FreemanTJ:


I agree. Thank you for the vile words but I think you'd do worse than my gf if you were in her shoes. You just hate her because she's a gf and not a wife.

You're married and still calling someone your girlfriend. I just pray you don't regret your actions...speaking from experience. Seems you are thinking with your dickk now, maybe your gf is better in bed and you think life is all about that. It will soon fade and your eyes go clear. That gf of yours has no right to speak to your wife no matter what.

Again, STOP saying she begged you to marry her. Were you dragged to the altar or you don't have a say over your life? You look like a man ..sorry, boy that can't make decisions nor stand by one. You are not stable in decisions that matters!!

baby124:

I don’t know her so I am incapable of hating her. Just telling you the bitter truth here. [b]Your girlfriend is not stable and she will show you hell![/b]Many married men have done worse behind their wives backs, only those who actually think there is a chance to displace the wife reach out to her. These are facts any woman will tell you.

OP should take note of the emboldened. I still believe the gf's sex game is turning OP's head.

FreemanTJ:


I actually ensure both of them are very okay. I actually gave her my car during the period she was pregnant and she still has it. I'm just unhappy in the marriage and no it wasn't just a church certificate, her parent ensured of that.

You are not happy or you are doing less to make every member of your family happy. You are not entitled to all the happiness, just like pizza, you take you slice and let others have theirs.

In all relationships, communication is important, if had told your wife about your unhappiness, both of you could have worked on it. Your distance apart also add to this. Your second mistake was the decision to live apart, that was not marriage.

Now, forgive yourself that you are unable to have the wedding of your imagination. Call your the other stranger you brought into life and apologize, whether she forgive or not, its not a big issue.

Thereafter, reconcile with your wife, and bring your family together at all cost. *Marriage is meant to be Enjoyed not Endure*.

Please try to communicate your feelings with your wife and encourage her to do same, silence can create years of bottle-up resentment, if needed consult marriage counselor.

There are lots of people who want to get married like you but were turned down. But you are lucky a lady agree to marry you.

God be with you.

lessonsoflife:


The OP has said what he wanted to say.

I was not there with them so I can't tell if he is lying or not.

He said the girl threatened to kill herself if he did not marry her how true.

Like many men, OP might be a man who want children with many women.

Is the Pastors daughter a virgin, hasn't she done abortion before?

Except it was a one night affair. OP might have been the one who promised that lady marriage.

Maybe the Pastor's daughter is older than the OP, maybe she is fat and OP lost interest. Why did he just in only his Father and Mother.

You see a man smart enough as OP claimed he is, can never be manipulated.

He is a sex addict who want to father children with different women.

A woman you gave orgasm still have sex with you protected?

Maybe I might be wrong in my assumption.

very intelligent points you have raised... I too find the emboldened difficult to believe...

All I can say is fvck you nigga. No matter what the circumstances is, the moment you are married to someone, you are married. It doesn't matter what made you marry the person. I see you as a selfish muthafvcker. Don't go screwing a lady you won't marry without condom, you guys won't hear. I wonder what you were expecting by fvcking her without condom. Were you expecting chicken and chips or starch and banga soup to come out of it? You messed up the new girl with your excessive lies. You could have told her the truth from the onset and allow her make up her mind if she wants to still ride with you or not. I keep saying it that there are very few responsible men out there and any lady lucky to be dating one, should count herself lucky to have found a jewel. If I am silly and stupid enough to sleep with a girl without condom, I should be sensible enough to know I must marry her if she takes in irrespective of whether she's my kind of person. That's what taking up responsibility for your actions entails. You and your wife should settle your issues amicably and leave the other girl of of your messy life. One thing I can say about you is that you are not matured enough(forget about your age) and you are the type of person who struggles with being responsible. If you continue like this, you would have a very messy family in future cos you lack discipline. Work on yourself.

FreemanTJ:
I'm Confused With The Way Forward With My Relationship And Marriage

2 years ago I met a lady through a colleague. We got really close and became friends, few months later we got intimate and eventually she got pregnant. She was so scared and devastated and pleaded that I not only accept the pregnancy but marry her as well.....her parents are both pastors and she didnt want to bring shame to them by having a child out of wedlock.

