RemyDropShadow:
Thanks for your input brother. Can't agree more.
There has to be some sort of spiritual connection to this cause I struggle to understand how my brother always come across these type of girls.
One is by chance, two probably coincidence but 3? That is a pattern.

Op, you have a laptop top nah. Set it on record/video and pretend to be asleep. Let her come as usual, try rubbish as usual and get videoed unusual

The best person to confide in is your eldest sister. Go visit her with your laptop and show her the video. She on the other hand will speak on your behalf to your brother and three of you can actually set her up.

That type of a lady is not worthy to be your sister-in-law.

extremelygolden:


Op, you have a laptop top nah. Set it on record/video and pretend to be asleep. Let her come as usual, try rubbish as usual and get videoed unusual

The best person to confide in is your eldest sister. Go visit her with your laptop and show her the video. She on the other hand will speak on your behalf to your brother and three of you can actually set her up.

That type of a lady is not worthy to be your sister-in-law.

I'm gonna make arrangements for a small camera on Monday but I need to ask
Can I really do that with my laptop? That is without the screen being on and on camcoder mode cause it'll be very obvious if that is the case.
I use a MacBook pro. Is there a way I can set up the camera to record with the screen in hibernation?
Thanks for your input anyway. Highly appreciated.

midnighter:
If you go and confront that chick, 1 of two things could happen:

1. She respects herself and starts acting normal

2. She gets offended, starts treating you maliciously and turns your brother against you

The solution is to move back to your house, sorry. Or move to someplace

Some ladies ehn...I dont understand

Best advise. She might even accuse him of rape if not well handled and having a bad record already worsens the situation.

I’d advise you not to confront her. She will accuse you of rape or start poisoning your brother’s mind.

If you must tell your brother, tell him after you’ve left the house. Maybe after a week of staying away from her, compose a very compelling and emotional message, telling your brother why u left the house. Tell him, you appreciate his love towards you even though you betrayed him. Tell him you left the house solely because you don’t want to blow up this second chance.

As for your mum. Do not tell her. You know women, they can blow things out of proportion and might ask your brother to send you away.

RemyDropShadow:
@ bolded.
You're so right. I sexualized every girl I came across, I'll often strip them naked in my mind and won't rest till I hit them no matter how old they were so long as i deemed it a good ass. I had a very good game, trust me. Seldom got rejected so I took any rejection so so badly. Will often hate the girl so so much that I'll be thinking of paying thugs to go break her legs or something. I was a lunatic. I was addicted to sex, masturbation and porn and it ruined my life. I thank God for where i am today bro. Thanks for your input, I appreciate.

It's my pleasure. Keep close to God and be intentional about him...he's got you

RemyDropShadow:
I'm gonna make arrangements for a small camera on Monday but I need to ask
Can I really do that with my laptop? That is without the screen being on and on camcoder mode cause it'll be very obvious if that is the case.
I use a MacBook pro. Is there a way I can set up the camera to record with the screen in hibernation?
Thanks for your input anyway. Highly appreciated.

I really don't know much about MacBook Pro, cos I use a different type of laptop, but you can google it. And the idea of installing a camera is even the best, per adventure she's something other than a seductress, the camera will be able to capture it.

After all your holy holy, you still get mind to wan give advise even when you don Bleep up. Mtcheew.

MiVida:
Wow... Cute guys get wahala honestly

My story is all over my profile too, finally broke up with my girlfriend recently after a 6year relationship and the temptations in my compound isn't getting any fair on me either. There's a girl who is in a very very serious relationship that I asked out, tho her man isn't here but she's so in love with him. I felt bad for seducing her several times and getting refused every damn time! Of all the ladies in the house, she's the one I like the most... Ebony, biggy biggy in all the fuckingg right places mahn!

I don't want to go into full details cos her bf could be in this forum and I honestly don't wanna ruin things for them... But it happened! Had to get myself to sleep over at her place and yeah! I still can't believe she let me show her what an awesome sexx can be like!

