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I dont believe in love,expecially in intimate relationship.because it is so rare that it is madness to bank on it.
If the richer,popular and handsome you get,the more classical women you get and vice versa,then it means love is a joke.
Pay the skool fees if,you can but fuk,the her mercilessly,to recoup your money.

Actually, I'd love to advice you but I know you won't take my advice.

RejectedStone:
We've known each other for like 3 three years now, she loved me and I loved her. Everything was going smoothly before I got tired of the relationship and I ditched her, I moved to a new location and I cut off all contact. All her effort to get in touch with me was proved abortive.
I hurt her feelings I admit but I later realized what I did was wrong cos she is a perfect girl for me and she's well mannered.
I try and tried to get back to her but it was all in vain, so many nights my conscience wouldn't allow me rest knowing that I hurt someone.
Time flies I got over everything.
Fast forward to July this year, I was on Facebook then I come across her sister. I sent her friend request and she accepted. We talked and I asked for sister's digit but she declined was so pained I had to beg to please give me. Later she sha gave me, I called that night she was so happy to hear my voice again. We talk talk and talked.
Since then I kept the communication steady, I call to ask after her most often just to win her back but it wasn't easy.
I take her out most times, buy her things, sweet talked her, I know she go get boyfriend but I no bother ask her.
One day I took her out, we chilled and I let her know I had missed her all this while, told her to forgive me for all I've done to her but she said she had forgiven me already I was so happy and I asked if we could get back but she said NO that she's already in a relationship but we can still be friends. Though she said the relationship wasn't that serious. Most times I ask her to come and visit me at my place but she won't come
I tried all my best to win her back it but it wasn't easy cos the guy she dey with still dey level her 24/7
I later gave up on her case, I felt she doesn't worth the effort and I stopped calling her.
She called me and asked why I no dey call her to check on her again I just told her straight up I can't be fetching water inside basket na cos she's already with someone else. She told me that doesn't mean anything na that I can still be calling that she may later consider me.
But for my mind I don already gave up on her case.
Fast forward to yesterday, she called that she needed money to buy traveling bag cos she just gained admission. I told her to come to my place, we had sex and I gave her the money.
She called me this evening saying she needed money for her acceptance fee.
"You are the only hope I got" she said, nobody could help, her family are poor even her boyfriend and Tuesday is the deadline.
I have the money but i no wan give her one gotta think twice before spending on naija girls. By the time she gets to campus she gonn forget my sorry ass. What will now be my gain?

So guys is it right I give her the money?

Let me advice you either way.
If the story is exactly the way you narrated it then I think you owe her and that should be your way of making her feel your importance in her life. Forget the Nigerian girls mentality you are carry around, why don't you just do it cuz you have a kind heart instead of doing it for sexual or relationship reasons.
I paid my wife's school fees all through the time she was in school, she was only my girlfriend at the time, now we are married, though she works and helps the family now, she still thanks me for all the things I did for her when she had no one.
That is why you should do it. Touch her life positively for once in your life.

RejectedStone:
We've known each other for like 3 three years now, she loved me and I loved her. Everything was going smoothly before I got tired of the relationship and I ditched her, I moved to a new location and I cut off all contact. All her effort to get in touch with me was proved abortive.
I hurt her feelings I admit but I later realized what I did was wrong cos she is a perfect girl for me and she's well mannered.
I try and tried to get back to her but it was all in vain, so many nights my conscience wouldn't allow me rest knowing that I hurt someone.
Time flies I got over everything.
Fast forward to July this year, I was on Facebook then I come across her sister. I sent her friend request and she accepted. We talked and I asked for sister's digit but she declined was so pained I had to beg to please give me. Later she sha gave me, I called that night she was so happy to hear my voice again. We talk talk and talked.
Since then I kept the communication steady, I call to ask after her most often just to win her back but it wasn't easy.
I take her out most times, buy her things, sweet talked her, I know she go get boyfriend but I no bother ask her.
One day I took her out, we chilled and I let her know I had missed her all this while, told her to forgive me for all I've done to her but she said she had forgiven me already I was so happy and I asked if we could get back but she said NO that she's already in a relationship but we can still be friends. Though she said the relationship wasn't that serious. Most times I ask her to come and visit me at my place but she won't come
I tried all my best to win her back it but it wasn't easy cos the guy she dey with still dey level her 24/7
I later gave up on her case, I felt she doesn't worth the effort and I stopped calling her.
She called me and asked why I no dey call her to check on her again I just told her straight up I can't be fetching water inside basket na cos she's already with someone else. She told me that doesn't mean anything na that I can still be calling that she may later consider me.
But for my mind I don already gave up on her case.
Fast forward to yesterday, she called that she needed money to buy traveling bag cos she just gained admission. I told her to come to my place, we had sex and I gave her the money.
She called me this evening saying she needed money for her acceptance fee.
"You are the only hope I got" she said, nobody could help, her family are poor even her boyfriend and Tuesday is the deadline.
I have the money but i no wan give her one gotta think twice before spending on naija girls. By the time she gets to campus she gonn forget my sorry ass. What will now be my gain?