The truth is, I wasn't ready for such commitment but I couldn't bear to see her depressed and so devastated, so I succumbed to getting married to her. Within 2 months we had to do a rushed traditional wedding and white wedding but before that I told her I felt trapped and we had an agreement we weren't going to be living together. This was because we both had different apartment at that time and due to proximity to work I wanted to stay on the island while she stayed on the mainland. She's an entrepreneur and since she was pregnant it wasn't going to be easy for her shuttling between island and mainland

She was ok with the agreement and all the while we lived apart. After the wedding I never wore the ring as I never considered myself married. My parents were the only ones that showed up at my wedding, all my sibling were really disappointed.

Anyway, to cut the long story, while I was with this lady before she got pregnant I met a lady at an event and immediately we connected. We would chat for several days and play chess game for long hours. We shared alot of common interest in our profession, games and all. She's not the reading type so I always recommend books for her to read and we reviewed together. After about 3 months of communicating online she asked if I was seeing someone, at that time my wife (it feels odd using the word wife) was pregnant, I stylishly dodged the question but she another she insisted I answered and I just had to confess I had a gf.


She thanked me for telling the truth, we continued playing chess but it wasn't as often. One time we were playing and started teasing sexually, she played along and was surprised I even mentioned anything sexual. Few months after, I got married but never mentioned it to her. I fear I might lose her while going through a marriage I never wanted.
During this period I withdrew from all form of communication, I was trying to figure out my life yet distracted. She kept sending messages on WhatsApp which I ignored until after about 2 months, I responded and she was upset that after connecting so well I suddenly withdrew.
She asked if I had a meltdown or emotional breakdown which I denied. Just told her I was detoxing from social media but I was back for good. So we continued chatting for another 3 months and decided we saw a movie together. After the movie I told her I wanted to see more of her. Eventually after some weeks, I invited her over and we got intimate. It wasn't the best of experience for her as she claims to have been celibate for over a year.

When she got home that night we discussed our sex extensively and she said she has never experienced orgasm and has always had painful. I felt I could change that experience for her. The next time she came over she asked if I truly had a gf since we spend alot of time communicating online, this time around I said I did but due to the distance we had issues and the rship isnt heading anywhere. I knew it was selfish of me but I wasn't ready to let go. After the third attempt she had her 1st orgasm and i could tell she wasn't ready to let go either.

After a while she got suspicious, she would tell me she had a dream of a short black lady chasing her out of my room and I kept reassuring her it was impossible but she kept insisting this dreams were recurring but I kept denying I had a gf or wife. She described my wife perfectly and I just wondered how some people are gifted with the ability to see things in dreams. All through the while she insisted on protection as she couldn't trust me completely. She grew more suspicious daily and I got defensive everytime and this started causing a strain in our relationship.
During this period we were dating and I asked her if she publicizes her rship on social media and she mentioned no, then later she asked me what I was hiding but i got defensive and we had a major argument.

The deed has been done already, my candid advice is for you to talk to your wedded wife, let her know how you've been feeling & also be open to your new sex partner.. let her know what's going. you can't just keep two ladies. hold on to one and free one. thanks

Story story !!!

donstan18:
You got a lady pregnant, you married her.
Next thing, you connected with another lady while playing chess.
What next? You've started discussing orgasms with her after you both went to see a movie.
Now a short black lady has been chasing her in her dreams



TBH, Never in my life have I seen a BOY as so confused, wayward, deceitful, irresponsible and promiscuous as this OP.


Thanks.

Wa gbayi for this comment. I donate 50 trucks of orijin to you. No mind the yeye olojukokoro nuisance. You can tell he is a type of man that is never content, it is his type that commit suicide over woman matter

crackhaus:



See a therapist please, you too Omojudy.

Yes daddy. But please foot the bill.

FreemanTJ:
I'm Confused With The Way Forward With My Relationship And Marriage

2 years ago I met a lady through a colleague. We got really close and became friends, few months later we got intimate and eventually she got pregnant. She was so scared and devastated and pleaded that I not only accept the pregnancy but marry her as well.....her parents are both pastors and she didnt want to bring shame to them by having a child out of wedlock.

