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burggerx:
One thing that scares the hell out of me about my girlfriend is her attitude. When you talk about a disrespectful and unsubmissive lady, my girlfriend is the headquarters of all the disrespectful and unsubmissive ladies I've ever met. Even if she does something good, I don't tend to notice it because her bad attitude has already overshadowed the good side of her

Even if she acts respectful to me, it's so obvious she's only forcing it since it's a trait she lacks. Just when a little brawl ensues, curses and abusive words are usually not far-fetched from her mouth. She has even insulted my family before during a heated argument. The only thing my girlfriend is yet to do is to beat me up

I believe they say respect is earned but I've done everything a man should do to earn respect from his lady yet this lady talks to me like a kid. No sign of humility at all

My girlfriend is not only dominating but toxic and does not accept correction. She makes it look like giving authority as a man is slavery and she questions my authority every time. The annoying part is that she argues a lot and always wants to be right at all times. Feminism is written all over her to the extent that even in movies, my girlfriend will have the back of a woman who is unsubmissive and disrespectful to an innocent husband.

Although she acts like a respectful girlfriend in the presence of my family but my mom in question is smart enough to know that she's only faking it despite trying all my best to portray my girlfriend as someone that gives me joy in the face of my mom

Before my mom traveled to the UK in September, she sat me down up to three times and advised me to let go of this girl if I really want to spend the rest of life with peace of mind and that if I insist on marrying her, she doesn't have a choice than to respect my decision but she will remind me of her advice which I didn't yield to if I eventually end up as a frustrated man in the future

I've tried to terminate the relationship but she cries and makes the whole thing look like I don't love her and that if I do, I should be able to cope with her flaws. There was even a time she told me she doesn't have a choice than to respect me if I marry her and I was like WTF!

I have decided to call the relationship a quit once and for all since I'm not in for any future drama. I don't want to end up with a woman that will be rude and disrespect me in the face of my own children.

But there's one question I want to ask is that, can a ride girlfriend ever change after marriage? Is it worth taking the risk that she will change with time?

burggerx:
One thing that scares the hell out of me about my girlfriend is her attitude. When you talk about a disrespectful and unsubmissive lady, my girlfriend is the headquarters of all the disrespectful and unsubmissive ladies I've ever met. Even if she does something good, I don't tend to notice it because her bad attitude has already overshadowed the good side of her

Even if she acts respectful to me, it's so obvious she's only forcing it since it's a trait she lacks. Just when a little brawl ensues, curses and abusive words are usually not far-fetched from her mouth. She has even insulted my family before during a heated argument. The only thing my girlfriend is yet to do is to beat me up

I believe they say respect is earned but I've done everything a man should do to earn respect from his lady yet this lady talks to me like a kid. No sign of humility at all

My girlfriend is not only dominating but toxic and does not accept correction. She makes it look like giving authority as a man is slavery and she questions my authority every time. The annoying part is that she argues a lot and always wants to be right at all times. Feminism is written all over her to the extent that even in movies, my girlfriend will have the back of a woman who is unsubmissive and disrespectful to an innocent husband.

Although she acts like a respectful girlfriend in the presence of my family but my mom in question is smart enough to know that she's only faking it despite trying all my best to portray my girlfriend as someone that gives me joy in the face of my mom

Before my mom traveled to the UK in September, she sat me down up to three times and advised me to let go of this girl if I really want to spend the rest of life with peace of mind and that if I insist on marrying her, she doesn't have a choice than to respect my decision but she will remind me of her advice which I didn't yield to if I eventually end up as a frustrated man in the future

I've tried to terminate the relationship but she cries and makes the whole thing look like I don't love her and that if I do, I should be able to cope with her flaws. There was even a time she told me she doesn't have a choice than to respect me if I marry her and I was like WTF!

I have decided to call the relationship a quit once and for all since I'm not in for any future drama. I don't want to end up with a woman that will be rude and disrespect me in the face of my own children.

But there's one question I want to ask is that, can a ride girlfriend ever change after marriage? Is it worth taking the risk that she will change with time?

burggerx:
Yes she does but humility is far from her

Yakzo:
If you are a rehabilitation facility then you can go ahead and marry her. But don't come back to this forum to whine and tell stories that touch hearts.

obarinde8:
yes he can change at any time

darealbabe:
If a woman can not and has chosen not to respect you, wetin you gain??
Personally, I can't marry a man I don't respect.
A woman can't respect a man she doesn't trust. But brother eh, since you know this, why you still dey ask?
A relationship will thrive only when the people involved respect each other! There's no shortcut.
I have called off relationships, simply because I felt I didn't respect the man enough. I knew there was nothing interesting to look forward to and I can't stand a weak man who allows anybody to treat him anyhow. Regardless of who the person is. Mba!
These guys loved me, but I didn't trust them. I didn't trust their word. I didn't respect them. I struggled to respect them.
Not until I met my fiance who commanded my respect. No, he is not abusive yet he doesn't take shit from me. He has his way of keeping me in check. A man should be able to be in charge.
There are times we act as equals, and there are times I accord him the full respect as a leader.
When a woman does not respect you, you lose your self worth as a man and become a doormat.
Never give room for a woman to put you down. Start by respecting yourself and being open to your woman about what respect means to you. You guys should talk about how you want the other person to treat you.
A woman who does not respect you will cheat on you without remorse.
A woman who does not respect you will leave you miserable.
The worst is some will stick to you because of indecision and subject you to a sticky ball of mess...
A man should learn to assert himself as a MAN! I don't mean he should become a bully. I mean he should become a MAN!