So guys is it right I give her the money?

i personally wouldn’t mind helping her ooo, but if u start am fot just acceptance, she go still dey come back oooo. Just help her, den ask her how she intends to continue the school. That this is the best u can do ooo

You can pay her tuition as a free gift, as a benefit to her, and to salve your conscience, but do it with the understanding that THE RELATIONSHIP IS DONE, and won't be the same as it was, even if she ditched the bf.

It seems to me she is playing on your emotions, your remaining love, your sense of guilt, to get the money; teasing you by dangling the possibility of maybe getting back together (or not), if you pay. She cheated on her bf to get money for her travelling bag. She'll surely cheat again for the bigger prize of the tuition fee. The verbs in those sentences are play, tease, cheat, and cheat.

Remove yourself from the situation, and look at this as if it was a friend in your shoes. Would you counsel him to go back to her, when she is now just interested in your money?

What if she wanted something that you couldn't afford to give her, but some other guy could? Do you think she would forego the luxury, and stay faithful to you? No? Are you okay with that? (If so, proceed....)

Kelvin30286063:
Let me advice you either way.
If the story is exactly the way you narrated it then I think you owe her and that should be your way of making her feel your importance in her life. Forget the Nigerian girl mentality you are carry around, why don't you just do it cuz you have a kind heart instead of doing it for sexual or relationship reasons.
I paid my wife's school fees all through the time she was in school, she was only my girlfriend then and I still paid it anyway, now we are married and though she works and helps the family now, she still thanks me for all the things I did for her when she had no one.
That is why you should do it. Touch her life positive for once in your life.

Your wife type is so rare. It's hard to see people like her this days

shege45:
i personally wouldn’t mind helping her ooo, but if u start am fot just acceptance, she go still dey come back oooo. Just help her, den ask her how she intends to continue the school. That this is the best u can do ooo

that's what I'm thinking bro, she will later need her school fees paid. Don't know where she gonn get it, she may go into prostition because of this. Based on what she said when she came the other day.
She said some of her mate are into runs but she can't do it. I advised her not to ever nuture that thought cos it dey get side effects.
But then I just feel she may go into prostition if she no see money pay her school fees

RejectedStone:
that's what I'm thinking bro, she will later need her school fees paid

ask her how she intends going tru school. Give her the money but tell her this is the best you can do

NiCurious:
You can pay her tuition as a free gift, as a benefit to her, and to salve your conscience, but do it with the understanding that THE RELATIONSHIP IS DONE, and won't be the same as it was, even if she ditched the bf.

It seems to me she is playing on your emotions, your remaining love, your sense of guilt, to get the money; teasing you by dangling the possibility of maybe getting back together (or not), if you pay. She cheated on her bf to get money for her travelling bag. She'll surely cheat again for the bigger prize of the tuition fee. The verbs in those sentences are play, tease, cheat, and cheat.

Remove yourself from the situation, and look at this as if it was a friend in your shoes. Would you counsel him to go back to her, when she is now just interested in your money?

What if she wanted something that you couldn't afford to give her, but some other guy could? Do you think she would forego the luxury, and stay faithful to you? No? Are you okay with that? (If so, proceed....)

This got me

Kelvin30286063:
Actually, I'd love to advice you but I know you won't take my advice.

I will bro

She knows her parents are poor , she still insist on going to sch... Why don't she learn a handiwork or something must she go to sch... She. Just need money for acceptance fee... Hope she will surely come to you for sch fees ... What of lodge fee... Textbook... Wardrobe... Feeding .... Handout fees.... This is one of the reasons girls enter into prostitution when the gain admission...

Kingsdave:
She knows her parents are poor , she still insist on going to sch... Why don't she learn a handiwork or something must she go to sch... She. Just need money for acceptance fee... Hope she will surely come to you for sch fees ... What of lodge fee... Textbook... Wardrobe... Feeding .... Handout fees.... This is one of the reasons girls enter into prostitution when the gain admission...

I've advised her to go and learn a handiwork will at least support her on that one but paying her school fees is a NO NO for me. I can see the huge bills ahead, if I pay her acceptance fee, she will come back for school fees.. She knows her family are poor but she insisted on going to school.
Majority of girls have ventured into prostition because of this and I think she's not left out

RejectedStone:
I've advised her to go and learn a handiwork will at least support her on that one but paying her school fees is a NO NO for me. I can see the huge bills ahead, if I pay her acceptance fee, she will come back for school fees.. She knows her family are poor but she insisted on going to school.
Majority of girls have ventured into prostition because of this and I t hink she's not left out

All I said is the simple truth