crackhaus:
How does the man's libido and sex-drive even fathom into the conversation?

People are just so sex-centric these days that it is totally unbelievable for a healthy man to go over 9months without any need to fvck his pregnant wife, or fvck anyone for that matter.

Messed up mentality.

CanadaOrBust:


U ok sir? Why r u so hung up on the definition of asexual. Google it, you’d know the exact textbook definition. What we r discussing here is why a man would avoid having sex with his wife for two years on the pretext she was pregnant, then breastfeeding. He might even decide it is not safe till the child starts school!

CanadaOrBust:

Some people avoid sex if they can. Some don’t have sex at all - asexual. That’s how libido figures into it. Everyone’s sexuality is not like yours

StPete:

Any man with a healthy sex appetite will not go without Sex for a week let alone 9 months unless you’re relieving yourself elsewhere. Surely, low libido has been the reason behind his not wanting to copulate, forget his archaic mindset.

wwwkaycom:
Bose is an outgoing and sexually active young lady of 26, she got married to her hubby in November, 2018, they are now blessed with a big baby boy.
She was my student and very close to me and my family during her ND and HND days. She is just like a member of my family. I know that she was involved with two guys then, one a student in the same school during her ND and the other, a businessman in town during her HND days. Her affair with the businessman didn't materialise into marriage because the man wanted her to get pregnant first, a proposal she vehemently opposed because its like a taboo in her family and her religious organization. That relationship broke and she met another guy who I didn't really know in 2017. She told me that the guy was easygoing and fun loving too so I didn't really had much advise to give other than the normal talks about being of good behaviour etc.
They got married in November 2018, she relocated to live with her hubby in Abuja, now they're blessed with a very big baby boy.
She visited me with her baby last weekend when she came to attend the funeral of her uncle here in Ondo State. She stayed in my place. It was then we really had time to talk. She told me that her husband believes so much in some archaic things that is affecting her badly. For instance, he doesn't believe in the use of Air Conditioner because it is carcinogenic, he had sex with her last the day he realised she was pregnant in January. She said her hubby believed having sex with a pregnant woman will hurt the baby. She put to bed in August and since then nothing has happened because the hubby said no sex until breast feeding is over so that the breast milk will not be contaminated with semen, I have been laughing since then but its not a laughing matter. She said this guy is so serious with these wrong facts and is not willing to let it go for anything and that she had engaged him in discussions over this many times with the guy sticking to his points. She said the guy is so caring and the way he dots on her and the baby is out of this world. He hired a nanny for her. the nanny followed her to Ondo State for the funeral and stayed with her in my place. Honestly, I haven't heard this kind of thing before. I told her I'll post it on nairaland and she said I should go ahead and that she will be interested in reading people's comments. I actually admonished her not to look the way of any other guy or be involved in extramarital affairs as that could lead to problems she won't be able to handle. She said that is almost impossible in the environment she lives in Abuja and the way her husband dots on the family. Good people, kindly advise please.

crackhaus:

Genius, you and I are not having any discussion.
You already assumed the reason behind the man's behaviour is because he is asexual.



The only thing you are supposed to be typing now is a statement acquiescing to my advise on how you should teach your baseless assumptions to your kids.

CanadaOrBust:


(What’s with this obsession with my kids - u r BASELESSLY ASSUMING I have kids)
Bros, you have to start with an assumption otherwise u can’t discuss the topic - I’m not the man, neither r u. My assumption is he must not be that into sex, which I shorthanded as “asexual” for this discussion.
Proffer your own ideas and make your own comments - that’s how civilized people discuss

Olalan:
She needs to open up to her husband..........the problem is many women don't know the right timing to engage in deep conversations on things bothering them with their husbands

CanadaOrBust:
Her husband is not highly sexed. He has low libido and she should adjust accordingly if she wants the marriage to last. Sex is not everything. Let her enjoy her baby and other aspects of marriage and life

CanadaOrBust:


Of course it is, but so are 95% of stories on Nairaland. If we ignore them there’d be little left to discourse

wwwkaycom:
Bose is an outgoing and sexually active young lady of 26, she got married to her hubby in November, 2018, they are now blessed with a big baby boy.

She was my student and very close to me and my family during her ND and HND days. She is just like a member of my family. I know that she was involved with two guys then, one a student in the same school during her ND and the other, a businessman in town during her HND days. Her affair with the businessman didn't materialise into marriage because the man wanted her to get pregnant first, a proposal she vehemently opposed because its like a taboo in her family and her religious organization.

