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My Husband Has Failed To Satisfy Me Sexually Despite Taking Concoctions / Pls Help. I Don't Satisfy My Husband / My Husband Can’t Satisfy Me Sexually – Wife (2) (3) (4)
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Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by Beatswim: 9:29pm On Nov 21, 2019 |
W armadeo:u sound married and much more experienced... Thanks for this piece of advice for the op 2 Likes |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by mysticwarrior(m): 9:36pm On Nov 21, 2019 |
MamaFryo:and is this the best matured advice you could give? 4 Likes |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by DanielJones: 9:37pm On Nov 21, 2019 |
Beatswim: Really? 5 years? Your wife must be a superwoman. 4 Likes |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by bukatyne(f): 9:43pm On Nov 21, 2019 |
UnbiasTruth: Your husband has lost what he hung his self-esteem on which is his ability to earn. Like you said, he was born with a silver spoon so he is used to a lifestyle and feels like a failure. That also reflects in his 'I can't lower my standards' statement. I however do not like his inconsiderate attitude. If he is not going to hold the fort, he should let you at least hire professional cleaning services. Since you say he loves and cares for you, engage him as a lover. Keep aside his mom and pastor. Point out to him that you can't keep up with the chores and ask him to point out his reservations with the live in/professional help so you can work around his concerns. Also stop him for drinking. Remove all the alcoholic drinks from your home, constantly remind him of his achievements and encourage him that he can rise again. Be a little more tender with him, let your embraces provide warmth and hope. Depending on the financial structure and resources, just send something to him regularly so he doesn't think of how to have an haircut because he is broke. Also proactively assist in job hunting. Are his skills obsolete? Does he need updated certifications? Is his CV updated? Does he need to start from smaller jobs before growing? Also be emotionally intelligent. When he agreed to something, it might not be from his 'church' mind. 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by LadySarah: 9:57pm On Nov 21, 2019 |
24kmagic: So what should she do?Thats the question. 4 Likes |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by deliveryboy: 10:10pm On Nov 21, 2019 |
Watch Babcock TV and learn new skills, come back and thank me later. |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by edward1106(m): 10:11pm On Nov 21, 2019 |
AwkaetitiBabe: A normal white man would have committed suicide after the job loss. They rarely settle for less. Its mostly the black men abroad who do such. 5 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by Nobody: 10:13pm On Nov 21, 2019 |
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Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by Pussywar(f): 10:14pm On Nov 21, 2019 |
Fountainofyouth:Please leave that retard 3 Likes |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by Nobody: 10:15pm On Nov 21, 2019 |
Lol this is a plug for a cleaning service..I'm not hating on your hustle carry go 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by Nobody: 10:15pm On Nov 21, 2019 |
Please read what was written before you respond... |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by Berankis: 10:16pm On Nov 21, 2019 |
I don't have any advice really. I lost interest at the point you began stating how you pay rent and feed the family from your salary. I hate this statement! He was paying the family's bills and feeding everyone before he lost his job and nothing was posted on social media or broadcast around, how come its when a wife helps that the whole world will get to know how you have been taken care of your own family? 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by Nobody: 10:16pm On Nov 21, 2019 |
Interesting topic with a VERY valuable lesson for those who are quick to chant 'don't marry a man that does not have a "good job" or a man that earns less than bla bla bla. Many in this generation with the wrong mentalities would eventually suffer and die of mental ill-health and maniacal depression. They don't know it yet. You think say na by the beginning? Life is bloody long. You start well on a shaprapra shapropro level (for your mind), you come feel say life soft, dey carry shoulder for your supposedly less fortunate peers, but you forget say the race na marathon and weather dey change. When you reach midpoint come run out of fuel, when life unexpectedly change your reggae to blues, na body go finally tell you. Two seconds, everything don burst. Those with sense, let them learn the right lessons. 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by Organs(m): 10:16pm On Nov 21, 2019 |
MamaFryo: You did not summarize for the lazy youth and you started commenting? Whats wrong with you? |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by abbey621(m): 10:16pm On Nov 21, 2019 |
Your husband is your husband and you must respect his authority over you and the household. Now to the real solution, when you got married, was it just the two of you? Does he have parents? Do you? If he does not respect your parents surely he'll respect his own? Does your in-laws love you? Remove sentiments out of this and become practical, he's in a very vulnerable stage and any little thing can frustrate him. Since you mentioned he's been caring and loving before the resignation then you should understand that this is a=only a phase and it will pass. If you can't communicate successfully with your husband without relying on strangers then YOU HAVE A BIG PROBLEM! If communication is a barrier at least get those that can speak sense into him involved, your excuse that you're paying for everything, your work is not flexible won't be valid if he starts accusing you of neglecting him. So nip it in the bud right now and get those elders involved but becareful, some elders lack common sense so shine your eyes well well! 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by Nobody: 10:18pm On Nov 21, 2019 |