The truth is, I wasn't ready for such commitment but I couldn't bear to see her depressed and so devastated, so I succumbed to getting married to her. Within 2 months we had to do a rushed traditional wedding and white wedding but before that I told her I felt trapped and we had an agreement we weren't going to be living together. This was because we both had different apartment at that time and due to proximity to work I wanted to stay on the island while she stayed on the mainland. She's an entrepreneur and since she was pregnant it wasn't going to be easy for her shuttling between island and mainland

She was ok with the agreement and all the while we lived apart. After the wedding I never wore the ring as I never considered myself married. My parents were the only ones that showed up at my wedding, all my sibling were really disappointed.

Anyway, to cut the long story, while I was with this lady before she got pregnant I met a lady at an event and immediately we connected. We would chat for several days and play chess game for long hours. We shared alot of common interest in our profession, games and all. She's not the reading type so I always recommend books for her to read and we reviewed together. After about 3 months of communicating online she asked if I was seeing someone, at that time my wife (it feels odd using the word wife) was pregnant, I stylishly dodged the question but she another she insisted I answered and I just had to confess I had a gf.


She thanked me for telling the truth, we continued playing chess but it wasn't as often. One time we were playing and started teasing sexually, she played along and was surprised I even mentioned anything sexual. Few months after, I got married but never mentioned it to her. I fear I might lose her while going through a marriage I never wanted.
During this period I withdrew from all form of communication, I was trying to figure out my life yet distracted. She kept sending messages on WhatsApp which I ignored until after about 2 months, I responded and she was upset that after connecting so well I suddenly withdrew.
She asked if I had a meltdown or emotional breakdown which I denied. Just told her I was detoxing from social media but I was back for good. So we continued chatting for another 3 months and decided we saw a movie together. After the movie I told her I wanted to see more of her. Eventually after some weeks, I invited her over and we got intimate. It wasn't the best of experience for her as she claims to have been celibate for over a year.

When she got home that night we discussed our sex extensively and she said she has never experienced orgasm and has always had painful. I felt I could change that experience for her. The next time she came over she asked if I truly had a gf since we spend alot of time communicating online, this time around I said I did but due to the distance we had issues and the rship isnt heading anywhere. I knew it was selfish of me but I wasn't ready to let go. After the third attempt she had her 1st orgasm and i could tell she wasn't ready to let go either.

After a while she got suspicious, she would tell me she had a dream of a short black lady chasing her out of my room and I kept reassuring her it was impossible but she kept insisting this dreams were recurring but I kept denying I had a gf or wife. She described my wife perfectly and I just wondered how some people are gifted with the ability to see things in dreams. All through the while she insisted on protection as she couldn't trust me completely. She grew more suspicious daily and I got defensive everytime and this started causing a strain in our relationship.
During this period we were dating and I asked her if she publicizes her rship on social media and she mentioned no, then later she asked me what I was hiding but i got defensive and we had a major argument.

Guy having read this your story and taken some minutes to consider it, I have the following contributions to make to this your thread.
1) You no try at all
2) If you're really ready to change, there's still hope for you.
3) Man up and stop being a wicked, irresponsible and selfish child.
4) Call YOUR WIFE, yes she's your wife as you wedded her before God and man and made promises to love her TILL DEATH DO YOU PART.
5) REPENT, ask Jesus into your heart and GENUINELY seek forgiveness from both women. Whether they give it or not, you'd have done your part.
6) STAY AWAY FROM ANY ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS FOR NOW before you hurt another woman. Concentrate on becoming a better human being, a decent one.

Finally, if you decide to leave your head in your nether regions, may the following be your portion in Jesus' name, amen:
1) A taste of your own medicine, served hot in the months of April and May and cold from December to February.
2) Protection for kindhearted and decent women from men like you.
3) Protection by angels with flaming swords for godfearing women from men like you.

Seventy7kings:
dr yemmit was here too?

