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Re: She Married An Old Fashioned Man, Kindly Advise Her by CanadaOrBust: 6:28am On Nov 26, 2019
crackhaus:

Spaghetti brain, is this not my 'own view' on the topic right on the first page? cheesy



You probably have a case of down's syndrome or something, for you to keep telling me to state my own views.

I was the only who mentioned libido and sex drive - u were obviously preoccupied with my post instead of articulating yours
Re: She Married An Old Fashioned Man, Kindly Advise Her by Nobody: 6:30am On Nov 26, 2019
wirinet:

That's what most people don't understand, a man with very high sex energy is also an indication of high success drive drive and energy.

Most highly successful men are rarely satisfied sexually by a single woman, unless the wife herself is a war horse. I had a friend (who is a very successful architect) come to my office complaining that he doesn't get enough sex from his wife. I asked how often he had sex. He told me that he wants sex at least every other day, but if just after one round with his wife, she will complain of tiredness and body pain for the next one week. At the end of the day, he ended up getting another younger wife. Luckily, he is Muslim, so his religion allowed it.

Even from the bible, most successful and influential men had multiple wives and some even multiple concubines.
Ever wondered why the Jews are the Brian box of this world?Ever wondered why top athletes like Muhammad Ali,Mike Tyson and others had to stay months without a sexual activity before a fight?
Re: She Married An Old Fashioned Man, Kindly Advise Her by wirinet(m): 6:31am On Nov 26, 2019
emddi:
Ever wondered why the Jews are the Brian box of this world?
Abeg educate me.
Re: She Married An Old Fashioned Man, Kindly Advise Her by CanadaOrBust: 6:32am On Nov 26, 2019
wirinet:

That's what most people don't understand, a man with very high sex energy is also an indication of high success drive drive and energy.

Most highly successful men are rarely satisfied sexually by a single woman, unless the wife herself is a war horse. I had a friend (who is a very successful architect) come to my office complaining that he doesn't get enough sex from his wife. I asked how often he had sex. He told me that he wants sex at least every other day, but if just after one round with his wife, she will complain of tiredness and body pain for the next one week. At the end of the day, he ended up getting another younger wife. Luckily, he is Muslim, so his religion allowed it.

Even from the bible, most successful and influential men had multiple wives and some even multiple concubines.

U r actually disagreeing with him - he is saying they conserve their sexual energy for other things while u r saying they have a lot of sex!
Re: She Married An Old Fashioned Man, Kindly Advise Her by crackhaus: 6:32am On Nov 26, 2019
CanadaOrBust:


I was the only who mentioned libido and sex drive - u were obviously preoccupied with my post instead of articulating yours
Didn't I say you have down's syndrome? cheesy

Go have a read of the comments on the first page again.

You just sit down and believe your village people are always after you, even on NL. grin

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Re: She Married An Old Fashioned Man, Kindly Advise Her by crackhaus: 6:35am On Nov 26, 2019
CanadaOrBust:


See! I was right - crack and trolling go together like Jacob Zuma’s index fingers
Coming from someone who gets turned on by pregnant women he didn't make pregnant.

And you're not even ashamed of announcing yourself.

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Re: She Married An Old Fashioned Man, Kindly Advise Her by wirinet(m): 6:36am On Nov 26, 2019
CanadaOrBust:


U r actually disagreeing with him - he is saying they conserve their sexual energy for other things while u r saying they have a lot of sex!
Ok. I didn't see it that way, but check out the lifestyles of most of the most successful men in sports, business or politics. The most probably have or have had more than one woman in their lives.
Re: She Married An Old Fashioned Man, Kindly Advise Her by Nobody: 6:37am On Nov 26, 2019
wwwkaycom:
Bose is an outgoing and sexually active young lady of 26, she got married to her hubby in November, 2018, they are now blessed with a big baby boy.

She was my student and very close to me and my family during her ND and HND days. She is just like a member of my family. I know that she was involved with two guys then, one a student in the same school during her ND and the other, a businessman in town during her HND days. Her affair with the businessman didn't materialise into marriage because the man wanted her to get pregnant first, a proposal she vehemently opposed because its like a taboo in her family and her religious organization.

That relationship broke and she met another guy who I didn't really know in 2017. She told me that the guy was easygoing and fun loving too so I didn't really had much advise to give other than the normal talks about being of good behaviour etc.

