midnighter:


My dear, Telling you the truth is not hating you.

You should have gone to resolve the situation rationally and let her go instead of being focused on punishing her and dragging the whole thing out, it was not necessary

You know the kind of person she is and youre letting her drag you through the mud. What is the essence of all this lawyer and police matter now? Did you tell her to kill herself?

healthserve:



We are happy she didn't die. No one wants her dead my lady. I feel terribly sorry for the lady if she ends with another no matter how good, any mistake in her new relations with a new lover would trigger her looking backwards.

Oh by the way, my mum would have been husband still calls once in a year way over forty years, with this sigh, if not for your mother and hangs up.

Relationship issues can be way way complex.

MissCookie:
Omo see gbese ooo!

I recall how midnighter adviced that you should opt for clean closure, most people on here wanted to rip her tongues out.
Now you are caught up in this mess, an ugly predicament you would have dodged if you had gone for closure.


Ladies and gentlemen, seeking closure does not mean cowardice or weakness or inferiority complex, as a matter of fact, you seek for closure for your own sanity and for you to be able to move forward, peacefully.

Haba! Op would have invited her and some of his close families, tell them to their faces what she did, listen to whatever stupid excuse she wants to give and tell everybody his unquivering STANCE on the situation. That is what you call closure, maturity and a clean breakup.

You lots let your emotional side get the best of you but forgot that after one, then two.


Op, you are just the luckiest person, if that lad had died, your name would have been sorry.

Now the closure you refused to seek for, you will be forced to initiate it, albeit in the full glaring of plenty people.


Good luck!

wirinet:


It's a bot, short for robot. It's a software that automatically bans users who use certain words or break certain rules. It's all done automatically without any human intervention. Something it misbehaves like all things software.

If you want to report an indiscriminate ban, use the link on the romance home page called mail mods after create new topic and follow links.
You can report your concerns there.

Respect55:
No one advised me to do what I did. I shared my story. I didn't ask for advise anytime. I feel no regrets. I knew it would get to this but believe me, I still stand my ground. I can never sit with her. What's all these?
She should continue siting with the guy she was with that day. She should have thought of all these before cheating. She knows I don't tolerate cheating because I don't do it.
The no-sex affair was our general agreement. I didn't force her into it.

midnighter:

[s]
Yeah! You were punishing her to make yourself feel better and now youre suffering the embarrassment. When she came to cry crocodile tears to your sister and bow her stupid face on the ground you should have opened the whole case for her and used your sister to bear witness that she is a big liar.

You sat quiet and allowed her to act out her useless drama in order to bait your sister and make you look like the bad person when that was the perfect moment to expose her.

She then staged a coup d'etat against you and ended up in the hospital, waited until her whole family was around, slowly peeked through her beautiful eyes and said in a croaking, soft voice "I love you John" like she was in a Steven Spielberg movie. And by then, you couldnt reply anything because her whole family was watching you for clues.

Lol! I didnt say there must be something lacking in you. I said that it is possible that she had a grievance with you, which she reacted to by cheating. I didnt say that doing so is right, just that it is possible. It would have been better for you to get the whole story out of her and counter her argument than just let her run riot and spoil your weekend.

Now that she has landed you in the police station with her father talking rubbish, are you seeing the insult of the whole thing now You should have been the one to take charge of the situation and arrest her to her parents, not her father summoning you as if he's the chief priest of some dreaded shrine.

Lol wealthy only daughter bawo, is it why she is turning your life into a folktale? When you meet a manipulator you have to look past your emotions and have all bases covered so that the person wont be able to ruin you.

They say women are like babies, women are emotional, women blah blah but all I have encountered in this thread is bitter, irrational, illogical responses from the emotional men who refuse to think laterally and see the bigger picture [/s].

midnighter:


Thank you! I was beginning to think maybe my keyboard was typing Chinese, I dont know what they are reading thats making them quote me and answer what I never said

Everybody was focusing on messing with the girl, not considering that the girl can still come back and mess him up too if he doesnt take precautions

Somebody cheated on you and still has the guts to stay in your sisters house into the night, crying fake tears and you dont think you should do anything about it

midnighter:

[s]
Thank you! I was beginning to think maybe my keyboard was typing Chinese, I dont know what they are reading thats making them quote me and answer what I never said

Everybody was focusing on messing with the girl, not considering that the girl can still come back and mess him up too if he doesnt take precautions

Somebody cheated on you and still has the guts to stay in your sisters house into the night, crying fake tears and you dont think you should do anything about it [/s]

MissCookie:
[s]ou are a wise and an emotionally intelligent person. Your contribution was one of the few wise ones I read here, but I was a bit confused why they were all misunderstanding you. Untill I remembered we have a lot of disgruntled young lads on here, who would rather cut off the nose to spite the face than go for a non destructive solution to a problem.


Weldone o [/s]

midnighter:


Yeah! You were punishing her to make yourself feel better and now youre suffering the embarrassment. When she came to cry crocodile tears to your sister and bow her stupid face on the ground you should have opened the whole case for her and used your sister to bear witness that she is a big liar.

You sat quiet and allowed her to act out her useless drama in order to bait your sister and make you look like the bad person when that was the perfect moment to expose her.

She then staged a coup d'etat against you and ended up in the hospital, waited until her whole family was around, slowly peeked through her beautiful eyes and said in a croaking, soft voice "I love you John" like she was in a Steven Spielberg movie. And by then, you couldnt reply anything because her whole family was watching you for clues.

