dominique:
Either the husband is a closeted gay or has very low libido. It's her cross, let her carry it. Sex is neither food nor oxygen you need to have to sustain yourself.

For a woman with a normal or high libido, Sex is food n oxygen n they need it to sustain themselves

CanadaOrBust:


Mr. CRACKHAUS (what a moniker, but it could have been worse like crackhead), see, I’m not the only one saying it!

Leave Crackhous, sometimes he trolls

bizzibodi:

Really?Tell me do woman has urge too...like spontaneous arousal.

you can ask you mother or sisters.

Pacesetter123:
Coinage of word won't kee u 4me!
Cocuba...wot?

I don't think you are a Nigerian cos if you are you won't be asking this questions "Cucumbation" is the act of using cucumber to stimulate the vagina in order to quench all erotic desires, this practice is only common in Nigeria.

Was there no courtship between she and her husband? At least during the courtship she would have been able to detect his old fashioned behaviour.now she don marry d man she dey complain.abi na arrangee marriage?

I feel the man meant that family planning methods may affect the milk and affect the baby adversely....Abeg, I see a FANTASTIC, CARING man, the type that are fast fading because of crave for sex even when ladies are seeing their period and ovulating( when they don't even need kids)....she has a disciplined man.

yeyeosoronga:

I wonder how the man has been meeting his own sexual needs though...

probably side chicks or he has very low libido

sassysure:


Leave Crackhous, sometimes he trolls

U misspelt it - it is crackHAUS. No wonder he picked such moniker - crack and trolling tend to go together like Jacob Zuma’s index fingers

midnighter:


Yes! My priest always preaches that if you and your intended spouse don't have feelings of lust and sexual desire for each other leading up to the wedding, then something is very wrong in your relationship and you shouldn't be marrying because being sexually attracted to your partner is a major part of it.

People always quote St. Paul but forget Songs of Solomon and how much sex there was in it. It's really important in your marital bond.

I'm even getting annoyed sef, she needs to talk some sense into that guy, seriously!

guys who marry women they dont find sexually attractive are really trying sha .maybe this could explain why many married men still keep side chicks.

PrecisionFx:


We also know u stole money.

No, seriously. Didn’t u see that story that came out in 2014, way b4 any of this:
He connived with Jonathan’s SA named Kuku to steal billions meant for settling Niger Delta militant issue. Look for it - It was on front page recently.

Na ignorance nau. May God deliver black man from "supersilly"

You know the kinds of advice the hypocritical lot would have been dishing out if it was the husband who’s going more than a year now without sex.

yeyeosoronga:
Sex is actually classed as a physiological need, as with food , water, health, sleep, shelter, clothing.
These are even classed before safety needs.
Madam has been deprived of sex for almost a year or more since she found out she was pregnant, till the baby will stop breastfeeding. That will be close to a total of 2 years at the very least, of not meeting her sexual needs. That's definitely more than being icky about sex on the husband's part.
While a vibrator or d.ildo can do a pretty good job too, I doubt if a young girl in marriage will want to see that as her lifetime sentence
I wonder how the man has been meeting his own sexual needs though...

Yes practiced in the old good days , but now most women in this indomie generation can’t stay one week without sex , just by perceiving the fragrance of indomie spices makes them wet like... make una no attack meooo ,I be local man. But the AC part no make sense na, well it’s written that a local man can not can.

Increase his urge..
Go get kayan maza ( just a name though) and cook in your meals like Efirin (in Yoruba language) and other natural boosters which can help him increase his sexual urge and even last longer.
They are natural and available. Just ask those women selling vegetables and they will give you some. Don't be shy...
Its not agbo or concoction i am telling you ooo.
Its veggies. Also often use garlic and other stuffs to boil your meat. All these things are good for your healths

sharone21:
I feel the man meant that family planning methods may affect the milk and affect the baby adversely....Abeg, I see a FANTASTIC, CARING man, the type that are fast fading because of crave for sex even when ladies are seeing their period and ovulating( when they don't even need kids)....she has a disciplined man.

just say that is the kind of man you prefer, some other women prefer a man that would be pounding them everyday.

dominique:
Either the husband is a closeted gay or has very low libido. It's her cross, let her carry it. Sex is neither food nor oxygen you need to have to sustain yourself.

aunty sex is a basic human need. once you are in need anything that can satisfy it you will kill for... she needs to open up to the man or we will later hear that gate man dry shine madam

gnykelly:

aunty sex is a basic human need. once you are in need anything that can satisfy it you will kill for... she needs to open up to the man or we will later hear that gate man dry shine madam

it is very important to know and understand the sexual orientation of your partner before marriage, this will help you to know if you can cope with that person in the future.

Lmao... What the hell? Well, this is why it's important to marry a person who ain't ignorant of the facts of life. I guess he doesn't even give head cos it's a religious taboo aunty, I'm sorry o but like what People in Christianity, what God has joined together, let no man put.... Finish the thing

MicroBox:
Increase his urge..
Go get kayan maza ( just a name though) and cook in your meals like Efirin (in Yoruba language) and other natural boosters which can help him increase his sexual urge and even last longer.
They are natural and available. Just ask those women selling vegetables and they will give you some. Don't be shy...
Its not agbo or concoction i am telling you ooo.
Its veggies. Also often use garlic and other stuffs to boil your meat. All these things are good for your healths

a healthy and normal man doesn't need all those, mare seeing the wife semi-unclad is enough to arouse him sexually, there is a cause somewhere which only the man can explain, his excuses are not concrete enough.

wwwkaycom:
Bose is an outgoing and sexually active young lady of 26, she got married to her hubby in November, 2018, they are now blessed with a big baby boy.

