lavylilly:
Where are they? and single mom has double in the past few years in the whole of West Africa, Nigeria in particular.

Fyi0:

Stupid thing. Women have also become more bitchy, disrespectful, hoey etc than before.
Bitch

pocohantas:
Lets not deceive ourselves, it is a general problem. Whatever the men have become, the ladies are not any better.

Moral values be dropping everyday. It really doesn't make sense to single out one and leave the other. From what I see, plenty people no just get sense these days.

lavylilly:
I have been reading with so much disdain, the recent tantrums thrown on divorced ladies on this platform recently. I may not have followed every comment and reply, but majority I read from guy seems to shame the ladies. This is very wrong.

There is nothing dehumanizing or stigmatizing about a divorced lady coming out to say she was divorced. There is nothing glorifying managing an unmanageable husband or wife in a matrimonial home. I have rarely read people shame a divorced man, or are their stigma different?

The truth is simple, its better to live alive or stay and die, and its very very simple, simpler than staying.

As a legal practitioner, I have had the opportunity to handle/witness several divorce cases, and I'm sure to say its better to leave alive.

65% of divorce cases in Nigerian courts today are instituted by ladies who couldn't tolerate a toxic marriage any longer. This simply means, there is something certainly wrong with men of today, or both.

Men have become more randy, intolerant and abusive than before.

Let's watch how we shame somebody, especially in a situation we haven't been involved in before.

Remember the goal is to be alive and happy, married or single.

Thanks, and have a lovely week.

lavylilly:
Where are they? and single mom has double in the past few years in the whole of West Africa, Nigeria in particular.

bukatyne:


What does the bolded mean?

Why should a lady want to suffer like your mother?

What makes you think a mother wants her daughter to suffer what she did?

pansophist:

As usual, men by default, are monster who are terrorizing women's live, while women are some innocent, incapable of crime creatures that sinless, sugar and spice

Why not mention the reason of the 65% divorce? Dont worry I'll tell you, it's mostly because of money. Money is the major reason for divorce. When the man couldn't earn more or loose his financial foothold, instead of support him, he is divorced. And you still turn around and blame men and called them toxic.

What has happened to introspection? From my experience, it is hard for women to look in the mirror and tell themselves the truth, you need lie than woman-up and admit fault.

Also, policing thoughts never works. Grow up and learn to shrug aggression off. People will always be mean. I constantly receive yabbings here on nairaland by some idiots but you wont see me creating a thread complain about women being toxic. I just shrug it off, as their opinion and impression doesn't reflects me whatsoever.

Romanoff:
We place a high premium on Marriage and shame a woman from 30-40yrs for not being married. This is leading to men getting away with randy, abusive and intolerant behaviour because las las, them go marry any woman wey them want and women will manage them like that just so they won't face the stigmatization of being unmarried.

The ones going through abuse in their marriage can't leave cause of the stigma attached to divorcees.

We need to change our mentality.

Romanoff:
We place a high premium on Marriage and shame a woman from 30-40yrs for not being married. This is leading to men getting away with randy, abusive and intolerant behaviour because las las, them go marry any woman wey them want and women will manage them like that just so they won't face the stigmatization of being unmarried.

The ones going through abuse in their marriage can't leave cause of the stigma attached to divorcees.

We need to change our mentality.

StPete:
I want to strongly disagree with this OP as I feel it is a male bashing thread. Men and women have become more randy in more recent times but the women have perfected their acts on how to hide it. Many of my single male acquaintances talk about how they have bleeped several hundreds of married women. It is despicable and a shameful thing. Many married women are also on my dm begging for such opportunities which I have blatantly refused. So it is not just about the men, women have become professionals and great at hiding it too

Romanoff:
We place a high premium on Marriage and shame a woman from 30-40yrs for not being married. This is leading to men getting away with randy, abusive and intolerant behaviour because las las, them go marry any woman wey them want and women will manage them like that just so they won't face the stigmatization of being unmarried.