They got married in November 2018, she relocated to live with her hubby in Abuja, now they're blessed with a very big baby boy.

She visited me with her baby last weekend when she came to attend the funeral of her uncle here in Ondo State. She stayed in my place. It was then we really had time to talk. She told me that her husband believes so much in some archaic things that is affecting her badly.

For instance, he doesn't believe in the use of Air Conditioner because it is carcinogenic, he had sex with her last the day he realised she was pregnant in January. She said her hubby believed having sex with a pregnant woman will hurt the baby. She put to bed in August and since then nothing has happened because the hubby said no sex until breast feeding is over so that the breast milk will not be contaminated with semen.

I have been laughing since then but its not a laughing matter. She said this guy is so serious with these wrong facts and is not willing to let it go for anything and that she had engaged him in discussions over this many times with the guy sticking to his points. She said the guy is so caring and the way he dots on her and the baby is out of this world. He hired a nanny for her. the nanny followed her to Ondo State for the funeral and stayed with her in my place.

Honestly, I haven't heard this kind of thing before. I told her I'll post it on Nairaland and she said I should go ahead and that she will be interested in reading people's comments. I actually admonished her not to look the way of any other guy or be involved in extramarital affairs as that could lead to problems she won't be able to handle. She said that is almost impossible in the environment she lives in Abuja and the way her husband dots on the family. Good people, kindly advise please.

So? What does she want us to advise her to do? To leave the man? Ok...she is the smart one so her hubby should do her biddings?

The problem with some ladies I dont get is when they are dating a man, they won't take the time to study him very to know if there's any questionable character they can't cope with. All that will be in their head and mouth is marry me marryy me marry me. Then after rushing in, they'll now want to do what they ought to have done before entering the union.

Well...its too late. Nothing can be done. Its his nature and trying to talk himvout of it might create problems for you.

If you ask me though, those are really not a problem. If ye says no AC, no AC be that. Or did you have AC when you were living with your parent? No lie o.

Then for the sex part, if you're engaged and gainfully busy especially as you're nurturing a baby, sex will be the last thing on your mind. He hasn't said he'll cut out sex and you can even handle that if you really want have enough sex since it has become food by not quickly taking in again after weaning this baby. That way you will do it for long before oga goes into sanctity mode again.

Everything na Im be problem for una. And you're discussing it with a male friend. Is it so he can help you oil the place? Na so e dey start.
Op you too come dey shine teeth abi,? As the real niggar na...mtchew.
Re: She Married An Old Fashioned Man, Kindly Advise Her by CanadaOrBust: 6:37am On Nov 26, 2019
crackhaus:

Coming from someone who gets turned on by pregnant women he didn't make pregnant.

And you're not even ashamed of announcing yourself.

It is actually a thriving part of the porn industry - so I’m not alone
Re: She Married An Old Fashioned Man, Kindly Advise Her by Nobody: 6:38am On Nov 26, 2019
wirinet:

Abeg educate me.
they understand their sexual energy is their most vital asset.They masturbate less or not at all,they release this energy less frequently
At a time,Mark zuckerberg then girl friend(now wife)was angry at him for not always being with her,in fact she begged him to spend time with her for at least once a week
Re: She Married An Old Fashioned Man, Kindly Advise Her by mysticwarrior(m): 6:39am On Nov 26, 2019
solasoulmusic:
Intimacy is importanter Marry someone you can build a bond with that even when una see after a business trip ya already wet and standing

One time I was driving To pick him and I wore a short dress you have to know how to use your body to show love
oya hanty phinish the story na, what happened after he saw you with this short dress?
Re: She Married An Old Fashioned Man, Kindly Advise Her by CanadaOrBust: 6:40am On Nov 26, 2019
wirinet:

Ok. I didn't see it that way, but check out the lifestyles of most of the most successful men in sports, business or politics. The most probably have or have had more than one woman in their lives.

U r right. I’ve often wondered why it is so. But the extremely wealthy like Bill Gates and Dangote are exceptions
Re: She Married An Old Fashioned Man, Kindly Advise Her by wirinet(m): 6:40am On Nov 26, 2019
crackhaus:

Coming from someone who gets turned on by pregnant women he didn't make pregnant.

