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The only problem I see here are two incompatible sexual partners
Why didn't you and your man "communicate" your sexual compatibility before marriage?

StPete:
Any man with a healthy sex appetite will not go without Sex for a week let alone 9 months unless you’re relieving yourself elsewhere. Surely, low libido has been the reason behind his not wanting to copulate, forget his archaic mindset.


What happens with having sex gently during pregnancy if you feel it could hurt the baby?

If sperm adds with ovaries to form babies, how does it turn around to hurt the baby? (Assuming truly, if sperm can contaminate the milk). Moreso, some women have been known to suck sperm, how come they aren’t dead?

Besides, it is obvious that his archaism is centered around sex which clearly shows that the man is trying to avoid sex by ALL MEANS!

9 months of pregnancy + 1yr 6 months of breastfeeding = Extremely low libido

This mentality that sex is "oxygen" baffles me.If in fact one can't stay without sex then you aren't better off than a drug addict
The same thing over production of sex hormones does to the brain is the same with a drug addict
A HEALTHY MAN CAN STAY FOR AS LONG AS HE WISHES WITHOUT SEX,IF HE CAN'T THEN SEX AS BECOME AN ADDICTION(and every addiction can be fought,you won't die)

wwwkaycom:
Bose is an outgoing and sexually active young lady of 26, she got married to her hubby in November, 2018, they are now blessed with a big baby boy.

She was my student and very close to me and my family during her ND and HND days. She is just like a member of my family. I know that she was involved with two guys then, one a student in the same school during her ND and the other, a businessman in town during her HND days. Her affair with the businessman didn't materialise into marriage because the man wanted her to get pregnant first, a proposal she vehemently opposed because its like a taboo in her family and her religious organization.

That relationship broke and she met another guy who I didn't really know in 2017. She told me that the guy was easygoing and fun loving too so I didn't really had much advise to give other than the normal talks about being of good behaviour etc.

They got married in November 2018, she relocated to live with her hubby in Abuja, now they're blessed with a very big baby boy.

She visited me with her baby last weekend when she came to attend the funeral of her uncle here in Ondo State. She stayed in my place. It was then we really had time to talk. She told me that her husband believes so much in some archaic things that is affecting her badly.

For instance, he doesn't believe in the use of Air Conditioner because it is carcinogenic, he had sex with her last the day he realised she was pregnant in January. She said her hubby believed having sex with a pregnant woman will hurt the baby. She put to bed in August and since then nothing has happened because the hubby said no sex until breast feeding is over so that the breast milk will not be contaminated with semen.

I have been laughing since then but its not a laughing matter. She said this guy is so serious with these wrong facts and is not willing to let it go for anything and that she had engaged him in discussions over this many times with the guy sticking to his points. She said the guy is so caring and the way he dots on her and the baby is out of this world. He hired a nanny for her. the nanny followed her to Ondo State for the funeral and stayed with her in my place.

Honestly, I haven't heard this kind of thing before. I told her I'll post it on Nairaland and she said I should go ahead and that she will be interested in reading people's comments. I actually admonished her not to look the way of any other guy or be involved in extramarital affairs as that could lead to problems she won't be able to handle. She said that is almost impossible in the environment she lives in Abuja and the way her husband dots on the family. Good people, kindly advise please.

she does not have problem. next question,pls.

CanadaOrBust:
Of course it is, but so are 95% of stories on Nairaland. If we ignore them there’d be little left to discourse

Very funny.

emddi:
This mentality that sex is "oxygen" baffles me.If in fact one can't stay without sex then you aren't better off than a drug addict
The same thing over production of sex hormones does to the brain is the same with a drug addict
A HEALTHY MAN CAN STAY FOR AS LONG AS HE WISHES WITHOUT SEX,IF HE CAN'T THEN SEX AS BECOME AN ADDICTION

Learn the meaning of sexual frustration

Sexual frustration is a sense of dissatisfaction stemming from a discrepancy between a person's desired and achieved sexual activity. It may result from physical, mental, emotional, social, and religious or spiritual barriers. It may also derive from not being satisfied during sex, which may be due to issues such as anorgasmia, anaphrodisia, premature ejaculation, delayed ejaculation,[1] erectile dysfunction,[2][3] or an incompatibility or discrepancy in libido.[4]
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_frustration

wirinet:
Learn the meaning of sexual frustration

NO,my problem is that someone going without sex for a period of time is considered ABNORMAL

wwwkaycom:
Bose is an outgoing and sexually active young lady of 26, she got married to her hubby in November, 2018, they are now blessed with a big baby boy.