Yinibixema:
[s][/s]
Are you the pregnant wife because this rant too much

Pregnant wife fa!!!
Abeg alot of people are condemning the nuisance and you had to pick out only my comment . I'm just angry at the OP for being irresponsible and immature. He blames everyone but himself. So selfish and inhumane

donstan18:
You got a lady pregnant, you married her.
Next thing, you connected with another lady while playing chess.
What next? You've started discussing orgasms with her after you both went to see a movie.
Now a short black lady has been chasing her in her dreams



TBH, Never in my life have I seen a BOY as so confused, wayward, deceitful, irresponsible and promiscuous as this OP.


Thanks.

Thank you for this.
That guy is a Criminal.

FreemanTJ:
I'm Confused With The Way Forward With My Relationship And Marriage

2 years ago I met a lady through a colleague. We got really close and became friends, few months later we got intimate and eventually she got pregnant. She was so scared and devastated and pleaded that I not only accept the pregnancy but marry her as well.....her parents are both pastors and she didnt want to bring shame to them by having a child out of wedlock.

The truth is, I wasn't ready for such commitment but I couldn't bear to see her depressed and so devastated, so I succumbed to getting married to her. Within 2 months we had to do a rushed traditional wedding and white wedding but before that I told her I felt trapped and we had an agreement we weren't going to be living together. This was because we both had different apartment at that time and due to proximity to work I wanted to stay on the island while she stayed on the mainland. She's an entrepreneur and since she was pregnant it wasn't going to be easy for her shuttling between island and mainland

She was ok with the agreement and all the while we lived apart. After the wedding I never wore the ring as I never considered myself married. My parents were the only ones that showed up at my wedding, all my sibling were really disappointed.

Anyway, to cut the long story, while I was with this lady before she got pregnant I met a lady at an event and immediately we connected. We would chat for several days and play chess game for long hours. We shared alot of common interest in our profession, games and all. She's not the reading type so I always recommend books for her to read and we reviewed together. After about 3 months of communicating online she asked if I was seeing someone, at that time my wife (it feels odd using the word wife) was pregnant, I stylishly dodged the question but she another she insisted I answered and I just had to confess I had a gf.



After a while she got suspicious, she would tell me she had a dream of a short black lady chasing her out of my room and I kept reassuring her it was impossible but she kept insisting this dreams were recurring but I kept denying I had a gf or wife. She described my wife perfectly and I just wondered how some people are gifted with the ability to see things in dreams. All through the while she insisted on protection as she couldn't trust me completely. She grew more suspicious daily and I got defensive everytime and this started causing a strain in our relationship.
During this period we were dating and I asked her if she publicizes her rship on social media and she mentioned no, then later she asked me what I was hiding but i got defensive and we had a major argument.

I'll suggest that the Lady give you an inerasable curse during childbirth Labour

ojun50:
So wetin be the koko of wetin you write now

I just tire

donstan18:
You got a lady pregnant, you married her.
Next thing, you connected with another lady while playing chess.
What next? You've started discussing orgasms with her after you both went to see a movie.
Now a short black lady has been chasing her in her dreams



TBH, Never in my life have I seen a BOY as so confused, wayward, deceitful, irresponsible and promiscuous as this OP.


Thanks.

Chop knuckle

dexla:

Pregnant wife fa!!!
Abeg alot of people are condemning the nuisance and you had to pick out only my comment . I'm just angry at the OP for being irresponsible and immature. He blames everyone but himself. So selfish and inhumane

Yes you are right. Your comment just sounds funny to me lol

walexsho:


I'll suggest that the Lady give you an inerasable curse during childbirth Labour

You're wicked oh, I was laughing so much that I nearly dropped the orange I was peeling. You would have gone to find me a fresh one

Now is 0-0 , no wife ,no girlfriend sorry.. Neither ur wife nor ur girlfriend is at fault, stop looking for faults/ reason anywhere. All of them did the right thing . . . . the moment u stop living on lies ur life will be better. no one can help u man, its ur shit deal with it.


If things work out with ur wife, dont expect goodies..

