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Re: My Husband Said He Will Raise My Kids To Challenge Me And Be Rude To Me. by eyinjuege: 6:24pm On Dec 13, 2019 |
He cannot poison your children's minds against you. I'm sure they are growing up, and are seeing how to interact with others around. Continue to show your children love, and let them see how much they mean to you. Guide them aright to be polite, humble and kind. They will naturally show those traits. If their father asks them to be rude and insultive, their common sense will let them know it's wrong. Don't fear. Children are not stupid. They will understand it's only an abnormal person that will ask a child to insult an adult, talkmore of its mother. When they see their friends hugging their mothers and respecting their mothers, they will know they have been misled and will end up detesting the one who has misled them. Stop fretting, raise them well, discipline them when needed, raise them morally upright and to be always polite to everyone. You will reap the benefits 12 Likes |
Re: My Husband Said He Will Raise My Kids To Challenge Me And Be Rude To Me. by Fountainofyouth(f): 6:59pm On Dec 13, 2019 |
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Re: My Husband Said He Will Raise My Kids To Challenge Me And Be Rude To Me. by crackhaus: 7:28pm On Dec 13, 2019 |
ebyjoyken:If that's the case, then you even have more possibility of turning them against him if you wanted You have no problem. As for his relationship with your family - since you have been okay with the status quo for the last 10yrs and never tried to initiate a reconciliation between them, then continue being okay with it. I don't know how you expect to deal with a 10yr old grudge overnight. I suspect this might even be the cause of your recent disagreements. 13 Likes |
Re: My Husband Said He Will Raise My Kids To Challenge Me And Be Rude To Me. by healthserve(m): 7:48pm On Dec 13, 2019 |
Fountainofyouth: Yawns. Busy abeg u |
Re: My Husband Said He Will Raise My Kids To Challenge Me And Be Rude To Me. by kodix(m): 10:12pm On Dec 13, 2019 |
You don't know your right self b/w you and your husband who has more power to influence the kids unless you have not been a good mother to them. |
Re: My Husband Said He Will Raise My Kids To Challenge Me And Be Rude To Me. by LadySarah: 1:48am On Dec 14, 2019 |
Children Learn by what they see so fret not.They know who is antagonizing who. |
Re: My Husband Said He Will Raise My Kids To Challenge Me And Be Rude To Me. by cococandy(f): 7:22am On Dec 14, 2019 |
I wonder what even made his mind go that way. Most people threaten different kinds of stuff when upset but to say he will tell the children to insult you is as weird as they come. 10 Likes |
Re: My Husband Said He Will Raise My Kids To Challenge Me And Be Rude To Me. by Nobody: 7:24am On Dec 14, 2019 |
Tell your husband that the people who will be harmed the most in the process will be the children. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Said He Will Raise My Kids To Challenge Me And Be Rude To Me. by cococandy(f): 7:26am On Dec 14, 2019 |
Some people don’t understand how harmful it is to use children as weapons in their relationship squabbles. Mindfulness: 12 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Husband Said He Will Raise My Kids To Challenge Me And Be Rude To Me. by Nobody: 7:27am On Dec 14, 2019 |
cococandy: I am here to let them know. |
Re: My Husband Said He Will Raise My Kids To Challenge Me And Be Rude To Me. by cococandy(f): 7:55am On Dec 14, 2019 |
Mindfulness: 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Said He Will Raise My Kids To Challenge Me And Be Rude To Me. by Saintmary(f): 8:28am On Dec 14, 2019 |
ebyjoyken:What kind of a man wants his wife to live in the village? What kind of family butts into their daughter's marriage? Madam, are you a full housewife? I doubt if your husband will ask you to leave your job or pack up your business so you can live with his family in the village. So far you have given us little information to go on, and mature people need more information so they can better understand your situation and give you sound advice. 8 Likes |
Re: My Husband Said He Will Raise My Kids To Challenge Me And Be Rude To Me. by iyatrustee(f): 8:54am On Dec 14, 2019 |