She was my student and very close to me and my family during her ND and HND days. She is just like a member of my family. I know that she was involved with two guys then, one a student in the same school during her ND and the other, a businessman in town during her HND days. Her affair with the businessman didn't materialise into marriage because the man wanted her to get pregnant first, a proposal she vehemently opposed because its like a taboo in her family and her religious organization.

That relationship broke and she met another guy who I didn't really know in 2017. She told me that the guy was easygoing and fun loving too so I didn't really had much advise to give other than the normal talks about being of good behaviour etc.

They got married in November 2018, she relocated to live with her hubby in Abuja, now they're blessed with a very big baby boy.

She visited me with her baby last weekend when she came to attend the funeral of her uncle here in Ondo State. She stayed in my place. It was then we really had time to talk. She told me that her husband believes so much in some archaic things that is affecting her badly.

For instance, he doesn't believe in the use of Air Conditioner because it is carcinogenic, he had sex with her last the day he realised she was pregnant in January. She said her hubby believed having sex with a pregnant woman will hurt the baby. She put to bed in August and since then nothing has happened because the hubby said no sex until breast feeding is over so that the breast milk will not be contaminated with semen.

I have been laughing since then but its not a laughing matter. She said this guy is so serious with these wrong facts and is not willing to let it go for anything and that she had engaged him in discussions over this many times with the guy sticking to his points. She said the guy is so caring and the way he dots on her and the baby is out of this world. He hired a nanny for her. the nanny followed her to Ondo State for the funeral and stayed with her in my place.

Honestly, I haven't heard this kind of thing before. I told her I'll post it on Nairaland and she said I should go ahead and that she will be interested in reading people's comments. I actually admonished her not to look the way of any other guy or be involved in extramarital affairs as that could lead to problems she won't be able to handle. She said that is almost impossible in the environment she lives in Abuja and the way her husband dots on the family. Good people, kindly advise please.

I don't why nairaland will put this movie script on front page

Ondo people.Sex.If I talk I am in trouble.

babyfaceafrica:
Any man with a healthy sex appetite will not go without Sex for a week let alone 9 months unless you’re relieving yourself elsewhere.


says who?...sex na food?.some people don't have sex till they marry and they don't maturbate!!...

That’s exactly what we call low libido right there

emddi:
This mentality that sex is "oxygen" baffles me.If in fact one can't stay without sex then you aren't better off than a drug addict
The same thing over production of sex hormones does to the brain is the same with a drug addict
A HEALTHY MAN CAN STAY FOR AS LONG AS HE WISHES WITHOUT SEX,IF HE CAN'T THEN SEX AS BECOME AN ADDICTION(and every addiction can be fought,you won't die)

Many of you just jump on comments without properly reading. What is low libido? Any man who can stay without sex for a week has low libido

midnighter:
Hmm Oga, it's a huge issue o. You can't deprive your spouse of sex because of flimsy and spurious reasons like these. Jeez!

You can't trivialise the importance of a healthy sex life in marriage by comparing it with domestic violence. This is actually also a form of abuse, I hope you know that?

He's doting and caring ba? So much that he wants to starve his wife for almost 2 years, tell us another story! If he has an issue he should open up to her and stop talking rubbish.

Sex is not mundane, it's a fundamental part of marriage and people shouldn't be shamed for wanting a healthy sex life. Marriage is deep, yes, and sexual harmony is part of the deep bond between the two people involved.

So you people screaming that people (especially women) should stay virgins until marriage, what do you call this one? Staying a virgin until marriage and after marriage abi? Is she a robot Terrible

Dear Midnighter,
Please take it easy. You are taking it personal. Though I understand your point and equally agree with your submission. But tread softly.

So na because of f*ck na they bring all these wahala?

Smh.

emddi:
NO,my problem is that someone going without sex for a period of time is considered ABNORMAL

It is very ABNORMAL, especially if the person is a young and healthy man or woman between the ages of 16 to 40. Libido starts to fall from 40s up.

If your young husband, son or male relation does not show signs of sexual attraction for any woman for over a long period (a year and above), please encourage him to seek medical attention. His hormones could be acting up, or other could be other physical or psychological problems.

Another lesson to dis is for singles not shy away from discussing deep issues like dis with eachother during courtship, so as to know if they are compatible with each other.The frustration of this lady in that prison the man called marriage is unimaginable.

CanadaOrBust:
See why u shouldn’t generalize? I have actually always been turned on by pregnant women - don’t know why

Hope they are the ones you got pregnant?