And as for my description, right on my profile.


As for the op, just don't let that girl take away those opportunities you have with your bro, I know how tempting it can be, I'd suggest you tell your sister.

Angelawhite:


Best advise. She might even accuse him of rape if not well handled and having a bad record already worsens the situation.

I’d advise you not to confront her. She will accuse you of rape or start poisoning your brother’s mind.

If you must tell your brother, tell him after you’ve left the house. Maybe after a week of staying away from her, compose a very compelling and emotional message, telling your brother why u left the house. Tell him, you appreciate his love towards you even though you betrayed him. Tell him you left the house solely because you don’t want to blow up this second chance.

As for your mum. Do not tell her. You know women, they can blow things out of proportion and might ask your brother to send you away.

I was thinking of advising him not to tell his mum and just keeping it between them but the thing is that this is a serious problem, he has been implicated in this kind of thing before and he needs to report this to a witness. There are actually 2 issues here:

1. The guys past sex addiction
2. The brothers inability to pick decent girls as partners

At least if he gets to the rest of his family with evidence, they will see that he has not been entirely to blame all this while and he will improve his standing in their eyes.

involving a 3rd party like his sister or mother is important for the future because it keeps everybody accountable for their actions.

We can't control our lost at the sight of handsome Bois. Op is probably a very handsome young man. But in all u do, don't fuvk that girl.

midnighter:


Brilliant...in fact let him buy a small camera himself and then confront his brother with the evidence later. I hope OP follows this, it will eliminate the "my word against hers" scenario

even with the camera his brother might not trust him ,devil has a way of playing his cards ,his elder brother might end up having a thought of why every lady he engages goes for his kid bro .
I think the op should bring in a male friend to stay with him for some time or if he has a younger sister he should beg her to be stay with him

sweetiliciouz:
even with the camera his brother might not trust him ,devil has a way of playing his cards ,his elder brother might end up having a thought of why every lady he engages goes for his kid bro .
I think the op should bring in a male friend to stay with him for some time or if he has a younger sister he should beg her to be stay with him

Well, using a camera is still better than going to accuse somebody with no evidence, when you have already been caught committing the same crime before.

Yeah he should still find his way out of that place and give the brother some space. At least even if he ends up engaging a succubus, OP's hand will not be in it.

I think that you are being tested by your brother,he is ready to send you to Canada for your Masters which means spending a hell lot of money,he just wants to make sure that you have changed and loyal or to find an excuse to scuttle the Canada expenses,the playacting by the lady in question is too choreographed to be real,it's all prearranged.This is the time to take your destiny in your own hands be firm and reject all her advances by any means necessary, even if it means to masturbate everyday to relieve off some pressure pls use any means at your disposal,your future cannot be tied to a pvssy that's not funny !!

Consider your brother's fiancee as your sister with whom you're not expected to have an intimacy with. 5 minutes excitement isn't enough to ruin a lifetime blood relationship and love with your family (your brother in particular)
It has happens but as a matured guy, you really need to be disciplined and never allow your emotions override your morality.

Ensure that you always lock the door to you room, set a camera in your room when next she comes knocking,if she acts silly after opening the door for her,engage her in conversation on why she always try to seduce you everywhere around the house

RemyDropShadow:
I could fall for you right now . Off a fucking cliff even .. Thanks for your input gurl. The *record* part, I never even thought of that. I'm gonna need every evidence I can get to even attempt to approach my bros but a record is more than enough to get my mum and the armies of hell over here .