The ones going through abuse in their marriage can't leave cause of the stigma attached to divorcees.

We need to change our mentality.

OruExpress:
Young Nigerian men hate women. their fathers felt they as men were better than women, but the young actually hate them.

24kmagic:


Women are the problem, not the men. Men simply go with the flow. You have the power in your hands to get the man of your dreams all to yourself.

At times when I see a girl and her boyfriend walking down the street, what I usually ask myself is na wetin this guy tell this girl whe make her gri for am?

There's this guy I know, he managed to finish secondary school only. Since then, he's been at home forming street guy. No job, no skill, no certificate. All what he knows is play bet9ja, smoke and fvck. At at 30 ooo. Funny thing is he got many girls falling for him. The question is why? Even in sch, we all know that the so called classy girls were reserved for the cultists. In the event that these girls end up with such guys, how far do you think that union will last?

Taste = 0

Ask an average lady what she wants in a relationship.

Good preek
Money

Once a guy knows you're with him for any of these two things, you're already his slave. And you know how masters treat slaves.

Take the Babcock girl story as an example. The boy is a drug addict on rehabilitation, but he still has her mumu bottom cos of good preek. Even on a hospital bed, she couldnt miss an oporrunity to taste his preek. Should that pretty girl even be involved with a drug addict in the first place? Do you think a marriage between these two people will last the test of time knowing that good preek was the foundation? Most of the ladies are just confused beings. Expect more devorce cases as time goes on.

So many things to type but let me stop here.

lagosminded:
Marriage is a sham. [/b]Our ladies now don’t want to suffer like their mothers[b]. The more being a divorcee is no longer a stigma for women, the higher the divorce rate in Nigeria will be. Women are not blameless tho, they’ve perfected the act of “getting the ring”.

lavylilly:
I have been reading with so much disdain, the recent tantrums thrown on divorced ladies on this platform recently. I may not have followed every comment and reply, but majority I read from guy seems to shame the ladies. This is very wrong.

There is nothing dehumanizing or stigmatizing about a divorced lady coming out to say she was divorced. There is nothing glorifying managing an unmanageable husband or wife in a matrimonial home. I have rarely read people shame a divorced man, or are their stigma different?

The truth is simple, its better to live alive or stay and die, and its very very simple, simpler than staying.

As a legal practitioner, I have had the opportunity to handle/witness several divorce cases, and I'm sure to say its better to leave alive.

65% of divorce cases in Nigerian courts today are instituted by ladies who couldn't tolerate a toxic marriage any longer. This simply means, there is something certainly wrong with men of today, or both.

Men have become more randy, intolerant and abusive than before.

Let's watch how we shame somebody, especially in a situation we haven't been involved in before.

Remember the goal is to be alive and happy, married or single.

Thanks, and have a lovely week.

lavylilly:
I have been reading with so much disdain, the recent tantrums thrown on divorced ladies on this platform recently. I may not have followed every comment and reply, but majority I read from guy seems to shame the ladies. This is very wrong.

There is nothing dehumanizing or stigmatizing about a divorced lady coming out to say she was divorced. There is nothing glorifying managing an unmanageable husband or wife in a matrimonial home. I have rarely read people shame a divorced man, or are their stigma different?

The truth is simple, its better to live alive or stay and die, and its very very simple, simpler than staying.

As a legal practitioner, I have had the opportunity to handle/witness several divorce cases, and I'm sure to say its better to leave alive.

65% of divorce cases in Nigerian courts today are instituted by ladies who couldn't tolerate a toxic marriage any longer. This simply means, there is something certainly wrong with men of today, or both.

Men have become more randy, intolerant and abusive than before.

Let's watch how we shame somebody, especially in a situation we haven't been involved in before.

Remember the goal is to be alive and happy, married or single.

Thanks, and have a lovely week.

bluebay:
Women are.the cause of all. Do you know that men tollerates till the extend that they look weak to the wife? I don't support domestic violence, but I believe little slap can reset the madness in most women.