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Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by Nobody: 10:31pm On Nov 21, 2019 |
UnbiasTruth:I wish my future wife will be like you! Some women will stop respecting their husbands the day money stopped coming in. Surprise him with a gift. 3 Likes |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by Acidosis(m): 10:33pm On Nov 21, 2019 |
DanielJones: This is the brain behind the thread. You guys should stop wasting your energy on recommendations. The agenda is to promote Afterlife Cleaning. 5 Likes |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by naijadrivablog: 10:35pm On Nov 21, 2019 |
"Settle for less"? Your husband should swallow his pride and get another job, since his " investment " or side hustle is not paying off. It is not easy to earn a six figure salary and now earning less but he should start again as he will be open to better jobs when working. "Angry"? No man that lacks money that is happy, not to talk of who was earning good salary. Try to talk to him calmly, encourage him. " house help"? Well, you later sent the home help away but why outsource the home help job again? If he doesn't like "strangers" around, don't bring one. As you said, he was born with silver spoon and expect him to be handicapped in doing house chores. His ego is touched when you asked him to help out to do chores, knowing that your working is demanding because he feels it isnt his job and it is because of his lack of job that brought about this. I don't see any bad thing to help put, after all, the house is his and everything you own. Just manage to do them by yourself after work (if your kids are still very young) or get appliances that would make it easy for you (like vaccum cleaner, washing machine etc), but discuss this with him. The caveat here is that you spend scare resources to buy these life "easing" appliances. |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by Nobody: 10:36pm On Nov 21, 2019 |
vickydevoka:Garri winner!!! 2 Likes |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by Chubhie: 10:36pm On Nov 21, 2019 |
My nature of work rarely gives me time so I can’t afford to take care of the children and do much of the house chores. I explained to my husband to assist since he is always at home but he keeps saying if he had not lost his job, I wouldn’t have asked him to do basic house chores. 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by midnighter(f): 10:36pm On Nov 21, 2019 |
Have you tried crying Kneeling down, begging and crying It might move his heart since he seems to be totally wrapped up in his own problems. Too busy wallowing in self-pity to see that he's messing up his family and too arrogant to realise that anybody can lose their job no matter how brilliant they are I feel for him but his behaviour reeks of petulance. Why is he acting like somebody died? No be resign hin come resign This is one of the reasons I'm not sure I can marry somebody who drinks. Drinking yourself into oblivion because somebody asked you to sweep the compound smh |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by dominique(f): 10:37pm On Nov 21, 2019 |
Send him back to his father's house to go and learn some manners. Don't take him back till you're convinced he has changed. 18 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by samdede(m): 10:37pm On Nov 21, 2019 |
You are a fantastic wife ojare. Continue to prevail on him to see reasons why your need external support in the house choirs. Some men can be so unreasonable. 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by ZooOga: 10:37pm On Nov 21, 2019 |
>>>He was earning six figure salary while at his former place of work and he has a side business which he still manages till now but the profit is close to nothing and it is not even constant. great fiction from abroad, i'm guessing u.k. or yankee..... a six figure salary in 9ja is nothing to boast of. if i'm wrong then suck his _____ to oblivion in order to get him motivated. it works on 99% of the straight male populace! ob·liv·i·on /əˈblivēən/ the state of being unaware or unconscious of what is happening. |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by Nobody: 10:38pm On Nov 21, 2019 |
Acidosis: Fake thread 3 Likes |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by Fountainofyouth(f): 10:38pm On Nov 21, 2019 |
Beatswim: Tell me something, so for 5 whole years you sat down at home doing nothing, what does that make you? A lazy ass man or egoistic man who refuses to do any type of job to cater for your home 5 Likes |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by vickydevoka(m): 10:38pm On Nov 21, 2019 |
Fountainofyouth:U might be rite though I reside in the North, buh from Wat I see most yorubas work in a public or private limited companies. Unlike igbo man way go open shago(shop). Hausa man lyk govt work or farming |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by Chubhie: 10:38pm On Nov 21, 2019 |
Is there anyone with a better suggestion before I get fed up?Just give him a link to this thread to read. |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by error4040: 10:39pm On Nov 21, 2019 |
Am I the only one who rushed in here with the Thoughts on the Thread TOPIC How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? would be Sex Related Issue |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by Nobody: 10:40pm On Nov 21, 2019 |
Acidosis:I know say na Superstory... OP is not a typical modern day Nigerian wife.. She is too responsible, humble, peaceful, not vindictive, caring.. not nagging... In fact, she is too good to be true.. Inside Nairaland, lo ti ri many Super Stories Nice Business strategies tho 3 Likes |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by Nobody: 10:41pm On Nov 21, 2019 |
UnbiasTruth: Tales by moonlight |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by Chubhie: 10:42pm On Nov 21, 2019 |
dominique: 1 Like 1 Share
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Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by Fountainofyouth(f): 10:43pm On Nov 21, 2019 |