I have a degree in psychology and i'd like to point a few things out here. I think you're d problem in this whole story not ur brother, not the girls he brings but u.
I do not need to know you to deduce u have a very seductive aura surrounding u. Take a look @ bolded, nobody seems to have noticed but that line gives a glimpse of how dangerous of a person u are around women. Pretty sure u have a million of those up ur sleeves. Look, women re complex creatures. They re moved by what they hear than what they see. If u can use that line on a stranger u don't know frm Adam, only God knows what u tell the girls around u
U need to pay attention to ur body language and actions. If you're always shirtless around them, u need to stop it. It could be the way u smile or talk to them which could mean u're sending them very seductive signals u might have no knowledge of.
U said u had periodontal circles around ur eyes. I guess u meant dark periorbital circles by that and this might not seem relevant but it cld be a part of the problem. Guys with those circles apart from giving them a very feminine look, it makes them look very dark, haunting and gives them intense stares. Their stares most times, stab people in the soul without them knowing about it they re the kind of people u could say possess piercing eyes. Believe me, this may sound irrelevant but i believe it's part of the problem. U're obviously seducing them without knowing and u wonder why girls always adore u? There it is, I gave u ur answr.
For now tho, I think u should cut down on any lines like @ bolded u throw and girls and get a damming evidence like people suggested, take it to ur brother nd speak one on one with him. He'll appreciate u coming to him with it. Doesn't mean he might not be weary of u later on, infact he might never trust u wit his women ever again but it'll be worth it in the end. At least u did right by him
Goodluck

Fake story i laff at those who believed this shit.

What if the playboy lied to you about sexing her?

Sirvingeo:
Nigerian ladies love to eat their cake and still have it with them . She still wants to have fun but needs to hold down a good man. I have narrated this event here ones but I will do it again.
Reminiscing my service year I met this gorgeous and career lady. She had all the qualities I adored in a woman. I met her on the first day of camping. we were so fond of each other to the extent we ignored camp activities just to spend time together. She liked me likewise because according to her I am responsible and good marriage material. For once I never attempted to initiate sex with her because of the genuine feeling I had for her. I saw her as someone I could settle down with so, there is no need initiating sex just to sabotage my chances. Towards the end of our camping a well known play boy in my bunk said he slept with her . I didn't believe it until I saw them in a compromising position. From that day onward my feeling for her disappeared. She kept forcing herself on me but I kept doing the opposite. In fact I lost interest in her . After the camping we were posted to a different local government and I thanked God for that. She kept pestering me thinking she could rekindle the feeling I had for her . At this point I only viewed her as a sex object.
She decided to come spend the weekend with me which I disagreed but it later happened after like two months after camping. She spent roughly three days with me. The first day she came I tried to initiate sex, babe disagreed ooo. Babe was forming wife material cooking , washing my cloths and even cleaning the environment , even my landlady praised her. The second day babe didn't give me sex oo. I was like this babe had fun with a playboy in the camp and she is here taking advantage of my responsible looks and character for granted. The last day she spent which was Sunday night she wanted to act same way, at the middle of the night I threw her out . Nobody told her to succumb to my advances . After that event she was like this guy I never knew you can act that way . Up till today I don't think she is aware I know about her act with that playboy.

Lyns32uk:
What if the playboy lied to you about sexing her?

Didn't you read the part where i caught them in a compromising position .

Set a secret camera in your room and record all the activities show it to your brother so he doesn't marry that hoe. Save your brother

Bro, install a spy camera (Use that type with a charger head, it costs 10/15k or so). Show it to your brother afterwards. That lady will cause trouble for your brother in future.

RemyDropShadow:
Hey everyone,this might be a lengthy read I'm sorry. Don't even know if this is the right section to post this.
Had to create a new account for this. I'm confused and i really need matured advice from matured folks on here.

I'm the 5th child out of 6 children in my family(4 girls and 2 boys) and I'm 24. My elder bro who happens to be my most senior sibling(first child) is 32 and he has a 26 year old fiancee.

I used to have a very big problem guys, with women actually.

This stemmed from the fact that for some very weird reason, girls almost always adore me to the dangerous point of making it very easy for me to sleep with them even without spending much.
I was addicted to sex and women in general because of that.