burggerx:
My God bless you my sister

The thing is that, I saw this things clearly with my two naked eyes when the relationship started newly but I thought it was a minor thing that could be corrected. But right as I speak, instead of it to get better, it's getting worse

My ears were blocked when my family observed her and predicted her to be a potential problematic wife but now I'm beginning to see the truth in it.. For someone to even disrespect my family whom I hold in high regard during a heated argument speak volume of the hell I'm going to face with her as a wife

burggerx:
One thing that scares the hell out of me about my girlfriend is her attitude. When you talk about a disrespectful and unsubmissive lady, my girlfriend is the headquarters of all the disrespectful and unsubmissive ladies I've ever met. Even if she does something good, I don't tend to notice it because her bad attitude has already overshadowed the good side of her

Even if she acts respectful to me, it's so obvious she's only forcing it since it's a trait she lacks. Just when a little brawl ensues, curses and abusive words are usually not far-fetched from her mouth. She has even insulted my family before during a heated argument. The only thing my girlfriend is yet to do is to beat me up

I believe they say respect is earned but I've done everything a man should do to earn respect from his lady yet this lady talks to me like a kid. No sign of humility at all

My girlfriend is not only dominating but toxic and does not accept correction. She makes it look like giving authority as a man is slavery and she questions my authority every time. The annoying part is that she argues a lot and always wants to be right at all times. Feminism is written all over her to the extent that even in movies, my girlfriend will have the back of a woman who is unsubmissive and disrespectful to an innocent husband.

Although she acts like a respectful girlfriend in the presence of my family but my mom in question is smart enough to know that she's only faking it despite trying all my best to portray my girlfriend as someone that gives me joy in the face of my mom

Before my mom traveled to the UK in September, she sat me down up to three times and advised me to let go of this girl if I really want to spend the rest of life with peace of mind and that if I insist on marrying her, she doesn't have a choice than to respect my decision but she will remind me of her advice which I didn't yield to if I eventually end up as a frustrated man in the future

I've tried to terminate the relationship but she cries and makes the whole thing look like I don't love her and that if I do, I should be able to cope with her flaws. There was even a time she told me she doesn't have a choice than to respect me if I marry her and I was like WTF!

I have decided to call the relationship a quit once and for all since I'm not in for any future drama. I don't want to end up with a woman that will be rude and disrespect me in the face of my own children.

But there's one question I want to ask is that, can a ride girlfriend ever change after marriage? Is it worth taking the risk that she will change with time?

Burggerxbabe:
Hey baby you forgot to mention how you keep cheating and beating me each time you go out and get drunk. I’ve lost count really . You are here calling all sorts of names but you are actually the abuser, disrespectful and manipulative boyfriend. Break up with me already if all these things are true. What do you expect me to do when I catch you cheating, smile and hug you? Instead of you to work on yourself, you are here laying blames. Let’s see a relationship expert and work on the relationship but you always say No. How can a lady who you treat as a queen disrespect you? Please answer my question!

burggerx:
One thing that scares the hell out of me about my girlfriend is her attitude. When you talk about a disrespectful and unsubmissive lady, my girlfriend is the headquarters of all the disrespectful and unsubmissive ladies I've ever met. Even if she does something good, I don't tend to notice it because her bad attitude has already overshadowed the good side of her

Even if she acts respectful to me, it's so obvious she's only forcing it since it's a trait she lacks. Just when a little brawl ensues, curses and abusive words are usually not far-fetched from her mouth. She has even insulted my family before during a heated argument. The only thing my girlfriend is yet to do is to beat me up

I believe they say respect is earned but I've done everything a man should do to earn respect from his lady yet this lady talks to me like a kid. No sign of humility at all

My girlfriend is not only dominating but toxic and does not accept correction. She makes it look like giving authority as a man is slavery and she questions my authority every time. The annoying part is that she argues a lot and always wants to be right at all times. Feminism is written all over her to the extent that even in movies, my girlfriend will have the back of a woman who is unsubmissive and disrespectful to an innocent husband.

Although she acts like a respectful girlfriend in the presence of my family but my mom in question is smart enough to know that she's only faking it despite trying all my best to portray my girlfriend as someone that gives me joy in the face of my mom

Before my mom traveled to the UK in September, she sat me down up to three times and advised me to let go of this girl if I really want to spend the rest of life with peace of mind and that if I insist on marrying her, she doesn't have a choice than to respect my decision but she will remind me of her advice which I didn't yield to if I eventually end up as a frustrated man in the future

I've tried to terminate the relationship but she cries and makes the whole thing look like I don't love her and that if I do, I should be able to cope with her flaws. There was even a time she told me she doesn't have a choice than to respect me if I marry her and I was like WTF!

