dannybrasky:
valid point. I was of the assumption that for him to have traveled all the way down,he must have gotten first hand info from his family. Well,let's watch how things unfold.

midnighter:


My dear, Telling you the truth is not hating you.

You should have gone to resolve the situation rationally and let her go instead of being focused on punishing her and dragging the whole thing out, it was not necessary

You know the kind of person she is and youre letting her drag you through the mud. What is the essence of all this lawyer and police matter now? Did you tell her to kill herself?

Olanre05:


Midnighter, where is your stand please.

Olanre05:
I don't know why we Nigerian's are irrational with our thinking, we are so quick to judge and the likes. I advised the OP to see his Ex and listen to her and they can move on from there, but all I got was insults and curses, the gullible ones who thought they had sense where advising him based on there level of maturity. If we all have kept to a voice saying the OP should listen to her and make his decision from there. It won't have gotten to this level. I advised the OP to inform his FAM and that of the ladies as well. If you had informed her FAM, they won't drag you to the police station for an offence you didn't commit.

My question for you is according to your post,saying she wrote a note and your number is in it, during the time you guys were dating, didn't you by chance meet any of her family members and don't they know you guys were dating.

Get yourself a very good lawyer, in your statement remember to state that you have picture evidence of them clubbing and other evidence you have to prove your innocence. Mind you the guy she cheated on you with will be invited as well. Stand on your ground, Nigerian police are the highest manipulators. I wish you good luck..

healthserve:


Smies Okay ooo, me I'm still learning.
Thank you.

Tell that to the gods. And cry me a river while at it. Your energy and intensity speaks volume on issues. Tell this to her and him when y'all see yourselves offline.


I repeat not one thread will touch him. You may be ignorant but allow me educate you


1. He didn't initiate any action directly or by proxy


2. There's nobintent to do harm nor was he around the vicinity not is there substantive prove he caused harm leading to a bruhahaha


3. She confessed to his sister before hand proving there's overwhelming case against her to give into emotional trauma


4. He can sue her for damages and win for character assassination, defamation of character in which She'll face serious issues if he tos this line. I would personally . by trying to commit suicide and pin it on him she's guilty of trying to inflict harm and pinning it on someone else.


See Ola. You never see case. People that have seen cases always run from trouble.


Leave story. If he needs support. I'll come out and bring hell to the entire fracka.


That is why many males die untimely cause females won't to kill them on the name of love.

Nonsense

midnighter:


Babes I answered you,maybe you didn't get to read it. I'm not supporting the Lady cheating on her BF, I was also of the opinion that the OP should listen to her and hear what she has to say. And also I said the lady was trying to gain the OP's attention with her WhatsApp status.
And all I good was cursed and insults.
Good morning.


What is your question? Stand on what.

If you go back and read my replies on this matter throughout the thread, you will see what my stance is. You didnt answer the last reply I wrote to you, more than 15 pages ago.

I advised him to give her a chance to explain herself, He quoted me directly and blatantly refused, that he has already seen everything with his eyes. People were quoting me everywhere that Im trying to defend cheating, which I never did for once.

Where is my stand please what Where is your own stand that you couldnt answer why she's writing suicide rubbish on whatsapp instead of going to explain herself??

The point where the girl showed up crying rubbish tears at his sisters house was when he should have cleared the air to avoid this kind of embarrassment

Olanre05:
Babes I answered you,maybe you didn't get to read it. I'm not supporting the Lady cheating on her BF, I was also of the opinion that the OP should listen to her and hear what she has to say. And also I said the lady was trying to gain the OP's attention with her WhatsApp status.
And all I good was cursed and insults.
Good morning.

Respect55:
This life is just a small place. You will think you are sharp but when the time is come, your sin will surely find you out.

Some weeks back, a guy saw my wares online and came around to pick some footwears since we are in same city. He kept on talking on phone with a particular girl (my girl) about the type of shoe she likes. Remember I just gave her a new pair when she requested for one. Not even up to a month.

So this guy selected 3 pairs of shoes - two males shoes and one female own. He just told me to packet them that he would call me when money comes in. Fast-forward to today, he called in the afternoon and gave me a location to bring the shoe that he went out with his girl and will be traveling in the morning.

I dressed up, picked up the shoes at the shop and dashed to the location only to meet him with my girlfriend.

I just pretended like nothing happened, passed the shoes to him. She was shocked to the marrow but the guy never noticed. He asked her to wear the shoe so as to see how it suits but she just told him that he shouldn't bother that it's OK.

He paid me and as I was about leaving, he called me back and introduced me to his girl. I told her my name like we just met and left.