My brother has always stayed in his own house since he was 26. He is really comfortable with a very good job plus he runs a successful business. I've been staying with him since I was 16..
We used to be really wayward. I followed him everywhere. Parties, clubs, bars, you name it, we represented. He funded my stupid lifestyle, I even lost my virginity at 17 when he paid a girl to sleep with me. This was the very beginning of my obsession.

At 21, my body count was already over 30 and I had already slept with 2 of his very serious girlfriends (which they initiated actually) without him knowing. I was actually in over my head then and the excitement made me do them without thinking. Probably due to the fact that I've always envied my brother's very masculine physique and looks. I have very dark periodontal circles around my eyes and thick brows which always made me look more feminine than masculine till I was able to hide it with a beard so it came as a huge feat to be able to bed his girlfriends at the very least, to me.

I got caught though with the 2nd who he actually had marriage plans for. He intercepted a text she sent to me and all hell was let loose. A family meeting was held, my mum and entire family were so mad at me. My eldest sister slapped me to kingdom come. I had to kneel and beg in tears for him and everyone to forgive me which he did to my surprise. He forgave me wholeheartedly. He never chased me away from his home till I left for service July last year to Abuja.

During this period, he met and engaged his current fiancee.. I came back from Abuja August this year and met her here. I almost didn't approve of her cause of her slay queen kinda dress style and looks but we got along so well almost immediately.. Then I started noticing some weird behaviors 2 months back.

I was asleep one afternoon when my brother was at work and woke up to find his fiancee kneeling beside my bed, staring at my face. I almost screamed but I recognized her in time and she started laughing so i took it as a joke. It happened again about a week later but this time around, I pretended to be asleep and knew when she walked into my room and I felt her staring into my face for some minutes till she got up and left. I got so scared of her cause i started thinking she was a witch or something.

My brother traveled about 3 weeks ago and she was always walking around the house with a towel that revealed most of her laps. It made me very uneasy and scared. One day she came into my room to take movies from my laptop with same towel. All the while she was sitting in front of me, I could see her vagina clearly but I pretended and was sweating profusely. she acted like she was oblivious though. When she got up to leave, her towel dropped and she was stark naked in front of me. she screamed and acted like it was a mistake but my guts keeps telling me it wasn't. I almost grabbed her I wouldn't lie but the fear of my family is bigger than any urge out there. They'll fry me and hang me out to dry.

She gives me intense stares whenever she talks to me almost like she wants to set me on fire with her eyes and right now guys I'm really scared of repeating what almost destroyed the relationship I had with my brother. I really don't know what to do. I'm thinking of moving back to my family house but when I brought it up to my brother, he wasn't having any of it. He blatantly refused and said he was working on getting me a job somewhere so he needs me close. Should i mention he is also planning on sending me to Canada for my masters. I'm also thinking of opening up to him but I feel like there isn't enough to accuse her and I might just end up re-opening old wounds with such accusations.

I'm at crossroads hear folks, I feel scared of going out of my room these days, I can't even look her in the eyes for more than a second and she seems to enjoy it(probably thinking she is intimidating me with her beauty) but I'm just really scared.

I need matured advices please and if you can't give any, you're better off not commenting.. I'm trying to be a good person my family will be proud of in the future and I've come a long way in beating my sexual addictions.

Modified:
This doesn't even need to hit frontpage anymore, I think I have all I need to make a good decision. I'm really grateful to everyone who contributed positively here without insulting me, y'all are the real heroes. You have no idea how depressed I was before deciding to post this here. I'm in good spirits now and for the very first time, I think I have a good plan to get this lady out of our lives without putting a wedge between my brother and i.
I love y'all @Nairaland family.
*Kisses*

Is that same as having sex?

Sirvingeo:

Didn't you read the part where i caught them in a compromising position .

Lyns32uk:
Is that same as having sex?

what will make a responsible lady to keep night out with a guy at Mami holding each other.

God bless you bro...Spy camera don’t cost much.

Happyguy201:
Set a secret camera in your room and record all the activities show it to your brother so he doesn't marry that hoe. Save your brother

Bros, don’t be surprise your friend didn’t sleep with her....I have seen worst case than holding hands & mami and still no sex matter in the story.