I have decided to call the relationship a quit once and for all since I'm not in for any future drama. I don't want to end up with a woman that will be rude and disrespect me in the face of my own children.

But there's one question I want to ask is that, can a ride girlfriend ever change after marriage? Is it worth taking the risk that she will change with time?

Laeroy:
Well @ O. P I'M just like your girlfriend, I'm everything you described her to be, in fact in the first 3 years of my marriage, I fought (verbally) dirty in my marriage but just that I got better when I began to birth children, Truly marriage changed my perception of so many things,.

And yes a leopard can't change its spots ooo, but a leopard can mindfully change its internal spots little by little, my marriage is 5 years ooo, and I'm still madly in love with my hubby...

So what I'm trying to say is, for my sake, give people like me a chance, we also deserve to be happy, married and have a family of our own... Chikena

Nwaonyishi69:
Run for your life, now that you found out early enough. A proud woman is like a consuming fire that cannot be conquered by love, parents, husband nor wealth. It is a terminal ailment that cannot be managed by any known drug, so whoever becomes her victim will suffer assault, from oppressive control and neglect, before his lifeless remains will be emboweled the womb of mother earth by pitying but helpless sympathisers; if one ever fail to find out early enough to escape from this marriage of unequal yokes from interests and natural inclinations.

burggerx:
No I don't have a low self esteem. Let me just say I refused to let go probably because of her beauty and the thrill of people being envious of us when we are both walking together. Only if they know the heating I'm facing dating the pretty lady they envy

burggerx:
I haven't tried doing what you just said but she doesn't wash my clothes.. I do that myself

She has only done that only on a rare occasion and she has made it clear to me that she's not a slave. Only my younger sister comes around during weekend to wash the clothes I wore to office for the week. My girlfriend doesn't do that when she comes around

eni4real:
Nice theory!!

Most Feminists have insatiable appetite for hating men.. The problem with Feminists is that, you can't please them. You can't be fair enough.. Everything is gender based to them...

One even say kneeling on traditional wedding day is barbaric and demand that her husband to be canceled it...

eni4real:
You are not like that lady...
3 years with that lady will cause family unrest and many bottled mental stress in this soft man..

Did your husband's mum disapprove you?? I am sure the answer is No..

The lady in question is toxic and temperamental more that you were...

Her type needs a man that can tame her by using a greater force which the Op does not have..

That is how she will be happy too!!

burggerx:
One thing that scares the hell out of me about my girlfriend is her attitude. When you talk about a disrespectful and unsubmissive lady, my girlfriend is the headquarters of all the disrespectful and unsubmissive ladies I've ever met. Even if she does something good, I don't tend to notice it because her bad attitude has already overshadowed the good side of her

Even if she acts respectful to me, it's so obvious she's only forcing it since it's a trait she lacks. Just when a little brawl ensues, curses and abusive words are usually not far-fetched from her mouth. She has even insulted my family before during a heated argument. The only thing my girlfriend is yet to do is to beat me up

I believe they say respect is earned but I've done everything a man should do to earn respect from his lady yet this lady talks to me like a kid. No sign of humility at all

My girlfriend is not only dominating but toxic and does not accept correction. She makes it look like giving authority as a man is slavery and she questions my authority every time. The annoying part is that she argues a lot and always wants to be right at all times. Feminism is written all over her to the extent that even in movies, my girlfriend will have the back of a woman who is unsubmissive and disrespectful to an innocent husband.

Although she acts like a respectful girlfriend in the presence of my family but my mom in question is smart enough to know that she's only faking it despite trying all my best to portray my girlfriend as someone that gives me joy in the face of my mom

Before my mom traveled to the UK in September, she sat me down up to three times and advised me to let go of this girl if I really want to spend the rest of life with peace of mind and that if I insist on marrying her, she doesn't have a choice than to respect my decision but she will remind me of her advice which I didn't yield to if I eventually end up as a frustrated man in the future

I've tried to terminate the relationship but she cries and makes the whole thing look like I don't love her and that if I do, I should be able to cope with her flaws. There was even a time she told me she doesn't have a choice than to respect me if I marry her and I was like WTF!

I have decided to call the relationship a quit once and for all since I'm not in for any future drama. I don't want to end up with a woman that will be rude and disrespect me in the face of my own children.

But there's one question I want to ask is that, can a ride girlfriend ever change after marriage? Is it worth taking the risk that she will change with time?

Burggerxbabe:
Hey baby you forgot to mention how you keep cheating and beating me each time you go out and get drunk. I’ve lost count really . You are here calling all sorts of names but you are actually the abuser, disrespectful and manipulative boyfriend. Break up with me already if all these things are true. What do you expect me to do when I catch you cheating, smile and hug you? Instead of you to work on yourself, you are here laying blames. Let’s see a relationship expert and work on the relationship but you always say No. How can a lady who you treat as a queen disrespect you? Please answer my question!