She was my student and very close to me and my family during her ND and HND days. She is just like a member of my family. I know that she was involved with two guys then, one a student in the same school during her ND and the other, a businessman in town during her HND days. Her affair with the businessman didn't materialise into marriage because the man wanted her to get pregnant first, a proposal she vehemently opposed because its like a taboo in her family and her religious organization.

That relationship broke and she met another guy who I didn't really know in 2017. She told me that the guy was easygoing and fun loving too so I didn't really had much advise to give other than the normal talks about being of good behaviour etc.

They got married in November 2018, she relocated to live with her hubby in Abuja, now they're blessed with a very big baby boy.

She visited me with her baby last weekend when she came to attend the funeral of her uncle here in Ondo State. She stayed in my place. It was then we really had time to talk. She told me that her husband believes so much in some archaic things that is affecting her badly.

For instance, he doesn't believe in the use of Air Conditioner because it is carcinogenic, he had sex with her last the day he realised she was pregnant in January. She said her hubby believed having sex with a pregnant woman will hurt the baby. She put to bed in August and since then nothing has happened because the hubby said no sex until breast feeding is over so that the breast milk will not be contaminated with semen.

I have been laughing since then but its not a laughing matter. She said this guy is so serious with these wrong facts and is not willing to let it go for anything and that she had engaged him in discussions over this many times with the guy sticking to his points. She said the guy is so caring and the way he dots on her and the baby is out of this world. He hired a nanny for her. the nanny followed her to Ondo State for the funeral and stayed with her in my place.

Honestly, I haven't heard this kind of thing before. I told her I'll post it on Nairaland and she said I should go ahead and that she will be interested in reading people's comments. I actually admonished her not to look the way of any other guy or be involved in extramarital affairs as that could lead to problems she won't be able to handle. She said that is almost impossible in the environment she lives in Abuja and the way her husband dots on the family. Good people, kindly advise please.

When you came here for agberos to advise, are you drumming support for her to cross the line. I don't get it. Let her carry her cross or be crucified

Sister open eye well o but enjoy your old fashioned keep an eye on that nanny lmao before una go Dey drag old fashion daddy they can poison if na competition o

Just keep praying for him always I thank God for my Love no be small

mysticwarrior:
a healthy and normal man doesn't need all those, mare seeing the wife semi-unclad is enough to arouse him sexually, there is a cause somewhere which only the man can explain, his excuses are not concrete enough.

You're not married..
Your wife semi or full unclad is nothing.
Its what you see everyday except during fasting.
Your wife rub cream and other make-ups unclad while you dress up for office or work.
Maybe you don't know.. Married women especially young couple go about with only pant and vest at home.

Her affair with the businessman didn't materialise into marriage because the man wanted her to get pregnant first, a proposal she vehemently opposed because its like a taboo in her family and her religious organization.
Which taboo is that and which religious organisation frowns at pregnancy and gladly supports premarital sex? So the family allows her to use condoms and her church permits it too? The descendants of Onan have taken over the world. God is a just God, His judgments are true. Let her carry her cross

frozen70:


I am see that the major issue here is his stupid belive over sex during pregnancy and breast feeding

For the sake of peace, she should find a gadget and pleasure herself

If he feel offended, she will defend herself

What kind of wahala is this ❓

hmmmmm....cucumber things

When you think you have seen and heard it all then bam "semen contaminates breas milk". Lol

You Google medical facts.
Lecture him on them.
Encourage him to do his own research.
Meanwhile, don't panic nor gets stressed by this.
Instead, present this in a loving way

sharone21:
I feel the man meant that family planning methods may affect the milk and affect the baby adversely....Abeg, I see a FANTASTIC, CARING man, the type that are fast fading because of crave for sex even when ladies are seeing their period and ovulating( when they don't even need kids)....she has a disciplined man.

Hmmmmm

wwwkaycom:


I have been laughing since then but its not a laughing matter.

I've been laughing since.... when I stop ....hopefully by tomorrow....I'll continue reading and comment later.

The truth of the matter is that they are incompatible sexually, the lady must have rushed into the marriage and here is the outcome, i can only advice her to endure at it last, i hope very soonest the lady will adapt if she want happy home.

MicroBox:

You're not married..
Your wife semi or full unclad is nothing.
Its what you see everyday except during fasting.
Your wife rub cream and other make-ups unclad while you dress up for office or work.
Maybe you don't know.. Married women especially young couple go about with only pant and vest at home.

oga no be everybody be like you, just say you don't feel sexually arouse when you see your wife unclad, and its very obvious you no longer fancy your wife's body,

So your wife has to mixed vegetables which contains aphrodisiac for you to eat to be able to get you aroused? chai i pity for the poor woman.

She should employ the help of a health specialist to talk some sence into him. Maybe that might help him adjust a little in his opinion.

Thank you.

Intimacy is importanter Marry someone you can build a bond with that even when una see after a business trip ya already wet and standing

One time I was driving To pick him and I wore a short dress you have to know how to use your body to show love