GrabHisBalls: There is no justifiable reason as to why he shouldn't. The wife didnt fall from space. Have you tried switching places and the wife is the one who didnt share in the condolence? 12 Likes |
Re: My Husband Said He Will Raise My Kids To Challenge Me And Be Rude To Me. by Acidosis(m): 9:04am On Dec 14, 2019 |
Fountainofyouth: What's your aim on this thread? To win a gender war or help OP? 14 Likes |
Re: My Husband Said He Will Raise My Kids To Challenge Me And Be Rude To Me. by thorpido(m): 10:13am On Dec 14, 2019 |
ebyjoyken:How do you ladies pick men like this? Don't you date and have an idea what structure you both want to put in place for your marriage? Why would a husband want to marry a lady and say she will live in the village with his mom and sisters?He feels offended because your family told him no.smh Anyway,don't let you children be used as pawns in the issues between both of you. You spend most times with your children so he can't even make them antagonize you. 12 Likes |
Re: My Husband Said He Will Raise My Kids To Challenge Me And Be Rude To Me. by Nobody: 11:14am On Dec 14, 2019 |
Fountainofyouth:Than tell me how can a sane man wake up in the morning telling his wife he will train the children to be insulting her? if it is not the wife that started it, the husband has been insulted by the wife that he can't take it anymore so he decided to make her the victim too because am a victim of it too Sometimes you should quote people with respect dickhead 8 Likes |
Re: My Husband Said He Will Raise My Kids To Challenge Me And Be Rude To Me. by TheArchangel(f): 11:28am On Dec 14, 2019 |
xoftcore:Using kids to fight your battle is a signature of a compound weakling. 16 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Husband Said He Will Raise My Kids To Challenge Me And Be Rude To Me. by Nobody: 11:41am On Dec 14, 2019 |
TheArchangel:i Heard |
Re: My Husband Said He Will Raise My Kids To Challenge Me And Be Rude To Me. by Nobody: 1:33pm On Dec 14, 2019 |
Fountainofyouth:Chai! Omo this one came with an arsenal of nuclear weapon ni oo Just throwing jabs everywhere! 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Said He Will Raise My Kids To Challenge Me And Be Rude To Me. by Fountainofyouth(f): 6:49pm On Dec 14, 2019 |
xoftcore: So because the woman insults him, means he is justified by telling his children to insult her too, two wrong makes a right abi? Because you have been a victim means she should be a victim right? What happen to settling it amicably without involving the kids? I actually quoted you without respect because you don't deserve it diickhead. 14 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Said He Will Raise My Kids To Challenge Me And Be Rude To Me. by Nobody: 9:32pm On Dec 14, 2019 |
Fountainofyouth:i gladly understand what you are going through inferiority but from the bottom of my heart Bleep you 2 Likes
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Re: My Husband Said He Will Raise My Kids To Challenge Me And Be Rude To Me. by frozen70(f): 9:56pm On Dec 14, 2019 |
ebyjoyken: There is no smoke with out fire You didn't tell us exactly what brought about this stupid issue However, God will not allow your children to disobey you Children are bonded with their mothers so he is just showing you how wicked he is Then on your own side, avoid anything that will trigger rancour between you and him but don't accept maltreatment or intimidating behaviour from him, if he does that challenge him See his family exactly the way he sees yours If he doesn't call your mum or siblings forget about it "salutation is not love" Be strong and be loving to your Family Worst case he will pack you out, that's not a big deal Don't ever allow your emotions to weigh you down, all he is doing is to pull her down (PHD) When you want to pray, involve your children by so doing it will be difficult to get them against you Just because your father is late, he feels its time to strike, that's how some idiotic men behaves when their father inlaw dies Don't ever show up with weakness of emotion, be strong and he will be too weak to handle you I decided not to advise you to beg him, for him to open his mouth to instigate the children against you, shows that he sees himself as a demi god you should worship 8 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Husband Said He Will Raise My Kids To Challenge Me And Be Rude To Me. by Nobody: 8:39am On Dec 15, 2019 |