@op from ur topic u look irresponsible, stupid,foolish, wayward.u got a Lady pregnant which I no it could happen to any man/boy.u rush to wed the girl because her papa na pastor.u went ahead again to sleep around with another girl fooling the two bitches.let me tell u one secret so many girls are out there looking for who to trap with pregnancy it happened everyday, making you go into unplanned marriage. see I was once trap with unplanned marriage but I told d girl am not going to marry you. no two ways about it.that does not mean if u sleep with a girl an get her pregnant u must marry her.marriage no be force.I send her 30k monthly for the baby after buying baby things for about 110k.atleast I have played my role an satisfy her want else.what am saying u have to no wat u want an don't be big fool.make ur choice but remembered to take care of the BABY.that is my advice for you.who quote me should hug transformer.

Too may hypocrites here.....I dont understand how you will be insulting someone and still end up advising the person. And they own dey there body ooo. OP is man enough to put out what he is going through. The least y'll can do is advice or give your candid opinion. Shout out to people like Midnigher and Grandstar, respect to your for your mature responds. Mr FreemanTJ, my take is take a time out, have a meeting with yourself, table out what you want and go for it. Forget all this yeye people wey de say make you work on the marriage. It all boils down to want you want. You put yourself in this mess, no one will be there for you if the advice this people are giving you boomerangs. Na werey people full here las las. I don talk finish.

midnighter:


You're wicked oh, I was laughing so much that I nearly dropped the orange I was peeling. You would have gone to find me a fresh one

Bros no mind this people.......They just talking anyhow. There own de there body ooo. Instead of giving opinion or advising, they will be cursing. That's not right.

walexsho:


I'll suggest that the Lady give you an inerasable curse during childbirth Labour

I suppose curse is following you that's why you re talking like this.

ikpitreal:


Bros no mind this people.......They just talking anyhow. There own de there body ooo. Instead of giving opinion or advising, they will be cursing. That's not right.

Lol you'll have to modify your other post because I also got annoyed with his behaviour and insulted him too, his own was just too much

I understand where you are coming from though, we can be too harsh on people who just need our help

yemmit90:
Still wondering what could have made a full grown man dating someone he cannot marry to the extent of gotten her pregnant.

@wicked op, please take good care of that pregnant girl before it too late. Being pregnant is not easy, please support here emotionally and financially. She is carrying your child for God sake. How would you feel if someone is doing this to your daughter?

Nawa ooo.
Human being can be very wicked. Haaaaa.
Some people just live careless life. Someone is pregnant for you and you married her, now you are talking nonsense. With this you atrocities, if the lady dies as a result of depression? you think you can escape. Some men are Book haram o o. You fulk woman, she became pregnant , you did not thank God.
Go to MFM and look for people looking for fruit of womb,



Let assume you marry the new lady and you are unable to impregnate her, l know you will not tell her that kama is after you. Op you are wicked and a disgrace to manhood.

When them say marriage nah for senior men all dis little kinda men go jump into, nw u see ur life? U think u fit decieve senior man like me with all dis ur arrangy kind of lies weh u dey use decieve all dis small girls. I pitty u

Cock and bush story your sin will find you out.

donstan18:
You got a lady pregnant, you married her.
Next thing, you connected with another lady while playing chess.
What next? You've started discussing orgasms with her after you both went to see a movie.
Now a short black lady has been chasing her in her dreams



TBH, Never in my life have I seen a BOY as so confused, wayward, deceitful, irresponsible and promiscuous as this OP.


Thanks.

Oil day your head Bro! There is a sayin that said don't smell what you won't eat.

Something tells me this guy is a popular person on here...name synonymous with one of Nigeria's military

dexla:

Pregnant wife fa!!!
Abeg alot of people are condemning the nuisance and you had to pick out only my comment . I'm just angry at the OP for being irresponsible and immature. He blames everyone but himself. So selfish and inhumane

You be ode.

midnighter:


Lol you'll have to modify your other post because I also got annoyed with his behaviour and insulted him too, his own was just too much

I understand where you are coming from though, we can be too harsh on people who just need our help

The harshness too much fa. Thanks Boss

ikpitreal:

You be ode.

I dont understand, do we have pending issues or do you know me by any means?
Why the vitriol word?
I can tell you're ill mannered and looking for few seconds of fame.
Look here Mr, since you're sad and unfortunate dont bring it to me. I didnt make your life miserable.
Do take your negative energy far from me.
Face the OP and stop attacking people's comment like a slowpoke.