Lol! I didnt say there must be something lacking in you. I said that it is possible that she had a grievance with you, which she reacted to by cheating. I didnt say that doing so is right, just that it is possible. It would have been better for you to get the whole story out of her and counter her argument than just let her run riot and spoil your weekend.

Now that she has landed you in the police station with her father talking rubbish, are you seeing the insult of the whole thing now You should have been the one to take charge of the situation and arrest her to her parents, not her father summoning you as if he's the chief priest of some dreaded shrine.

Lol wealthy only daughter bawo, is it why she is turning your life into a folktale? When you meet a manipulator you have to look past your emotions and have all bases covered so that the person wont be able to ruin you.

They say women are like babies, women are emotional, women blah blah but all I have encountered in this thread is bitter, irrational, illogical responses from emotional men who refuse to think laterally and see the bigger picture.

MissCookie:
Uncle, you are becoming too emotional. Nobody is blaming you for wanting a breakup, infact, every normal human being would want that considering the dirty role your ex had in it.

How you chose to break up is the bone of contention here. Mind you, I really do not care how you choose to handle your shit, but as you clearly stated, "you shared your experience so others would learn from it". Same way, I am putting it out there, clean closure is the way


You said you knew it would get to this, so you knew your ex is a suicidal psychopath?
Wonders!

Respect55:
so to you I'm suffering?
It's laughable when people jump into hasty conclusions in a bid to sound smart. I never told u I'm sufdering dear. I'm doing pretty fine. Believe me.

midnighter:


No problem, I wish you the best of luck Sir.

midnighter:
[s] No problem, I wish you the best of luck Sir.[/s]

midnighter:

[s]
Hm! Thanks dear and your own contribution was also on point. The comments in here are so disappointing...no progressive thinking at all, just devising ways of seeking cheap revenge that will still come back to bite him later.

I am just happy the woman didnt die; it could have been such a disaster. [/s]

lefulefu:
Respect55 hw far? has the father made good his threat to arrest you? if so how is ongoing progress? Anyway as long as u had no hand in her attempted suicide they have nothing on you.if them invite you to police station biko yarn everything wery happen.no keep some issues from the police..tell them everything and if they insist on arresting you get a lawyer or you make ur case known on radio.there have been cases of guys wey sponsor a girl from secondary school to university level and when the girl graduate she will dump the guy giving reasons of the guy being to old for her or too local or na illiterate and some mumu men would take their life.na how many of such girls dem don arrest.in ur case she cheated on u and u moved on.its not by force to stay in a relationship.just come clean and tell the cops everything.even though naija police can psych at times they will let u go if they hear ur story.and oh i forgot..abeg if the babe spend money on u while u guys were dating just codedly calculate the money and give her back cos thats the first thing she will come for if she recovers.

Respect55:

Thanks for your concern. You can check my initial posts to reap up all I asked. We haven been to the station and hospital and the dad has withdrawn the case and will pay the lawyer I came with. I'm doing fine

lefulefu:
make sense.they have nothing against u..biko for the sake of ur sanity just give that babe a big space.

Respect55:

Thanks for your concern. You can check my initial posts to read up all u asked. We haven been to the station and hospital and the dad has withdrawn the case and will pay the lawyer I came with. I'm doing fine

rs172:





Good evening bro, please don't be caught offguard, keep contact with your lawyer or still get another lawyer incase of anh mago mago.

Respect55:

Don't insult her. Leave her alone. She wronged me, not u.
Clean closure is how u feel things should b e sorted out. Not that it's a general way it should be done. Your position of breaking up is purely subjective.

Respect55:
I love you John.".

hafeezsemzy:
Interesting story. @respect55 you acted maturely by not causing a drama. I might not know exactly how you feel. But I know how it feels to be betrayed by someone you trusted and planned your future with.

Well..in as much as I hope you find the love you deserve in marriage, I also hope she finds peace.

Ofcourse, a relationship with her won't work because of broken trust.
Although, she is human, she deserves your forgiveness.

I feel she wasn't matured enough to handle the issue but you know her more than any of us here. So she could as well be manipulative.

Satisfy your conscience and do what you feel is best for your sanity and emotional stability.

I wish you well.

Respect55:
Let me post here also for the very last time. I know the mod will ban me afterwards but I just chose to keep you all in the know. This will be the last time surely.


The end of a thing is actually the beginning of another. I thought I had gotten over all these issue with my ex only to find out she kept to her words.

I got a call from her mom wound 5pm today that I should as a matter of urgency, come to their house. I said OK. I took some few minutes to take somethings in and lock up where I hustle. I got there only to be told my ex attempted suicide by drinking a poisonous substance. To them, all thanks to the immediate younger sis who rushed to her soon to see her writing in pains. A call was put across to the dad who left his office at Lagos brokiri here in portharcourt, rushed down and took her to the new mile one hospital where it was confirmed she was poisoned.
She left a note where she stated I should be held accountable for her death with my phone number. That was how I was invited. (I used to talk to her my before but never with her dad).
The dad told me that I should reserve whatever I have to say to the police tomorrow because the matter has been reported accordingly at mile one police station.
I have contacted my people here in portharcourt too. Please if u are here in portharcourt and a lawyer, follow me let's talk privately. Treat as urgent.

PS: I won't reply to comments again. I'm been tested.