That's just it. I'm out for good. I'm free

healthserve:



Its a no-brainer she has no case. But after reflecting with my inner man over the issue, I felt or rather I won't break up with a lady for this. I mean it with all sense of responsibility. So I'm making a u-turn from my previous stance of him walking away.


Anyway she got caught up in the massive negative energy the scenario generated which he would have doused down if he gave her the attention she craved after the incident


Anyways, let's watch how things unfold. He remains completely innocent by all means possible.

dannybrasky:


There is a saying ( DONT EVER SMELL WHAT YOU DONT PLAN TO EAT) If o.p can go all the way for her by playing along with the no sex rule b4 marriage,I think he can do and undo with whatever decision he makes. If o.p had eventually married her,trust me chances her she would continue with such illicit activities. Many ladies would worship a man like o.p if they ever get to come across someone like him. I guess the sentence u can't eat your cake and have it was meant for her. I pray make she no die o.

dannybrasky:


There is a saying ( DONT EVER SMELL WHAT YOU DONT PLAN TO EAT) If o.p can go all the way for her by playing along with the no sex rule b4 marriage,I think he can do and undo with whatever decision he makes. If o.p had eventually married her,trust me chances her she would continue with such illicit activities. Many ladies would worship a man like o.p if they ever get to come across someone like him. I guess the sentence u can't eat your cake and have it was meant for her. I pray make she no die o.

Respect55:
Let me post here also for the very last time. I know the mod will ban me afterwards but I just chose to keep you all in the know. This will be the last time surely.


The end of a thing is actually the beginning of another. I thought I had gotten over all these issue with my ex only to find out she kept to her words.

I got a call from her mom wound 5pm today that I should as a matter of urgency, come to their house. I said OK. I took some few minutes to take somethings in and lock up where I hustle. I got there only to be told my ex attempted suicide by drinking a poisonous substance. To them, all thanks to the immediate younger sis who rushed to her soon to see her writing in pains. A call was put across to the dad who left his office at Lagos brokiri here in portharcourt, rushed down and took her to the new mile one hospital where it was confirmed she was poisoned.
She left a note where she stated I should be held accountable for her death with my phone number. That was how I was invited. (I used to talk to her my before but never with her dad).
The dad told me that I should reserve whatever I have to say to the police tomorrow because the matter has been reported accordingly at mile one police station.
I have contacted my people here in portharcourt too. Please if u are here in portharcourt and a lawyer, follow me let's talk privately. Treat as urgent.

PS: I won't reply to comments again. I'm been tested.

Respect55:
Let me post here also for the very last time. I know the mod will ban me afterwards but I just chose to keep you all in the know. This will be the last time surely.


The end of a thing is actually the beginning of another. I thought I had gotten over all these issue with my ex only to find out she kept to her words.

I got a call from her mom wound 5pm today that I should as a matter of urgency, come to their house. I said OK. I took some few minutes to take somethings in and lock up where I hustle. I got there only to be told my ex attempted suicide by drinking a poisonous substance. To them, all thanks to the immediate younger sis who rushed to her soon to see her writing in pains. A call was put across to the dad who left his office at Lagos brokiri here in portharcourt, rushed down and took her to the new mile one hospital where it was confirmed she was poisoned.
She left a note where she stated I should be held accountable for her death with my phone number. That was how I was invited. (I used to talk to her my before but never with her dad).
The dad told me that I should reserve whatever I have to say to the police tomorrow because the matter has been reported accordingly at mile one police station.
I have contacted my people here in portharcourt too. Please if u are here in portharcourt and a lawyer, follow me let's talk privately. Treat as urgent.

PS: I won't reply to comments again. I'm been tested.

wirinet:

Sorry for the horrible experience of nairaland bans, it mainly due to their bots. If it bans you indiscriminately, your can sometimes report to the mod and the account will be opened almost immediately. It had happened to me twice. Seun need to work on his bots, it will drive some posters away.

I feel sorry for you, you fell in love with a psychotic manipulator. she never loved you, she is just filled with shame that she was caught.

She was the one that gained the most from the relationship, you gained very little. She was the one that cheated. She was too proud to go on her knees and beg for forgiveness. She then attempted suicide and left a note that you are to blame for her (attempted) suicide.
Sorry to say, but I feel the whole suicide thing is a scam to blackmail you. She might have taken some poisonous substance, but it was not poisonous enough to kill her, and she knew her sister was around to save her. If she drank sniper or gamalin 20, I am sure she would be dead in before she got to the hospital. Never heard of anyone survive a full bottle of sniper.

If she really loved you and felt she made a genuine mistake, she would have brought her whole family including her aged grandmother to your family house to beg. That's the logical step to take. I am 100% sure you would have forgiven her if she, her mother, sister and 90 year old grandmother knelt down in front of you and your family. It's obvious you loved her and would have forgiven her after the pain of betrayal subsided a little.