Sirvingeo:

what will make a responsible lady to keep night out with a guy at Mami holding each other.

Call her to order...tell her not to try to seduce u or else u gonna report her to ur bro... Get urself a babe that will be visiting u... By that she wouldn't have the guts to try rubbish with u knowing fully well u have a girlfriend

Angelawhite:


Best advise. She might even accuse him of rape if not well handled and having a bad record already worsens the situation.

I’d advise you not to confront her. She will accuse you of rape or start poisoning your brother’s mind.

If you must tell your brother, tell him after you’ve left the house. Maybe after a week of staying away from her, compose a very compelling and emotional message, telling your brother why u left the house. Tell him, you appreciate his love towards you even though you betrayed him. Tell him you left the house solely because you don’t want to blow up this second chance.

As for your mum. Do not tell her. You know women, they can blow things out of proportion and might ask your brother to send you away.

Thanks for ur input dear. I've begun making arrangements towards getting evidence. Y'all are amazing.

extremelygolden:


I really don't know much about MacBook Pro, cos I use a different type of laptop, but you can google it. And the idea of installing a camera is even the best, per adventure she's something other than a seductress, the camera will be able to capture it.

@ bolded. Like a witch?

sweetiliciouz:
even with the camera his brother might not trust him ,devil has a way of playing his cards , his elder brother might end up having a thought of why every lady he engages goes for his kid bro .
I think the op should bring in a male friend to stay with him for some time or if he has a younger sister he should beg her to be stay with him

@bolded. My exact fears at first that put me in a depressed state. Kept screaming "not again" in my mind..Thanks to y'all I have a plan in motion now though and i accept he might get pissed both at me and everyone even with evidence but I'm ready. I really wish he'd start going for women in his age bracket though instead of my age bracket. At the very least, they'd have more restrictions to their man's kid bro and take me as their own kid bro even.

okoroemeka:
I think that you are being tested by your brother,he is ready to send you to Canada for your Masters which means spending a hell lot of money,he just wants to make sure that you have changed and loyal or to find an excuse to scuttle the Canada expenses,the playacting by the lady in question is too choreographed to be real,it's all prearranged.This is the time to take your destiny in your own hands be firm and reject all her advances by any means necessary, even if it means to masturbate everyday to relieve off some pressure pls use any means at your disposal,your future cannot be tied to a pvssy that's not funny !!

you're amazing bro. Thanks. Would never have fallen for it though. I'd be very silly to.
About it being a set up, my brother would never do that to me. You have no idea what my family went through when I got caught close to 3 years ago. I honestly thought her towel falling was a mistake though cause of how she reacted after it did, but I did just see her vagina before it did and was very uncomfortable and I really don't know if she noticed but after she left, I started to piece things together and it became very obvious what she is up to. I feel for her though when i unmask her cause we're really close. Though recently, I've been spending more time in my room and avoiding her and don't know if she's noticed.

Bimpe29:
Consider your brother's fiancee as your sister with whom you're not expected to have an intimacy with. 5 minutes excitement isn't enough to ruin a lifetime blood relationship and love with your family (your brother in particular)
It has happens but as a matured guy, you really need to be disciplined and never allow your emotions override your morality.

I won't. Thanks for your input.

RemyDropShadow:
@ bolded. Like a witch?

You can never be too sure.

Upperhand:
Ensure that you always lock the door to you room, set a camera in your room when next she comes knocking,if she acts silly after opening the door for her,engage her in conversation on why she always try to seduce you everywhere around the house

She could outrightly deny though. There is nothing I didn't think of before bringing it on here. I even told myself "what if every event that has happened is probably a coincidence or mistakes on her part" but then again, past events and her flirtatious stares kept creeping up and it became pretty clear what she was up to. Knowing she wasn't wearing panties underneath and sitting loosely in front of me was the last straw. Thanks for your input dear