I'm Confused With The Way Forward With My Relationship And Marriage

2 years ago I met a lady through a colleague. We got really close and became friends, few months later we got intimate and eventually she got pregnant. She was so scared and devastated and pleaded that I not only accept the pregnancy but marry her as well.....her parents are both pastors and she didnt want to bring shame to them by having a child out of wedlock.

The truth is, I wasn't ready for such commitment but I couldn't bear to see her depressed and so devastated, so I succumbed to getting married to her. Within 2 months we had to do a rushed traditional wedding and white wedding but before that I told her I felt trapped and we had an agreement we weren't going to be living together. This was because we both had different apartment at that time and due to proximity to work I wanted to stay on the island while she stayed on the mainland. She's an entrepreneur and since she was pregnant it wasn't going to be easy for her shuttling between island and mainland

She was ok with the agreement and all the while we lived apart. After the wedding I never wore the ring as I never considered myself married. My parents were the only ones that showed up at my wedding, all my sibling were really disappointed.

Anyway, to cut the long story, while I was with this lady before she got pregnant I met a lady at an event and immediately we connected. We would chat for several days and play chess game for long hours. We shared alot of common interest in our profession, games and all. She's not the reading type so I always recommend books for her to read and we reviewed together. After about 3 months of communicating online she asked if I was seeing someone, at that time my wife (it feels odd using the word wife) was pregnant, I stylishly dodged the question but she another she insisted I answered and I just had to confess I had a gf.


She thanked me for telling the truth, we continued playing chess but it wasn't as often. One time we were playing and started teasing sexually, she played along and was surprised I even mentioned anything sexual. Few months after, I got married but never mentioned it to her. I fear I might lose her while going through a marriage I never wanted.
During this period I withdrew from all form of communication, I was trying to figure out my life yet distracted. She kept sending messages on WhatsApp which I ignored until after about 2 months, I responded and she was upset that after connecting so well I suddenly withdrew.
She asked if I had a meltdown or emotional breakdown which I denied. Just told her I was detoxing from social media but I was back for good. So we continued chatting for another 3 months and decided we saw a movie together. After the movie I told her I wanted to see more of her. Eventually after some weeks, I invited her over and we got intimate. It wasn't the best of experience for her as she claims to have been celibate for over a year.

When she got home that night we discussed our sex extensively and she said she has never experienced orgasm and has always had painful. I felt I could change that experience for her. The next time she came over she asked if I truly had a gf since we spend alot of time communicating online, this time around I said I did but due to the distance we had issues and the rship isnt heading anywhere. I knew it was selfish of me but I wasn't ready to let go. After the third attempt she had her 1st orgasm and i could tell she wasn't ready to let go either.

After a while she got suspicious, she would tell me she had a dream of a short black lady chasing her out of my room and I kept reassuring her it was impossible but she kept insisting this dreams were recurring but I kept denying I had a gf or wife. She described my wife perfectly and I just wondered how some people are gifted with the ability to see things in dreams. All through the while she insisted on protection as she couldn't trust me completely. She grew more suspicious daily and I got defensive everytime and this started causing a strain in our relationship.
During this period we were dating and I asked her if she publicizes her rship on social media and she mentioned no, then later she asked me what I was hiding but i got defensive and we had a major argument.

ifyalways:
A pastors daughter does not care about pre marital sex, even her Pastor parents that consented to the awkward marriage.

If it's just one of those church weddings and certificates and no registry certificate, its easy for you to walk out of the marriage now. Tell her how you feel and If she wants to keep wearing wedding band and stay married to herself just so she can keep up appearances, that's her own wahala.

Your child though should not suffer for your indiscretion. Make she s/he is well taken care of.

Sivou1:
I don't believe in a forced marriage, marriage is something you need to consider very well before entering it. You don't get married to someone because pregnancy is involved, it is your personal life and that of your partner, your happiness comes first as couple before that of your parents. I was once in your shoe, I got involved with a lady and she was pregnant, someone advised her to abort it which I kicked against, I went to her parent to claim ownership of the pregnancy and promised to be responsible for her till delivery and take care of the child, the father is a pastor like yours too, he insisted on marriage to cover his shame, I told him that will not be possible because if I am not happy in the marriage I might end up hating the so call baby that made me to marry the mum. He wasn't cool about it, he called my brother and every member of the family got to know, we went their and he still insisted on marrying the daughter, my family asked if I wanted that I said no, because I have someone I wanted to marry.[b][/b] At the end my family said they can't force me, the man said if I was not going to marry the daughter I should forget about the baby which the daughter too supported. That was the end of it all. [b][/b]Your happiness and that of your wife comes first in marriage, not that of your parent, you don't correct a mistake by making another mistake my brother, ask God for forgiveness and grace to love your wife instead of sleeping around after marriage.