As with the situation at hand, I don't think you need a lawyer yet. Just go to the station with someone with a bit of status, preferably a fairly senior civil servant, military officer or someone with a bit of polia weight. If you have no one, then you need a lawyer. You will be interrogated and probably asked to write a statement. Luckily you put the gist out here on nairaland. You only need to repeat what you wrote here.

As of now you can't blame the police. There was a report, either attempted suicide or attempted murder. They are obliged to investigate and take statements from all parties involved.

healthserve:



Very respectful ending... ( I mean her dad's handling of issues )

... Though she loved you truly/genuinely and isn't as terrible as depicted here in many ways....


Good we have men of strong character.


Best of luck Bro

wirinet:


I disagreed she loved him truly genuinely. If she really loved him, she would have reported herself to her mother and solicit the help of the guys Sister to go to the guy's house to do serious begging. She could have used the Christian sentiments of confessing your sin, promising not to sin again and asking for forgiveness.

Attempted suicide is not proof of genuine love. It's rather proof of more serious psychological problems.

Respect55:

Thanks for showing enough understanding. At least I didn't do any wrong. I appreciate you ands ur concern.

As for the dot or whatever it's called, how do I go about it because I get banned almost on daily basis for nothing. Look at this Pic

Respect55:
Let me post here also for the very last time. I know the mod will ban me afterwards but I just chose to keep you all in the know. This will be the last time surely.


The end of a thing is actually the beginning of another. I thought I had gotten over all these issue with my ex only to find out she kept to her words.

I got a call from her mom wound 5pm today that I should as a matter of urgency, come to their house. I said OK. I took some few minutes to take somethings in and lock up where I hustle. I got there only to be told my ex attempted suicide by drinking a poisonous substance. To them, all thanks to the immediate younger sis who rushed to her soon to see her writing in pains. A call was put across to the dad who left his office at Lagos brokiri here in portharcourt, rushed down and took her to the new mile one hospital where it was confirmed she was poisoned.
She left a note where she stated I should be held accountable for her death with my phone number. That was how I was invited. (I used to talk to her my before but never with her dad).
The dad told me that I should reserve whatever I have to say to the police tomorrow because the matter has been reported accordingly at mile one police station.
I have contacted my people here in portharcourt too. Please if u are here in portharcourt and a lawyer, follow me let's talk privately. Treat as urgent.

PS: I won't reply to comments again. I'm been tested.

Olanre05:
I don't know why we Nigerian's are irrational with our thinking, we are so quick to judge and the likes. I advised the OP to see his Ex and listen to her and they can move on from there, but all I got was insults and curses, the gullible ones who thought they had sense where advising him based on there level of maturity. If we all have kept to a voice saying the OP should listen to her and make his decision from there. It won't have gotten to this level. I advised the OP to inform his FAM and that of the ladies as well. If you had informed her FAM, they won't drag you to the police station for an offence you didn't commit.

My question for you is according to your post,saying she wrote a note and your number is in it, during the time you guys were dating, didn't you by chance meet any of her family members and don't they know you guys were dating.

Get yourself a very good lawyer, in your statement remember to state that you have picture evidence of them clubbing and other evidence you have to prove your innocence. Mind you the guy she cheated on you with will be invited as well. Stand on your ground, Nigerian police are the highest manipulators. I wish you good luck..

healthserve:




Wow. This matter has taken the expected dimension. To manipulate to the point of trying to takes ones life. Some people have serious egoistic issues


Oya MissCookie come for ya updates

healthserve:



Tell that to the gods. And cry me a river while at it. Your energy and intensity speaks volume on issues. Tell this to her and him when y'all see yourselves offline.


I repeat not one thread will touch him. You may be ignorant but allow me educate you


1. He didn't initiate any action directly or by proxy


2. There's nobintent to do harm nor was he around the vicinity not is there substantive prove he caused harm leading to a bruhahaha


3. She confessed to his sister before hand proving there's overwhelming case against her to give into emotional trauma


4. He can sue her for damages and win for character assassination, defamation of character in which She'll face serious issues if he tos this line. I would personally . by trying to commit suicide and pin it on him she's guilty of trying to inflict harm and pinning it on someone else.


See Ola. You never see case. People that have seen cases always run from trouble.


Leave story. If he needs support. I'll come out and bring hell to the entire fracka.


That is why many males die untimely cause females won't to kill them on the name of love.

Nonsense

MissCookie:


Thank you for the mention, this one nah real gbese!

Respect55:

I'm sure they never knew I could come with a lawyer. In no way am I responsible for what she put herself into.