CaptainKool15: He is drinking excessively as opposed to allowing the wife run the home well by bringing helpers she needs abi? Did you see where he said jobs below his previous pay is beneath him? Na only drinking problem you see, he doesn't have a problem, he should go and get a job, no matter how small it is he has to start from somewhere. 4 Likes |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by biafranbaby(m): 10:43pm On Nov 21, 2019 |
So you sacked all the female maids and hired a male cleaner. You never talk wetin dey your mind. 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by Nobody: 10:43pm On Nov 21, 2019 |
healthserve: Because it is a fake thread. Take a look at the op’s profile pic and why is Daniel jones in both threads and 2nd to comment here? 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by texazzpete(m): 10:43pm On Nov 21, 2019 |
It’s simple. The man feels emasculated since he’s no longer the breadwinner of the family. He resents the fact that his wife is providing most of the funding for the family. In his foolish stupor, he sees himself losing control of the house and his ‘manhood’ under threat. So how does he react? By driving away all housemaids so he can can continue to ‘humble’ his wife with house chores and menial labor. Instead of the stupid man to raise himself, he seeks to depress his wife so she doesn’t stay above him in his mind. 7 Likes |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by Acidosis(m): 10:44pm On Nov 21, 2019 |
eni4real: LOL Very true. Na guy post am na.. Wetin you expect? Dude lost it the moment he attached another thread on his cleaning service. 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by darkelf: 10:45pm On Nov 21, 2019 |
AwkaetitiBabe: True and as a guy, I expect that her husband should be the caring and supportive one now since it's really not easy for a Lady to cater for the whole needs of the family. Let him start with the little chores and with time delve into larger ones. No need for ego in trying moments 2 Likes |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by nlPoster: 10:45pm On Nov 21, 2019 |
A thread is always suspicious when it has too much detail and the op has only been on the forum for 21 minutes. Going by the profile picture showing a lady(?) with big butt(?) wearing a clingy dress, the poster is most likely male. 3 Likes |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by IamPlato(m): 10:45pm On Nov 21, 2019 |
genq:Why The Insults? Do You Have To Remove Your Brain From Your Head before Commenting 3 Likes |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by Nobody: 10:46pm On Nov 21, 2019 |
dominique:This Table you are shaking has the lady at the Centre.. Who paid the bride price again?? Na Superstory tho |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by HowDareU: 10:47pm On Nov 21, 2019 |
hmm . . . I really feel your pain ma'am. It feels burdensome carrying all the domestic responsibilities all by yourself. Please answer this questions with all sense of responsibility: you said he is an introvert, what are you doing to pull him out of that state? 2. Are you sure he is feeling uncomfortble around strangers? 3. What are you doing to boost his confidence? 4. Do you feel you aren't nagging all the time? 5. He was the macho man of the house when he had a wonderful job; taking care of the home responsibilities: what are you doing to help him secure a job above his preferences? Do this: take him out and re-ignite that love you both had; use that opportunity to talk to him. When he is in a happy mood though. Support him in all areas he feels disadvantaged. Find a way to help with some domestic chores. Factor ways to inject that confidence he had prior to his job loss. Invite him to some of your organization's get- together, conferences, seminars, etc. Pray for him oh; do it when he is around too. 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by Nobody: 10:47pm On Nov 21, 2019 |
My sister, I think the only reason why he insists you do the house chores is because he doesn't want you to start rubbing shoulder with him as the head of the family. He understands your job very well and he knows your king of work as you said needs a house assistance. But he still wants you controlled on house things, not for any other reason, but there this kind of feeling in a man when they say you should stop and you stopped. He's no longer working for now, he stays at home always, yet he refused to assist at home...my dear, that is men for you(though only one out of 100 may be different). He doesn't hate you, or enjoys you taking care of all the responsibilities, but its their nature. After all, didn't he allow the house helps before he lost his job. The only solution to this is to keep talking to him about your stress lovingly. Tell him he's still your head no matter what. When he sees your attitude towards him is still submissive and humble, he will allow you have your way. You can never force a man to bend...lie lie, it's against their nature, the best way to get a man by your side is showing him plenty care and submission. Mind you, you are not a fool when you still show him care and love despite you are the one providing, but that is the only way you can make a man do what you want. Above all, keep praying. 3 Likes |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by Fountainofyouth(f): 10:47pm On Nov 21, 2019 |
Berankis: You won't hear about it unless the woman does not do house chores, take care of the house and meet the husband's needs. Most times we hear women's story about paying bills because some men want the women to step out to make money to augment or support the family while these same men make little or no effort to lighten the duties of the woman. For example, in this case, the man won't even allow house helps to stay. 2 Likes |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by darkelf: 10:48pm On Nov 21, 2019 |
Fountainofyouth: Calm down sis. You are not in his mind |
Re: How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband? by Queenmaker: 10:48pm On Nov 21, 2019 |
Acidosis:Awon Nairaland FBI/CSI/DSS. Lol! 1 Like
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