And you're not even ashamed of announcing yourself.

It's called a fetish. Some people have very weird fetishes. Some love small girls (which is a crime), others love small boys (which is also a crime). My friends in Abuja tells me many Abuja top civil servants love having sex with married women. Some others still love inflicting pain on themselves or their partner during sex as their fetish.
It's a strange world out there

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Re: She Married An Old Fashioned Man, Kindly Advise Her by CanadaOrBust: 6:42am On Nov 26, 2019
emddi:
they understand their sexual energy is their most vital asset.They masturbate less or not at all,they release this energy less frequently

Not true. In real life the highly successful usually love sex and have a lot of sex

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Re: She Married An Old Fashioned Man, Kindly Advise Her by wirinet(m): 6:44am On Nov 26, 2019
CanadaOrBust:


U r right. I’ve often wondered why it is so. But the extremely wealthy like Bill Gates and Dangote are exceptions
I don't know of Bill Gates, but Dangote is not so innocent, he is only very coded. He carries out all his private matters in very secret manner.
I know people who are close to him tell me he is bi-sexual. My little niece did her NYSC in this office at Ikoyi,
Re: She Married An Old Fashioned Man, Kindly Advise Her by CanadaOrBust: 6:45am On Nov 26, 2019
wirinet:


It's called a fetish. Some people have very weird fetishes. Some love small girls (which is a crime), others love small boys (which is also a crime). My friends in Abuja tells me many Abuja top civil servants love having sex with married women. Some others still love inflicting pain on themselves or their partner during sex as their fetish.
It's a strange world out there

U know too much about this fetish stuff. I Dey look u one kind grin
Re: She Married An Old Fashioned Man, Kindly Advise Her by Nobody: 6:46am On Nov 26, 2019
CanadaOrBust:


Not true. In real life the highly successful usually love sex and have a lot of sex
like?
Re: She Married An Old Fashioned Man, Kindly Advise Her by CanadaOrBust: 6:48am On Nov 26, 2019
wirinet:

I don't know of Bill Gates, but Dangote is not so innocent, he is only very coded. He carries out all his private matters in very secret manner.
I know people who are close to him tell me he is bi-sexual. My little niece did her NYSC in this office at Ikoyi,

I’d suspect as much. I don’t understand how an African with so much money is satisfied with 2 kids- both girls
Re: She Married An Old Fashioned Man, Kindly Advise Her by crackhaus: 6:49am On Nov 26, 2019
CanadaOrBust:


It is actually a thriving part of the porn industry - so I’m not alone
Your defense is the porn industry? cheesy
As in, porn?
Where people film themselves completely nakéd having sex?

These are the people you appreciate being grouped with. cry

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Re: She Married An Old Fashioned Man, Kindly Advise Her by CanadaOrBust: 6:49am On Nov 26, 2019
emddi:
like?

Look around u. They are everywhere
Re: She Married An Old Fashioned Man, Kindly Advise Her by DPricey1(f): 6:50am On Nov 26, 2019
I understand the OP because this is happening to me. My baby is 5 months now and my husband and I have not had sex yet.
He said after breastfeeding.
During pregnancy I had to always initiate sex and convince him doctor Okayed it.
He and his sisters insisted that I visit a traditional birth attendant during pregnancy, I refused.
He's archaic and have a low libido and I've learnt to focus on my baby and live with it.
I was the 1 looking for a hubby that won't cheat

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Re: She Married An Old Fashioned Man, Kindly Advise Her by CanadaOrBust: 6:51am On Nov 26, 2019
crackhaus:

Your defense is the porn industry? cheesy
As in, porn?
Where people film themselves completely nakéd having sex?

These are the people you appreciate being grouped with. cry

See him. He’s probably watching xvideo on another screen as we speak!

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Re: She Married An Old Fashioned Man, Kindly Advise Her by crackhaus: 6:52am On Nov 26, 2019
wirinet:


It's called a fetish. Some people have very weird fetishes. Some love small girls (which is a crime), others love small boys (which is also a crime). My friends in Abuja tells me many Abuja top civil servants love having sex with married women. Some others still love inflicting pain on themselves or their partner during sex as their fetish.
It's a strange world out there
Darn, he should reserve his fetish for his pregnant wife/girlfriends.