frozen70:Thank you ma. I have been loyal and respectful to him. He has been abusing me emotionally but i refused to break. But he found my weekness and that's my children. Every little thing he will threaten me that he will take my kids away from me. I have been good with his siblings and mum. If he sees my children around me, he gets angry and ask them to leave my side. It is beginning to really bother me. If he does something wrong and i correct him or tell him to treat people with love, he becomes very angry and starts threatening me with my kids . Telling me that i will soon run mad. So many things but i can't bear my heart on a public forum. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Said He Will Raise My Kids To Challenge Me And Be Rude To Me. by frozen70(f): 10:36am On Dec 15, 2019 |
ebyjoyken: This is serious God into prayers, I mean midnight prayers, speak out to God and tell God exactly what you want from him Mention names of people you think are responsible for this traumatic situation and mention his name that God will bless him to the extent that he won't have time to be picking on you Tell God to keep Mr (--) mention his name to his hearing, busy by making him to be successful that he will have enough to give his family and be focused on his business or work that whenever he sees you, he will be happy that you prayed him to success Look be strong, if he is maltreating you, his source of income will shake and he wouldn't want that Stop correcting him let him keep showing people his Wickedness Very soon, he will fight himself 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband Said He Will Raise My Kids To Challenge Me And Be Rude To Me. by bukatyne(f): 10:45am On Dec 15, 2019 |
crackhaus: OP is no longer talking. |
Re: My Husband Said He Will Raise My Kids To Challenge Me And Be Rude To Me. by crackhaus: 9:22pm On Dec 15, 2019 |
bukatyne:My assumption is if she had kept up the question & answer session with me, she will begin revealing what she has actually been saying/doing to make the husband start seeing her as the enemy within |
Re: My Husband Said He Will Raise My Kids To Challenge Me And Be Rude To Me. by ezugegere(m): 11:24pm On Dec 15, 2019 |
ebyjoyken: How was your traditional wedding? Was your family fair to him? |
Re: My Husband Said He Will Raise My Kids To Challenge Me And Be Rude To Me. by Graxie(f): 11:40pm On Dec 15, 2019 |
ebyjoyken:Stop correcting him, avoid him once he is around, serve his food and remain quiet. Don't bring up discussions, when he ask, answer him respectfully. I am sure this is the type of attitude he is expecting from you. I cannot live such a life without blowing it, but you see, you know how you met your husband, you know him more than I do, if you can do such suggestion, please try it and see how far you can go with it. Forget about his abusive words if you are not buoyant or doing something reasonable in terms of finance. Stop being afraid of your kids, just be a good mother to your children. When it comes to kids, you have an upper hand. Just raise your kids with love, they have senses and they are very observant. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Said He Will Raise My Kids To Challenge Me And Be Rude To Me. by Nobody: 3:36am On Dec 16, 2019 |
Graxie:Thank you. |
Re: My Husband Said He Will Raise My Kids To Challenge Me And Be Rude To Me. by Nobody: 3:37am On Dec 16, 2019 |
crackhaus:I can't do that. I have told you the truth about what happened. What more answers do you want? 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband Said He Will Raise My Kids To Challenge Me And Be Rude To Me. by crackhaus: 6:44am On Dec 16, 2019 |
ebyjoyken:It's not about the answers I want, but about your credibility. You first claimed you had no idea why he didn't like your family thereby making him out to be some kind of psycho who just wakes up one morning to start hating people...but I called you out on it - the result was that you suddenly became aware right on this thread and shared it with us. If that's not enough, let me give you another good example: ebyjoyken:Apparently, you have never had any serious issues with your husband. So what do you call all of this? ebyjoyken: 9 Likes |
Re: My Husband Said He Will Raise My Kids To Challenge Me And Be Rude To Me. by Nobody: 7:33am On Dec 16, 2019 |
crackhaus:After reading all this, you still want clarification from me? 2 Likes |
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