FreemanTJ:
She thanked me for telling the truth, we continued playing chess but it wasn't as often. One time we were playing and started teasing sexually, she played along and was surprised I even mentioned anything sexual. Few months after, I got married but never mentioned it to her. I fear I might lose her while going through a marriage I never wanted.
During this period I withdrew from all form of communication, I was trying to figure out my life yet distracted. She kept sending messages on WhatsApp which I ignored until after about 2 months, I responded and she was upset that after connecting so well I suddenly withdrew.
She asked if I had a meltdown or emotional breakdown which I denied. Just told her I was detoxing from social media but I was back for good. So we continued chatting for another 3 months and decided we saw a movie together. After the movie I told her I wanted to see more of her. Eventually after some weeks, I invited her over and we got intimate. It wasn't the best of experience for her as she claims to have been celibate for over a year.

When she got home that night we discussed our sex extensively and she said she has never experienced orgasm and has always had painful. I felt I could change that experience for her. The next time she came over she asked if I truly had a gf since we spend alot of time communicating online, this time around I said I did but due to the distance we had issues and the rship isnt heading anywhere. I knew it was selfish of me but I wasn't ready to let go. After the third attempt she had her 1st orgasm and i could tell she wasn't ready to let go either.

After a while she got suspicious, she would tell me she had a dream of a short black lady chasing her out of my room and I kept reassuring her it was impossible but she kept insisting this dreams were recurring but I kept denying I had a gf or wife. She described my wife perfectly and I just wondered how some people are gifted with the ability to see things in dreams. All through the while she insisted on protection as she couldn't trust me completely. She grew more suspicious daily and I got defensive everytime and this started causing a strain in our relationship.
During this period we were dating and I asked her if she publicizes her rship on social media and she mentioned no, then later she asked me what I was hiding but i got defensive and we had a major argument.

BlueAir:
U shouldn't live life by believing whatever crazy people throw at u without asking for proof smellinganus..if u do ..u will live a complicated life and I juat observed ita baltefox now no more batlefox..evm with my silence amd little action u still got banned?? dammit.im the man..so this is moniker number 9? Well stiill counting

midnighter:
All that is speculation. You might as well assume the whole OP is a total lie if you're going to discount parts of the story just because they don't suit you

How can you ask if we were there? You could say that about any post on the whole of nairaland.

Just because she didn't do what others may do it doesn't exonerate her from her actions. [b]If she was nice she would have just carried her bag like other girls do and remove her leg from the [/b]situation

BlueAir:
Prrove im gay with email dm requeat screenshot from me

FreemanTJ:
She has never had unprotected sex with anyone and she doesn't lie, she has never given me a reason to be suspicious, she was that honest. We both did test and she still insisted on protection. She didnt want a child out of wedlock considering her background. I am a very smart man and trust me there was no way she could have known. We had no pictures of our wedding pictures on social media from any of my family members. This wasn't her first time using my laptop and I saw the message from her office insisting she sends a mail which she had to type in Msword on my laptop. Yes, she had the hunch, but the gmail gave me out.

BatleFox:
Feel free to write me another one so i can post it here before deleting it. I saved one though, the open toasting one. See below.

BatleFox:
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Too much trash makes my belly ache. Your pattern of reply with delays will not work!!!

BlueAir:
Looks like its working. Ur moniker is number 9th .more bans loading. I get ur plenty trashes

BlueAir:
Wheres the one u have?? werey

joseo:
Married man...... Only boys are pressured into marriage

generationz:

Easier said than done.

At least she took action. The wife knows what the op did.

The op will think twice before he dares mess another woman up.

BlueAir:
U shouldn't live life by believing whatever crazy people throw at u without asking for proof smellinganus..if u do ..u will live a complicated life and I juat observed ita baltefox now no more batlefox..evm with my silence amd little action u still got banned?? dammit.im the man..so this is moniker number 9? Well stiill counting

donstan18:
You got a lady pregnant, you married her.
Next thing, you connected with another lady while playing chess.
What next? You've started discussing orgasms with her after you both went to see a movie.
Now a short black lady has been chasing her in her dreams



TBH, Never in my life have I seen a BOY as so confused, wayward, deceitful, irresponsible and promiscuous as this OP.


Thanks.