Having an attraction to a heavily pregnant woman who is carrying the baby of another man is not just disgusting, it is a fvcking large neon sign of psychosis. Damn it!

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Re: She Married An Old Fashioned Man, Kindly Advise Her by wirinet(m): 6:53am On Nov 26, 2019
emddi:
they understand their sexual energy is their most vital asset.They masturbate less or not at all,they release this energy less frequently
At a time,Mark zuckerberg then girl friend(now wife)was angry at him for not always being with her,in fact she begged him to spend time with her for at least once a week
He might be an exception to the rule or maybe he is doing it codedly. One thing I know, is that most highly driven business men have extremely high libido.
I remember someone like Abacha. He had a guest house in Alexander Road, ikoyi, where his aid brings in 3 different girls, almost every night. The girls are put in 3 different rooms. Abacha comes in at around 12 midnight and goes through all the girls before 6 am. By 8 am he is back at his desk in his office at Dodan Barracks. That was when he was chief of army staff under IBB. And in all these he still loved his wife very much.
Re: She Married An Old Fashioned Man, Kindly Advise Her by CanadaOrBust: 6:53am On Nov 26, 2019
DPricey1:
I understand the OP because this is happening to me. My baby is 5 months now and my husband and I have not had sex yet.
He said after breastfeeding.
During pregnancy I had to always initiate sex and convince him doctor Okayed it.
He and his sisters insisted that I visit a traditional birth attendant during pregnancy, I refused.
He's archaic and have a low libido and I've learnt to focus on my baby and live with it.
I was the 1 looking for a hubby that won't cheat

Very smart girl. Please cc a guy named CRACKHAUS

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Re: She Married An Old Fashioned Man, Kindly Advise Her by Nobody: 6:55am On Nov 26, 2019
CanadaOrBust:


Look around u. They are everywhere
I hope you don't equate success with money,money can be gotten by any means.I mean people who av brought amazing inventions to this world
Re: She Married An Old Fashioned Man, Kindly Advise Her by frank317: 6:55am On Nov 26, 2019
I am really angry because this lady must have gone ahead to value and marry this guy because he was the "no sex before marriage" type.

Mcheew
Re: She Married An Old Fashioned Man, Kindly Advise Her by frozen70(f): 6:55am On Nov 26, 2019
stormborn28:
hmmmmm....cucumber things

Better than messing around
Re: She Married An Old Fashioned Man, Kindly Advise Her by crackhaus: 6:57am On Nov 26, 2019
CanadaOrBust:


See him. He’s probably watching xvideo on another screen as we speak!
Just because a sicko like you loves watching men fvck pregnant women does not mean everyone does the same. cheesy

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Re: She Married An Old Fashioned Man, Kindly Advise Her by wirinet(m): 6:58am On Nov 26, 2019
DPricey1:
I understand the OP because this is happening to me. My baby is 5 months now and my husband and I have not had sex yet.
He said after breastfeeding.
During pregnancy I had to always initiate sex and convince him doctor Okayed it.
He and his sisters insisted that I visit a traditional birth attendant during pregnancy, I refused.
He's archaic and have a low libido and I've learnt to focus on my baby and live with it.
I was the 1 looking for a hubby that won't cheat

Darling, it's difficult having your cake and eating it.
You asked for a husband that won't cheat, god gave you one with low libido. If you want for one with high libido, you will give you enough sexual satisfaction, you would have had to tolerate some cheating.
Re: She Married An Old Fashioned Man, Kindly Advise Her by CanadaOrBust: 6:59am On Nov 26, 2019
crackhaus:

Darn, he should reserve his fetish for his pregnant wife/girlfriends.

Having an attraction to a heavily pregnant woman who is carrying the baby of another man is not just disgusting, it is a fvcking large neon sign of psychosis. Damn it!

You ain’t fooling nobody. Only one dog knows what type of sick fetish u r trying to camouflage with pretentiousness
Re: She Married An Old Fashioned Man, Kindly Advise Her by wirinet(m): 7:00am On Nov 26, 2019
CanadaOrBust:


U know too much about this fetish stuff. I Dey look u one kind grin
Believe I know lots of stuffs. I am widely read and widely travelled and have lots of friends. Friend nicknamed me prof.

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