StPete:
Many of you just jump on comments without properly reading. What is low libido? Any man who can stay without sex for a week has low libido

maybe not necessarily low libido,maybe he is among the few that understands that their sexual energy is the most important energy they need for everyday life

bukatyne:
Hope they are the ones you got pregnant?

I plead the 5th

How painful... Don't ever think or look the way of another man because it will definitely destroy your marriage... Continue talking to him while you try satisfying yourself sexually (masturbation). If he continues to stay that way, crush his ego by telling him u have resulted to self sexual pleasure.. This would definitely format his mindset

CanadaOrBust:
Lol. I find your insultiveness amusing because there is absolutely no basis for it.
No, I am the very first to comment on this thread. Instead of stating your own views, you were attacking me for making an assumption

Spaghetti brain, is this not my 'own view' on the topic right on the first page?

crackhaus:
How does the man's libido and sex-drive even fathom into the conversation?

People are just so sex-centric these days that it is totally unbelievable for a healthy man to go over 9months without any need to fvck his pregnant wife, or fvck anyone for that matter.

Messed up mentality.

You probably have a case of down's syndrome or something, for you to keep telling me to state my own views.

wirinet:
It is very ABNORMAL, especially if the person is a young and healthy man or woman between the ages of 16 to 40. Libido starts to fall from 40s up.

If your young husband, son or male relation does not show signs of sexual attraction for any woman for over a long period (a year and above), please encourage him to seek medical attention. His hormones could be acting up, or other could be other physical or psychological problems.

Puberty/adolescence is a period of hormonal changes where our sexual urge skyrockets,that I agree,but doesn't necessarily mean we need to give in to it
SEE, our sexual energy is not a "toxin" that we need to get rid of frequently,our sexual energy is in fact our very "life force", it is the very "essence" of a man responsible for longevity, creativity,immunity,strength,stamina,vigour etc This is the drug we need to achieve what we need

money fact

StPete:
That’s exactly what we call low libido right there

must we all have high libido?..

CanadaOrBust:
U so right.
Mr. CRACKHAUS (what a moniker), see, I’m not the only one that thinks those are just excuses.

CanadaOrBust:
Mr. CRACKHAUS (what a moniker, but it could have been worse like crackhead), see, I’m not the only one saying it!

CanadaOrBust:
U misspelt it - it is crackHAUS. No wonder he picked such moniker - crack and trolling tend to go together like Jacob Zuma’s index fingers

Darn it... Will you quit typing my handle repeatedly?

You're not the only one, You're not the only one... So what?
Move on

Alexaonfleek:
brush is even too far
Her middle finger would do

You know your body jor...

CanadaOrBust:
See why u shouldn’t generalize? I have actually always been turned on by pregnant women - don’t know why

Just look at who I have been conversing with on this thread.

You are a disaster, and you need help with your issues.
Getting turned on by pregnant women... Jesus

You should be lobotomized.

crackhaus:
Darn it... Will you quit typing my handle repeatedly?

You're not the only one, You're not the only one... So what?
Move on

Just like I said - like Jacob Zuma’s index fingers
I have long moved on, it is u that can’t stop trolling

Married is all about sacrifices and compromise... I think this is her own sacrifice to carry... Besides i don't think she can talk the husband to do otherwise... Its normal for such old fashioned men... Its her cross...afterall sex no be food let her try to bring her own libido down

CanadaOrBust:
Just like I said - like Jacob Zuma’s index fingers
I have long moved on, it is u that can’t stop trolling

Was this before or after you kept mentioning me to tell me you're not the only one with your opinion, like a 6yr old girl?

crackhaus:
Just look at who I have been conversing with on this thread.

You are a disaster, and you need help with your issues.
Getting turned on by pregnant women... Jesus

You should be lobotomized.

See! I was right - crack and trolling go together like Jacob Zuma’s index fingers

emddi:
maybe not necessarily low libido,maybe he is among the few that understands that their sexual energy is the most important energy they need for everyday life

That's what most people don't understand, a man with very high sex energy is also an indication of high success drive and energy.

Most highly successful men are rarely satisfied sexually by a single woman, unless the wife herself is a war horse. I had a friend (who is a very successful architect) come to my office complaining that he doesn't get enough sex from his wife. I asked how often he had sex. He told me that he wants sex at least every other day, but if just after one round with his wife, she will complain of tiredness and body pain for the next one week. At the end of the day, he ended up getting another younger wife. Luckily, he is Muslim, so his religion allowed it.

Even from the bible, most successful and influential men had multiple wives and some even multiple concubines.

crackhaus:
Was this before or after you kept mentioning me to tell me you're not the only one with your opinion, like 6yr old girl?

After - that was hours ago