That relationship broke and she met another guy who I didn't really know in 2017. She told me that the guy was easygoing and fun loving too so I didn't really had much advise to give other than the normal talks about being of good behaviour etc.

They got married in November 2018, she relocated to live with her hubby in Abuja, now they're blessed with a very big baby boy.

She visited me with her baby last weekend when she came to attend the funeral of her uncle here in Ondo State. She stayed in my place. It was then we really had time to talk. She told me that her husband believes so much in some archaic things that is affecting her badly.

For instance, he doesn't believe in the use of Air Conditioner because it is carcinogenic, he had sex with her last the day he realised she was pregnant in January. She said her hubby believed having sex with a pregnant woman will hurt the baby. She put to bed in August and since then nothing has happened because the hubby said no sex until breast feeding is over so that the breast milk will not be contaminated with semen.

I have been laughing since then but its not a laughing matter. She said this guy is so serious with these wrong facts and is not willing to let it go for anything and that she had engaged him in discussions over this many times with the guy sticking to his points. She said the guy is so caring and the way he dots on her and the baby is out of this world. He hired a nanny for her. the nanny followed her to Ondo State for the funeral and stayed with her in my place.

Honestly, I haven't heard this kind of thing before. I told her I'll post it on Nairaland and she said I should go ahead and that she will be interested in reading people's comments. I actually admonished her not to look the way of any other guy or be involved in extramarital affairs as that could lead to problems she won't be able to handle. She said that is almost impossible in the environment she lives in Abuja and the way her husband dots on the family. Good people, kindly advise please.

CanadaOrBust:
Her husband is not highly sexed. He has low libido and she should adjust accordingly if she wants the marriage to last. Sex is not everything. Let her enjoy her baby and other aspects of marriage and life

StPete:


Any man with a healthy sex appetite will not go without Sex for a week let alone 9 months unless you’re relieving yourself elsewhere. Surely, low libido has been the reason behind his not wanting to copulate, forget his archaic mindset.


What happens with having sex gently during pregnancy if you feel it could hurt the baby?

If sperm adds with ovaries to form babies, how does it turn around to hurt the baby? (Assuming truly, if sperm can contaminate the milk). Moreso, some women have been known to suck sperm, how come they aren’t dead?

Besides, it is obvious that his archaism is centered around sex which clearly shows that the man is trying to avoid sex by ALL MEANS!

9 months of pregnancy + 1yr 6 months of breastfeeding = Extremely low libido

crackhaus:
How is any of this even a problem that required her to go blabbing. Air conditioning & wanting to have sex while pregnant? Seriously?

mysticwarrior:
you said its neither food nor oxygen, hmm my brother to some people after food its sex

crackhaus:

You never hear say 95% sexual satisfaction na from clitoral stimulation?

Dat screwdriver na unnecessary hardware when one very soft brush gently moving over her clit fit make am turn into Olympic gymnast.


Even the females wey read about this brush don dey imagine am, and it is sending chills down their spine.. I TELL YOU

mysticwarrior:
seems you like men with high libido.

Inhabitable1:


Even sex before food..

AwkaetitiBabe:
Enjoy the dotting. Keep busy with the baby. I'm sure you saw how archaic he was before marrying him so y complain?

LilMissFavvy:
Her marriage....her problem. She married an illiterate who is not ready to learn. She has to live with it.

AwkaetitiBabe:
Enjoy the dotting. Keep busy with the baby. I'm sure you saw how archaic he was before marrying him so y complain?

crackhaus:
How does the man's libido and sex-drive even fathom into the conversation?

People are just so sex-centric these days that it is totally unbelievable for a healthy man to go over 9months without any need to fvck his pregnant wife, or fvck anyone for that matter.

Messed up mentality.

StPete:


Any man with a healthy sex appetite will not go without Sex for a week let alone 9 months unless you’re relieving yourself elsewhere. Surely, low libido has been the reason behind his not wanting to copulate, forget his archaic mindset.


What happens with having sex gently during pregnancy if you feel it could hurt the baby?

If sperm adds with ovaries to form babies, how does it turn around to hurt the baby? (Assuming truly, if sperm can contaminate the milk). Moreso, some women have been known to suck sperm, how come they aren’t dead?

Besides, it is obvious that his archaism is centered around sex which clearly shows that the man is trying to avoid sex by ALL MEANS!

9 months of pregnancy + 1yr 6 months of breastfeeding = Extremely low libido

baby124:
All these people marry gay men. LMAO. Hmmm