This is a super story!!! If this is true, then your husband should pity you... You can't do it all alone.. May be you should get a cleaner that work every weekend.. Tell your husband that it will not harm the unity of the house.. He should learn to assist you too.. I know as Africans, we are egoistic but this is a special case. A little help does not harm at all.. You are developing high BP?? (We can see that it is not easy to be a man.. Respect all men in your life, O ye NL Feminists ) So, Op just talk thing through with your husband.. You are a woman na.. You know how best to make him agree with you.. Every wives know how to enter their husbands.. 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by Pussywar(f): 10:20pm On Nov 21, 2019 |
patriarchy kings won't like this thread at all. Op you have patience, I'm not insinuating anything but if it was me, soon as he showed that stupid arrogance, that he can't do house chores and doesn't want you to get a house help, ogbeni I don waka. But we are not the same. Stand you ground and insist on getting a house help since he's a 'man' and they didn't teach him how to be a responsible human being. No offence . Y'all both have same rights in that house. If he won't help you, get house help. Wonder why y'all marry shit like that anyway. No offence . That is why they keep insisting women should be submissive, so shit like this can happen. I dey vex abeg. Mtchew 16 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by Abbeyjaiyeola(m): 10:21pm On Nov 21, 2019 |
What do must of us know about marriage, moreover what worked for A might not work for B... God knows best, go on your kneels, take time to visit your WAR-ROOM 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by ireke(m): 10:21pm On Nov 21, 2019 |
genq: You won't hear about it unless the woman does not do house chores, take care of the house and meet the husband's needs. Most times we hear women's story about paying bills because some men want the women to step out to make money to augment or support the family while these same men make little or no effort to lighten the duties of the woman. For example, in this case, the man won't even allow house helps to stay. 16 Likes |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by Nobody: 10:23pm On Nov 21, 2019 |
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Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by Nobody: 10:24pm On Nov 21, 2019 |
UnbiasTruth: Ignore him. Go ahead and bring the cleaner since youve already paid to do the cleaning then after that stop. You are trying to make things easy for you and him since both of you can not do it and he's proving difficult. so ignore him. |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by vickydevoka(m): 10:25pm On Nov 21, 2019 |
MamaFryo:Society ni breadwinner ko!. They there the look society may sand enter ur eye. If u have been to somewhere lyk Abuja majority of lady are breadwinner simply bcus women are more employed than men. Or if I can get a connection for my wife to work in ministry of women affairs n earn six figures, is dat bad. Abeg we have gone past that age of bread or garri winner. Na who see Road go share give de rest 7 Likes |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by noisy45(m): 10:26pm On Nov 21, 2019 |
your husband needs a job he will be back to normal when he has one 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by Cyberleets: 10:26pm On Nov 21, 2019 |
Fountainofyouth: Are you married? If yes, you're are a bad adviser If no, then STFU cos you know nothing of how marriage works. The man lost his job for God sake!! Give him a break at least!! The wife should continue being a loving wife, after all she said the man is caring loving and gentle...he is just being disturbed by his current situation. 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by Jasseyfrd(m): 10:28pm On Nov 21, 2019 |
I see depression here ooo Pls b patient with him.. Id just a matter of time I believed things will change.... |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by ABIOLAXYZ(m): 10:28pm On Nov 21, 2019 |
CHoccolaTE:Bitter Truth.... I personally don't know why men find it difficult to assist their wives to do house chores 9 Likes |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by deewhydoski(m): 10:29pm On Nov 21, 2019 |
Na children full this nairaland now |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by Nobody: 10:30pm On Nov 21, 2019 |
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Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by Acidosis(m): 10:31pm On Nov 21, 2019 |
LMAO The OP is merely advertising for Afterlife Cleaning. Who pushed this thread to the front page?? 3 Likes |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by CaptainKool15(m): 10:31pm On Nov 21, 2019 |
Fountainofyouth: Did you read the part she said her husband now drinks excessively? He is depressed, and if it continues, the woman could lose her husband to the cold hands of depression. There is no hard and fast rule in marriage o o. 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by vickydevoka(m): 10:31pm On Nov 21, 2019 |
MamaFryo:U are rite on the bases of the husband doing the house chores, when my sister's husband lost his job he was de one doing the house chores n skul run. I think the husband has a super ego 2 Likes |
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